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Bebpo

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« Reply #2400 on: August 10, 2017, 12:34:58 AM »
Rahx, one thing that stuck out of your rant is the "I find maybe 1 out of 100 women attractive". So it's like you only want to date (or do you just want to sleep with?) supermodels, but you have a shitty attitude and that kind of women is not gonna want to be with you. It feels like you've had your views of what is attractive shaped by media and porn instead of like...normal people.

My advice would be to spend more time with normal people. Do some charity events, help feed the homeless in your area, clean the beach, etc...not only do you get to feel good helping others, it's an easy non-awkward way to instantly place yourself within a group of socially normal people and people who do that kind of stuff will usually be more cool & friendly & accepting. Maybe delete Tinder and dating for 3 months and spend those 3 months doing one thing every weekend with other people, then jump back on and I guarantee you'll find more women "attractive" out of those 100 and you'll probably start meeting some people and maybe finding a gf.

Rahx, you're already fucked up. You have such a shitty attitude towards women. You want a relationship with one so bad, yet you never have anything positive to say about them.
Why would I have anything positive to say? I've been rejected, ignored, and played by them my whole life. 

I did see a therapist and it was such a waste of time.

My dating was a disaster in my 20s and I've more bad luck run-ins and rejections than almost everyone I know, but I'm still staying positive about it. It's all about that attitude. When you get frustrated with dating, take a break. It helps seriously. You need to get away from all this bad mojo and find new outlets around people. Just don't go into those outlets looking for women to fuck. Go into them looking to have some fun and get away from all the negativity in your life.
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« Reply #2401 on: August 10, 2017, 12:37:17 AM »
Nothing will change if you can't get over blaming women for not wanting you.

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« Reply #2402 on: August 10, 2017, 12:41:40 AM »
I don't think he's blaming women for not wanting him. I forget what I last told Rahx, but it still applies. Demystify the whole thing, but that's hard to do until someone has shown you they find you worthwhile.

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« Reply #2403 on: August 10, 2017, 12:46:33 AM »
Rahx, you're already fucked up. You have such a shitty attitude towards women. You want a relationship with one so bad, yet you never have anything positive to say about them.
Why would I have anything positive to say? I've been rejected, ignored, and played by them my whole life. 

I did see a therapist and it was such a waste of time.

This isn’t a healthy attitude. It’s NOT a waste of time to talk to someone.  But it DOES take time to reach breakthroughs.
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« Reply #2404 on: August 10, 2017, 01:13:39 AM »
And again with the "you have unrealistic standards thing".

I really don't.

Or rather I guess I do, because I'm attracted to decent looking women and I guess I have to settle for much less.

I find most of the women on tinder attractive. I'm into short and slightly thick ethnic women. I'm not looking for modelesque women.

I mean here's a picture of the girl I was super into. She's a short and thick mexican girl. Hardly a model.
https://imgur.com/a/aGcSC

But of course after basically a year mixed signals she said nope. Like pretty much every girl.

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« Reply #2405 on: August 10, 2017, 01:33:34 AM »
A year of mixed signals? 🤔

Bebpo

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« Reply #2406 on: August 10, 2017, 01:55:42 AM »
Oh, sorry Raxh, I misread your previous post. I haven't really used Tinder so I thought you were saying out of 100 profiles you'd only find 1 attractive.
Well that's good that you're open to most people.

But yeah, in the tinder world, one year of connection?  If you're not getting the same texting back that you're sending within 4-5 days, and if you don't meet up on a real date within 2-3 weeks you gotta move on.

I still think what I said about spending more time in non-sexual social situations with men and women like charity events would make you feel better about yourself and increase your social charm. And again, I think when you're really down in the dumps it's good to take a break for a few months and enjoy life instead.

Therapists are hit and miss. I think you having one is a good idea. Hell, I have a monthly dating therapist and I'd like to think I'm fairly level headed, but having someone to talk about my dating experiences 1 on 1 always makes me feel better about myself when I walk out. I'd recommend therapist shopping until you find one that clicks, but if someone is down on you don't necessarily quit on them, tough love can be good with therapists. My first therapist only said nice things to me and it was useless, my second therapist called me out on some stuff and was helpful.

I think you can always turn things around Rahx, no matter how bad it is. But if things aren't working then doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is the definition of insanity and it will grind you down even more.

