Why does being 24 royally suck

[TakingBackSunday]

Having a bad night, Bore.  Let me rant, you can get your digs in, and we'll call it a night I suppose.

- All my friends have moved away from Nashville
- I'm not doing anything creative or important to me anymore.  My job is great, I love it and its a wonderful industry to be in, but my passion is gone.  I used to write every single day, I used to write music and lyrics all the time and the shit is gone now.  I've tried starting bands down here but I haven't met anyone in Nashville who just wants to dick around -- everyone wants to make it big or not at all.
- Loans are severely crippling me, and I don't want to ask my parents for help.
- I don't feel attractive at all.  I'm to 172 lbs but I feel 272.  Everytime I'm around women now, that's the thought I put in my mind and my confidence is completely shot.  I wasn't like this throughout college.  I just don't feel cool anymore.

My nights now consist of me coming home and trying to find something to occupy my time so I don't have to think about my life.  I'll get lucky some nights where a coworker invites me out for a drink.

The last sex I had was New Years, but a very drunkenly affair with one of my best friend's sister (my best friend from home).  It was sad and sloppy, considering.

I'm just in a shitty spot ya'll.  I'm trying to improve my outlook though...I play basketball every other day (post moves!!!), I'm reading more, and I've been trying to talk to girls at bars more often, but I'm still in a regurgitative state of the same night, every single night, where I go to bed unhappy.

I wasn't hit my a car though, so at this point I don't know why I'm bitching.  There are people like Raban who have had a much tougher last few days and here I am bitching about...being a little bitch.

Sorry all, just wanted to type it all out.  I at least know that you all will laugh it off and tell me to suck it up.  I can count on you guys at least for that...to let me know I'm not some special snowflake whose situations is unique.  It helps.

Sorry again.

[MrAngryFace]

I dunno man- I could sit here and be all Alpha-man tellin you the obvious- but all I can really say is that youre in a better position than a lot of people to experience days/months/years better than the current sometime down the road.

[Himu]

I wish I were 24 again. Try being 28.

[MrAngryFace]

Im 34 in Feb, OLD. Then again- not as old as SOME PEOPLE ON THIS FORUM.

[TakingBackSunday]

Get a new hobby, work out and eat better, stop consuming so much phyggoty self indulgent media. Boom.

I hope that helps

Edit: shit, im turning 24 in a few months

jesus christ I thought you were fucking 30

now I feel worse thanks esch 

[MrAngryFace]

Also getting drunk is still a good time no matter how old you are

[Human Snorenado]

I didn't read that shit and I don't need to. I'll tell you why it sucks- because you don't know shit and you don't KNOW that you don't know shit.

You're just gonna have to plow through whatever suck you've got going on in your life. Make changes, whatever.

[Human Snorenado]

Im 34 in Feb, OLD. Then again- not as old as SOME PEOPLE ON THIS FORUM.

HEY WAIT

[nudemacusers]

i thought esch was 36

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[headwalk]

grow your hair out. in a cool way, not a nerd way.

[recursivelyenumerable]

I'm 31. I feel super ugly and old although empirically I lately seem to be garnering more interest from women than ever before, go figure

[Cerveza mas fina]

I agree with what COG said.

The quarter life crysis is pretty typical. At 24 I was failing courses and in a failing relationship in my second year of college after the Air Force. I joined the National Guard that year to go back overseas as an escape. All I can tell you is between then and now things worked out. Eventually I made a conscious effort to improve myself and it started paying off. We're all gonna make it, brah.

Its nice to see that for you joining a military organisation that is killing hundreds of thousands of people over oil is a means to escape your personal woes, you are a shining example of how to get your life together. Just pulling the trigger on some sandpeople must be really therapeutic.

[Reb]

So you had sex 2 weeks ago?

[Cerveza mas fina]

Joing an organisation that opresses and kills innocent people to escape bad grades and a broken relationship 

Then claiming I hate muslims on the internet 

Getting your life together with blood money from the army 

[Shadow Mod]

I'll tell you this much if you have time to reflect on what you should be or wish you were doing, fuckin' do it bro. But if you're like me you need some extra motivation. 

[chronovore]

So you had sex 2 weeks ago?

Yeah, I was like too.

