RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011

[CatsCatsCats]

Have you tried not being a little bitch? Nothing about what she did is manipulative, btw. You just need to learn how to Communicate

[MMaRsu]

Have you tried not being a little bitch?

How dude

Give me some fucking advice  :'( I aint hard like Patrice :/

Should I have just tried to kiss her again?

She's picking me up tomorrow morning..so second chance?

HALP HOW DO I MAKE GOOD TIME HAPPEN I AM NOT GOOD WITH WOMAN

[CatsCatsCats]

Step one: delete all that Patrice shit from your memory banks

Step two: chill and get used to the idea that things won’t go as planned 90% of the time

Step three: Communicate 

[CatsCatsCats]

Also, get some advice from I’m a Puppy, that dude knows how to people

[MMaRsu]

Have you tried not being a little bitch? Nothing about what she did is manipulative, btw. You just need to learn how to Communicate

Why not? I've already asked her plenty of times is that if she wants to just be friends just come out and say it

I told her I'm digging you and I want you, you already know that shit but if you're not down for that then that's cool

What else do I need to ask/tell her?

[CatsCatsCats]

Well what did she say to that

[MMaRsu]

Step one: delete all that Patrice shit from your memory banks

Step two: chill and get used to the idea that things won’t go as planned 90% of the time

Step three: Communicate

Sure, but I think my problem is more that I don't remember Patrice his fucking style when I'm with her one on one.

I feel like I'm bitching out here.

Well what did she say to that

She ignored it completely. She doesn't admit to just wanting to be friends but she keeps asking for my fucking attention.

[CatsCatsCats]

She ignored it completely in person?

[MMaRsu]

She ignored it completely in person?

Nope through text. I havent actually said that shit in person. That's why I feel like Im bitching out.

It certainly could be that she just wants me to say that shit to her face and conquer her ass.

[CatsCatsCats]

Oh. Yeah, it’s cuz you are. Talk to her in the car. Ask her on a date or something don’t do some weird grand standing take it or leave it shit

[MMaRsu]

Oh. Yeah, it’s cuz you are. Talk to her in the car. Ask her on a date or something don’t do some weird grand standing take it or leave it shit

Allright I'll just ask her tomorrow in the car in the morning. I gotta man the fuck up man.

[MMaRsu]

I mean listen to this phone call from Randy & Phil here



I need to do that shit imo. This girl wants me to be straight with her and she has already said a bunch of times she has a dirty mind.

[Phoenix Dark]

why post Patrice videos if it's not the GOAT video

[hungrynoob]

She ignored it completely. She doesn't admit to just wanting to be friends but she keeps asking for my fucking attention.

Then have some self-respect and forget her. Flip flops are for the beach.

[BlueTsunami]

I will say one thing, as I get older I am able to relate more and more with Patrices opinions about hookups. They're only good for the jerk off session you'll use the memory from, in fucking peace

On another note, fear of the friend zone. Fear nothing, for fear is the mind killer

*upswelling of Lynchs Dune OST*

[bluemax]

Send girls good memes and cute cat pics

I've certainly seen more profiles saying they're into memes or .gifs than dick pics.

[MMaRsu]

MMaRsu, you're being a little fuck boy. Just chill the fuck out and stop taking it so seriously. Obsessing over it probably isn't your only problem but it's clearly a huge one. Cats is right, offering someone an ultimatum is the weakest shit. You're not a doormat for going on a fucking date you trash monster. She's just warming up to you, probably will take some time, be cool and attractive and you'll get there in the end. If you think she's taking her sweet time, why don't you have a kid with someone and then go through a nasty divorce or something and see how long it takes you to open up romantically.

Hey now I'm not saying relationship or nothing at all. But at least be up front if you feelin me the same way im feeling you

[MMaRsu]

So basically I just said what I posted above here, she said its not mutual

pretty happy bout this lol

at least i got some fucking clearity.

[hungrynoob]

Now how about next time you chill a bit and try not put too much pressure on the poor lass?There was a chance she was probably interested until you required confirmation.

[MMaRsu]

Now how about next time you chill a bit and try not put too much pressure on the poor lass?There was a chance she was probably interested until you required confirmation.

I doubt it dude. She's emotionally invested in this other guy who broke up with her.

Thats cool with me, just come out and say it lol.

[Reb]

I want everybody to note that I've been lobbying to ban mmarsu for years now.
I'm a visionary.

[I'm a Puppy!]

Now how about next time you chill a bit and try not put too much pressure on the poor lass?There was a chance she was probably interested until you required confirmation.

I doubt it dude. She's emotionally invested in this other guy who broke up with her.

Thats cool with me, just come out and say it lol.

LOL. Dude, You gave her zero reason to like you and then gave her an ultimatum. The outcome is utterly unsurprising.

[MMaRsu]

Now how about next time you chill a bit and try not put too much pressure on the poor lass?There was a chance she was probably interested until you required confirmation.