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« Reply #2407 on: August 10, 2017, 03:33:23 AM »
Going back to an ex is like trying a pair of shoes again, after they didn't fit you last time.

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« Reply #2408 on: August 10, 2017, 04:33:53 AM »
Rahx, you're already fucked up. You have such a shitty attitude towards women. You want a relationship with one so bad, yet you never have anything positive to say about them.
Why would I have anything positive to say? I've been rejected, ignored, and played by them my whole life. 

I did see a therapist and it was such a waste of time.
Dunno how old you are, but I've said here before that my first real relationship and first time having sex was at 26 years old. Yet I didn't spend my early 20s hating women and blaming them for everything that goes wrong in my life like you do. It probably helped that I've always had a few female friends who I would never pursue. You'll continue being stuck where you are if you don't find out and fix your issues. Some people get accepted as they are, some don't. That's life. Shit isn't meant to be "fair".
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« Reply #2409 on: August 10, 2017, 07:09:44 AM »
Rahx, you're already fucked up. You have such a shitty attitude towards women. You want a relationship with one so bad, yet you never have anything positive to say about them.
Why would I have anything positive to say? I've been rejected, ignored, and played by them my whole life. 

I did see a therapist and it was such a waste of time.

Think of all the billions of men who have been able to stick their dick inside of a vagina.

Then there's you.

I'm sure it's all their fault though.
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« Reply #2410 on: August 10, 2017, 07:30:35 AM »
you have an unrealistic expectation that talking to women is a fucking equation. if you say the right thing + have a decent pic + something interesting in your profile = guaranteed response. it doesn't fucking work like that.
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« Reply #2411 on: August 10, 2017, 08:24:47 AM »
It's just a form of self sabotage. We all experience it in different ways.


Now excuse me while I continue to browse the internet instead of doing my job...



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« Reply #2412 on: August 10, 2017, 09:26:04 AM »
Basically, 1 out of 75 to 100 right swipes I'll get a match. And 1 out of 10 matches I'll get a response. And maybe (if I'm lucky) 1 out of 10 girls that respond back to me will try to line up a date.

For the sake of calculation, let's go with 1 in 75 for the first number. This means that only one in 7,500 Tinder users is willing to date you. You're in Greenville, right? Population of about 68,000, so around 34,000 females total. But let's use the county numbers: 491,863 according to the 2015 ACS data. 252,620 females, of which 19.8% are between the ages of 20 and 34 according to ACS. So about 50,018 females in your age range. A lot of these are probably married, but maybe you're cool with that. Rounding up, since the population might have grown since the 2015 community survey, I calculate you have a total of seven potential Tinder dates in the county if literally every single woman is on Tinder, assuming you keep up your current success rate.

Maybe going back to your ex isn't such a bad idea.
Also, fun fact, only one girl that I dated was from Greenville County.

The rest were either from Spartanburg or North Carolina.  :doge

edit: Greenville is also full of rich and attractive people so it's kind of hard to compete with that.

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« Reply #2413 on: August 10, 2017, 09:39:28 AM »
You know, talking about  that Tinder response thing:

It happens even with the gay male side. It's making me wonder what the point of Tinder is beyond feeling good about getting likes... I mean, sure, relationships that's all well and good. But there's OkCupid for that. Meanwhile if you're looking for hook-ups, there's Grindr and Scruff for that.

Maybe it's better for hooking up as breeders. IDK, but that lack of messages and having to be the first move is dumb.

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« Reply #2414 on: August 10, 2017, 11:00:13 AM »
Rahx, you're already fucked up. You have such a shitty attitude towards women. You want a relationship with one so bad, yet you never have anything positive to say about them.
Why would I have anything positive to say? I've been rejected, ignored, and played by them my whole life. 

I did see a therapist and it was such a waste of time.

Think of all the billions of men who have been able to stick their dick inside of a vagina.

Then there's you.

I'm sure it's all their fault though.
Well clearly it's me, as I've said all of you have a much easier time than I do. Which is why most of the time anyone's advice here is worthless, because I tried it and it did nothing.

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« Reply #2415 on: August 10, 2017, 11:15:58 AM »
Probably the sooner you move out of the Chicago area the better.

After seeing how butt hurt Chicagoans get about ketchup on a hot dog I've basically written off the whole city as a bunch of stuck up cunts.  :doge

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« Reply #2416 on: August 10, 2017, 11:40:02 AM »
because I tried it and it did nothing.

