Pallando will return in "Never Say Never Again"

[Flannel Boy]

I cancelled my remaining first dates. I was especially sad about canceling the date with the spunky ginger. :/

[Positive Touch]

suicide is not the answer malek

[Human Snorenado]

suicide is not the answer malek

Agreed.

Although, if you decide that memberships to porn sites ARE the answer, you can always share the passwords.

[Flannel Boy]

suicide is not the answer malek

How do you know? Have you ever tried it?

It does seem tempting, especially today, but I'm just moving back to Toronto instead.

[Shadow Mod]

Moving for some people isn't going to change their inability to stop overthinking/overanalyzing the women they do happen to meet and greet.

[Flannel Boy]

Devo, my moving back to Toronto has nothing to do with women (if that's what you're implying). I planned to move back before I even started online dating at the end of April (this could be confirmed by Cajole).

[Shadow Mod]

No. Just sayin' location doesn't make a diff. But why Toronto? If I had to be in Canada I'd take my ass to Vancouver.

[Mr. Gundam]

I assume it's because he's from Toronto.

I'd still move to Vancouver.

[Phoenix Dark]

Arvie+Gundam would probably be the most handsome stud+wingman combo on The Bore.

[chronovore]

For guys who think they're owed some kind of explanation about why there will be no further dates, refer to this Margaret Atwood quote: "Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them."

Women have NO IDEA how obsessive a guy is; having someone pursue them after they've shown no further interest in continuing the relationship looks like some form of cluelessness at best, stalkerish and frightening at worst. Women assume the actually properly socialized men will understand that it was just not going to work and move on. Explaining why it wasn't going to work is a form of confrontation, and that can lead to unpredictable reactions.

[Shadow Mod]

Some dudes build a lot of shit up in their head.  When it comes crashing down, oh boy.

[Human Snorenado]

Some dudes build a lot of shit up in their head.  When it comes crashing down, oh boy.

I'd say most dudes do, but the ones who can figure it out on their own without outwardly seeming nuts about it just seem like they have their shit more together.  Frankly, I don't have time in my life for people who don't know who they are and what they want anymore, so when people seem wishy-washy after a little bit, I just sort of politely excuse myself out of their lives.

[brawndolicious]

That's not vindication, that's trolling.

[Human Snorenado]

Your number one problem in life is that you care too much.  Quit being that guy.

[Mandark]

chrono: Point very well taken.

I still don't like the idea that "properly socialized" implies an expectation that women will always avoid directness or even small amounts of conflict.  At some point (totally legitimate) caution in the face of the (very real) threat of male violence becomes entangled with the idea that it's unacceptable/bitchy for women to ever be assertive or say "no".  IME, especially when I was younger, the girls who were most likely to count on a boy taking a hint were also the least likely to deal with problems directly, even among their family and girl friends.

Oh well.  Like most of this shit, it would get a lot simpler if dudes would stop assaulting women.

[chronovore]

Yeah, I agree.

I used to be one of those guys, and the problem is that it doesn't matter if we like it or not, or agree with it or not, it is just a part of our current culture. There is no point in taking it personally, either. It doesn't say anything about you, Awesome-O, or me-- it is about her feelings and need for safety, and about what a despairingly scarce commodity it is for her.

[Shadow Mod]

Yeah, I agree.

I used to be one of those guys, and the problem is that it doesn't matter if we like it or not, or agree with it or not, it is just a part of our current culture. There is no point in taking it personally, either. It doesn't say anything about you, Awesome-O, or me-- it is about her feelings and need for safety, and about what a despairingly scarce commodity it is for her.

I don't think I've met a woman (this includes myself) without some kind of stalker whether a stranger, would be relationship or ex. The only difference is how scary and violent it got and how long it lasted. But nearly every one of them has "been there" in some form or another. It's really scary.

[Mupepe]

I agree with you, chronovore, and I never meant to imply that I was owed anything. I think being upfront about your intentions is more polite, but people can do what they want. Also: I've tried to be clear about this, but I would never continue to contact a girl who was clearly uninterested. In this case, I thought the situation was ambiguous enough that it was worth sending a throwaway message on the chance that she hadn't contacted me because she really had been just that damn busy, and it turns out I was correct.

