RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011

[Kara]

It's something you appreciate when you've had it, yeah.

I was speaking in general, Bebpo. You know how to do you and I know that.

[I'm a Puppy!]

If someone's willing to try new things then it doesn't matter if you share the same interests on the front end. If they're not then yeah it matters (especially for people with finite spare time); you might roll that up into "basic values" though, I don't know.

Since I think all the replies are talking about the same person, she's been upfront that she literally does not like the things I'm into and will never go to anything I do with my friends. Like I think that's kinda a deal breaker. I'm up to learn dancing or surf lessons are whatever.

Any while I agree on personalities, at 37 I've done enough dating with enough people to notice that if there isn't a single thing in common, it's not going anywhere. Like people in general are usually into about a dozen different interests in life. I find I click the most when there is at least one crossing interest. Like that gal I described above who I met in London. She's super religious and for 99% of things we have nothing in common, but we had an amazing day (and she said so as well) that we spent together doing things non-stop and have been talking ever since. But the point that actually got us connecting after initial shallow chit-chat was when I asked her about her DSLR and we started talking about photography and we really connected. I need one thing in common with someone to open up a deeper connection, which is what I've noticed over the decades.

Unless you just think each other are hot and wanna fuck, but that's really not my thing.

If I were you I'd be much more interested in why I feel this way than just accepting it. Just sayin'

My wife and I are more different than we are alike and that's what makes us work. We take strengths in the differences rather than annoyances.

[tiesto]

My girlfriend's a lot more outdoorsy than myself (I'm like a mole, lol), but we make it work. She gets me out of my comfort zone and actually gets me off my lazy ass to exercise. The big thing we have in common, hobby wise, is food - trying new restaurants and cuisines, cooking together, etc. I think it's good to be open to each other's interests, but at the end of the day, shared values are MUCH more important.

[nudemacusers]

Spent most of my life not worrying about sharing hobbies, but at least always enjoyed some of the same movies and humor and shit as a bare minimum.

But being married to a girl with literally the exact same hobbies as me is pretty amazing I must say.  And same music and movies taste to boot.  I recommend it.

My wife and I overlap in terms of humor and general political alignment,  but that’s about it. Our hobbies and general interests diverge pretty sharply which I think is good, since it gives us things to explore together and with the kids.

Edit: following along the thread more an unwillingness to explore each other’s interests would be a deal breaker; part of being in a relationship is imo being outside yourself. I think that’s where the online dating thing gets people confused, I don’t want a 98% match. I think it would get boring.

[Raist]

Our hobbies and general interests diverge pretty sharply

Well except that one about overpopulating earth.

[Atramental]

I hope there isn't any deeper significance with that "I suck at Jenga" comment. 

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This is possum girl btw. We're just friends for the foreseeable future.

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[Atramental]

I came to the conclusion that I shouldn't be shitting up the "minor inconvenience" thread with my relationship woes.

[I'm a Puppy!]

Atra came out? Finally! I knew it!

[Atramental]

 

[toku]

hope you're treating yourself well atra

[Atramental]

hope you're treating yourself well atra

I'm trying my best. 

[Assimilate]

are you going to spill the beans on that other night? come on. it's been enough time to get over the embarassment

[Atramental]

are you going to spill the beans on that other night? come on. it's been enough time to get over the embarassment

I was writing down my frustrations about tinder and how people keep on saying "it's just for sex" but I have yet to meet one girl off of there that was just looking to get banged and nothing else.

[brawndolicious]

You're supposed to say that you're mainly just there for an exclusive, sexual relationship since you're too busy for a serious one. Nothing wrong with being transparent, but it's understandable that some women feel uncomfortable laying their cards out at the beginning and wait for a guy to verbalize it.

[Assimilate]

are you going to spill the beans on that other night? come on. it's been enough time to get over the embarassment

I was writing down my frustrations about tinder and how people keep on saying "it's just for sex" but I have yet to meet one girl off of there that was just looking to get banged and nothing else.

Well, I've never met a girl JUST looking for sex. But girls on there are definitely looking to meet someone to 'bang' but like everything else it has to be the right person.

My first tinder experience with a Brazilian girl had the girl telling me (after a second date) not to take it the wrong way because 'she's not normally like this ' but she hadn't had sex in a while and it was always her thing to fuck a guy with a viking beard (this was before the beard thing was popular here, which was about 5 years after it became so in the states) .

We ended up dating for a few months. She was nice. I liked her. But yeah you can definitely find it, just don't be such a super sweet guy. You want to first be a guy they want to fuck before wanting to have you bring her flowers and chocolates and talk to her in a pooch voice.... ya know?

[Atramental]

I think I might have a strategy to get out of the friend-zone...

I've done this once already to possum girl but next time she asks me to hangout with her again I'm going to make it seem like I'm out on a date.

I won't tell her explicitly that it's a date (just to get her mind going) but it'll be heavily implied. 

edit: or maybe I should tell her it's a date since last time I didn't. 

[I'm a Puppy!]

[Assimilate]

it's crazy how clothes can make such a big difference for a broad. you got the nice threads on, be it at the gym or out, it makes a huge difference.