Again: Maybe it's your shitty attitude that is not helping you?

You: "FUCK ALL WHORES. THEY WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH ME!"

Do you think women are going to be attracted to that?

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« Reply #2417 on: August 10, 2017, 11:40:17 AM »
Rahx, you're already fucked up. You have such a shitty attitude towards women. You want a relationship with one so bad, yet you never have anything positive to say about them.
Why would I have anything positive to say? I've been rejected, ignored, and played by them my whole life. 

I did see a therapist and it was such a waste of time.

Think of all the billions of men who have been able to stick their dick inside of a vagina.

Then there's you.

I'm sure it's all their fault though.
Well clearly it's me, as I've said all of you have a much easier time than I do. Which is why most of the time anyone's advice here is worthless, because I tried it and it did nothing.
Yet you keep coming back here to bitch about women. :doge

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« Reply #2418 on: August 10, 2017, 11:49:03 AM »
Change my shitty attitude? Why women only keep proving it correct.

Can we go back to hearing about that other guy having sex with a side piece instead of more of this garbage?
Please, I love having my ponint proven that many of you simply have success by simply existing and not putting that much effort into it.


"Oh look I just use tinder and bam".

Going back. I'm laffing at this.

Enjoy being the perpetual butthurt one-time-sex "virgin" for the rest of your life, bitch.

Here's your forum that you can stick to for the rest of your life. Go there, shoo. Stop bothering us with your shitty attitude and fuck off already.

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« Reply #2419 on: August 10, 2017, 11:49:51 AM »
Need to figure out how to work around the whole "my sister is living with me" thing tho.   :doge

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« Reply #2420 on: August 10, 2017, 11:53:29 AM »
nvm
« Last Edit: August 10, 2017, 12:52:22 PM by Rahxephon91 »

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« Reply #2421 on: August 10, 2017, 11:55:13 AM »
Matched with two girls today, sent them messages, and was quickly unmatched by them.

Yeah women are so great. Tinder is such a great thing to use. Really coincidence building.

That's the way Tinder works, you tremendous braying jackass.

You know what? I've matched with 10+ people, they never send messages. And you know what? some of them blocked/unmatched/whatever'd me.

Do I take that shit personally like you? No. GET THE FUCK OVER YOURSELF

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« Reply #2422 on: August 10, 2017, 11:56:45 AM »
You seem to be triggered by this.

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« Reply #2423 on: August 10, 2017, 11:59:21 AM »
Again...


I DON'T GIVE A FUCK WHAT YOU GOTTA SAY.

It's quite clear you don't want to do anything about yourself in attempting to get over these hurdles you have for yourself. So enjoy being sexless, ass.

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« Reply #2424 on: August 10, 2017, 12:25:24 PM »
Got back from my date, kinda hard to gauge how it went, I felt like maybe at the end I got too comfortable and started talking about pointless shit again as I have a habit of doing. At the end of the date when walking to my car she thought I was following her and asked if I was following her... that was kinda weird?

Oh well, guess I'll text her tomorrow and see if she responds. Also gonna try to email these 2 other people from Match and see if they're interested in going out.

Maybe she thought you were walking her to her car and the words came out weird?

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« Reply #2425 on: August 10, 2017, 12:34:54 PM »
In other news, my "ex" seems super excited to be getting back with me.

We're gonna get dinner and chill out at my place afterwards.

Can't wait to experience "re-bound sex".  :doge

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« Reply #2426 on: August 10, 2017, 12:37:22 PM »
Try to poke the pooper if you can
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« Reply #2427 on: August 10, 2017, 12:42:47 PM »
edit: Any pointers?

Yeah, go ahead and review this entire thread, 'cos more than half of it was already advice to you, babe.  :-*

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« Reply #2428 on: August 10, 2017, 12:51:31 PM »
I'd prefer we don't start telling people to kill themselves especially considering we have a guy who was dangerously close to doing so.
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Rahxephon91

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« Reply #2429 on: August 10, 2017, 01:27:34 PM »
because I tried it and it did nothing.

Again: Maybe it's your shitty attitude that is not helping you?

You: "FUCK ALL WHORES. THEY WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH ME!"

Do you think women are going to be attracted to that?
This isn't even true.

I don't treat women like shit in real life. I would never saw fuck all whores. If anything I just keep to myself. I'm not on any mra shit. I don't follow any of that gamer gate nonsense.

