So I didn't want to post about my last situation, but I do think some advice would be helpful. I'll try to make it short and to the point.
I tried to date a single girl who I've been hanging out with in a social group for the last month who is 100% fallen/ridiculously into another guy (who lives 2 hours away) and they are in the initial first dates stages and there's probably a good chance it won't work (he didn't ask her on a date, she asked him and their date was awkward). This was, in retrospect, a bad idea because tunnel-vision and all that. But at the same time I didn't want to sit on it and wait months before finding out if she is interested (had been giving me mixed signals all the time; sometimes thought she was flirting, sometimes ignoring). Went on 1st date (I'm not sure if she realized it was a date until during the date), it wasn't the best, but it wasn't bad. She was laughing, stories were told, not much silence, she walked me to my car at the end.
2 days later I texted her that I had a good time at dinner, made a short joke, and casually invited her to a social outting doing something we share a mutual interest in over the weekend. There wasn't much notice, it was a Friday and the weekend was the next day & two.
She didn't send a reply that day (I texted her in the afternoon), instead she sent a short one the next morning saying "thanks again (for dinner), I've got plans this weekend, have fun". I took the length of time that it took for her to reply combined with the decline to be a "thanks, but I'm not interested in you". Which is fine, so I moved on to other girls.
We haven't spoken by text/calls/facebook chat or anything since her reply Saturday morning, it's now Wednesday. I'm starting to have second thoughts that maybe I misread it and she was just busy and may still be interested. I'm not sure what to do. Should I contact her and try again? If not, I'll probably see her this weekend at one of the social group things. I could just talk to her then as well, but if she's not interested it could be pretty awkward especially in front of her friends. Otoh, I feel like maybe giving her some space right now might be what she wants, so maybe I should hold off on any pursuing for a little while she sorts out her situation with the guy she really likes.
I don't really like her that much. She has a lot of dealbreakers, but she also has a lot of positive traits and is a very interesting person, so if there is a chance I'd like to give another shot. Also she is a super shy and tries to be nice to everyone and if she wasn't interested in me I don't think she would ever tell me "No, I'm not interested in you", she would just sort of do the "Oh, that sounds fun. Sorry but I can't" until I stop inviting her to things (which is why I thought her reply was her signaling she wasn't interested).