Random talk thread: It just keeps happening

[Madrun Badrun]

They do sell 'In the Heat of the Night'.  On bluray and dvd.  Best BBC movie there is.

[Huff]

Man, feels like someone stole my soul. Been recovering and sipping water all day. I must have forgot how to party (Image removed from quote.)

It's just a continuing degradation of your liver. Better get your LFTs checked brah

[Huff]

haha i was kidding. hangovers just keep getting worse the older we get

[Huff]

Yep. I mixed like crazy yesterday too. Beer, wine, punch, whiskey, vodka, rum...

I usually know I'm going to have a two day recovery period drink a decent amount of liquor

[fistfulofmetal]

netflix has the original pokemon animated series now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[chronovore]

I'm feeling a little shitty today, and all I had was one bottle of wine. That used to be a bog-standard pre-party amount, and now it seems to actually affect me the next day.

It might be you, but it also might have been the wine. The histamines in red wine have been giving me more problems than usual lately. Also, some wines have additives which you may be reacting to.

[Atramental]

edit: useless angry post

[G The Resurrected]

Why have I bought so much shit over the years? I'm feeling so claustrophobic in my place. I was cleaning things in preparation for our kitchen remodel and I came across bag after bag of random stuff and box after box of things I thought I got rid of long ago. I'm starting to regret owning a storage unit as well cause then I just take this stuff there. I am in downsize and organize mode, but I've got someone in my way and she is getting on my nerves.

[etiolate]

there's a happiness in space and a freedom in having so many scant, few belongings

Unless you're libertarian. Then property is everything.

[G The Resurrected]

Yeah I like our living room now because there isn't as much to it. I've got my listening corner with my music and tablet. Then we've got the large sleigh couch and home theater setup. I'm pretty proud of that section of the place, but the rest is a nuclear disaster that never seems to be organized in any shape or form. I just went and paid 3 months on our storage and as motivation to make changes I set it up so the unit will be available after those 3 months. Maybe this might kick things into the right gear. I'm going so far as to go through my massive movie and game collection and weed out things that I don't need. My goal is to have a dinner table back in our apartment instead of a cat box and large cabinet full of games/movies. I want a place to eat dinner and entertain if the opportunity arises, instead of being embarrassed of our place.

In other news I'm being vetted like never before. The folks I might potentially work for are seriously going through the last few years of my life with a fine tooth and comb, it's been an interesting process. Thankfully for me everything is an open book, I've got nothing to hide and nothing I'm ashamed of. If you do it you gotta own it!

[Phoenix Dark]

Good luck G.

I always eat in my room, don't remember the last time I ate in the living room or dining area.

[drew]

don't do blow, man. shit is disgusting and makes you feel like complete dogshit.

not that I would know of course, hi Google!

[Phoenix Dark]

My tire exploded while driving on the highway today. I was in the left lane when I suddenly lost all acceleration and had to swing into the left shoulder area; that area was full of snow so I could barely get over, ultimately resulting it me being about an inch from the yellow line.

I got towed to a tire place, and then 30 minutes later their power went out; I think it was snow related as multiple places on that street, including a bank, also lost power. That delayed my car getting fixed so I had it towed again to Sam's Club. Bought a new tire and continued with my day. Only had to pay $112.


I knew something was wrong with my tire for weeks and didn't do anything about it; I figured it just needed a bit of air. So yea brehs, check your tires ASAP if you think it's having problems.

[Bebpo]

My tire exploded while driving on the highway today. I was in the left lane when I suddenly lost all acceleration and had to swing into the left shoulder area; that area was full of snow so I could barely get over, ultimately resulting it me being about an inch from the yellow line.

I got towed to a tire place, and then 30 minutes later their power went out; I think it was snow related as multiple places on that street, including a bank, also lost power. That delayed my car getting fixed so I had it towed again to Sam's Club. Bought a new tire and continued with my day. Only had to pay $112.


I knew something was wrong with my tire for weeks and didn't do anything about it; I figured it just needed a bit of air. So yea brehs, check your tires ASAP if you think it's having problems.

Glad you're ok!  I gotta imagine a tire blowing out is pretty freaky while driving.

