Please share your struggle of the day

[Kara]

As long as I get paid I ain't saying shit 'bout chu irl.

The only bridges I burn are all the ones in my personal life.

[chronovore]

As long as I get paid I ain't saying shit 'bout chu irl. (Image removed from quote.)

The only bridges I burn are all the ones in my personal life. (Image removed from quote.)

So you consider your relationship with your therapists to be personal, rather than professional?

Tell me more about... your childhood.

[milchs evil twin]

Got caught up in what I assume counts as a debate these days on GAF   

[CatsCatsCats]

Airports

[Am_I_Anonymous]

got an official reprimand at work today for raising valid complaints about our work schedule and how its affecting our staff.  70 hour work weeks the past month.

yeahhhh I'm out

What kind of work do you do? I have a few friends in the tech business out your way depending on your level of training.

[Crash Dummy]

Saw a handwritten invoice (lol) where the net box was filled in with "due 10 days" instead of just "10".

i had an invoice where it showed the net and gross amounts but not the tax so the client just penned it in supported by full arithmetic working

[I'm a Puppy!]

Making the preparations for that.  Have an interview with a different tech company on Tuesday.

tech companies 

[Kara]

As long as I get paid I ain't saying shit 'bout chu irl. (Image removed from quote.)

The only bridges I burn are all the ones in my personal life. (Image removed from quote.)

So you consider your relationship with your therapists to be personal, rather than professional?

Tell me more about... your childhood.

I was socialized (some might say abused, but I will be impartial) to be over-concerned for others to such a degree that I lack anything beyond a rudimentary sense of autonomous self and, to wed insult and injury, this makes the expression of autonomous self by others (the classic example being sharing your feelings about some daily triviality) profoundly revolting when I encounter it, whether I want to listen to the person or not. (Again, this might be characterized as triggering, but I consciously avoid using this word for ideological and audience reasons.)

As a large degree of what I need treatment for stems from being #WroughtThisWay, it will by necessity require a large personal element to undo whatever damage can be undone.

[Am_I_Anonymous]

As long as I get paid I ain't saying shit 'bout chu irl. (Image removed from quote.)

The only bridges I burn are all the ones in my personal life. (Image removed from quote.)

So you consider your relationship with your therapists to be personal, rather than professional?

Tell me more about... your childhood.

I was socialized (some might say abused, but I will be impartial) to be over-concerned for others to such a degree that I lack anything beyond a rudimentary sense of autonomous self and, to wed insult and injury, this makes the expression of autonomous self by others (the classic example being sharing your feelings about some daily triviality) profoundly revolting when I encounter it, whether I want to listen to the person or not. (Again, this might be characterized as triggering, but I consciously avoid using this word for ideological and audience reasons.)

As a large degree of what I need treatment for stems from being #WroughtThisWay, it will by necessity require a large personal element to undo whatever damage can be undone.

There aren't any pills that are going to fix that. If you are a narcissist,which indeed it seems like due to this comment, then at best you suffered being forced to be a normal person as a youth and now don't have those shackles. As long as you're okay being alone without any real friendships I'd say just continue down your current course.

Source: I played in the league with a lot of them. It usually means you'll excel at whatever field you chose because you have no fear of stamping out any competition, whether perceived or factual.

Find yourself a beta wife and stop trying to fix that which you cannot.

Ask yourself these questions:

1) Do you have any fear of harming another person if doing so ensures you will succeed?

2) Do you ever experience empathy other than for self amusement?

3) Do you perceive the world as you versus them, always?

If so, save your money the shrink isn't going to fix it.

[recursivelyenumerable]

i really want to get in with the transgender gaming clique on twitter but am not sure i'm quite ready to actually transition to a woman just for this purpose. but i'm afraid it may be the only way to get senpai to notice me.

[Am_I_Anonymous]

i really want to get in with the transgender gaming clique on twitter but am not sure i'm quite ready to actually transition to a woman just for this purpose. but i'm afraid it may be the only way to get senpai to notice me.

You're already a meandering bitch, what's so bad about cropping off your dick at this point?

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[I'm a Puppy!]

