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[hungrynoob]

I hope you carried her bags home for her.

[BlueTsunami]

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Ooooh I would have taken her to the bone zone. Stoke my ego babygurl I got you

[Oblivion]

Update: fuuuuuuuuuuuuuck

[hungrynoob]

what did u do

[BlueTsunami]

Obliv hit the Asian + big tittays lottery my guess

[Tasty]

Bad?

Also, Bepbo, you're really fucking handsome, man.

And a personality to match.

[I'm a Puppy!]

I'd do you bebpo, and I'm not even a grandma

[Bebpo]

Awww thanks   

I would have carried her bags, but she didn't have any bags 'cause she was eating a taco with her husband, so I just said thank you and happy holidays.

I wish I could be nice like Bebpo.

But I'm an indifferent asshole.

I think you're nice

[Oblivion]

Update: fuuuuuuuuuuuuuck

Oh my god, that good? You lucky son of a bitch.

Obliv hit the Asian + big tittays lottery my guess

Fraid not. The previous post was a cry for help. This one did not turn out the way I hoped.   

[hungrynoob]

again: what u do?

also, deleted profile and started again, i got one match. So my profile does exist

[Oblivion]

again: what u do?

also, deleted profile and started again, i got one match. So my profile does exist

We met up for coffee and then hung out at her place. I didn't even want to do it, I was just trying to be polite. 

[BlueTsunami]

Obliv was like

When she hit you with
Wanna come up for coffee?

[brawndolicious]

Holy shit so in the last week my ex and I have been talking on and off. And today I went on Twitter for the first time in forever and found out that about a year ago, she was publicly saying that I wanted to have sex with one of the people she deleted on FB. Tagging both of us and everything. I confronted her. Her response was so what/that's all in the past/are your friends from a few years ago more important than me?

If you have BPD, seriously it's not a big deal. Just get some fucking help before you hurt somebody because you don't have permission to shit on anyone for any reason.

And yes I'm an idiot who is now 29. Holy fuck am I an idiot. I used to think I was lucky that most people thought I was smarter than them because I never let them know the bad romantic choices I am susceptible to.  I let that go to my head and make me have a savior complex. Such a horrible cycle and I was blind to it.

Many times when people refuse sex or intimacy it's their passive-aggressive way of breaking up with you. They will give you 100 other excuses, but it's all to mask their true reasons.

Okay I can admit that I'm insecure enough that I have to give an alternate explanation. She flip flops between uncontrollable horniness every few months, and absolutely frigid for the rest of the time. As I understand it, 95% of the time they're trying to control their impulsiveness and the other 5% is them acting on it.

See above the quote.

[Bebpo]

It's ok, 29 is still young. Just get out of this relationship. In parts of your post you're being defensive of her still, this is normal when you're being controlled/abused. The first sentence you wrote about the twitter stuff was more of that abusive drama trying to make her the victim and you feel like the bad guy for being rational.

Break off the relationship and get out of it ASAP.

[chronovore]

Bebsy in for the wisdom.

Yeah, it sounds like you've had a learning experience, Brawndolicious. Just make sure you stay learnt.

[Rahxephon91]

I haven't been up to anything. I feel like I took the advice to stop caring so much and just carry on. Not in a fatalist way, just a whatever happens happens kind of way. Stop being so concerned with things and I guess it's improved.

I've stopped really using tinder or bumble. Not because of any garbage reason, more so because it's not an avenue I want to meet anyone. I've gotten decent matches and sent some messages, but nothing has come of them which is fine. It's just an amusement thing if anything. Trying to not take that stuff serious at all.

The Starbucks girl and I have been talking forever a month which I'm not sure what it means. I asked for advice from resetera(yes I know) and they said I should stop talking to her after she said she wasn't looking for a relationship. But after I pulled that lame move, everything went back to normal and we continued talking. Pretty much 1 or 2 messages between us a day. My female friends say this is a positive and while I don't think anything will come of it, that's just the negative part of me. Maybe something will. Maybe something won't, I should avoid just saying it absolutely won't. Anyway she's nice and I enjoy talking to her. If anything I learned from the last real tinder girl is to not get too serious about messaging and shit. If she replies or doesn't it's whatever.

She occasionally gets more flirty when she's drunk but beyond a moment where she seemed to imply we should get food together, nothing else. We just talk about Star Wars recently. The balls in her court so whatever happens is up to her.

