So my girlfriend broke up with me, I think. Maybe. We have communication problems once in a while where she gets depressed or does something wrong and cuts me (and everyone else in the universe off) for like a week because she's afraid of confrontation. Complete communication black out, won't answer texts/phone/door etc... It's like when I quit The Bore or Gaf for a week to get away from the drama, except with real life and instead she just takes care of herself and reads and posts on reddit. Otherwise the relationship has been great and we've both been really happy and we see a therapist to talk about stuff like that on a weekly basis.
But last week she did that again and I was kind of stressed out and lashed out a bit about how it's not cool and unfair and hurts me when she disappears like that when we have plans and she just vanishes off the face of the earth without even giving me a heads up, and then yesterday she e-mailed me that she wanted me to let her let me go because it hurts her to hurt me so much when things like this happen and it's not fair to me and she wants me to be with someone whose got their shit together more like I do. So I replied, no and some reasons why.
So maybe I just got dumped and it sucks and was sudden since less than a week ago she was shouting out to a crowd that "this is the man I'm going to marry!" and writing posts on reddit about how this relationship has made her into a better person and I was telling her how happy I was with life and how it was nice being happy and stable and it gives me time to pursue my hobbies and arts and spend more time with my friends.
Or maybe things will work out. I don't know. I'd like it to work out and when we talk we have good communication and can work through anything and make the relationship stronger but when she cuts me off and we're not talking at all (well I'm talking through occasional texts, knocking on her door; but it's all one-sided since she doesn't answer) for days, she has all the power in the relationship since I can't do anything about it until she is ready to talk and come back to the world again.
A lot of this comes down to the age difference. She's 20, I'm 32. She said she was fine with the gap, even her parents are (which surprised me and I was seriously afraid her dad would beat the crap out of me). She's pretty intellectually mature in a lot of ways so it makes her think she's older than she is and she should be responsible and have her shit together so she feels guilty and that she's a mess because she doesn't. But in a lot of ways she's still an 18-24 year old whose just starting college and just getting out of the house for the first time and it's totally normal for her to still be just learning how to stand on her own two feet. Hell, I didn't really learn that until I was around 24/25. But it makes her feel guilty and she compares herself to me having a stable life, house, career, friends, hobbies, good time management for being able to keep on top of all of them and sees herself as weak and not able to carry her half of the weight of a relationship.
Drama