Just got a call from my lead developer on one of my projects

"Hey Puppy, I was wondering if you're aware of my departing." <he's indian>
"Uh, departing where?"
"From the company."
"Umm...ok no problem. I'll begin finding a replacement. When's your last day?"
"Tomorrow"
"Tomorrow? How can you do this? That's really unprofessional."
"I told HR 2 weeks ago. They didn't tell you?"
"MOTHERFUCKER!"

Nice one HR.

[chronovore]

As long as I get paid I ain't saying shit 'bout chu irl. (Image removed from quote.)

The only bridges I burn are all the ones in my personal life. (Image removed from quote.)

So you consider your relationship with your therapists to be personal, rather than professional?

Tell me more about... your childhood.

I was socialized (some might say abused, but I will be impartial) to be over-concerned for others to such a degree that I lack anything beyond a rudimentary sense of autonomous self and, to wed insult and injury, this makes the expression of autonomous self by others (the classic example being sharing your feelings about some daily triviality) profoundly revolting when I encounter it, whether I want to listen to the person or not. (Again, this might be characterized as triggering, but I consciously avoid using this word for ideological and audience reasons.)

As a large degree of what I need treatment for stems from being #WroughtThisWay, it will by necessity require a large personal element to undo whatever damage can be undone.

Huh.

What’s wrong with using the term “triggering” here?

[Kara]

There are already three unanswered questions in the queue.

I consider it a legitimate term, but there's enough of a contingent here that spout it back derisively (while mouth breathing irl I imagine) that to avoid poisoning the well it's worth finding a more circuitous way of expressing the same phenomenon. Unless you'd rather be specific than heard that is.

[tiesto]

One of my wisdom teeth is starting to come in and its hurting like a bitch. I have a dentist appointment Monday so I will see if it needs to be removed.

[mormapope]

Chances are if its coming in and there's a lot of pain, that area is infected. Which isn't the end of the world, but if you let it grow in and don't get it removed that gum area will get infected constantly.

I speak from experience. My bottom right wisdom tooth was coming in and it hurt a lot. Would gargle salt water, clean the area gently with a brush. Eventually pain would come back and the area itself would turn reddish. Went to the dentist, got xrays, went to another dentist, got scheduled for surgery to remove all four of my wisdom teeth.

Have you gotten widsom teeth surgery before?

[CatsCatsCats]

The coffee at this embassy suite is turrible

[milchs evil twin]

Got an A on a math test and all the guys I studied with got an A+ 

Time to sue for a better grade

[Am_I_Anonymous]

Okay I think I win today....

Have two girls at work, one in accounting who's 45, fat, and umarried....have another in sales that's 27, cute, and married. This combination is like dropping a fucking torch into a propane tank.  Relentless passive aggressive niggling by the account followed by a completely warranted rebuttal at times from the sales girl.

Today takes the cake.

I was sitting in my office fucking around buying a gun working when the accountant barges into my office.

Accountant  "Mr. AiA, we need to have a chat"

Me "Ok........"

Accountant "Sales girl is purposefully brewing regular coffee in the decaf and I'm having jitters because of it"

Me "what?"

Accountant "Yeah, she knows I don't drink regular coffee and is trying to poison me"

Me "Poisoning sounds a little harsh, let me page her"

Sales Girl "Hi AiA, how can I help you?"

Me "yeah are you brewing regular coffee in the decaf pot?"

Sales Girl "Uh, I don't drink coffee"

Me "thanks"

Me to accountant   

Accountant  "I'm going to get video evidence"

Me "Can we just focus on work please, it's friday"

Accountant "Sigh....okay......I am on to her"

Me "Are we going to have to have a meeting about this?"

Accountant "Oh no, I'd rather not"

Me

[Beezy]

I'm weak again. Struggling to do 7 pull ups straight, smh. Felt winded after 3 sets.

[I'm a Puppy!]

Looks like someone needs a new accountant

[Am_I_Anonymous]

I'm weak again. Struggling to do 7 pull ups straight, smh. Felt winded after 3 sets.

God that would suck. She's amazing at her job when she's focused.

I'll remove the goddamn coffee brewer first. Go across the street to starbuks.

[Human Snorenado]

I'm weak again. Struggling to do 7 pull ups straight, smh. Felt winded after 3 sets.

