I feel pretty positive about Starbucks girl honestly. Which is actually pretty cool, because I don't think I've ever been positive about talking to women ever. Which is pretty dumb on my part, but I'm horribly shy. I've been talking to this girl for 3 months which I guess some would say is a bad sign, but I feel like it's possibly going somewhere. I mean she did tell me that at that time she wasn't looking for anything, which is understandable because she just got out of a relationship. But since that little bump we've continued talking pretty much every week, every few days and I enjoy talking to her.
She's cool and nerdy. Very chill, modest, and seems not too intense and sarcastic. Oh and also pretty thic but you know whatever.
At this point I'm just waiting to see if there really is a window. I feel like there is, because she has said she'd like to see Star Wars with me and has made fun of my drunk texs. And also we've been talking for 3 months now and well I think I've angled myself as well someone who is interested in her.
Either way the huge point is that I simply enjoy talking to her and she seems to enjoy as well.
But I'm not really posting this to give you guys deep summaries of every little interaction. That kind of over annylizing is lame and I feel like right now this is the first time I'm coming at something with actual knowledge based on my previous failures.
With say the tinder girls I talked to. I got super paranoid when they wouldn't respond back or would take forever to respond. Felt I had to constantly engage with them to keep them interested. That was stupid and me being paranoid. Should just be chill.
I would overthink every word a girl would say. I'm trying to avoid that. The fact that the girl is talking to me is the positive bar none.
I mean I'm still fucked up and still learning. I'm not even sure I want a relationship with this girl or any girl. I have a lot of problems, but I am simply enjoying talking to girls and trying to figure stuff out. I still get pretty angry at my failures and whatnot, but I am trying to be better than that.
Oh and in mid February I'm going to be on Molly again so that should be fun.
Everyone says my problem is I just sabotage myself and that's a problem and well I still do that, but I'm trying and I think stuff is going positive.
With Starbucks girl I think it's going to be a slow burn. It's funny listening to peoples advice, it's all mixed. Some say that after this long you should just drop it, some say you need to be aggressive, some talk about the friend zone, some say it's going to happen, and so on. At this point honestly all I can say is just follow your gut and not be a douche about it. I think the reason I've at least gotten to this point is that I've just been consistent and chill.