[lennedsay]

I need Facebook advice since I'm socially inept.

I finally bit the bullet and defriended a family member who lives across the country, who I didn't really "know" until the last couple of years, and who is a passive aggressive bitch that uses everything the family says online to cause drama. She's nice enough to the family (well those who still speak to her) so she can keep her drama loving claws dug in, then will stir up shit and let us locals deal with the aftermath. Usually this happens after a tragedy (when my brother died, when my grandma died, etc), but generally any other time when she isn't the center of attention. She's truly a horrible human being. I can't even convey all the shit she has done and said, same goes for her mother. Well, if this gives an idea, one time, she told my disabled brother, who struggled his entire short life, that she had it harder than him. Yup, she's a gem.

Well now its my birthday. What better time to harass me about defriending her? I get the message asking why in whatever reason would I have done such a thing. I even went through my privacy settings last week to make sure the option to receive messages from non-friends was turned off, but guess not. THANKS FB. Do I respond to this trash (on my birthday, sick no less)? If so, how? She's just like my dear sweet MIL so whatever I say will be null and voided cause NU UH DID NOT. The last time I talked to her, I told her off for talking about me behind my back, she tried denying it, couldn't, then started defending it, never apologized and I haven't heard from her since. That was last summer. She knows exactly why I bumped her, and I gave her ample time to cool off and apologize. Instead, she started talking about me to my mom again, like I wouldn't find out? (Well ok, we all know it was for her to start more drama, and drag my mom into it cause my mom just can't keep her big mouth shut!! How dare her!) My initial thought is to not respond because its going nowhere and will just stress me out. I thought about something vague about just limiting Facebook to close friends/family, but she will argue that she is close family DAMNIT.

The other issue is that my mom will have to deal with this too. So I can either tell this woman why, she can ignore it and deny her wrongdoing, then will go crying to my mom and her mom. My mom backs me 100% but is also a gentle, sweet, peacekeeping woman. Or I can ignore her, and my mom will still have to deal with her drama and questions. I'd delete the whole profile if it wasn't for family out of state that we actually like.

Wildcard option: let her stew until tomorrow, staring at that "Seen at 3:30" read receipt, planning her inevitable attack on my mom, then I message her tomorrow saying it was an inappropriate subject to bring up and deal with on my birthday. Then send her a link to some pretentious huffpo article about "Why you should un friend these 10 people" and let her figure out which category she falls under.

[fistfulofmetal]

Don't respond.

[Steve Contra]

Who gives a shit?  Just don't respond.

[Phoenix Dark]

Be friends with your family members on Facebook, brehs...

I'd respond short and sweet. Let her stew on whatever one sentence explanation/ether/dismissal you choose, and then don't respond again.

Then next time you see her at a family event smile and say "hey how are you, did you get my message on Facebook?"

[Shaka Khan]

Don't respond and block her.

Relay that to your mom to make your stance clear, then it's up to your mom whether to block her as well or listen to her idiocy and keep it to herself.

[Mupepe]

Yeah just ignore that bitch.  It's wasted time and effort.  Whatever you say won't matter anyways.

[Phoenix Dark]

Nah. You have to confront passive aggressive people or they'll continue to fuck with you. If you don't respond she'll simply take her shit elsewhere, as you detailed: to your mom, other family members, etc. Quickly explain why you defriended her so she can't play the victim, then don't respond again/block her.

[Steve Contra]

Like I said, who gives a fuck, just don't have anything to do with her anymore.

[Phoenix Dark]

I'm surprised Mrs. Prole hasn't de-friended Prole yet. That status update about farting in a dog's face should have been the last straw.

[Steve Contra]

Or the one where he said he laughed at dinner because his mom said she liked the BBC

[Shaka Khan]

Or the one where he said he laughed at dinner because his mom said she liked the BBC

[Shadow Mod]

I need Facebook advice since I'm socially inept.

I finally bit the bullet and defriended a family member who lives across the country, who I didn't really "know" until the last couple of years, and who is a passive aggressive bitch that uses everything the family says online to cause drama. She's nice enough to the family (well those who still speak to her) so she can keep her drama loving claws dug in, then will stir up shit and let us locals deal with the aftermath. Usually this happens after a tragedy (when my brother died, when my grandma died, etc), but generally any other time when she isn't the center of attention. She's truly a horrible human being. I can't even convey all the shit she has done and said, same goes for her mother. Well, if this gives an idea, one time, she told my disabled brother, who struggled his entire short life, that she had it harder than him. Yup, she's a gem.