God that would suck. She's amazing at her job when she's focused.

I'll remove the goddamn coffee brewer first. Go across the street to starbuks.

You can just claim you're trying to foster conversations about race!

 

[Beezy]

I'm weak again. Struggling to do 7 pull ups straight, smh. Felt winded after 3 sets.

God that would suck. She's amazing at her job when she's focused.

I'll remove the goddamn coffee brewer first. Go across the street to starbuks.

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[nudemacusers]

I'm weak again. Struggling to do 7 pull ups straight, smh. Felt winded after 3 sets.

i've been doing the 50 pullup challenge deal. i'm at the 16-20 now, desperately trying not to plateau

[nudemacusers]

so i have a video interview in a couple of days. oh god. my peculiar blend of narcissism and body dysmorphia can't survive this

[ToxicAdam]

Better hire a lighting consultant and an editor. Maybe do an intro with dubstep playing in the background to let them know you are hip.

 

[nudemacusers]

I'm ironing my finest non-moire producing suit and shirt, will be location scouting tonight

[recursivelyenumerable]

so i have a video interview in a couple of days. oh god. my peculiar blend of narcissism and body dysmorphia can't survive this

i have long been dreading a day when this happens to me

[Huff]

Didn't match with any of the programs I interviewed with and had to watch everyone else celebrate as they got their top choices.

Now scrambling to find open positions and send out my CV and references. Ruff friday

[Rufus]

Good luck.

[Brehvolution]

Some idiots disconnected our fiber line at the pole down the street. No internet or VPN for 3 hours.
Know what you are doing when you are up on a phone pole, brehs.

[Am_I_Anonymous]

Some idiots disconnected our fiber line at the pole down the street. No internet or VPN for 3 hours.
Know what you are doing when you are up on a phone pole, brehs.

We do. I didn't even want to open a low voltage side to my business...but my buddy at a customer of mine suggested I hire some ex CLEC guys.

[Am_I_Anonymous]

For the record they are going to shoot it with an OTDR then fusion splice it with a pigtail. It's probably 188 strands so it's gonna be a minute

[Phoenix Dark]

Okay I think I win today....

Have two girls at work, one in accounting who's 45, fat, and umarried....have another in sales that's 27, cute, and married. This combination is like dropping a fucking torch into a propane tank.  Relentless passive aggressive niggling by the account followed by a completely warranted rebuttal at times from the sales girl.

Today takes the cake.

I was sitting in my office fucking around buying a gun working when the accountant barges into my office.

Accountant  "Mr. AiA, we need to have a chat"

Me "Ok........"

Accountant "Sales girl is purposefully brewing regular coffee in the decaf and I'm having jitters because of it"

Me "what?"

Accountant "Yeah, she knows I don't drink regular coffee and is trying to poison me"

Me "Poisoning sounds a little harsh, let me page her"

Sales Girl "Hi AiA, how can I help you?"

Me "yeah are you brewing regular coffee in the decaf pot?"

Sales Girl "Uh, I don't drink coffee"

Me "thanks"

Me to accountant   

Accountant  "I'm going to get video evidence"

Me "Can we just focus on work please, it's friday"

Accountant "Sigh....okay......I am on to her"

Me "Are we going to have to have a meeting about this?"

Accountant "Oh no, I'd rather not"

Me

It's interesting how different this plays out with dudes. I've worked with a few 40+ yo guys who aren't married and seem depressed or reserved to their lot in life; maybe they're . They just go about their business, sometimes taking advantage of people who feel bad for them. But a 40+ yo woman who isn't married, surrounded by eligible younger single or married women? Passive aggressive fuckery commences nearly every time.

[brawndolicious]

I'm weak again. Struggling to do 7 pull ups straight, smh. Felt winded after 3 sets.

God that would suck. She's amazing at her job when she's focused.

I'll remove the goddamn coffee brewer first. Go across the street to starbuks.

Then the accountant will think you're taking sales girl's side because she's cuter and that's what women who hate their own skin assume about most men. Just put a note on the pot saying to pay attention to which coffee it is and tell accountant that she needs to be less paranoid.