I only dislike women in the romantic/sexual sense and you know what it is their fault. Every single experience with them in that area has been negative. I have yet to have a positive one and it continually happens for reasons I don't understand.

So of course I have a toxic attitude and then you come here and it's mix of lower your standards/change yourself.

Also why do you know so many MRA reddits?

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« Reply #2430 on: August 10, 2017, 01:34:28 PM »
I'd prefer we don't start telling people to kill themselves especially considering we have a guy who was dangerously close to doing so.
No one said that, but yeah, let's chill out.


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« Reply #2431 on: August 10, 2017, 01:36:16 PM »
Yeah I was trying to figure out who said that?

You're kinda building strawmen here tho, Rahx. It isn't change yourself or lower your standards -- it's heal yourself and your worldview 🤷‍♀️

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« Reply #2432 on: August 10, 2017, 01:50:43 PM »
I like this thread better when it's about fucking chicks you're not married to and eating ass.

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« Reply #2433 on: August 10, 2017, 01:56:04 PM »
I like this thread better when it's about fucking chicks you're not married to and eating ass.

I'll try to get my girlfriend to eat my ass tonight.  Will report back
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« Reply #2434 on: August 10, 2017, 02:06:11 PM »
Storytime in the NSFW channel, please.

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« Reply #2435 on: August 10, 2017, 02:19:26 PM »
Eating ass is the lady and I's favorite thing to do when drunk
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« Reply #2436 on: August 10, 2017, 02:19:44 PM »

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« Reply #2437 on: August 10, 2017, 02:34:32 PM »


the jump to hbo has ruined this season i think, it's too horny and sexed up now

we need to bless back up

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« Reply #2438 on: August 10, 2017, 02:47:49 PM »
I only dislike women in the romantic/sexual sense and you know what it is their fault. Every single experience with them in that area has been negative. I have yet to have a positive one and it continually happens for reasons I don't understand.

 :lol :lol :lol

Yeah I'm done. Good luck.
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« Reply #2439 on: August 10, 2017, 02:58:10 PM »
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« Reply #2440 on: August 10, 2017, 04:28:53 PM »
This isn't even true.

I don't treat women like shit in real life.

Then maybe you should change your opinion online? Because what you put out there is what you get back, and clearly what you're putting out there on here isn't giving you dividends in relationships.

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I only dislike women in the romantic/sexual sense and you know what it is their fault.

This is your fucking problem right here, you moron. Look at that underline. Do you think them alone is the problem? Spoiler: No it fucking isn't.

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So of course I have a toxic attitude and then you come here and it's mix of lower your standards/change yourself.

Nobody is telling you to "lower your standards" insofar as relationships are concerned. People are telling you to "lower your standards" as far as actually getting a relationship started.

Look at the second quoted bit, re-read it again and then ask yourself: "Gee, does that make sense? Is all my problems with women solely on them? Hmmm..." If you say "yes," you are officially beyond help.

I'm copping an attitude toward you because I'm sick of the way you continue to pawn your problems off on others. Take the married wife for instance: Was she horrible to act the way she did toward you? Yes but: You never should've messed around with a married woman in the first place, as soon as she said she was married? "Bye, Felicia (or whatever name here)!" You're both at fault, really.
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« Reply #2441 on: August 10, 2017, 04:35:49 PM »
I say Rahx should move out to Iowa and find himself a nice corn fed PAWG to care for him.

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« Reply #2443 on: August 10, 2017, 05:06:22 PM »
I say Rahx should move out to Iowa and find himself a nice corn fed PAWG to care for him.
I would hate to be an area where it's mostly just whites.

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« Reply #2444 on: August 10, 2017, 05:22:59 PM »

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« Reply #2445 on: August 10, 2017, 05:53:36 PM »
I say Rahx should move out to Iowa and find himself a nice corn fed PAWG to care for him.
I would hate to be an area where it's mostly just whites.
Go to Texas and find yourself a nice burrito fed Latina?  :doge

edit: I forget which races/ethnic groups you did and didn't like
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« Reply #2446 on: August 10, 2017, 06:22:59 PM »
Well I'm about to go pay a girl for a bj because that's what I have to do to get one.

And I like all races, I just may have certain types I like more.

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« Reply #2447 on: August 10, 2017, 06:38:32 PM »
It's a waste of money when there's desperate women.