Well now its my birthday. What better time to harass me about defriending her? I get the message asking why in whatever reason would I have done such a thing. I even went through my privacy settings last week to make sure the option to receive messages from non-friends was turned off, but guess not. THANKS FB. Do I respond to this trash (on my birthday, sick no less)? If so, how? She's just like my dear sweet MIL so whatever I say will be null and voided cause NU UH DID NOT. The last time I talked to her, I told her off for talking about me behind my back, she tried denying it, couldn't, then started defending it, never apologized and I haven't heard from her since. That was last summer. She knows exactly why I bumped her, and I gave her ample time to cool off and apologize. Instead, she started talking about me to my mom again, like I wouldn't find out? (Well ok, we all know it was for her to start more drama, and drag my mom into it cause my mom just can't keep her big mouth shut!! How dare her!) My initial thought is to not respond because its going nowhere and will just stress me out. I thought about something vague about just limiting Facebook to close friends/family, but she will argue that she is close family DAMNIT.

The other issue is that my mom will have to deal with this too. So I can either tell this woman why, she can ignore it and deny her wrongdoing, then will go crying to my mom and her mom. My mom backs me 100% but is also a gentle, sweet, peacekeeping woman. Or I can ignore her, and my mom will still have to deal with her drama and questions. I'd delete the whole profile if it wasn't for family out of state that we actually like.

Wildcard option: let her stew until tomorrow, staring at that "Seen at 3:30" read receipt, planning her inevitable attack on my mom, then I message her tomorrow saying it was an inappropriate subject to bring up and deal with on my birthday. Then send her a link to some pretentious huffpo article about "Why you should un friend these 10 people" and let her figure out which category she falls under.

People like that get off on you giving an iota of a fuck. They want to seem relevant. The best thing you can do is not even deal with their shit.

[Mupepe]

Nah. You have to confront passive aggressive people or they'll continue to fuck with you. If you don't respond she'll simply take her shit elsewhere, as you detailed: to your mom, other family members, etc. Quickly explain why you defriended her so she can't play the victim, then don't respond again/block her.

except by telling her why she was defriended she gets to play the victim.  These types of people will ALWAYS play the victim.  Every word that comes out of your mouth is ammo and validation.  It's best to say as little as possible.

[fistfulofmetal]

Confronting trolls only leads to being trolled harder.

Evidence: me

[Madrun Badrun]

Ya, if you really want her to stop talking to you, then surprise fist her.

[lennedsay]

Oh good! The consensus is don't respond! Thanks guys.

Btw, she had already messaged my mom and my husband (maybe others? Don't know yet), playing the victim of course. My husband didn't respond. My mom gave some vague explanation like, 'well you know, lennedsay doesn't like getting stuck in others' drama.' And it quickly turned into BUT MY MOM AND I HAD A ROUGH CHILDHOOD AND MY MOM IS OFF HER MEDS AND MY STEPKIDS ARE HORRIBLE and blah blah blah. She was just feeling neglected because it was my birthday and that means everyone forgot she existed, because that's how birthdays work, so she was going to make sure we all remembered her.

And Mups is right. If I explain it to her, then I'm "mean" and hurt HER feelings and yelled at her and blah. No matter how right I am, I will "upset" her with my "lies" or whatever she wants to moan about. No matter what I say or don't say, she will tell everybody else in the family a sob story about how horrible I am. Which she's already doing to my own mother and husband. Good fucking riddance.

[Shadow Mod]

She sounds fucking jealous and her attempts to tear you down by you being "mean" are laughable because she has nothing else on you. Salty ass family members are the worst. There's enough problems in the world without you being a shitheel to your own.

