RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011

[VomKriege]

I think the worst thing they've done recently is make it so you can't send a message without liking someone, and they can't read the message or even know they have one if they haven't liked you back.

The first part isn't recent tho. It's always been like that for me. They might have changed the second (now it's an "intro"). One year ago the idea was that they would only see the message notification if they opened and read the profile or something.

From the FAQ :

Any introductions you receive will be visible in DoubleTake (look for a "They messaged you!" indicator) and Discovery (look for a blue line under their photos).

I looked more into this and Reddit threads on the matter seems to point you misunderstood Stro, though it's a common misconception. No mutual like required for the message to appear but the person has to open the profile in the Swipe or Search. It's a total crapshoot it will ever be read or even seen. Quite a few anecdotal feedbacks that messages can be buried deep in the queue or only be seen months after the fact. Some people don't like the swipe thing and don't use it.

Honestly I'm thinking of changing shop but I don't know where to go. I tried most of the (free) apps when I was in the most severe of intimacy droughts last year and none really convinced me. Slow dating apps are shit. OkCupid is the only one with less shallow profile and decent usability to search through people. For something more profile / question based I guess some of the older sites pre-app age are like that but meh.

Plus I really need to get on that decent photo effort, just to be 100% sure I wouldn't get more interest like that.

[TVC15]

White goths

Asian goths

Latina goths 

Andrew Eldritch’s all-white corp goth look from the Sisters of Mercy “Dominion” video

[TEEEPO]

vom, aren't you french and if so, is adoptunmec still a thing? that was the hot shit when i lived in france 6 or so years ago

[VomKriege]

vom, aren't you french and if so, is adoptunmec still a thing? that was the hot shit when i lived in france 6 or so years ago

Fun fact for non French speakers : AdopteUnMec is AdoptAGuy and as you may have guessed, it was already playing the fiddle to the tune -now sung by Bumble- of "empowering women on dating sites" (the logo is a lady putting a guy in a grocery caddy) which really was just the old night club trick of "free for the ladies, the men have to pay to enter." The few second hand experiences I read about that weren't really stellar on the matter.

Yes it's still around and fairly popular AFAIK though it took a definite step back (like Meetic) when the Tinder wave flooded the market. Never tried it myself.

Edit : looked it up, fairly expensive for men and people complain a lot about fake or scam profiles, though most agree the moderation is good and don't think it's partly orchestrated by the site itself.

OkCupid on Paris (it's useless anywhere else) has, AFAICT, fairly few obvious fake profiles.

[VomKriege]

 

[TEEEPO]

i had completely forgot that men had to pay i only knew a handful of women who used the site and they had new stories to share every week and this was in a relatively small, but very touristy town.

[skullstorm]

White goths

Asian goths

Latina goths 

Whatever this is

[Tasty]

White goths

Asian goths

Latina goths 

Whatever this is

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...Bayonetta?

[VomKriege]

i had completely forgot that men had to pay i only knew a handful of women who used the site and they had new stories to share every week and this was in a relatively small, but very touristy town.

It was the most popular dating site 5 to 10 years ago. It's probably still fairly ubiquitous, especially the farther you get from the handful of massive population centers. It has a feature where a woman can either send the first message OR open her message box to a guy she's interested in. The latter defeat the whole "women are the ones initiating here !" (Like Bumble where the woman who matched with you have to open conversation but apparently will often just send "hey" or "hello" to let the man send the meaty opener.) but I guess it's the most optimal balance between the floodgates of open messaging and having none at all before a mutual match.

Edit : it's definitely seen as more for casual relationships, tho.

[Oblivion]

thought i'd confirm if there was any chance of a second date with the recent PAWG

looks like the answer's no 

ah well

[VomKriege]

Mundane OKCupid thoughts (cont.) :

I got 4 or 5 women liking my profile after I reinstated my account but that well is now back to dry.  I don't know if I tanked the algorithm somehow or something else.

Besides the photo, I'm a smoker and my profile says I don't want kids which probably doesn't help.