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« Reply #2448 on: August 10, 2017, 06:39:06 PM »
Apparently they're not desperate enough to sleep with Rahx.

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« Reply #2449 on: August 10, 2017, 06:54:48 PM »
Meh, if there was a blowjob store I'd stop in on my lunch sometimes

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« Reply #2450 on: August 10, 2017, 06:55:20 PM »
I don't know where Rahx is from but maybe he should try volunteering some of his time at the local schools and hit on some single teachers or the married ones. Also animal shelters dude good place to pick up some freaks in the sheets if you know what I'm saying.

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honestly paying for sex sounds sad and I don't wanna feel sad for Rahx
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« Reply #2451 on: August 10, 2017, 06:57:37 PM »
Apparently they're not desperate enough to sleep with Rahx.

We've already established Rahx is really picky/has unrealistically high standards (for the amount of work he himself wants to put in.)

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« Reply #2452 on: August 10, 2017, 07:34:45 PM »
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« Reply #2453 on: August 10, 2017, 09:36:25 PM »
Listen, Rahx -

You being afraid to be alone at age 40 may seem like a nightmare scenario, but I'm 35 and it's looking more and more likely for me. While all my friends are engaged/married/having kids, I'm still trying to get past the first date. I have been in relationships before, but with women who were so obviously wrong for me:

-A short and chubby holy roller who unironically said Obama was a babykiller during the '08 election season when we dated
-A tomboy who had a more masculine personality than me and who constantly got mistaken for a lesbian, who couldn't get anywhere in life due to being saddled down by a deadbeat family, yet seemed perfectly content
-A morbidly obese girl who carried on like a spoiled child when she didn't get he way

I ended up dating them because I was so beaten down by the dating game that I was happy to take whoever was willing to give me a chance.

I've gone on probably a hundred plus dates through all my years (and dating seems to only get harder in your 30's, I've found), some of which were really shitty:

-I've gotten ditched/stood up a few times
-Cancels at the last minute
-Dates that go so badly where we have literally nothing in common
-Dates that seemed to go so fantastic and then I never got a response when I called them back

I'm shy and awkward (fidgety, have trouble making eye contact) and not terribly attractive. Love to ramble on about my silly interests that most people don't give a shit about. Terrible with small talk. Very ignorant of pop culture, etc. Actually approaching an attractive woman that I don't know in person is extremely difficult for me.

But you know what...

I'm not giving up. I don't blame women, say "oh, they only want the assholes". I can't help what other people are attracted to, and it sucks that those attracted to me are usually ones I'm not at all interested in, but that's the way the cards have fallen. I know that there's -gotta- be someone out there for me. And I know it's the same way for you. Come on, take the advice of all those great RPGs you and I both play and stick with it.

You're younger than me, you're in better shape than me, you're more attractive than me. You can do it.
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Rahxephon91

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Re: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011
« Reply #2454 on: August 10, 2017, 09:44:23 PM »
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Look at the second quoted bit, re-read it again and then ask yourself: "Gee, does that make sense? Is all my problems with women solely on them? Hmmm..." If you say "yes," you are officially beyond help.

I'm copping an attitude toward you because I'm sick of the way you continue to pawn your problems off on others. Take the married wife for instance: Was she horrible to act the way she did toward you? Yes but: You never should've messed around with a married woman in the first place, as soon as she said she was married? "Bye, Felicia (or whatever name here)!" You're both at fault, really.
Every experience I've had has been negative and only proven whatever negative ideology I have.

My only experience in high school was just an overly hot girl being overly flirty and nice. But I didn't care because whatever, it was high school.

My first sex experience was with a girl who wasn't pleased with my first time performance and basically complained about the sex the whole time.

My first experience in college the first time was with an overly flirty girl who would talk about her sex life with me and tell me how attractive I am, in the end I tired to suggest sex. She said nope and I said ok, because in the end you had to understand she just had a sex positive/open personality so whatever.

My next experience was with a girl who was just nice to me and in the end I asked her out for a date. She said no, and well I realized she was just being friendly because she wasn't a douche. No problem.

Then there was that girl in my writing class who seemed interested, but I guess I did something wrong so she immediately cooled. Ok whatever, no big deal. I didn't know her that well.