[chronovore]

I'm LTTP, but one more vote for "ignore her" - with a side order of telling your mom that she doesn't need to involve herself, and that in fact it makes your situation more difficult if she does. I'm no psychologist, but she sounds like she's suffering from borderline personality disorder (BPD). She makes everything about her; she's not broken, it's the world which is broken; she makes allies or enemies, and if she perceives someone to be an enemy, she'll work to make sure others also perceive her enemies as their own -- SHE'S the one who is being slighted.

Ignoring her is the best response, and let anyone who approaches you on her behalf know that your relationship with BPD lass is strictly between BPD and yourself, and that you've chosen not to interact with her. No. Big. Deal.

[lennedsay]

She sounds fucking jealous and her attempts to tear you down by you being "mean" are laughable because she has nothing else on you. Salty ass family members are the worst. There's enough problems in the world without you being a shitheel to your own.

She's actually admitted before that she's jealous of me and my sister. I'm almost 15 years younger than her, but graduated college before her, got married before her, am a good mom, and have a great relationship with my husband and with my mom. That shit shouldn't be a competition, and for me, isn't. I barely even knew her when I graduated and got married. I didn't do it to spite her. I think she always thought she needed to be successful (read: rich) to be happy, and now she married a guy with money, has a big house and acts like she's loaded, but she's in a marriage that's falling apart and she hates her mom, the kid spends most of the time with the nanny, and she's just miserable. But its all her own fault cause she's such a bitch! If I was a bitch at that level, I wouldn't have a good relationship with my family either.

Don't need that shit. I have enough family/friends that are generally happy for each other, and supportive when things are hard.

[lennedsay]

Googling BPD now. lol She'll be the first to say that her mom is Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and I always think, "Sweetie, I think that's you..."

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

I've ignored and am ignoring large swaths of my extended family because of teh drama.  Ignoring them and moving on is the only positive solution, unless you're one of those "I hate drama" people yet feel the need to revel in it whenever possible.  You can't lose if you don't play.

[Shadow Mod]

She sounds fucking jealous and her attempts to tear you down by you being "mean" are laughable because she has nothing else on you. Salty ass family members are the worst. There's enough problems in the world without you being a shitheel to your own.

She's actually admitted before that she's jealous of me and my sister. I'm almost 15 years younger than her, but graduated college before her, got married before her, am a good mom, and have a great relationship with my husband and with my mom. That shit shouldn't be a competition, and for me, isn't. I barely even knew her when I graduated and got married. I didn't do it to spite her. I think she always thought she needed to be successful (read: rich) to be happy, and now she married a guy with money, has a big house and acts like she's loaded, but she's in a marriage that's falling apart and she hates her mom, the kid spends most of the time with the nanny, and she's just miserable. But its all her own fault cause she's such a bitch! If I was a bitch at that level, I wouldn't have a good relationship with my family either.

Don't need that shit. I have enough family/friends that are generally happy for each other, and supportive when things are hard.

So she's comfortable and still miserable and still all over your shit? Definitely some mental instability and possibly a bullshit marriage. Also she could be envious of your relationship with your own mother. Either way you already told her to get off your dick so just ignoring her further is still the prudent course to me.

[Phoenix Dark]

I friended a cousin from Texas who is pretty cool, and I've only met once irl. Also friended my brother when he was in Africa so I could talk to him, and another of my brothers just because. That's it.

ignored my mom's friend request last week

[Groogrux]

Was supposed to have a job interview today, but due to snow I wasn't able to get out of my driveway.  I called the guy to explain and he was completely understanding of it and we rescheduled for Thursday.

Wish me luck.

[lennedsay]

She sounds fucking jealous and her attempts to tear you down by you being "mean" are laughable because she has nothing else on you. Salty ass family members are the worst. There's enough problems in the world without you being a shitheel to your own.

She's actually admitted before that she's jealous of me and my sister. I'm almost 15 years younger than her, but graduated college before her, got married before her, am a good mom, and have a great relationship with my husband and with my mom. That shit shouldn't be a competition, and for me, isn't. I barely even knew her when I graduated and got married. I didn't do it to spite her. I think she always thought she needed to be successful (read: rich) to be happy, and now she married a guy with money, has a big house and acts like she's loaded, but she's in a marriage that's falling apart and she hates her mom, the kid spends most of the time with the nanny, and she's just miserable. But its all her own fault cause she's such a bitch! If I was a bitch at that level, I wouldn't have a good relationship with my family either.