It's weird I'm a bit ticked off (not sad, depressed or frustrated... Just annoyed) at being single now despite being fresh and I had objectively much worse stretches in the past.

[BisMarckie]

Lie about the smoking part in your profile. It's not really that big of a deal for most women, at least in my experience, but leads to you getting filtered out.

[VomKriege]

Lie about the smoking part in your profile. It's not really that big of a deal for most women, at least in my experience, but leads to you getting filtered out.

I'm a regular smoker. I think this goes a lot beyond "choosing a charitable presentation" or "play it tactical omissions".

I finally added a better portait.

[BlueTsunami]

So ever since I started getting better at writing poetry I've had women be the initiators, online at least, when it comes to shit. Right now I'm talking with a local woman whose a straight freak. We went from simple platitudes to her saying she'd suck my dick and suck out every drop. 5'1 shorty with DD's. I think I'm wading into shit with her. She may be a level of crazy ive never stepped into.

fuuuuuuuuuuuuuck me

[VomKriege]

So ever since I started getting better at writing poetry I've had women be the initiators, online at least, when it comes to shit. Right now I'm talking with a local woman whose a straight freak. We went from simple platitudes to her saying she'd suck my dick and suck out every drop. 5'1 shorty with DD's. I think I'm wading into shit with her. She may be a level of crazy ive never stepped into.

fuuuuuuuuuuuuuck me

All that potential wasted when you could write RLM poetry on ResetEra.

[VomKriege]

Well one message got through at least...

[BlueTsunami]

So ever since I started getting better at writing poetry I've had women be the initiators, online at least, when it comes to shit. Right now I'm talking with a local woman whose a straight freak. We went from simple platitudes to her saying she'd suck my dick and suck out every drop. 5'1 shorty with DD's. I think I'm wading into shit with her. She may be a level of crazy ive never stepped into.

fuuuuuuuuuuuuuck me

if you can settle into a comfy codependency kind of thing, 100% go for it

She's talking about feelings in her stomach. I know I'm gonna find one of my pets boiling in a pot of water if I hit it and quit it

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  short girl with big tits and high potential of crazy  sounds like someone I know 

[BlueTsunami]

Send me a pic of this poifect broad

The Virginian chick I was talking to ended being just a fun weekend. Not too long after she got back she was talking about being spit roasted by be and another guy. Slowly walked out of that shit. I'll send you a pic this one in a few 😘

short girl with big tits and high potential of crazy  sounds like someone I know 

Absolutely

We also talked and fuck her voice is just as hot as her tittays

So ever since I started getting better at writing poetry I've had women be the initiators, online at least, when it comes to shit. Right now I'm talking with a local woman whose a straight freak. We went from simple platitudes to her saying she'd suck my dick and suck out every drop. 5'1 shorty with DD's. I think I'm wading into shit with her. She may be a level of crazy ive never stepped into.

fuuuuuuuuuuuuuck me

i also happen to have an interest in poetry

i need to get on that shit if what u say is true

It's all about being able to show you're a being with emotional depth.

With that said, I've been talking with another woman who lives far out. She mental quirks, just like me. 5'9 black woman. Intelligent as hell, into high brow films and 80s trash.. Her I'd actually fucking marry but I think it's a purely intellectual attraction that would dissipate in person.

[team filler]

Send me a pic of this poifect broad

The Virginian chick I was talking to ended being just a fun weekend. Not too long after she got back she was talking about being spit roasted by be and another guy. Slowly walked out of that shit. I'll send you a pic this one in a few 😘

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[VomKriege]

Lie about the smoking part in your profile. It's not really that big of a deal for most women, at least in my experience, but leads to you getting filtered out.

I'm a regular smoker. I think this goes a lot beyond "choosing a charitable presentation" or "play it tactical omissions".

if you quit smoking u dont have to lie about not smoking

*Lights another in the Bore's public room*

Die of cancer to own the sane normies, brehs.

[VomKriege]

Oh man I hate chatting through the app when that shit doesn't flow. So difficult to get a read. She's responding, but sparsely despite being logged in (doesn't mean she's behind her keyboard at all times during the day but you know...). She liked a couple of my jokes but that's it. She doesn't pick up discussion hooks.