Maybe he meant NYE 2012?

[brawndolicious]

I think he meant the sex made him feel worse than if he didn't have it.

[Cerveza mas fina]

But you've never seen me around muslims 

[chronovore]

Im 34 in Feb, OLD. Then again- not as old as SOME PEOPLE ON THIS FORUM.

HEY WAIT

HEY WAIT, WAIT.

[brawndolicious]

I think the problem is that you lack motivation or inspiration to be doing something at this point of your life and you're looking at all the negatives and going blah blah blah "my achey breaky Nashville heart" when really your issue is much deeper.

I could be wrong but I feel comfortable saying this since I was definitely at that point before.

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

I think for most dudes, their mid 20s suck: you're done with school (unless you're going to graduate school) but you're not established in your career yet.  Girls that age will likely be seeing guys in their late 20s or early 30s and you're not in as many situations to be hitting up college girls either.  So you're kind of at the worst point there.

Things were pretty bad for me when I was 24.  I had to move several hours away from people I knew to a job I fucking hated.  This was 2009 so other job opportunities were few and far between.  I had shitloads of student loan debt that I was trying to pay, which didn't leave me with much money, maybe a couple hundred a month.  I also found it much more difficult to get laid to the point where it was almost impossible to get a girl to acknowledge I existed.  So I generally just gave up and wasted my time on the internet.

What got me out of it was that I threw myself into the job that I hated.  I took on shitty projects, gritting my teeth the whole time, grinding through it.  I really tried to make myself a subject matter expert at my job and made a name for myself early on.  In the end, my efforts to take on shit nobody wanted to do got me fast tracked to a management position when I was 26 when the average age for the position in my company was late 30s.  Before I turned 25, I was able to get a better job at a location closer to friends and I started fucking a lot of townie girls.  So I guess the only advice I have for you is to take stock of what you think is important and then start pursuing it.  Kind of living half in, half out isn't going to be enough.  So maybe get really serious about playing in a band or get really serious about your job.  Try to have some kind of passion for something and go all out in it.  It should start hopefully paying off in a couple of years.

[Great Rumbler]

Just wait until your turn 27. Like me.

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:'(

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[MrAngryFace]

As long as you make enough money to be a functioning alcoholic things are probably ok.

[Eli Gulgin]

Get a new hobby, work out and eat better, stop consuming so much phyggoty self indulgent media. Boom.

I hope that helps

Edit: shit, im turning 24 in a few months

jesus christ I thought you were fucking 30

now I feel worse thanks esch 

Well fuck you too now everyones saying I look old for my age

Im gonna go buy some skin care products tomorrow

People kept telling me I look 28 when I was 18  :'(

All of you feggits look much older than you are. Maybe you should quit drinking and eating meat and girls would go over your innocent babyfaced looks. Or stop being pussies and grow some huge beards and don't keep shaving them off every few weeks. Embrace your 30+ looking faces.

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I've always looked older than I am 

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[CatsCatsCats]

I don't know your height but 172 can't be that bad, exercise a little. You're still young enough that you probably don't have to try really hard to get some decent body changes as long as you do it consistently. I packed on a few between 22-24 as well, your metabolism slowed down a bit, just compensate for that.

Get out more, too. Find a social hobby. You're gonna be alright bro, quarter life crises happen.

[nudemacusers]

people are always surprised when I tell them I'm 30  :'(








 

[CatsCatsCats]

30, flirty and thriving, Mac :thumbsup

[Atramental]

I just accept my 20s as my "trial by fire" years.

It's not a magical time full of sunshine & rainbows like marketers want you to think. Especially if you're not well off financially in this dog eat dog meat grinder we call America.

[StealthFan]

I had the quarter life bullshit around that time too. It was hard stuff.

[CajoleJuice]

why does being alive royally suck

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[Raban]

Sounds like you're being harder on yourself than your life is. Figure out where you can wrestle some control back and make a difference with it.

It never helps to collect these tangentially related pressures (finances, relationships, personal interests) and drop them all on your head at once. Set some goals for yourself that you know are achievable in the mid- or short-term and don't lose your focus on them. In my experience I've always found it easier to work on myself before I tackle external problems, so find the root of your lack of confidence and attack it.