Don't need that shit. I have enough family/friends that are generally happy for each other, and supportive when things are hard.

So she's comfortable and still miserable and still all over your shit? Definitely some mental instability and possibly a bullshit marriage. Also she could be envious of your relationship with your own mother. Either way you already told her to get off your dick so just ignoring her further is still the prudent course to me.

Yup. She's extremely jealous of the relationship between me/my sister and my mom. My mom was always the type of mother she wanted, but got my crazy aunt instead. Its a huge source of problems between her and my aunt - why can't you be more like lennedsay's mom, etc. Her mom is, in turn, extremely envious of my mom. Not that having a perfect mom would've fixed their problems, but that's what they both tell themselves (my aunt has mommy issues too). The husband is great. He's just like my husband, an older version. Super laid back, funny, great cook, brews beer. She'll eventually fuck it up with him, which I'm sure will be her moms fault, his fault, global warming, etc.

They have lived out of the state (and often out of the country) since I was really young, so we only had to deal with this shit every 5 years or so. THANKS FB. I blocked her and my aunt, so my mom can deal with it if she wants to.

The rest of my family are hilarious and supportive, most of them out of state. I didn't know many of them that well and held off adding any family on FB, but was pleasantly surprised. They're all great. The only remaining passive aggressive, insecure dicks I have left now are a group of old friends that I've been slowly distancing myself from for years. They will flip when I finally drop them. Until then, they're just biding time and providing entertainment.

[Mr. Gundam]

Over the years, I've just learned to not interact with family members I'm not interested in being friendly with. Not responding is best, since they feed off any sort of response.

Instead of defriending people, why not just hide their posts? That way you don't have to see the stuff, and they don't know any better.

[fistfulofmetal]

I'm probably gonna be in a similar situation with my mother after I move out. It could go either way, actually. She'll either resort to sarcastic bullshit or she'll get so lonely she'll start sending me tons of messages wanting to know how I am.

Or... she'll just never talk to me again.

Regardless I'm probably gonna cut off most contact. I don't need someone like her in my life anymore. At least for awhile.

[demi]

Why for a while?

[Rufus]

Because making a hard cut is going to be good for his personal development, but a permanent cut might be unfair to his mom, who he doesn't need to be unneccesarily cruel to? Unless I'm missing any systematic abuse or other craziness that might justify it.

[fistfulofmetal]

^

[lennedsay]

Instead of defriending people, why not just hide their posts? That way you don't have to see the stuff, and they don't know any better.

Cause they never post anything and only stalker up my, my husband and my moms timelines, looking for shit to make themselves feel better/use against us in an argument later.

"Well but see at 12:32 on Feb 8, you went to lunch with Grandma and didn't even invite my mom. And I know lennedsay was there too because you tagged her in the picture of the baby, so she must be lying that she has a job or got fired. And I saw the baby was eating Cheerios and my kid doesn't ever eat that filth because we love our kid. And you didn't tag her husband in the picture so he must not have been there - I guess their marriage is rocky huh?" Etc.

The last one was from my aunt to my mom: "Oh I saw the picture lennedsay's husband posted of the baby. I guess he taught her how to show off her teeth, because my grandbaby doesn't have any teeth yet and he wanted her to brag."

[lennedsay]

God I'm just such a bitch. I'm ruining their lives you know!

We had a lot of asshole family that we cut out when I was a kid, but primarily from my dad's side. These bitches have had ample chances. Not even dealing with it anymore.

[chronovore]

Your guys families make me feel like I had a Ward-and-June-Cleaver upbringing. Wow. These people you're dealing with just sound nuts.

[lennedsay]

My kid's a genius, guys. She can barely get a sock on, but being a passive aggressive one-upping monster comes so naturally!

[CajoleJuice]

Just want to say that I've seen multiple people here mention Hardcore History and I finally dove into it over the past couple of weeks. It rules really fucking hard. And I usually hate podcasts. Thanks, Borians.

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

Just want to say that I've seen multiple people here mention Hardcore History and I finally dove into it over the past couple of weeks. It rules really fucking hard. And I usually hate podcasts. Thanks, Borians.

