Struggle Thread mk II - No one likes us, we don't care

[Kara]

Two master's degrees.

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

Lost control of a company pickup on a dirt road and drove into a ditch at 45-55mph and flipped it several times. I'm fine, really couldn't be better considering the severity of the accident, but this is the shirt the EMT was wearing:

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Did they rule it preventable or non-preventable?  These days anywhere I go, a preventable means they'll channel you a new asshole before kicking you out the door.

[Joe Molotov]

Two master's degrees.

Neither of them was a master's in good taste though, just sayin'.

[king of the internet]

Got wasted and somehow hurt my fist. Red marks on my knuckles. Did I punch something or wipe out?  Also, fuck everything, I want to die.

[Van Cruncheon]

got moved into a team room from my posh office, which i now share with a veep and two general managers. on the plus side, i'm in DA CLUB. on the down side, my internetting time has been shredded. on the plus plus side, i think beating r-type in front of them (on my old portable psone) will net me a bigger bonus than any work i've done; they were all OMG YOU'RE AMAZING (who the fuck knew? god bless nerds). on the minus minus side, i don't/won't golf and one of the motherfuckers listens to dave matthews ALL DAY.

i also got called a hipster by 25 yr. old junior pm yesterday. i have no beard, wear regular jeans, have a cornball non-coiffure, and despise urban self-sufficiency. that said, my non-ironic ironic game is straight up jordan-class balla and i drink shit pissbeer in public, so maybe he recognizes cac greatness under all the nondescript dorkitude.

You're a 40 year old that has a motorcycle fetish and just got a tattoo. You're clearly not a hipster but a sad cac going through a midlife crisis. Sheesh. These people.

multiple tats. and amen. the struggle is real.

[Brehvolution]

According to Gartner, a company of our size should have an IT department of 9 people. We have 3.
That efficiency.

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[I'm a Puppy!]

Keeping the IT cost center low

[Human Snorenado]

My boss finally realized that we need a dedicated bookkeeper.

It won't be me.

[chronovore]

My boss finally realized that we need a dedicated bookkeeper.

It won't be me.

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Can't tell if this means you're unwilling, or that they're choosing someone else. Remembering your posting history about communication problems with this boss, either way seems like a dodged bullet.

[Phoenix Dark]

sorry to hear that Triumph

[Tasty]

Karakand... seems happy.

[Kara]

Today one of my doctors asked me to rate how happy I was feeling on a scale of one to ten and when I said eight they basically told me to gtfo with that shit, I didn't look any different than I did during my last MDE.

My Spock game is F I E R C E.

[Kara]

My friend who I complained about earlier retroactively shitting up my barfday let it slip tonight that she won't be able to do anything until two months (!!!) after the actual day.

I was going to be polite and just say something like, "Hey I had a great time tonight, and thanks for remembering me, but I'm all or nothing when it comes to this event so this shit ain't going to fly next year," after we did do whatever it was we were going to do, but now I'm going to just have to be a straight-up ass and say, "It's 16% of a year after the fact now, sorry, but even I'm not that chill," when she approaches me about it in a month (!!!).

Fuck holidays. The only real one is May Day.

[Madrun Badrun]

happy birthday dude!  Expect this wellwishing every day for the next 16% of the year

[Samson Manhug]

Birthdays aren't holidays

[Kara]

Birthdays aren't holidays

Christmas, the 4th of July, Washington's Birthday, probably missing some others.

[brawndolicious]

And how many of those are true the days of birth ?

I mean except for Presidents Day sometimes but of course we always wait til the weekend to celebrate it because that's convenient. My birthday usually lands in the Thanksgiving weekend so no one remembers it unless they get a Facebook reminder.

[Samson Manhug]

Got a new job but their health insurance is terrible ($1050/month with a $500 deductible and 80% coinsurance.) Went on healthcare.gov and the average bronze and silver plans have $12,000 and $11,000 deductibles. Average gold plan at $600/month has a $5,000 deductible.

I haven't made it yet, brahs. My company insurance plan would be approaching 20% of our income and I've got the debts to pay off. The Obamacare plans are such bad deals they just don't make any sense.

My wife technically has coverage as a member of the Cherokee Nation and I technically have coverage under the VA but both of those are extremely cumbersome to use and their coverage isn't great to begin with.

Watdo?

[I'm a Puppy!]

Yeah man, that sucks. I pay $1,200 a month for my insurance. It's admittedly rather good. But still that's more than many people pay for rent. Just for insurance.

[CatsCatsCats]

Vote Sanders

That's a really tough spot, I hope you find a way to make it work

[Madrun Badrun]

Holy shit, I love living in Canada. 

[Kara]

Well the thing to keep in mind with deductibles is that you don't pay against them with a lot of routine care on metallic plans. Scheduled doctor visits and prescriptions are copay as long as the provider is in network and the medications are covered on my plan, for example.

Not knowing anything about your wife's or your health, a silver plan might be a decent fit for you. Coverage isn't great but it's designed to balance regular costs and extraordinary costs with its pricing structure.