We're a dozen messages in after 48h so I just decided to say I was still curious about her and drop the hypothetical of a coffee someday. I'll leave it at that.

My impression is that she's either not interested or not big into chatting / want men to be forward so let's do that.

[Oblivion]

Oh man I hate chatting through the app when that shit doesn't flow. So difficult to get a read. She's responding, but sparsely despite being logged in (doesn't mean she's behind her keyboard at all times during the day but you know...). She liked a couple of my jokes but that's it. She doesn't pick up discussion hooks.

We're a dozen messages in after 48h so I just decided to say I was still curious about her and drop the hypothetical of a coffee someday. I'll leave it at that.

My impression is that she's either not interested or not big into chatting / want men to be forward so let's do that.

my experience has shown me that if someone is legitimately interested in you, you'll know it as they will make it clear. sure, i've gone out on dates with the occasional scatter texter, but those seemed doomed to fail and i'm almost entirely sure they only agreed to meet up either cause they were super bored or wanted a free lunch

[VomKriege]

Yeah I think she's just not interested though she must have laughed at my intro message. Sent the ball over to her, if she feels like picking it up.

She's "non monogamous" and "questioning her sexuality" too, which I tend to pass (but she was too much my physical type to not at least try).

[VomKriege]

Come to saudi, that's like 95% of tinder here.

 

[Oblivion]

some broad replied back after like two months of me sending the original message

which by itself is fine, mind you (better late than never). but it's one of those annoying people who respond with one or two word messages. why do people like that bother? you decide to respond after two months even though you seem like you'd prefer watching paint dry instead of talking to me. so what the hell is the point of responding in the first place?? 

[Oblivion]

way too sexually frustrated right now after that last chick's text, so i decided to text this cougar i met a few years ago and hopefully rekindle things. kind of just stopped talking to her after a while, so hopefully she's not angry about it 

[VomKriege]

New better (or so I think) portrait was not the magic X factor. I guess now I need another one full body. I guess I should pick up some sport too (in general, not for fuck points), it's one of those good resolutions from two breakup ago I grazed right past through.

Ugh, the effort. 

The frustrating part is the ratio between messages written and results but what can you do ? I'm a bit particular and deffo not for everyone.

[Oblivion]

status update on the cougar

looks like she ain't responding. not surprised, but still  :'(

the fucked up thing about this case is that this was a self-inflicted fuck up  :'(

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[BisMarckie]

Just give me some oral. There is too much shit going on out here today.

[TVC15]

That shit is not good for the soul.

[Oblivion]

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Is this real? If so, I feel so much better for not being into anal now that most of the rap/hip hop community is on my side 

[VomKriege]

Black people not being into anal? What do you think "eating ass" means exactly, bruh?

Go to a really fancy restaurant ?

[Nabbis]

Black people not being into anal? What do you think "eating ass" means exactly, bruh?

Go to a really fancy restaurant ?

Never really understood French cuisine. 

[Oblivion]

It says it's from 2004 at the top dude.

Black people not being into anal? What do you think "eating ass" means exactly, bruh?

yeah i'm aware of that, which is why i was initially surprised at the survey

[Raist]

Look at this big bunch of wussy cucks.

[VomKriege]

I don't think ass is especially big here. You can eat the balls AFAIK and Japan definitely do yakitori of pig's anus.

[nudemacusers]

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Young buck tho 👀

[Oblivion]

i got kicked out of a speed dating event cause i didn't pay for the tickets

[toku]

https://www.pof.com/

[Oblivion]

got possibly a dumb question, but are poly people generally not inclined to have relationships with people who don't identify as poly?

[chronovore]

got possibly a dumb question, but are poly people generally not inclined to have relationships with people who don't identify as poly?

Probably? I mean, my guess is that polyamorous peeps don't want the monogamists always showing up thinking they'll be The Right One for the poly?