You seem to be a smart, talented, and attractive young man, don't take it personally when your life falls into a nadir. Believe that you have the strength to endure it, and you will.

[magus]

oh boy

i'm 27 (28 in 4 month),jobless,haven't seen my friend since forever as we have fallen out of contact and have no sort of girlfriend whatsoever... i also have a somewhat assholish brother's that's like "you should get out more! hur dur" everytime we speak! the only thing i've achieved in recent years was a major in computer science,i guess it makes for a fancy napkin? by the standards set by this thread what does that make me?

that said i don't mind too much (except the job part,italy is pretty infamous for shitty employement rate and i'm getting old) because

1) it can get worse
2) it's not really bad as long as you don't get bored by your enviroment and how you spend your time,if you are bored try different things,you are on the fucking internet the biggest source of enterntainement ever!
3) these sort of thread don't serve much other than have "ah-ah! loser!" like reply... actualy the reply here are too nice so i guess i need to step up to it even though i hate those sort of asshole

You seem to be a smart, talented, and attractive young man, don't take it personally when your life falls into a nadir. Believe that you have the strength to endure it, and you will.

i'm sorry raban but you sound like some sort of crook fortune teller

[demi]

Since you've lived in Italy for so long, do you get bored of the environments? Italy is known here as being this exotic place where there's so much to see and do. Or is that basically just Rome?

See Assassin's Creed 2 Trilogy as an example.

[Raban]

You seem to be a smart, talented, and attractive young man, don't take it personally when your life falls into a nadir. Believe that you have the strength to endure it, and you will.

i'm sorry raban but you sound like some sort of crook fortune teller

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[Van Cruncheon]

WELCOME TO ADULTHOOD

seriously, this is the rest of your life, white boy

[magus]

Since you've lived in Italy for so long, do you get bored of the environments? Italy is known here as being this exotic place where there's so much to see and do. Or is that basically just Rome?

See Assassin's Creed 2 Trilogy as an example.

i live in the south part of italy and the place where i live is boring as fuck,the only good thing about it is that there are some decent beaches

[ToxicAdam]

Life is just a series of distractions.


Find a new distraction.

[Brehvolution]

Get the hell out of the bible belt.

[Steve Contra]

This thread

[Atramental]

Get the hell out of the bible belt.

Ha. Can't wait for this to be a possibility for me.

[TakingBackSunday]

Nashville doesn't feel like the Bible Belt

[TakingBackSunday]

 

[Human Snorenado]

Dude, I am so looking forward to getting the fuck out of the Asheville area. Dating is a fucking travesty here... everyone is a fucking headcase that wants to go hiking. I'm all, "bitch can't we just watch netflix and make out?"

[TakingBackSunday]

Come to Nashville breh

[Human Snorenado]

I'm moving back to Atlanta initially to escape my family, then I'm going wherever I can get a job. I actually know lots of people in Nashville, but they're all older n shit. Are you into cougars, potentially married ones looking for something on the low low? Because if so I could introduce you around...

[TakingBackSunday]

You've been to Prince's? 

I love Prince's but honestly Bolton's is better.

[Human Snorenado]

Trying to move to the Pac NW, cause weed 

[Steve Contra]

Come to Cali, the weather's better

[Human Snorenado]

Y'all mothafuckas gonna fall into the sea any goddamn day now, NO SIR.

[Human Snorenado]

On the real tho, I will go anywhere I can get a decent job. Got nothing tying me down and I'm ready to go new places n shit.

[Steve Contra]

Also Gus lives in California

[Human Snorenado]

DAT DOG.

[TakingBackSunday]

Fuck Gus 

[Human Snorenado]

Motherfucker, I will cut you if you talk shit about Contra's dog. CUT.

[Positive Touch]

no offence but small fuzzy dogs can all go to one of the lower circles of hell

[Steve Contra]

Gus is wearing a jaunty red bandana today

[Himu]

Gus is wearing a jaunty red bandana today

Pics

[magus]

Gus is wearing a jaunty red bandana today

gus sounds like a cute name for a doggie

[CatsCatsCats]

Trying to move to the Pac NW, cause weed 

There's always a bowl waiting for you in Portland

[tiesto]

31 but I'm lucky since I look mid 20's... makes it easier to pick up early 20's women