I doubt it dude. She's emotionally invested in this other guy who broke up with her.

Thats cool with me, just come out and say it lol.

LOL. Dude, You gave her zero reason to like you and then gave her an ultimatum. The outcome is utterly unsurprising.

Breh, you dont know jack shit. If I gave her zero reason to like me, why has she been asking for my attention for 2 months now.

[Huff]

I will say one thing, as I get older I am able to relate more and more with Patrices opinions about hookups. They're only good for the jerk off session you'll use the memory from, in fucking peace

On another note, fear of the friend zone. Fear nothing, for fear is the mind killer

*upswelling of Lynchs Dune OST*

why would someone jerk it to the memory of a hook-up when porn exists?

[Rufus]

memories > porn
sometimes: imagination > porn (early mornings, for me)

[I'm a Puppy!]

Now how about next time you chill a bit and try not put too much pressure on the poor lass?There was a chance she was probably interested until you required confirmation.

I doubt it dude. She's emotionally invested in this other guy who broke up with her.

Thats cool with me, just come out and say it lol.

LOL. Dude, You gave her zero reason to like you and then gave her an ultimatum. The outcome is utterly unsurprising.

Breh, you dont know jack shit. If I gave her zero reason to like me, why has she been asking for my attention for 2 months now.

Oh my sweet summer child. Asking for attention != giving someone a reason to like you.
It's like you get someone into a restaurant and all you serve are mayonaisse sandwiches.

[CatsCatsCats]

Also, get some advice from I’m a Puppy, that dude knows how to people

[kingv]

Women been off dick pick for over a year. We sending vids of us jerking off/busting nuts now. Bless up.

Fuck, now I gotta save up a load just to sexually harass these hoes? Lame af.

As a side note, the other reason not to to tinder or bumbl is quality. Unless you are an Adonis, tinder tends to exaggerate your flaws and IMO you will end up with matches that are much lower quality than in person. Having the balls to walk up to a chick and introduce yourself/make a fool of yourself still counts for something even in today’s world.

[CatsCatsCats]

But the quantity

[BlueTsunami]

Women been off dick pick for over a year. We sending vids of us jerking off/busting nuts now. Bless up.

No lie, did this for a former work hookup on snap and she busted. I fear for the next generation though. Gonna be butthole related stuff dudes will need to send. Aside from the shame, the logistics of getting a well composed butthole shot seems particularly daunting. I feel for them.

[BlueTsunami]

That'll be my old man yelling at cloud moment. If I ever have a son ill have to sit him down and tell him he shouldn't feel pressured into showing his butthole just because Conner was so willing to show Jassenia what that booty do. Conner a hoe.

[kingv]

How are you not already sending butthole stuff to chicks it's the year two thousand and seventeen

My girl says only snap me goatse tributes or keep it in your pants.

[I'm a Puppy!]

You want to see a butthole? I can get you a pick of a butthole by 3 o'clock.

[toku]

nothing before its time

[hungrynoob]

Hit me with the 'one that got away' stories.

[Trurl]

I'm bi, in a long term relationship with a woman and kind of bummed that I've never sucked a dick.  Sucking a dick is the one that got away

[Rahxephon91]

Hello again. I'm going to post again, because in the end I probably won't ever stop.

Is it worth talking to a girl after she basicly said no? Is it ok to just drop them? I have a current situation that I don't see the point of continuing.

A girl who I use to have a crush on from my job, but since left actually came back into my life. She was at a friends party and I guess I got drunk and talked to her. Nothing special or anything, but I guess I asked if she still had a boyfriend which she did back then.

Anyway, later on my friend was talking to her and I guess he decided to ask her on my behalf. She said she didn't and assumed I was the one who wanted to know. So he gave her my Snapchat and she decided to add me.

Which to me was a positive.

Anyway for the next two weeks we talked back and forth everyday. Nothing special. Just talking about each other I guess. She's very nice and very down to earth. The last girl I talked to was very erratic and would post memes and just other stuff. This girl seems very chill, somewhat nerdy, and quaint.

But I mean I workshop everything with my friends and elders and they said everything sounded positive and just keep talking and be light and casual. Except some of the older guys said you know you have to make a move and make your intentions clear. Which I mean I already thought they would be after how this came about.

So I don't know how Justice League come up but she said she wanted to see it and while no I don't want to see that movie again I asked her if she wanted to see it.

She said

"Yeah sure, whenever I got a chance. I work a lot"

Which at first seemed to be good, but then I overthought it and said oh that was really a send off. Espically since she didn't bring it up. Other people said it was nothing so complicated and I decided to keep going with it.

Eventually I just told her I was intersted to which I got a polite no basicly. She never specifically said she wasn't intersted. But what she said is that she likes talking to me but right now she just got of a serious relationship and wants to focus on herself. Which I mean I belive her. I mean I know she did and it was at least a 3 year one.