[VomKriege]

got possibly a dumb question, but are poly people generally not inclined to have relationships with people who don't identify as poly?

Probably? I mean, my guess is that polyamorous peeps don't want the monogamists always showing up thinking they'll be The Right One for the poly?

I don't have first hand experience but I'd imagine a monogamous person would have more often some difficulties integrating a "real" polyamorous group (where more than two people are all in relationships with one another) which by definition isn't monogamous. One sided open relationships are also not the most solid in general. I think a lot of squares overestimate / are overoptimistic on how they would handle libertinage and that's why a lot of polyamorous or non monogamous people are being upfront about it.

[Mr. Gundam]

got possibly a dumb question, but are poly people generally not inclined to have relationships with people who don't identify as poly?

One of my good friends dated a poly woman about ten years ago. Seemed to work for them for a while.

[mormapope]

I've been craving a crazy, intense, mentally ill relationship. One with lots of unprotected sex, lovesickness, anger, the whole shebang.

Talking and dating relatively normal women isn't the same as crazy love. Want I want is akin to sticking your heart and soul into a fire.

[ToxicAdam]

Start hanging out at strip clubs. You'll find plenty of that there.

[demi]

We could just play some Gamecube at my house instead

[mormapope]

Start hanging out at strip clubs. You'll find plenty of that there.

I've been befriending some borderline types on Facebook.

20 something milf that has two kids and is a waitress at a gentleman's club. Her body is banging and she posts about mental illness, weed acceptance, and memes on the reg.

 

We could just play some Gamecube at my house instead

U need to get rich so you fly me out and I can be your chubby sugar baby 

[Tasty]

We could just play some Gamecube at my house instead

[VomKriege]

I guess the only useful advice is "get tested on the regular if you are not doing it already".

Otherwise I'm doing great at practicing my zingers in a vacuum.
Thanks OKcupid.

[nudemacusers]

I've been befriending some borderline types on Facebook.

20 something milf that has two kids and is a waitress at a gentleman's club. Her body is banging and she posts about mental illness, weed acceptance, and memes on the reg.

 

a sincere yikes at the bolded...they’re crazy then there is this..

[team filler]

I've been befriending some borderline types on Facebook.

20 something milf that has two kids and is a waitress at a gentleman's club. Her body is banging and she posts about mental illness, weed acceptance, and memes on the reg.

 

a sincere yikes at the bolded...they’re crazy then there is this..

[toku]

I've been craving a crazy, intense, mentally ill relationship. One with lots of unprotected sex, lovesickness, anger, the whole shebang.

Talking and dating relatively normal women isn't the same as crazy love. Want I want is akin to sticking your heart and soul into a fire.

It's the heat. Stay strong. Stay strong. Don't think of the salt in their sweat, the sound of labored breathing, the late nights in a hot room, the smell of piss after a long night of jack and cokes. Don't think of any of that.

[nudemacusers]

I've been befriending some borderline types on Facebook.

20 something milf that has two kids and is a waitress at a gentleman's club. Her body is banging and she posts about mental illness, weed acceptance, and memes on the reg.

 

a sincere yikes at the bolded...they’re crazy then there is this..

You were in the military I already know these chix are your kryptonite

[nudemacusers]

I've been craving a crazy, intense, mentally ill relationship. One with lots of unprotected sex, lovesickness, anger, the whole shebang.

Talking and dating relatively normal women isn't the same as crazy love. Want I want is akin to sticking your heart and soul into a fire.

It's the heat. Stay strong. Stay strong. Don't think of the salt in their sweat, the sound of labored breathing, the late nights in a hot room, the smell of piss after a long night of jack and cokes. Don't think of any of that.

Also don’t think of their toned, taught thighs built for and from writhing on poles, the finely manicured feet ready for worship, perky nipples always firmly at attention.

[Rahxephon91]

I purchased a plane ticket to visit my girlfriend in Arizona at the end of this month. So that should be neat.

I also quit my job at Target and am working on my appeal to get back into school.

So a lot of stuff is happening in my life right now.

[TEEEPO]

ffuck yea

[toku]

bless up