Congratulations on your new job, BTW.

[Kara]

I'm at quarterly visits now, but admittedly my mood disorder is different.

[king of the internet]

I don't have insurance and haven't been the the doctor in at least a few years, despite numerous injuries.

[Brehvolution]

Got a new job but their health insurance is terrible ($1050/month with a $500 deductible and 80% coinsurance.) Went on healthcare.gov and the average bronze and silver plans have $12,000 and $11,000 deductibles. Average gold plan at $600/month has a $5,000 deductible.

I haven't made it yet, brahs. My company insurance plan would be approaching 20% of our income and I've got the debts to pay off. The Obamacare plans are such bad deals they just don't make any sense.

My wife technically has coverage as a member of the Cherokee Nation and I technically have coverage under the VA but both of those are extremely cumbersome to use and their coverage isn't great to begin with.

Watdo?

If I remember correctly, the ACA returns any out of pocket costs above 10% of your total income via a tax break when you file. Can anyone expand on this?

[I'm a Puppy!]

Unless it's something new there's an already existing tax break that says if you spend > some ungodly amount on healthcare (NOT premiums/deductibles) you get a write off.

[Kara]

You either receive the credit during the year on a monthly basis or you take it at the end of the year when you file your tax return. There's a schedule on the return that reconciles your income, cost paid, and cost that should have been paid that flows to pages 1 and 2 of your 1040.

If you take the credit monthly you don't have to pay it back dollar for dollar if you underestimated your income for the year, but generally it's advisable to revisit your estimate after significant changes in income.

[Phoenix Dark]

Got a new job but their health insurance is terrible ($1050/month with a $500 deductible and 80% coinsurance.) Went on healthcare.gov and the average bronze and silver plans have $12,000 and $11,000 deductibles. Average gold plan at $600/month has a $5,000 deductible.

I haven't made it yet, brahs. My company insurance plan would be approaching 20% of our income and I've got the debts to pay off. The Obamacare plans are such bad deals they just don't make any sense.

My wife technically has coverage as a member of the Cherokee Nation and I technically have coverage under the VA but both of those are extremely cumbersome to use and their coverage isn't great to begin with.

Watdo?

IIRC the deductibles do not apply to preventive care. As long as you're just getting physicals, xrays, etc you'd be good.

[brawndolicious]

I've been in a similar situation since my parents started getting divorced last Spring and I had to step in to pay my mother's bills. The thing I would suggest is to work out with your parents exactly how much help they need and for how long you're going to be stuck there. He got into the debt so he had to be prepared to get out of it. Also try to still be social. I either cut off or lost touch with nearly all my friends since then and not having a sounding board for your problems is hard.

[Kara]

.اهلا وسهلا؟ لا اهلا و صعبا

[Kara]

No tanween, you fail.

Samsung's Arabic keyboard doesn't have them. :'( (At least on mine.)

[brawndolicious]

If you have fundamental differences in what is important for life then what's the point of the friendship? It'll just make you feel tired rather than happy to be with them.

At least use Facebook to keep in touch with your long distance friends wrath.

[Tasty]

It's really shocking how unforgiving friends can be.

I firmly believe I'd welcome back a prodigal friend with open arms so long as what he did wasn't completely unforgivable. Over the last few years I've learned that I'm a rarity in that regard.

People are petty and self-absorbed, nothing new there.

Actionable advice: get better friends.

[Tasty]

Between some high end audio gear, a Nebula 4000 handheld gimbal, and a Nexus 5X, I've spent $1,692 this week.

Month is gonna be tight. Thankfully I've been saving up for the past couple months for some of this stuff.

[Human Snorenado]

Birthdays aren't holidays

Christmas, the 4th of July, Washington's Birthday, probably missing some others.

Aren't we self-important for someone that supposedly hates themself?

[Human Snorenado]

Also- Wrath, I've been in a similar situation. Take it from me- help your family out, but set some guidelines and deadlines. "I'm going to be here for 2 years (or whatever it is) to help you out, but after that you need to fix your own fucking shit."

Obviously I don't know all the particulars of your situation but if you keep staying indefinitely your feelings of frustration with your father are just going to get worse. That I do know.

[Kara]

Birthdays aren't holidays

Christmas, the 4th of July, Washington's Birthday, probably missing some others.

Aren't we self-important for someone that supposedly hates themself?

#thedualities

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I was literally construing Sam's post to let me be pedantic.

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[Samson Manhug]

Between some high end audio gear, a Nebula 4000 handheld gimbal, and a Nexus 5X, I've spent $1,692 this week.

Month is gonna be tight. Thankfully I've been saving up for the past couple months for some of this stuff.

This, to me, is the opposite of struggle.

[Human Snorenado]

Between some high end audio gear, a Nebula 4000 handheld gimbal, and a Nexus 5X, I've spent $1,692 this week.

Month is gonna be tight. Thankfully I've been saving up for the past couple months for some of this stuff.

