Cindi, I think you owe Benji a big apology.
You already sort of apologized to him, but I don't believe you understand the scope of what you've done. And I know that it's hard for some of you to take what I say to heart: I have the self-awareness to know that as far as some people here are concerned, I am barely above etiolate as a poster. Etiolate is more witty than I am, as a matter of fact, despite being wrong just about everything, but that is neither here nor there. I skirt the line between shitposting and careposting a lot, and I am much too invested in inter-forum drama and metaposting, and I have made some people scratch their heads with my posts more than a few times.
I also find it hard to be critical of you, since you are going through a lot of personal shit, like severe depression and hormonal stuff. At the same time, I think it would be disrespectful to treat you with kid gloves, you are a person and deserve honest criticism just like anyone else. Having said that, I find that your posts have been very "bipolar" ever since Reset has come to exist. I put bipolar in scare quotes because I never want to make the impression that I am earnestly diagnosing someone as this very serious condition, as one of my very close family members is medically diagnosed with it, but at the same time I am not an overly sensitive person that would freak out over someone using the word figuratively. Anyway, here is where I think you fucked up.
Even though I don't see eye to eye with a lot of people here, and some of you rub me the wrong way at times, as I am sure I do as well, I have been here for around a year as a registered member (and many more as a lurker). I feel a sort of camaraderie between us all, due to shared experience. I almost feel like I have a sense of loyalty to other posters that have been here as long as I have or longer. When one of us is attacked, I want to stand up for them, especially when they have been attacked completely unfairly. I feel like you so desperately wanted to fit in and belong to the Resetera community that you decided to throw some of us under the bus, but specifically Benji who has, for some reason, been singled out by people offsite.
You legitimized the completely unfounded accusations of Ted Danson, Besada, and random fucks on Reset of Benji aiding other forums in doxxing people. I think that was very wrong, and dangerous. He has never doxxed anyone, or aided anyone in doing that, and this cannot be said enough time. The accusations levied against him from different directions are difficult enough to deal with, and one of us legitimizng them just so we can fit in at the new hugbox forum is gross. At the end of the day, no matter how much of a detached, cynical shitposter he may portray himself to be, he is a real person, with real feelings. And it's not fair to make him some kind of symbol of the Bore hate machine, when all he's ever done was make funny posts.
That's my $0.02 and you can take it with copious amounts of salt, if you will. I am also drunk. Peace.
TLDR; Free Benji
