doesn't gendering fall into the same category as any other matter of respect?
if someone asks me nicely to call them "JK" and I like and respect them, I probably will
if I don't like and respect them, I might choose to call them Joanne
it's a longstanding human tradition to pronounce or spell a name wrong as a lack of respect
how is this any different from when someone insists on being called a certain gender?
or similarly, if someone says "please don't say mean things about me behind my back, I find that really hurtful and honestly I shouldn't even have to ask, I've been going through a lot lately and feeling depressed and I just can't take it"
and then you go and do it anyway, maybe you drag them on twitter
how is that different from misgendering? both can be rude, both can be triggering and result in the person committing suicide, but unfortunately both are also very natural human behavior when there's enmity or a lack of respect
I cannot understand the pedestal
if people get to say "call me they," then I get to say "don't ever say anything mean about me," both are an attempt at compelling another's speech and should carry equal weight when infringed upon