This, to me, is the opposite of struggle.

Now he doesn't have any money for all of those Nintendo games coming out this month

[Tasty]

Between some high end audio gear, a Nebula 4000 handheld gimbal, and a Nexus 5X, I've spent $1,692 this week.

Month is gonna be tight. Thankfully I've been saving up for the past couple months for some of this stuff.

This, to me, is the opposite of struggle.

It's a delayed struggle. I'll be feeling it by the end of the month, don't worry.

[T234]

Between some high end audio gear, a Nebula 4000 handheld gimbal, and a Nexus 5X, I've spent $1,692 this week.

Month is gonna be tight. Thankfully I've been saving up for the past couple months for some of this stuff.

Get the fuck outta here. Triumph thread is thattaway.

[Kara]

Have a new client meeting today and I've been in a funk for a couple of days. Times like this I wish I'd lied to keep an open Valium scrip. Narcotics letting you pass through existence high af.

[ToxicAdam]

You need to be a chemical MacGyvere.  A box of Krispy Kreme doughnuts can get you to a similar dopey state.

[Kara]

Problem with that is calories. It's why I really can't binge drink to take a vacation from myself anymore.

I do need to become an in OTC drug interactions though. I never know when I might need to drop out mentally, or where.

Finally I have a purpose in life.

[Huff]

Getting pretty hungry but feeling too lazy to cook or leave my couch to get takeout.

[Human Snorenado]

Getting pretty hungry but feeling too lazy to cook or leave my couch to get takeout.

Leftovers

[Kara]

Apparently ether is legal without a scrip.

I can ether myself after being ethered by life. It's like stereo sound, but for self medicating.

[king of the internet]

Gonna look into this. Thanks for the heads up.

http://www.rightpricechemicals.com/buy-ethyl-ether-reagent-grade-acs.html

BRB ordering the barrel

[Kara]

Gonna look into this. Thanks for the heads up.

I'm going to get a beautiful vintage hankie to huff it with. We is Fin de Siècle now.

[Phoenix Dark]

Getting pretty hungry but feeling too lazy to cook or leave my couch to get takeout.

Yo this feeling is the worst.

even worse: ordering and regretting it. I ordered some Chinese food today (General Tso's combo which comes with shrimp fried rice and an egg role). Ate some of it and immediately regretted it. It's not bad but it's just...exhausting. Like I feel fatigue in its presence and don't even feel like finishing it.

[VomKriege]

Also- Wrath, I've been in a similar situation. Take it from me- help your family out, but set some guidelines and deadlines. "I'm going to be here for 2 years (or whatever it is) to help you out, but after that you need to fix your own fucking shit."

Obviously I don't know all the particulars of your situation but if you keep staying indefinitely your feelings of frustration with your father are just going to get worse. That I do know.

Yeah. Like you and a lot of people, I had and have to be present quite a bit for my mother in the last 10 years or so. More of a time and emotional burden than money really, but the frustration do build up quite a bit especially since I'm pretty certain she won't ever really fix certain things. Do set up a deadline and beyond that consider yourself free to move abroad for instance. Walking away from a family responsibility is hard but you also have one for yourself.

[Phoenix Dark]

Also- Wrath, I've been in a similar situation. Take it from me- help your family out, but set some guidelines and deadlines. "I'm going to be here for 2 years (or whatever it is) to help you out, but after that you need to fix your own fucking shit."

Obviously I don't know all the particulars of your situation but if you keep staying indefinitely your feelings of frustration with your father are just going to get worse. That I do know.

this this this

Wouldn't cosign the language but still. "In x time I'm going to be doing y" is totally fair.

[Madrun Badrun]

where solving for x and y give us 2 years and 'whores on Broadway'

[Kara]

Studies, including that of an ether addict in 2003, have shown that ether causes dependence; however, the only symptom observed was a will to consume more ether. No withdrawal symptoms were prevalent.

[studyguy]

I didn't sleep last night like at all.
Like none. Don't even feel like I'm awake now.

[Atramental]

That would've been me today but I drank two glasses of wine and some zzzquil right before I went to bed.

That was some of the best sleep I've had in a while.

[Kara]

Zzzquil doesn't have alcohol IIRC, why would you even bother?

[Atramental]

I believe there is a non-alcohol version of Zzzquil but the regular kind contains 10% alcohol.

[Am_I_Anonymous]

sitting next to a neurotic jewish couple explaining the basic logic of taxes to their 5 year old and it's taking literally every ounce of my internal troll suppression to keep from laughing out loud

OMG Esch! Hi buddy

[Kara]

sitting next to a neurotic jewish couple explaining the basic logic of taxes to their 5 year old and it's taking literally every ounce of my internal troll suppression to keep from laughing out loud

The multiverse is collapsing and you're sitting next to Earth-2 Karakand.

Quick, lean over and say this to the dad, "I know you cheated at pin the tail on the dinosaur at your second birthday party. The paper towel blindfold didn't fit."