Guys, woah woah woah woah. This nothing what i'm saying. I'm sorry Stro, i figured you might have read the links that started this whole thing so i assume you're on the same page.
Popping in to say: Your links are a waste of time. That's why nobody reads them.
That aside: The Esquire article
was interesting (though I don't completely buy it and the study's conclusions). So thanks for that.
This has nothing to do with me. I'm talking about the negative effects of social media. The bodybuilding example is one where many younger males fall into this idea that they can achieve the same physique as those of their youtube fitness celebrities. They can't, because it's an illusion, a manipulation, 99% of them (the popular ones) take roids. This is the negative side, which was still there during my early adulthood because NO ONE on the cover of those magazines were natural.
You must know some really weird teenage boys, because the majority of them are either internet nerds, video-gamers, or into sports (which would fit your "brainwashed to be muscle-y" opinion). The vast majority of them are not going to pump iron for women, and if you truly believe that, you're crazy.
Sorry i keep assuming everyone that engages actually did some effort in following the discussion.
And I feel bad because Mandark made this thread because I wanted to discuss this with you when your entire point is "social media distorts women's views and makes them think they're more hotter than they are." Which (I'll give you a semi-point. Ok? You have a semi-point there) is pretty bullshit. Because conversely, we could take your mindview of yourself being a complete and total chad (and this is an exaggeration here, because nobody here thinks this) and say that's based on... who knows, whatever the fuck you want to base it on. The point is, you view yourself as hot-shit when really: You're not.
So really, this whole discussion has me and you agree on some points (because I can see how shitty dating apps are for both sexes on hetero- and homo- sexualities), but vastly disagreeing in views because you (like Rah before he finally started to get it into his head) have this distorted opinion on what women should be/do when they aren't the
fair maidens you thought they'd be.
(Full disclosure: I haven't even caught up in this thread. I'm telling you this based on what we were discussing before I threw in the towel)
Now that aside: I don't disagree that women hitting their 30's have a problem finding men. But that's
been the case long before the internet. You might disagree on that, but I don't know what to tell you. The "cat lady" stereotype is part of this.
If the main problem is caused by the gender imbalance on dating apps... just try to date women outside of those apps, because by definition there are more women than men not using them? Like I said, it's an arbitrage opportunity.
It's one of the main issues. The online realm just makes it worse.
I'm saying the offline imbalance by definition creates a reverse imbalance in offline spaces, so if dudes aren't pursuing women there, where it would be easier, that's on them.
what?
TL;DR:
1) Online: Men > Women in terms of numbers. Thereby making it harder for men to find women.
2) Offline: Women > Men in terms of numbers/places/things. Thereby making it
easier for men to find women.
"Reverse imbalance" may be what is throwing you off. But his point is: If you can't beat the men (pause) online, you should try offline because most women now a days
may not expect that. But that brings up another discussion about how to approach women offline in the age of dating apps/etc.