Anyway after that it kind of jus resumed normally. We haven't stoped talking. She responds to my messages and it's not like they a one word simple replies either, but I wouldn't say she's flirting.

But I mean to be honest I wasn't trying to be her friend either. I mean she's cool and I guess that would be fine, but that wasn't my intention clear. I mean I wasn't looking to deep dive into a relationship either. I really just want a casual female to hang out with possibilities later.

[chronovore]

Yes, 100% spot-on.

It's natural to feel an attraction to someone else, but unnatural to expect that confronting them with that attraction will have a positive result. Slightly less likely to work is just having a third-party ask on one's behalf.

Other than the uncommon chance of a mutual, chemical attraction, relationships are built by spending time with each other and then seeing how much you share in common. Ideally, that's not music, authors, or favorite movies, but rather shared core values.

[Rahxephon91]

This is what I'm talking about. This is whats frustrating.

I was perfectly fine just contintung talking to this girl while casually trying to escalate.

But if you ask some people. Oh you need to make a move. Oh you need to make your intentions clear.

I do that and then come here.

Oh that was wrong. Oh that's a bitch move. Oh don't do that.

Oh you should just let things involve organically. Have them take their time.

Oh no actually you should ask someone out and see if they like you.

Which one is it? Let things just fall in place or take action?

[Rahxephon91]

Thank you. I could have done without that bent, but at least that makes sense.

Oh well I guess that ones ruined.

[MMaRsu]

And you don't want to take too long because they're going to get bored or tired or, worst case scenario, irritated at you for really wasting their time.

What if a chick is wasting your time? Just using you for validation and attention though?

Not specifically this case but in general.

[MMaRsu]

The problem is more that if one person is very much sexually attracted to one person, than they are more inclined to do things for them in the name of 'friendship'.. while hoping to friendship their way into some sex. Imo a friendship where one is very much attracted to the other person doesn't work as a straight friendship.

If a woman wants to be my friend, she better be as good as a friend as my boys who I wanna hang out with on a daily basis . Or at least someone who shows interest in the friendship in a mutual way, not onesided because they know you have a thing for them.

[I'm a Puppy!]

Someone once asked me about relationship advice and what books they should read and such and I said that I sorta viewed relationships like Debussy viewed music theory, he said, "There is no theory. Music cannot be 'learned'."

In some ways I look back at that and think "Damn, that was good." In other ways I look back and think "Damn, that was dumb."

[I'm a Puppy!]

I think it's somewhat like my experience with the guitar. I always used to be like "There's no such thing as 'talent' I just know how to practice and do it well." And I believed that for years. Then I started teaching and I was like "Ok, that's not 100% right. Some people will have to practice for months to do something others can just sight read."

It's somewhere in the middle I think. But like with art, the more you talk to others about it, the better you are at it.

[MMaRsu]

Had a date last night.. that went fucking well .

Aww yea

also todays my birthday

[Valkyrie]

Happy birthday!

[HardcoreRetro]

One year closer to death.

Congrats!

[desert punk]

Had a date last night.. that went fucking well .

Birthday sex included ?

In any case, congrats!

[MMaRsu]

Had a date last night.. that went fucking well .

Birthday sex included ?

In any case, congrats!

Thanks everyone

No birthday sex for the first date obviously, but some heavy make out sesh instead. This is a good down to earth girl so Im down to put in work.

[Bebpo]

Happy Birthday!

Sounds like a memorable & enjoyable one

[tiesto]

Happy birthday, MMarsu! :O

Anyways, things have been going so fantastic with my girlfriend. It's like the more time I spend with her, the more I find something I like. If things keep going as well as they have...

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she even bought a schoolgirl outfit and pink wig that she wore for me the other night 

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[Bebpo]

Really happy for you man! Sounds like a good connection

[Bebpo]

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[MMaRsu]

Thanks yall ^_^

I got another date tonight, movie times at this girls crib

Good times ahead awww yeaaaaaa achtung bitches

[Bebpo]

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Also your friend is the WORST wingman!

 

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[brawndolicious]

View it like an RPG. Go up to a girl and press A.

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Playstation is for virgins.

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[Van Cruncheon]

Someone once asked me about relationship advice and what books they should read and such and I said that I sorta viewed relationships like Debussy viewed music theory, he said, "There is no theory. Music cannot be 'learned'."

In some ways I look back at that and think "Damn, that was good." In other ways I look back and think "Damn, that was dumb."

ah, you can be right and pretentious af at the same time. ASK ME HOW I KNOW

[SantaC]

I am currently in a relationship that is stable but incredibly boring sex-vise. It's just been too many years. Another girl is flirting with me, what should I do?

[Bebpo]

Talk to your gf about improving your sex life?

[SantaC]

Talk to your gf about improving your sex life?

I dunno, the attraction after 10 years is kinda dead. I am weighing my options.

The one flirting is Japanese-swedish, me like

well not really flirting, more like come and fuck me and do whatever you want. Funny how other girls start finding me attractive when I lost 20kg.