IME when people say they are 'picky' about who they are attracted to it's usually shorthand for 'i've built up the idea of the perfect woman with xyz physical characteristics and xyz personality traits and i can't find anyone matching these criteria within 10 seconds of meeting them so eh why bother'. IME they also tend to get infatuated real quickly based on really superficial stuff (she likes video games! she has curly hair! she's perfect!). just based off of what iv'e seen from college and etc. it's all over gaf too.
like, i have a good friend of mine, nice guy, nothing wrong with him whatsoever, would make a good partner, but he had these totally bonkers arbitrary criteria like only wanting a girl who is 5'8" with brown hair and i told him he isn't a fucking supermodel ubermensch so cutting out 90%+ of the dating pool for no particular reason was fucking stupid and he should get over it.
lo and behold he did and wow look dates 
I'm a little drunk now because lo and behold I actually go out and sociolise and am not the sociol special fellow these posts paint me as and so I shall reply to them one by one.
This is complete horse shit. I don't have some xmas list that a girl needs to be in order for me to find her attarctive. I find many body types of women attractive. Except fatsos. Oh no I'm a monster because i don't find women who weigh more then double me attractive. Except I'm find with thiker women.
Oh noes I don't find black women attractive. I'm sorry if thats a nerd steortype, but I don't care. I don't find black women attractive. I'm not a raciest, I have mostly black friends. Talk with mostly black women. I simply dont find them sexually attractive, nor do I find thier ghetto personalities attractive. Sue me.
My problems have nothing to do with some sort of incredible standards of women looks. Why people keep throwing that at me I don't know. I can't help what I find attractive and it sure is'nt some sort of rigid checklist. Women simply don't apprach me and have no way to appraoch women.
Giving advice doesn't really work because in the end, a lot of these "woe is me" posts are looking for pity parties, not constructive advice. If he wants to get laid, he will do so. Right now, he's comfortable in his 700 GB porn collection rut. He may not like it but it's more safe than taking a chance and getting rejected. While he doesn't actually succeed, he doesn't really fail either and that is the most important thing to permavirgins.
Please I'm not a virgin. I'm just fucking tired of women and thier bullshit. Everytime I've taken a supposed risk it's blown up in my face and I'm the one thats been hurt. Enough of that bullshit. I'm tierd of playing the bullshit game of "is a girl intersted in me" because 100% of the time they arent. Never in my life has a girl displayed intrest in me and it;s incredibly disheartning. I'm sorry if I'm boarding on mysgonsit terrotyoty but it's hard not to when you feel you've been fucked and ingorend by the oppoasite sex for whatever reason. Meanwhile you watch everyone else seemingly have no problems. Plenty of friends have found partners without doing any of the bullshit you people talk about in this thread. Plenty of girls easily displayed interst in them. I don't know what I do that is so off putting. It's bad enough I;m extrmley self consious about the way I look, but even then I've seen uglier and less well kept dudes score chicks and they have douche personalites. Nor do I play yhr nice guy bs card, so I have no understanfing of anything. Of course I;m becmoing angry at the sutuation. Dosen't help it when you fegs treat me like shit(which bastars like human sornedo do do beyond even this topic) and put me in those fedora special fellow catogiroes. I'm not accepted anyhwere much less by women and it's extremly madding to feel disowned by every sociol group of humanity with the oppaisote sex's ignoring of you being the ultimate one. I'm 24 soon to be 25, I should have at least kissed a female and just in genearl done this shit. No experinced women is going to want such a late start case.
I honestly think it's disheartening that you even think that anyone not in your constructed lane of perfect woman is a waste of time. Like the only thing that matters to you is how they look, i guess.
I'm not sure whats disheartning about knowing what you find sexually attractive. Sexual attraction is important. Why would I want to have sex withsomeone I find revolting? I would'nt. Yes personalty is important, but I'm not looking for just a friend here so there has to be a physical attraction with a mental one. Thats just being honest and realstic.
Like Karakand said, you're welcome to be lonely and self-isolate if that's what you want. but do it for real. don't post in dating threads, just kiss it goodbye right?
Thats just the way it seems to be going. I simply cant find a women that I find attracive and actually finds me attractive. All women seem to ignore me and I cant help that. I'm not trying to self isolate, but it just seems easier then playing this sutpid game, because at this point I can't figure out whats wrong with me. It's really not my personality. I'm not a douche, I can be funny irl, I'm not an overbearing obnoxious nerd. Is it my looks. I have a big oily forehead and I've always just in general dislikeed the way I look, but I can't change these things. If this is what leads me to women I simply don't find attarctive, then what am I supposed to do, just settale and be unfullfiled and miserable? I can be those things on my own.
Like the only thing that matters to you is how they look, i guess.
Looks are always important. Is my dick supposed to get hard staring at women I am disgusted by?
You told us a while ago black girls find you cute, but you don't want to cause you only want to date white girls. I'm sure there's a pretty black girl out there who would go out with you, why not? And you tell me you aren't picky?
Because I don't fucking find Black women attractive. What is so fucking hard to understand about this. I don't like thier hair, the way thier faces look, just in general everything. it does nothing for me and is not my idea of hot. Why would I want to date them when i activley don't find them attractive. It is very madding knowing that my options are pretty much just black women which only find me atteactive for my ethnic meets white features anyway. I know what I can get and it sucks, so why even bother? Years have shown me nothing else why everyone else I know acheives with no work beyond simply being a person. It sucks.