[nudemacusers]

This is why I wear finely printed silks

[Atramental]

I just friend-zoned Zeinab. She seems too occupied with her job and other obligations to date and I'm not going to try & chase someone like that.

[Assimilate]

what's with you and dating dude? Just lay pipe, worry about that shit after.

[Atramental]

Don’t get me started, Assi.

[Atramental]

When someone doesn’t respond back to me within 3 days it’s a sign they’re not really that into me or they’re too busy to be dating.

I can manage to squeeze out 1 text on my most busiest work days.

[Atramental]

You just friendzoned a girl who ghosted you lol

edit: nah, it’s even worse. She ghosted me while leaving me on read.

[Rahxephon91]

> Regularly comes close to killing himself doing insane amount of work
> Complains his date "seems too occupied with her job"

bruh

Regurlary ties to bust people’s chops about dating.

Doesn’t try dating themselves.

[MMaRsu]

Even though I've been getting decent matches on Tinder and Bumble, talking with them is fine but I still have this girl from last month in my head.

I really think she was perfect for me.

Fml

[Assimilate]

Even though I've been getting decent matches on Tinder and Bumble, talking with them is fine but I still have this girl from last month in my head.

I really think she was perfect for me.

Fml

thinking like this is the worst. I used to be be like this, I'd get temporarily infatuated with someone. It's distinguished mentally-challenged. The goal is numbers, play the numbers.

Enjoy yourselves, bang as much ass as you can, let the rest handle itself.

[MMaRsu]

It's not like im worried I cant score or cant get dates

eh fuck it

[Atramental]

Just remember: there’s no such thing as “the one” or soulmates.

edit: for most people.

[Assimilate]

It's not like im worried I cant score or cant get dates

eh fuck it

then what's the problem? love is overrated man.

[I'm a Puppy!]

It's not like im worried I cant score or cant get dates

eh fuck it

then what's the problem? love is overrated man.

[Oblivion]

So as an experiment to see if women do value height as much as the liberal media would have you believe, I changed my height on Hinge to 6'3" (my actual height is 5'10". After "liking" about 100 or so females, it seems that this particular modification didn't seem to effect my rate of response whatsoever. I mean, I might have gotten like one or two more than I did previously, but that doesn't mean anything.

On the plus side, I guess now I know the X-factor in my situation isn't height.

[Assimilate]

It's not like im worried I cant score or cant get dates

eh fuck it

then what's the problem? love is overrated man.

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I meant to say "being in love" and thinking there is a 'one'

[Assimilate]

So as an experiment to see if women do value height as much as the liberal media would have you believe, I changed my height on Hinge to 6'3" (my actual height is 5'10". After "liking" about 100 or so females, it seems that this particular modification didn't seem to effect my rate of response whatsoever. I mean, I might have gotten like one or two more than I did previously, but that doesn't mean anything. 

 5'10 to 6'3 won't be that big of a difference. There's a chart that shows you where you are at with the height and percentage of women approval.... I think 5'10 is already at around 90-95% and so there will be diminishing returns after about 6'1.  If you went from 5'6 to a 6 footer then yeah you'd probably see a considerable jump in match frequency. (this is assuming they actually read the profile which I don't know if they do)

On the plus side, I guess now I know the X-factor in my situation isn't height.

I could've told you that one buddy 

[I'm a Puppy!]

So as an experiment to see if women do value height as much as the liberal media would have you believe, I changed my height on Hinge to 6'3" (my actual height is 5'10". After "liking" about 100 or so females, it seems that this particular modification didn't seem to effect my rate of response whatsoever. I mean, I might have gotten like one or two more than I did previously, but that doesn't mean anything.

On the plus side, I guess now I know the X-factor in my situation isn't height.

Change it to 5' 5" and then report back.

[BlueTsunami]

This 5'10" nicca acting like he's a manlet. I'd say women only wanting 6' dudes is a lonely dude hyperbole. But they're certainly more reluctant to date below their height.

[Flannel Boy]

So as an experiment to see if women do value height as much as the liberal media would have you believe, I changed my height on Hinge to 6'3" (my actual height is 5'10". After "liking" about 100 or so females, it seems that this particular modification didn't seem to effect my rate of response whatsoever. I mean, I might have gotten like one or two more than I did previously, but that doesn't mean anything.

On the plus side, I guess now I know the X-factor in my situation isn't height.

According to okcupid data, there's not a huge boost after 5'10":


This probably varies by female height:




So you dating pool isn't likely to be that much larger:

[MMaRsu]

Omg

@ my new job

In my training group there is this girl, 21 years old, mixed hindu and dutch heritage, looks like a goddamn Haley Dunphey clone with brownskin and a few tattoo's. But the eyes and the face is like wow

Too bad she only likes dark/brownskin guys.

 


Btw im around 5 ft 10 or something I dunno I converted my cms

[MMaRsu]

Even though I've been getting decent matches on Tinder and Bumble, talking with them is fine but I still have this girl from last month in my head.

I really think she was perfect for me.