Then came my Mexican friend. To everyone's eyes she was interested. People thought we were dating. She always wanted me around. She was a great person. We were very close, but in the end I guess all those obvious signals weren't that. In the end we've become less close because there's an imbalance and she clearly doesn't need my sex free attention anymore. She found another dude and doesn't talk to me anymore. What a soul crushing experience, but one I was trying to move past.

Then came the married girl who would send me sexually explicit messages(I WANT TO SUCK YOU BLAH BLAH) and then nothing. Well I sure felt played and I loved that this feed my negativity.

Mix with the super unsuccessful runs with Bumble and Tinder and yes I'm sorry that I don't have good feelings towards women.

What are my problems? Maybe not being aggressive enough? Not being social? Being afraid and un-confident? Sure, but what reason should I be confident for, when I haven't been able to have sex in years. When girls seem to not all actually be interested in me.

My problems are not treating them like shit.

Just having not overall faith or trust in them, because why should I?

This isn't even true.

I don't treat women like shit in real life. I would never saw fuck all whores. If anything I just keep to myself. I'm not on any mra shit. I don't follow any of that gamer gate nonsense.

I only dislike women in the romantic/sexual sense and you know what it is their fault. Every single experience with them in that area has been negative. I have yet to have a positive one and it continually happens for reasons I don't understand.

I would be shocked if all these thoughts you have about women aren't coming through in some way in your conversations with them.
Well prepared to be shocked, because I somehow still have female friends.

Re: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011
« Reply #2455 on: August 10, 2017, 09:45:10 PM »
This isn't even true.

I don't treat women like shit in real life. I would never saw fuck all whores. If anything I just keep to myself. I'm not on any mra shit. I don't follow any of that gamer gate nonsense.

I only dislike women in the romantic/sexual sense and you know what it is their fault. Every single experience with them in that area has been negative. I have yet to have a positive one and it continually happens for reasons I don't understand.

I would be shocked if all these thoughts you have about women aren't coming through in some way in your conversations with them.

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Atramental

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Re: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011
« Reply #2457 on: August 10, 2017, 11:13:29 PM »
Hrrm...

I think I might get stood up tomorrow...

I deserve it though for giving my "ex" false hope of getting a long term relationship out of me.

seagrams hotsauce

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Re: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011
« Reply #2458 on: August 11, 2017, 03:36:19 AM »
enumerate the examples of times you think women tacitly owed you sex because you treated them as a human being brehs

Rahxephon91

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Re: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011
« Reply #2459 on: August 11, 2017, 04:48:09 AM »
I didn't say they owed me sex. I don't think that way. Most of the time it wasn't even about sex.

No these are instances where I allowed myself to valunerable and feel like someone could like me that way and was then told no.  It's an explanation as to why I'm bitter, unconfident, and just withdrawn from this.

Where does confidence come from? Yes you can fake it but it also comes from actual accidental success. You people can feel confident, assured, or not afraid of dating stuff because you've had success.

Even reading most of your tinder experinces, you all quickly were able to find success there and have sex. Even if you didn't you can probably just shrug it off and so who cares because whatever you've been successful in other areas. You have logical reasoning to not 2nd guess your abilities with the opposite sex.

I have logical reasons to 2nd guess my entire relation to the opposite sex. I have logical reasons based an previous experince to know that most of it's a lose lose situation. So why even attempt it. Oh because eventually something will happen.

People have been telling me that for over a decade. When am I supposed to belive that that is BS? How am I supposed to even be able to have the relationship/sexual maturity of an adult when I haven't even experinces what many 18 year olds have experienced? It's maddening knowing you are super inadequate.

Workout. Feel better about yourself. Get better worldly experince to feel more interesting, etc etc. those don't change the fundamental issue of feeling like the opposite sex has judged you and found you extremely lacking. You can I guess make yourself feel better and in the end who needs other people to validate you? But desiring that stuff is kind of human I think and not something you can just deny. And while it may not seem like it here, I'm a very social person with a lot of love to give and it keep on seeing it rejected and it just makes me bitter and sad.

Plus I just would like to experince things that normal makes my age do and I feel like I'm just a pos who is super far behind.

You said username that I shouldn't have even talked to a married woman. I agree and didn't want to(more so because I wanted to be negative about women) but people encouraged me because they think "yeah rahxephon91 really needs sex and female attention" and yeah I would. But then they did most of the leg work and in the end she was just playing anyway. It made me feel like a pathetic dude even more.