1) If Comey doesn't pull that shit, she wins.
2) She lost by less than 100k votes in 3 states that swung the election. Yes, she looks stupid for not campaigning in Wisconsin at all especially with a winnable Senate seat, Michigan barely at all, and in only Philly and Pittsburgh in PA. But that's all Monday morning qb shit. Remember that all the polls HAD HER WINNING. FUCKING EVERYONE WAS WRONG. It was a bizarre, once in a lifetime event.
3) She won the popular vote by almost 3 million votes, the 3rd highest total in history. Democratic Senate and House candidates got more votes than their GOP counterparts. Long term, demographics favor the Democratic party coalition way more than they do the GOP coalition. The bicameral nature of the legislature, low Dem coalition turnout in non-Presidential elections, and vigorous opposition gerrymandering are what's fucking us in the short term. Yes, there are some dumb things Democrats do but "whining and being sensitive" are not among them.
4) Donald Trump is a lying, deal breaking, racist, misogynistic, xenophobic, narcissistic dullard. I understand not liking Hillary, but anyone that ACTIVELY VOTED FOR TRUMP is at the very least making the tacit statement that they are ok with such a person running our country. Calling them out for that is not rude, it's a necessary act.
The Democratic party isn't perfect, but until the GOP stops putting racism, sexism, gay bashing, and transphobia IN THEIR FUCKING PARTY PLATFORM, I feel no need to be nice to them for the fee fees sakes. In fact, anyone that DOES try to "reach out" to them without making abundantly clear that you believe that all human beings are equal and deserve equal opportunity and protection under the law is, in my opinion, the whining pussy.