But I'm not waiting around or anything. I have nothing else going on.

There was a nice Italian girl who was really flirty, so much that even my dumb ass could tell she was intersted. But it was so strong I was kind of turned off. She told one of my female friends she was "fond" of me whatever the fuck that means. I don't know, I have to ease into people. I think my lack of obvious interest in her killed that off. We just talk a bit on Snapchat. She has a bf anyway.

I'm also over my Mexican friend and am kind of very happy I didn't get involved with her. Her situation and self doesn't really mix. I guess I was just blinded by the ass.

But anyway, I guess the bore was right and one of the things was I just needed to stop caring. I've noticed a lot more positive things in the women area by not being so botherd by it.

[mormapope]

Went on a date with a woman ive been talking to online everyday for a month and a half. Went to a bookstore, bath and soap shop, got some great indian food. Most fun Ive had in a very long time.

[bluemax]

OKCupid is doubling down on their morph to Tinder. Soon you will only be able to message people you have mutually liked.

I guess that's how you deal with dudes being scum and all those girls who put "I can't see likes, message me!".

[I'm a Puppy!]

I have a friend who right now is going through a rough spot with her anxiety/depression and is letting it run her life. I'm also friends with her husband. And hoo boy. What a mess. I see her point of being a bad place, but I also see her husband's point of being like "You're not doing anything to make it better!" She comes to me for help and I'm like OK, you need to get professional help.  But she's too depressed to do it and wants someone else to do it for her. I'm like "No, this is something you need to do for yourself otherwise it'll never work." Meanwhile her husband has tried to be patient, but you can only put up with someone who does nothing for your relationship or themselves or in general. For so long. I totally get his point of that he deserves someone who at least tries.

Which brings me back to that thought I had earlier, that yes, there are soulmates but not everyone has them and most don't have the abilities/skills to make it work. I think that might need to be expanded that there are people that perhaps are too mentally ill to be able to have meaningful relationships. I mean of course you have the people with severe mental illness. But there are people with bi polar and personality disorders that make them just flat out toxic to others and people shouldn't be in relationships with them. Then you have people like my friend here, where she's given so much into her depression that it might be best that she not drag others down with her. At the same time, I don't know how she gets out of it without help. It's a cruel thing.

[Phoenix Dark]

Having fun being with someone who is mature and confident as fuck. She's gained some weight - not a lot, she's just in that hot thick territory. Feels good man.

[CatsCatsCats]

Baby weight?

[Raist]

She's gained some weight - not a lot, she's just in that hot thick territory.

I hope you didn't tell her that.

[Madrun Badrun]

I hope he did.

[chronovore]

She's gained some weight - not a lot, she's just in that hot thick territory.

I hope you didn't tell her that.

He was still able to type, so there's no way he actually voiced it.

[Phoenix Dark]

I didn't say shit to her. But she's said shit like "I'm getting thick" and not in a "awww woe is me way." Maybe it's a trap. I never really respond...

[I'm a Puppy!]

Thick eh? Being pregnant will do that.

[bluemax]

OKCupid is doubling down on their morph to Tinder. Soon you will only be able to message people you have mutually liked.

I guess that's how you deal with dudes being scum and all those girls who put "I can't see likes, message me!".

Okay I guess it isn't as severe as I thought:

Soon, messaging on OkCupid will change. Only the people you like or have responded to will remain in your messages. Messages from people you're not interested in, or people you haven't liked yet, will be moved to their profile. So, if you haven't liked or responded to that seemingly swell human being, you should do that soon. On the plus side, all those unwanted messages will disappear. And from all the testing we've done, we've found that a lot of other positive things will happen, too—like more matches and better conversations.

I have a friend who right now is going through a rough spot with her anxiety/depression and is letting it run her life. I'm also friends with her husband. And hoo boy. What a mess. I see her point of being a bad place, but I also see her husband's point of being like "You're not doing anything to make it better!" She comes to me for help and I'm like OK, you need to get professional help.  But she's too depressed to do it and wants someone else to do it for her. I'm like "No, this is something you need to do for yourself otherwise it'll never work." Meanwhile her husband has tried to be patient, but you can only put up with someone who does nothing for your relationship or themselves or in general. For so long. I totally get his point of that he deserves someone who at least tries.

