Bebpo you look normal man, hope luck will turn for you in the ladies department. Maybe youre taking it all too seriously? I dont know but maybe you build up to a move so much it feels like a huge dissapointment when it doesnt work out, could this be it? How many times during a year do you flirt with a girl?
Yeaaaaah, pretty much true here. I meet people maybe 1-2 times a year, build a friendship for a while (maybe month+), then get rejected. I know it's the whole YOU ARE DOING IT WRONG thing; I just can't help that I fall into friendships with people who click with me and then I wait for feelings to grow and when I feel it's the right time or when there is a 3rd party event (like this time) I make my interest known.
To field some of the other questions people asked:
-Sincerity: Yes, I am 95% honest/sincere (as much as a person can be) about everything when talking to someone. I feel I have nothing to hide and I want to meet someone who likes me for who I am; not who I pretend to be while hiding away certain parts.
-Not trying so hard: Well most months of a year I am not trying at all and I just ignore dating and enjoy my life. I have never been approached by a single person male or female during any of these times to talk. If I don't make the effort to pursue someone I don't meet anyone....ever.
-Have a life: I travel, do photography, write poetry, short stories, draw, make dinky little movies, do arts & crafts projects like building robots, cook, bake, read books, watch movies, go to a lot of live shows, take walks, jog, work out. I'm pretty much out all day everyday doing something different and exciting and having fun doing it and then at night I'm usually just hanging around home writing or watching a movie or playing a game. I do almost everything alone though because I don't have a social group. The only things I
don't do is follow/play sports or play an instrument (I tryyyyyyy but I'm a terrible guitar player).
I seem to be a person that people want to be friends with, because I'm funny (I make people laugh a looot) and creative and always have stories to tell or arty projects to show. I'm also a good listener and respond well to conversations and am good at making the mood happier and getting people out of depression.
Unfortunately being what people want in a friend != what they want in a bf. You would think it would be someone who could be a good friend, who would understand you and like you for who you are and then be there to huggle and comfort you with love. But no; that apparently is not it booo.
I'll admit the amount of people who are on the same page as me and will even respond to me or have conversations with me if a very small niche. Even though I'm 27, I still act like a kid and have silly conversations with bad grammar on purpose and I don't like to talk about real world things like jobs, politics, the daily news, etc... I talk about robots and space aliens and flying whales. This limits me in who I can get along with, but I really have no desire to "grow up" and be like everyone else. I just want to meet someone wacky and silly like me who I could date.
Here is a snippit example of my conversation style:
[00:28] ~~: woah
[00:28] ~~: .
[00:28] Bebpo: WOAH
[00:28] Bebpo: YES
[00:28] ~~: that . is actually woah
[00:28] Bebpo: woah sounds kinda like noah
[00:28] Bebpo: if you say it a lot
[00:28] ~~: noah sounds like woah if you say it like no
[00:28] Bebpo: bahahaha
[00:29] Bebpo: no I don't laugh like SHEEP
[00:29] ~~: yeah woah still doesnt sound like noah
[00:29] ~~: WHY NOT
[00:29] Bebpo: GOOD QUESTION
[00:29] ~~: that made me lol
[00:29] ~~: actually
[00:29] ~~: i went
[00:29] ~~: BAHAHA
[00:29] ~~: and then i went BAHAHAHAHAHAH and then i went BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAH
[00:29] ~~: cuz
[00:29] ~~: no thats a lie
[00:29] ~~: but i laughed
[00:29] Bebpo: GOOD
[00:29] Bebpo: DON'T BE SHEEP
[00:29] ~~: oh ok
[00:29] Bebpo: BE YOURSELF
[00:30] ~~: ALRIGHT