Fml

steal roses from her house to set the universe right

haha lol

[Atramental]

Omg

@ my new job

In my training group there is this girl, 21 years old, mixed hindu and dutch heritage, looks like a goddamn Haley Dunphey clone with brownskin and a few tattoo's. But the eyes and the face is like wow

Too bad she only likes dark/brownskin guys.

 


Btw im around 5 ft 10 or something I dunno I converted my cms

How do you know she only likes dark/brownskin guys? 

[Atramental]

In other news: I’m trying to meet more women to drown out my infatuation for possum girl but man-o-man I haven’t felt this level of infatuation in such a long time.

[Rahxephon91]

I like how Flannel Boy always has the height stats on file.

[MMaRsu]

Omg

@ my new job

In my training group there is this girl, 21 years old, mixed hindu and dutch heritage, looks like a goddamn Haley Dunphey clone with brownskin and a few tattoo's. But the eyes and the face is like wow

Too bad she only likes dark/brownskin guys.

 


Btw im around 5 ft 10 or something I dunno I converted my cms

How do you know she only likes dark/brownskin guys? 

Well since nobody knew anyone in this group, she was walking alone I just introduced myself and she bummed a cig off me. During the day she sat next to me and we talked for awhile, then went outside for lunch again, she got a call by some dude I dunno she was telling me about him afterwards she was like ohh yea I had a huge crush on him but he didn't want me blabla. Then she said she likes to go out to clubs but not to clubs with moroccans and antillians because they are fucking annoying according to her, but then she did say she has a thing for like dark/tinted guys. I asked her if she had ever went out with a regular dutch guy and she was like uhh no actually I never have lol

Yea this is the type of guy she goes for lol ( she showed me a pic of the guy in question )



Just searched for a random brown skin muscled guy because that's what the dude looked like.

Yea I have absolutaly no chance with her 

But nice to look at that's for sure ( the girl. not the guy lol )

[Atramental]

I'd tell her to lower her standards. 

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Don't tell her that.

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[Raist]

I'd tell her to lower her standards. 

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Don't tell her that.

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But if you have to, tell her with roses.

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[Valkyrie]

I re-made Tinder and had run-in with a Nice Guy. After chatting for a bit I didn't reply for half a day, so he started begging and shit, even said "I'm really nice, I promise!".

Pretty sure if I hadn't unmatched him, his next message would've been "You ugly anyway, bitch".

[Atramental]

Speaking of desperate, my brain has been coming up with schemes about asking other women I'm friends with to pretend that they're dating me so I can make possum girl jealous and want me more. 

Also, Val, if you're ever in my neck of the woods we should totally hang out. You'd make possum girl super duper jealous.   

[Nabbis]

I'd tell her to lower her standards. 

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Don't tell her that.

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But if you have to, tell her with roses.

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Or just have a big bank account.

[tiesto]

I just noticed Nabbis' avatar and roflmao

Also, MM/Atra... please quit it - oneitis just isn't a good mindset to be in. Just keep on matching with new people and don't compare them with the idealized version of your crush that exists entirely in your head.

[Assimilate]

Pretty sure if I hadn't unmatched him, his next message would've been "You ugly anyway, bitch".

Then why chat with the guy at all?

[Valkyrie]

Pretty sure if I hadn't unmatched him, his next message would've been "You ugly anyway, bitch".

Then why chat with the guy at all?

Dude seemed cool at first, we like the same stuff.

[Assimilate]

Pretty sure if I hadn't unmatched him, his next message would've been "You ugly anyway, bitch".

Then why chat with the guy at all?

Dude seemed cool at first, we like the same stuff.

and then?

[naff]

I re-made Tinder and had run-in with a Nice Guy. After chatting for a bit I didn't reply for half a day, so he started begging and shit, even said "I'm really nice, I promise!".

 

 

[I'm a Puppy!]

I'm really nice, I promise!

[Atramental]

Basically the key to getting a date or laid is to act like your date’s lethargic father that never gave them enough attention and approval when they were little.

#DaddyIssues 

[BlueTsunami]

I'll have to yell "I'm really nice, I promise!" Next time a mistakenly dump in a hookups vajoo

[Assimilate]

I re-made Tinder and had run-in with a Nice Guy. After chatting for a bit I didn't reply for half a day, so he started begging and shit, even said "I'm really nice, I promise!".

 

 

And this is why some of us treat  females like the dirty pigs they are

and they fall for it.   

[Assimilate]

STFU and set your fantasy lineup.

when you answer my questions in the NFL thread.

[Assimilate]

Is Assi really white knighting for desperate annoying guys?

Every guy is 'annoying' when the girl loses interest.

But when she gets piped by some fuckboy and then not talked to again she'll cry. And the cycle will continue.

See, friends, the difference when a guy does it is that a guy won't talk bad about the girl. He'll simply lose interest, and move on without laughing at her frustration or emotional outbursts. Women tend to laugh, gossip to her friends  "omg he's so creepy"

A guy is like "yeah, I burned her, I feel bad for her but whatever"

[naff]

According to okcupid data, there's not a huge boost after 5'10":
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fyi i am 6'6".

hmu guys (send nudes)