Which brings me back to that thought I had earlier, that yes, there are soulmates but not everyone has them and most don't have the abilities/skills to make it work. I think that might need to be expanded that there are people that perhaps are too mentally ill to be able to have meaningful relationships. I mean of course you have the people with severe mental illness. But there are people with bi polar and personality disorders that make them just flat out toxic to others and people shouldn't be in relationships with them. Then you have people like my friend here, where she's given so much into her depression that it might be best that she not drag others down with her. At the same time, I don't know how she gets out of it without help. It's a cruel thing.

As someone with depression I sometimes wonder if I should even attempt another relationship because I'm afraid of having to make someone else deal with all my shit. Plus I'm scared about passing along my genes to some unfortunate kid.

[Bebpo]

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[Raist]

I didn't say shit to her. But she's said shit like "I'm getting thick" and not in a "awww woe is me way." Maybe it's a trap. I never really respond...

Welp. Godspeed.

 

[I'm a Puppy!]

OKCupid is doubling down on their morph to Tinder. Soon you will only be able to message people you have mutually liked.

I guess that's how you deal with dudes being scum and all those girls who put "I can't see likes, message me!".

Okay I guess it isn't as severe as I thought:

Soon, messaging on OkCupid will change. Only the people you like or have responded to will remain in your messages. Messages from people you're not interested in, or people you haven't liked yet, will be moved to their profile. So, if you haven't liked or responded to that seemingly swell human being, you should do that soon. On the plus side, all those unwanted messages will disappear. And from all the testing we've done, we've found that a lot of other positive things will happen, too—like more matches and better conversations.

I have a friend who right now is going through a rough spot with her anxiety/depression and is letting it run her life. I'm also friends with her husband. And hoo boy. What a mess. I see her point of being a bad place, but I also see her husband's point of being like "You're not doing anything to make it better!" She comes to me for help and I'm like OK, you need to get professional help.  But she's too depressed to do it and wants someone else to do it for her. I'm like "No, this is something you need to do for yourself otherwise it'll never work." Meanwhile her husband has tried to be patient, but you can only put up with someone who does nothing for your relationship or themselves or in general. For so long. I totally get his point of that he deserves someone who at least tries.

Which brings me back to that thought I had earlier, that yes, there are soulmates but not everyone has them and most don't have the abilities/skills to make it work. I think that might need to be expanded that there are people that perhaps are too mentally ill to be able to have meaningful relationships. I mean of course you have the people with severe mental illness. But there are people with bi polar and personality disorders that make them just flat out toxic to others and people shouldn't be in relationships with them. Then you have people like my friend here, where she's given so much into her depression that it might be best that she not drag others down with her. At the same time, I don't know how she gets out of it without help. It's a cruel thing.

As someone with depression I sometimes wonder if I should even attempt another relationship because I'm afraid of having to make someone else deal with all my shit. Plus I'm scared about passing along my genes to some unfortunate kid.

well, I think everyone deals with depression in some shape or form, truth be told. I think its unrealistic to not have a relationship because you have issues. However, if you're at a point where said issues make you toxic, or take over your life, like my friend here, then yeah. Thing is though, toxic people never know they're toxic. So I'm assuming that's not you. Only you can tell if you allow your depression to take over your life for months/years at a time. A large part of relationships is being emotionally vulnerable, and letting your partner help you, while  you help them.

[I'm a Puppy!]

OMG, I swear I just had this same discussion with someone not too long ago.

https://i.imgur.com/VhDXtQF.mp4

[thisismyusername]

Oh god. Moving closer to boy toy may happen this year.

Cue panic about the whole moving thing.

But this is way early shit to be worrying about.

[Shrew]

Uhhhhh, play Keith Sweat?

[Shrew]

I mean, she got a cart full of groceries. Take what you can get bro.

[Shrew]

She standing next to the baby formula like a robbery stakeout? She's down. Sorry ass microwave dinner for one? She's down. Basket full of cat food? She's down. Wider then tall? She's down. Older then your mom but she's wearing yoga pants, and she juss keeps looking around to see if anyone notices that ass? Yup, down.

