Gently tugging her hair is so hot, especially with another hand clutching her gyrating waist or pert tits.
Breath play, hell yes! My ex went nuts for the gentlest of breath in her ear, as softly as it could be felt. Blowing concentric circles on her neck and down her cleavage too, goddamn.
And the last one is amazing, for either party. Having her just on the edge while giving her just the tip of your fella; the look of desperation on her face while she's denied the opportunity to finally explode is incredible.
The best orgasm I've ever had was after about an hour and half of this stuff; teasing, waiting, holding back. Then the pair of us went together and collapsed into a sweating pile of panting and endorphins. I distinctly remember holding my forehead saying "Oh my god" for about two minutes.