If I read those stupid threads, am I just going to find that "rape" is her way of making his dumbass rationalize that she banged another dude?

Gonna take the blame because I posted the link, the reason being I don't think it's all that smart to share such a thing online, on NeoGAF at all places.
I don't think it's insensitive to point out that it's impossible to know if it was rape as per the law. I do think the guy above is doing the outrage brigade hyperbole. There's no need to belittle the distress OP's wife say she's been through. Blacking out is not pleasant, moreso when you realize you probably fucked some dude you don't remember or know.