[Madrun Badrun]

accountant is just jelly of the number of pull ups the sales girl can do

[TakingBackSunday]

got an official reprimand at work today for raising valid complaints about our work schedule and how its affecting our staff.  70 hour work weeks the past month.

yeahhhh I'm out

What kind of work do you do? I have a few friends in the tech business out your way depending on your level of training.

Project management and QA.

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

Office catladies are the worst.  The key is to dump a bunch of busy work onto them so they don't have time to stir up shit.

[Madrun Badrun]

I've literally spent a day trying to install a lib on my mac.  and its still not fucking working. 

Caffe   macs

Also Apple, quit fucking removing important libs when you update your OSs for fucks sake. 

[I'm a Puppy!]

I'm weak again. Struggling to do 7 pull ups straight, smh. Felt winded after 3 sets.

God that would suck. She's amazing at her job when she's focused.

I'll remove the goddamn coffee brewer first. Go across the street to starbuks.

That's fair enough, just don't expect much sympathy when you make your "Crazy lady shot my office up yelling about how the voices in her coffee told her we were trying to kill her" post

 

[Mr. Nobody]

Why did I eat that second burger

I feel like absolute shit 

[nudemacusers]

follow it with a milkshake.

[Mr. Nobody]

[sarslip]

GF's work friend and husband came over last night, both of them had fond memories of it and wanted to play Smash Brothers. 
I hand dude the gamepad and first thing he says is "oh do you mind if i get a real controller?  no offense." 

none taken ya bissh, gave him a pro controller

then he won basically every single match 

[Am_I_Anonymous]

Had one of them shit weekends. Hate those.

Friday: Wife was pissy all damn night. No particular reason.

Saturday: Got into a mild beef with a buddy who has decided that he doesn't need a job. He'd rather go to the local shithole bar and fuck around with a fat unattractive 20 something barfly who does all things you should not...smokes cigs, still lives with her parents, drinks every fucking day...etc.  I had people over and didn't tell him for that reason. Somehow that makes me the bad guy...Got a nasty text from him. Replied "I make the decision, blame me, not my wife" to which he said "you're just mad you don't got a young girl like me." I sat on that one for a while then replied "If that's your idea of a young girl that's worth a damn I'm a lucky man to have what I have"

White people......

Sunday: My goddamn groundskeeper drove his tractor over my new sprinkler system....it's my fault they are hidden and I didn't warn him about them. 1,000 down the tubes.

Actually looked forward to work today.

[Am_I_Anonymous]

Last time I got together with the homies from the U of M we drank beers until about 10pm and went to sleep.

[Am_I_Anonymous]

Last time I got together with the homies from the U of M we drank beers until about 10pm and went to sleep.

I'd have loved to do something just like that. But I guess sometimes it can't be helped lol.

On the side note I took an uber for the first time this weekend to get back to my hotel from beale. 30 miles for 19 bucks? absolutely merks any taxi

Be careful with that shit. A friend of mine got robbed of his watch and wallet taking uber a few weeks ago. She "got lost" and happened to pull into a shady apartment driveway where 2 guys went up the car and took his shit. Crazy.

She has not been charged yet though my dude says she was definitely complicit. One of the guys even nodded to her during the robbery.

Anywho back to my shit "Nick" my buddy who's fucking around with the young bar whore apparently just sent a text to my wife essentially telling her to respect his woman. Now that takes it from minor beef to cutting you out of my life, well played. fuckboi.

You want to spend your life in a dive bar because you think they treat you well? Fine by me, have at it.

You go around me and demand my wife respect your little drinking bitch? You fucked up.

[Cerveza mas fina]

Uber and Airbnb are the champions of poverty

[Phoenix Dark]

Was running late this morning and couldn't find my dress socks so I just grabbed two random ones - a thick, light black/almost gray sock and a super thin black. I figured no one would notice anyway so fuck it.

Got to work, sat down in a conference room to speak to someone, and an intern walked towards me...and proceeded to trip and fall not far from where I was. Before anyone could laugh at him he said "hey Phoenix...your socks don't match."

everyone: let me seeeee

me:

I can't even hate. Dude turned an L into a W in less than 5 seconds.