It's so cute that you believed her! 

[brawndolicious]

STFU, am nintenho.

I'm not saying that to be mean, it just seems like she thought she already gave you the hint but then for your last message she sits on her thumb for a week before saying in a totally beating around the bush way that you can't see each other for a few weeks.

If I were you, I wouldn't take that as vindication but as a sign to go into the NSFW thread and jerk off to that good shit Broseidon posts and recompose myself and move on.

[brawndolicious]

I think she was just trying to respect your feelings in a very self-aware way by saying "I  don't reject you, but you're on the waitlist".

I don't know and whether I'm right or wrong, I really don't have the energy to argue this on a Monday morning.

[Mupepe]

Sometimes people feel like they're too mean if they do option A, but they don't want to do Option B (for whatever reason, but we know lots of people don't) so they do Option C.  It's like asking why some people continue to lie after they've clearly been caught or why some women will tell men "Yeah it was the best I've ever had" when both parties know it's not true.  Sometimes a little white lie just isn't as messy and is the easiest way to avoid feels.

Your email most likely was not some sort of vindication.  Instead it was probably just what you wanted to hear and that helps her sleep better at night.

[Mupepe]

I get what you're saying and I don't really have a response.  I guess because I see that as a really strange way of approaching the dating scene.  Your post almost sounds like a PUA pitch. 

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

I had to go to campus today and holy shit: so many hot chicks.  It was 100 degrees so they were wearing as little as possible; I nearly got down on my knees and cried in joy

[Verdigris Murder]

Love lacking nerds:

Less of the walls of text please. I sortof take interest in your sexless mating rituals, but seriously. I have other things to do.

[tiesto]

Anyway, there's this cool girl from the Urban Planning department who I'd love to hang out with sometime. I was at her birthday party a few weeks ago, and she came up specifically to talk to me. Thing is I don't know if she's single. Back in the fall I added her on facebook, and she was in a relationship then, but she deleted her account a few months ago. This boyfriend, if he exists, has never been present at any event where I've seen her, and you'd think he would be there at a birthday party. She's a year out of undergrad at Santa Cruz, so I figure he was a long-distance holdover, and they've probably broken up since then.

She talked about wanting to do some kind of microbrewery tour, so I think I'll do some research into good local breweries and then invite her.

An urban planning major who is into microbrews? Sounds like my kinda girl, go for it!

[Flannel Boy]

You're assuming that she has a sexy beer belly.

[Flannel Boy]

[TakingBackSunday]

might as well share.



We've been dating since the end of May, more or less, but its been getting serious since July.  She's a doll, and I think I love her :3

She's a film student turned graphic designer, and she's much more talented than I am.  She can drink me under the table, and knows more about films than I think even eric P does.  She's just swell.  I'm very happy!

[TakingBackSunday]

and before you ask: no, that's not her jim morrison poster; she hates the doors

[Reb]

Already saved and uploaded on 10 different locations.

[TakingBackSunday]

oh for gods sakes, she's sitting right next to me. white knight all you want.

also biz, when did you become such an asshole?  if you look back through this thread you used to be much nicer.

[Human Snorenado]

The most disturbing thing in all of this is that you used the word "swell," I mean fuck.  Who does that?

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

I did an Amir0x: I printed out her picture, jizzed all over it, took a picture of it, and uploaded it to the internet.

[chronovore]

Congrats, BN!

Everything should be okay, unless she needs you to eat a ghost pepper.

[Phoenix Dark]

oh for gods sakes, she's sitting right next to me. white knight all you want.

also biz, when did you become such an asshole? if you look back through this thread you used to be much nicer.

not really

grats BN. Does this mean your sister is available? I'm going in

[Positive Touch]

I did an Amir0x: I printed out her picture, jizzed all over it, took a picture of it, and uploaded it to the internet.

  jesus he do this with olis gf i guess?

