Crazy, last night i spoke to a friend of mine in her mid 30s from europe that absolutely refused to make a move on a guy she went on 4 dates with already. She's also the distinguished mentally-challenged fellow feminist type that pushes the "women can freeze up and not know how to turn down giving a blow job" garbage. It's unbelievable.
She wants the guy to make a move, but if the guy made a move in the wrong way or too aggressively there may be a chance she freezes? 
And then these types like to say a woman can do everything i man can do. I've been saying this for a while now that women don't know where they want to go with this.
And the Aziz case is startlingly stupid. Aziz looks like a pesky little annoying horny creep, if you can't turn down his advances you don't deserve to get paid the same as a man. Sorry. You're weak.
What I find alarming though is the way certain groups are putting into the minds of women the idea that their bad experiences should be seen as sexual assault. That the onus and
responsibility should be on the man at all times to read the signals that women are giving off. This kind of infantilises women by removing agency and responsibility from them.
Now I do get Shostakovich's point that women might find it hard at times to say no despite not really wanting it. We're a sexually dimorphic species. In other words men are bigger and stronger and that alone changes the power dynamic. That said, while there is perhaps something men could learn about the way they approach sex, ultimately there has to be some kind of objective standard when it comes to how we view sexual assault, harrassment, etc. We have to draw the line somewhere. Having increasingly broader standards where the line is vague and murky benefits no one.
Now with people like Grace, there maybe another reason other than simply not being believed or understood that factors into the decision to not make things like this public. That being recognising their own failure and responsibility to communicate their feelings clearly. I'm sure a number of these women get that. However, when you have certain groups of people putting it into their heads that it isn't their fault at all, and all the blame should be at the feet of the man in this situation, that's a unhealthy way to judge sexual dynamics for both men and women. It is fair to make men more aware of this, but it is unreasonable to hold men totally responsible as if they are the only adults in this situation. There needs to be an objective standard to judge cases by.