[Am_I_Anonymous]

Was running late this morning and couldn't find my dress socks so I just grabbed two random ones - a thick, light black/almost gray sock and a super thin black. I figured no one would notice anyway so fuck it.

Got to work, sat down in a conference room to speak to someone, and an intern walked towards me...and proceeded to trip and fall not far from where I was. Before anyone could laugh at him he said "hey Phoenix...your socks don't match."

everyone: let me seeeee

me:

I can't even hate. Dude turned an L into a W in less than 5 seconds.

I gotta be honest. If we were in a meeting and that shit happened your credibility would dip for the duration of that event until I forgot you can't color coordinate your footwear. Could be a day, could be a year.

[Am_I_Anonymous]

Now you guys got me shook to take Uber  . Not trying to have st louisans run up on me

No matter how they present it, you're getting into a car with a loosely vetted stranger. At least actual cab companies have to keep records of their drivers man.

[Positive Touch]

sending angry texts to your friends wife to protect the dignity of some chick you met at a bar

what kind of douchery

[Human Snorenado]

I use Uber/Lyft all the time, so does everyone else I know in Atlanta when they get shit-hammered, never had an issue



Esch- you're still in your 20's, breh. You're supposed to have nights and weekends like that. If you're still doing that shit in your 30's, start to worry. For now just enjoy the ride.

[Am_I_Anonymous]

I use Uber/Lyft all the time, so does everyone else I know in Atlanta when they get shit-hammered, never had an issue



Esch- you're still in your 20's, breh. You're supposed to have nights and weekends like that. If you're still doing that shit in your 30's, start to worry. For now just enjoy the ride.

Yeah but you look like a bum, they probably think you are going to rob them to be fair.

Agreed on the second part though, you're in your 20's man, live life. If you somehow nod out and all the sudden you're 35 doing the same things you are doing now it's time to  press the panic button.

[Human Snorenado]

I prefer "hobo-american" plz

[Am_I_Anonymous]

Esch- you're still in your 20's, breh. You're supposed to have nights and weekends like that. If you're still doing that shit in your 30's, start to worry. For now just enjoy the ride.

I guess yeah. Maybe all my friends getting married and settling down and staying in on the weekends to do work has rubbed off on me hard. And most of us are just about 25 now

I was one of those early marriage adopters. But I really didn't settle down fully until I started having kids. Then, yeah, not much choice there man.

I went from 30 grand a show
to 3 grams of blow
to partying with Dre in his studio
To telling my wife "you know what I want to do to you"
to burping babies and being in bed by 10 bro.

Thug life y'all

[Am_I_Anonymous]

And you're one of the few exceptions, A_I_A. Most early marriages don't work out. So I wouldn't worry about it, Esch

If I were to give any advice that isn't cliche like she needs to be your best friend (truth) I'd say the secret to longevity is based on 3 things

1) Your moral fiber: If you aren't morally sound enough to stay committed to one person for 40 years, why even try? And you already know if you are or not.

2) Have interests outside of family/marriage: Play sports/drink beers/fix shit/Don't care with your friends at least a few times a week and encourage your wife to do the same. Spending every possible minute together is recipe for bad times.

3) Be honest. Don't lie. If you fuck up, be up front about it. I don't care if it's that you forgot the milk or that you're fucking the supermarket girl. Don't let her be the last to know.

You follow these three things, you'll be alright.


Edit: Oh yeah, "open relationships" don't fucking work. Don't even try. One of you is going to catch feelings. Never met an open couple that didn't divorce within 5 years of making that decision.

[I'm a Puppy!]

Mine's way simpler.
Don't ever marry someone you can't live with. Marry someone you can't live without.

That and never argue unless you're naked.

edit: I've met plenty of people that made bringing in a third person or another couple in for some fun every once in a while work. Lots of those. But I agree with AiA on this one. I've yet to meet anyone that's actually made a truly "open" relationship work.

[Am_I_Anonymous]

Mine's way simpler.
Don't ever marry someone you can't live with. Marry someone you can't live without.

Easy to say. Hard to understand. Youngsters ain't gonna have no clue what that means.


As for arguing naked, been there, done that. Don't do it with a black woman who tends to throw things and has bad aim.