Focus your inner Genghis Khan. Conquer that shit. I know, I know. You're worried if it's "problematic". SHE DONT GIVE A FUCK. She want's a man, she wants that D, take that shit homie! Make her feel good, make you feel good. You can come on the forums tomorrow, crying about how you had sex with a woman. "What did I do last night, oh my gosh shucks, breasts in videogames?!?!?"

And you feel that way because you're a dumb fucking cac from the Burbs. Girls wanna bust nuts all day too, boom to the room. So stop appropriating their pleasure and give them the deep dicking they want, before they go next door and get it from somebody who dont read video game forums

Yuuuuuuuh herd?

[Rufus]

You read them?

[Raist]

Some people just want to watch the world bu- have way too much time on their hands.

[VomKriege]

I had forgotten how libido will make you do really dumb things. Nothing major yet tho. It's kind of telling that my sex drive is back in full force.

[Oblivion]

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[I'm a Puppy!]

My wife has great tits.

[demi]

Yup, they're great

[Atramental]

Look dude I'm happy for you and all (and jealous) but didn't you say you were getting less shallow? All you've ever commented on the relationship thread is tits, tits, tits.
Do you even know what kind of personality she has? What her hobbies are?

MILKERS
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[demi]

Atra when are you gonna pony out the bit-cash for a porn star to fuck you? I'd jerk off to it

[Atramental]

I'm a volcel currently. And I like making money as opposed to spending it on frivolous things. 

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okay, I'm not being serious about one or the other

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I'll get back on the dating bandwagon again when I'm no longer living at my brother's nice house.

[close]

[close]

[demi]

Can't take that with you when you're dead, soy boy

[Valkyrie]

Bitcons made Atra asexual.

[Oblivion]

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[seagrams hotsauce]

I'm a volcel currently. And I like making money as opposed to spending it on frivolous things. 

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okay, I'm not being serious about one or the other

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I'll get back on the dating bandwagon again when I'm no longer living at my brother's nice house.

[close]

[close]

Yknow between the 4chan memes, bitcoin jocking, and vocab choices such as 'volcel' you should by all means be one of the posters I hate the most on this site, but damnit I can't help but love ya you lil rascal

[toku]

kill libido 2018

[Shrew]

You read them?

That's hurtful , Rufus. I read all your posts. Just because I find Fran to be the sexiest of all Final Fantasy character's, doesn't mean I can't enjoy the fact that other's may find Balthier more hot.

To those of you who find Balthier hot asf, enjoy. To hater's like Rufus, booooooooooo

[Shrew]

IN OTHER NEWS

What do I have to do to get a girl like this

[I'm a Puppy!]

2 million dollars.

[Shrew]

2 million dollars.

Yeah, you're right.

I'm not cut out for shit posting. Particularly on a smaller tight-knit forum. Shit eats me up inside. Internet's poison in general. But I feel it's worth an apology, cuz you guys didn't do anything.

[Tasty]

[I'm a Puppy!]

Nice edit Obv. Now it just comes up that I'm talking about my wife's...attributes..for no reasons now.

No ragerts, I guess.

[kingv]

I didn't say shit to her. But she's said shit like "I'm getting thick" and not in a "awww woe is me way." Maybe it's a trap. I never really respond...

My wife says she’s getting thick... she is 5’7” 110 lbs

 

I think the only safe response is to say something like, “but you haven’t gained any weight?!” Or something like that.

She might then tell you that you have to say that because you’re her boyfriend, but at least you will live to have that conversation again.

[mormapope]

Ive found out the words that win my heart, words that make the heart sing.

"I want you to fuck me til I can't walk straight"

 

[toku]

congrats on the sex

[I'm a Puppy!]

Dealing with lots of friends with relationship issues. LOL, I guess that's not necessarily anything new. It does sorta surprise me how little people pay attention to the ability to pick a right partner for relationships. Most people know that you have to have some skills to be in a long term relationship. Everyone focuses on stuff like communication skills, romance, self betterment, etc. But so many just completely ignore having any skills in picking the proper person.  I keep having a lot of my friends pick someone that's obviously a jerk or toxic and then being all heartbroken and being like "People only bring me pain!" When I bring up some other people that were perhaps better suited they're like "But they're just sorta...meh...boring"

People need to be honest with themselves and what they want. You want an aggressive, dominating, good looking, guy? Don't be surprised when he walks out on you.

[toku]

https://twitter.com/nocontexttgp/status/950422600647405569