no I haven't been invited yet, he just announced it yesterday on facebook. I assume I will be, but I am not sure, we don't talk too frequently as it is.
re: my own wedding, well, to tldr the event, apparently my dad refused to let my mom buy anything for the wedding (not a problem, whatever, I'm used to that), and my mom bought the cake without his permission. so they got in a fight on the way to the wedding (3-4 hour drive), got in a fight during the reception in the parking lot, and had to leave early so they could fight on the way back home. all while dragging my poor brothers along. and by fight i mean screaming and shoving that i could hear from the reception hall. this was kinda the capstone on several years of weird emotional (waking my brother and I up in the middle of the night to tell us how terrible we were, etc), sometimes physical abuse, on part of my stepdad, while my mom and her family stuck their heads in the sand. so at that point i was just kinda like... eeehhhh fuck this and haven't talked to them since.
i could go on for a bit on this but one of the issues is that myself and one brother are from one guy, and the now-engaged brother is my stepdad's biological son with my mom, and we were definitely treated much differently by my stepdad. I don't hold that against him at all, but it makes it difficult to for my brother, who until recently was living with them, to understand why we have zero relationship or contact with our parents. I figure at some point he'll grow tired of it himself, it will just take longer. i guess i'm just kinda bummed that the only fix i could find for this whole mess was to dump them in the bushes.
Go and call out your mom. You just go up to her and say "Mother, I have a wardrobe full of pure white tuxedos which only differ from each other in their lapel design. This is not normal, mother, and it's all you're fault!"

the fabric weaves are completely different