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

I did an Amir0x: I printed out her picture, jizzed all over it, took a picture of it, and uploaded it to the internet.

  jesus he do this with olis gf i guess?

Yep

[Phoenix Dark]

That still cancels out the $400 in GAF money he used to buy drugs imo. What a swell guy 

[Human Snorenado]

Yeah, some of us are still perm'd for calling him a great big blubbering vag for trying to enforce politeness in the OT.

And by some of us, really I just mean me.

[nudemacusers]

I did an Amir0x: I printed out her picture, jizzed all over it, took a picture of it, and uploaded it to the internet.

  jesus he do this with olis gf i guess?

wait, whu

[demi]

Yeah, he posted it on OA a long time ago.

Was kinda gross, only because the load did not look very healthy. Like it oozed out like a Squeez-it Bottle.

[Human Snorenado]

If he was really dedicated to his art, he would have abstained for a week beforehand.

[brawndolicious]

If he was really dedicated to his art, he would have abstained for a week beforehand.

He was both premature and immature. It was also the first time actual posters on the internet scared me with a guy selling nudies of his virgin gf for a psp and then after they were released in the wild, somebody stalks his facebook/myspace page to track down his dad who works at NASA to email them to his work email.

Between the shaming and the ejaculation, it was pretty messed up. And of course, a decade later the guy is still posting there.

[Brehvolution]

Congrats Brandnew! She's adorable!

[Bebpo]

Congrats Brandnew!

[Flannel Boy]

So there's a woman on match.com from Toronto whose username is Fit Girl Junior. 

[Robo]

Hey guys, I've been having sooooo much sex lately that I'm getting sorta sick of it.  What should I do?

[etiolate]

might as well share.

(Image removed from quote.)

We've been dating since the end of May, more or less, but its been getting serious since July.  She's a doll, and I think I love her :3

She's a film student turned graphic designer, and she's much more talented than I am.  She can drink me under the table, and knows more about films than I think even eric P does.  She's just swell.  I'm very happy!

Does Andre Drummond know about this?

[Flannel Boy]

Hey guys, I've been having sooooo much sex lately that I'm getting sorta sick of it.  What should I do?

Make sure that you keep lubing up your ass.

[Human Snorenado]

Hey guys, I've been having sooooo much sex lately that I'm getting sorta sick of it.  What should I do?

Probably light your dick on fire or something

If you do that, though, make sure to take pics and send them to Arvie.

[Phoenix Dark]

Hey guys, I've been having sooooo much sex lately that I'm getting sorta sick of it.  What should I do?

Probably light your dick on fire or something

If you do that, though, make sure to take pics and send them to Arvie.

god dammit he'd just post them in the outside thread

[Atramental]

Speaking of Arvie.

Where has he been lately?

[Flannel Boy]

I received two dozen "winks" on match.com over the weekend after changing my profile location from Winnipeg to Toronto. Some of the women are hot, but I don't feel like putting in the effort just for the chance to be rejected irl.

[Flannel Boy]

...

[Flannel Boy]

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[T234]

and before you ask: no, that's not her jim morrison poster; she hates the doors

Dealbreaker.


So I tried dating again. Why do women in my age bracket hafta be so crazy?

[Shadow Mod]

What age bracket is that?

Also: they're crazy at every age mang.

 

[T234]

27-35

Lost my virginity to a GMILF. Only real dating experience I got. And then she stole a crazy amount of buds outta mah pocket, when there was a humidor of already-rolled blunts on the table the likes of which most people never see, much less are given free reign over.

[Shadow Mod]

Aww yeah the range where they feel their bio-clock ticking hard and want babies. Yeah I don't envy guys when it comes to having to deal with that part of the dating scene.

[Human Snorenado]

That's one of the reasons why I've given up on dating for a while... I'm always very upfront on any dating site with the "don't want kids" stuff.  I don't mind dating single mothers, though, and could see myself being in a ltr with one; just don't ever want to have to go through the process of spawning and the early years.  Ew.

Also, with my personal life in flux over the next year or so it just doesn't make much sense to try to get serious about anything.

I am going out of town for a weekend of debauchery in early October, though...