Check out Mike Duncan's podcasts, The History of Rome and Revolutions as well.  The History of Rome was finished a couple of years ago but he's currently working on releasing weekly episodes of Revolutions.  Great stuff for a boring day at work.

[Van Cruncheon]

Instead of defriending people, why not just hide their posts? That way you don't have to see the stuff, and they don't know any better.

Cause they never post anything and only stalker up my, my husband and my moms timelines, looking for shit to make themselves feel better/use against us in an argument later.

"Well but see at 12:32 on Feb 8, you went to lunch with Grandma and didn't even invite my mom. And I know lennedsay was there too because you tagged her in the picture of the baby, so she must be lying that she has a job or got fired. And I saw the baby was eating Cheerios and my kid doesn't ever eat that filth because we love our kid. And you didn't tag her husband in the picture so he must not have been there - I guess their marriage is rocky huh?" Etc.

The last one was from my aunt to my mom: "Oh I saw the picture lennedsay's husband posted of the baby. I guess he taught her how to show off her teeth, because my grandbaby doesn't have any teeth yet and he wanted her to brag."

FUCKING SHIT

SAVE 20K UP, CALL THE LOCAL MOB BOSS, END THIS SHIT WITH SCORCESE STYLE FIERCENESS

[hampster]

Oh god, lennedsay's post

[nudemacusers]

see lenn this is why you go code black and don't respond to or 'tell off' these kind of people. no matter what you do they're the victim or they create a need for divisiveness or drama. I grew up around these types*, you figure out eventually that there is no diplomatic approach that is worth your time. much easier to let them drop off the earth like a bad fart.

*could write a book of examples

[CajoleJuice]

Just want to say that I've seen multiple people here mention Hardcore History and I finally dove into it over the past couple of weeks. It rules really fucking hard. And I usually hate podcasts. Thanks, Borians.

Check out Mike Duncan's podcasts, The History of Rome and Revolutions as well.  The History of Rome was finished a couple of years ago but he's currently working on releasing weekly episodes of Revolutions.  Great stuff for a boring day at work.

This sounds awesome, thanks.

[T234]

Instead of defriending people, why not just hide their posts? That way you don't have to see the stuff, and they don't know any better.

Cause they never post anything and only stalker up my, my husband and my moms timelines, looking for shit to make themselves feel better/use against us in an argument later.

"Well but see at 12:32 on Feb 8, you went to lunch with Grandma and didn't even invite my mom. And I know lennedsay was there too because you tagged her in the picture of the baby, so she must be lying that she has a job or got fired. And I saw the baby was eating Cheerios and my kid doesn't ever eat that filth because we love our kid. And you didn't tag her husband in the picture so he must not have been there - I guess their marriage is rocky huh?" Etc.

The last one was from my aunt to my mom: "Oh I saw the picture lennedsay's husband posted of the baby. I guess he taught her how to show off her teeth, because my grandbaby doesn't have any teeth yet and he wanted her to brag."

FUCKING SHIT

SAVE 20K UP, CALL THE LOCAL MOB BOSS, END THIS SHIT WITH SCORCESE STYLE FIERCENESS

20K? SHEEEEIIIIT, This ain't the 90's, there are a LOT of out-of-work Veterans these days.

[Great Rumbler]

Went to a place in Plano, Texas today called Zhabuki's and had a Japanese-style hot pot with three of my best bros. So demonic.

[Great Rumbler]

It wasn't any kind specifically, they have it set up where you just order whatever you want individually and then throw it in. We ended up with cabbage, mushrooms, chicken, beef, baby corn, pork, shrimp, tofu, egg noodles, and a couple cuttlefish, with beef and chicken broth in two separate compartments of the pot.

[Shaka Khan]

I call on the power of Christ to purify that demonic post.

[CatsCatsCats]

Damn that sounds good. I need someone with culinary taste to take me to places like that. There's also a bunch if pho places around here but I never had it and they're all full of Asian people and I would feel too much like the cac that I am when I don't know how to order, kinda like the time I accidentally went to a Chinese restaurant when they were doing dim sum.

Halp

[CatsCatsCats]

In other news, we had inventory today, and the systems guy screwed it up so I have to work tomorrow