DOJ |OT| SUMMIT NOW SUMMIT NOW

[bdoughty]

Interesting. What was it that made you start, and more importantly, stop?

I was born into a Methodist family. Went to church every Sunday and then my Dad and I just stopped going. Always found it boring and it cut into the first NFL broadcast of the day. We also had a pastor that had been divorced twice over the years and we both found it hypocritical that this guy was guiding couples in troubled marriages. Have not been to a Church since I was in Junior High. Do not plan to go back until my passing. Still believe there is a higher power. There is good in most religions as charitable organizations but the bad outweighs the good. As much as I dislike the extreme left, my disdain for the extreme religious zealots is much greater.

[bdoughty]

instead, search for father and brother 

Accidentally typed in "Father and a brother."  Always thought BBC was just a British TV network. Damn, that looked really painful.

[Momo]

instead, search for father and brother 

Accidentally typed in "Father and a brother."  Always thought BBC was just a British TV network. Damn, that looked really painful.

Did the father broadcast the british right into the son's corporation?

[Transhuman]

Interesting. What was it that made you start, and more importantly, stop?

I was born into a Methodist family. Went to church every Sunday and then my Dad and I just stopped going. Always found it boring and it cut into the first NFL broadcast of the day. We also had a pastor that had been divorced twice over the years and we both found it hypocritical that this guy was guiding couples in troubled marriages. Have not been to a Church since I was in Junior High. Do not plan to go back until my passing. Still believe there is a higher power. There is good in most religions as charitable organizations but the bad outweighs the good. As much as I dislike the extreme left, my disdain for the extreme religious zealots is much greater.

I've never been religious but i'll give that an amen.

[HaughtyFrank]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-just-want-to-say-thank-you-to-the-moderation-staff.155006/post-26780359

I'm just letting them know their work doesn't go unappreciated. What's wrong with that? Some people just want to see this place burn to the ground.

Your shit ain't as slick as you think it is tbh. I was tempted to keep quiet because this is an obvious bait/trap thread (btw, real cute putting that "the majority here appreciate you", because if there's anything queer posters, posters of color etc like being reminded of, it's that we're The Minority), but then you had to insert this shit which is just blatantly "Minorities with valid concerns and criticisms? Couldn't possibly exist, people just want to see this place burn to the ground" and it's fucking sickening to see us get downplayed and dehumanized to that regard so casually. Not just here and now but anytime we have something to say. If you want me being silent about it like you clearly want me and everyone else being silent about everything else that Bothers You, please spare us the time and outright say that you want us banned. At least that's honest

WTF is this?
 

Support is casual racism.  I love how they blame outside forces for their paranoia.

Preach queen!

God damn sis, go in!

I’m glad you didn’t keep quiet, it’s true, all of it.

Amazing post. Thanks for writing it.

Sweeney ain't wrong.

[Momo]

Interesting. What was it that made you start, and more importantly, stop?

I was born into a Methodist family. Went to church every Sunday and then my Dad and I just stopped going. Always found it boring and it cut into the first NFL broadcast of the day. We also had a pastor that had been divorced twice over the years and we both found it hypocritical that this guy was guiding couples in troubled marriages. Have not been to a Church since I was in Junior High. Do not plan to go back until my passing. Still believe there is a higher power. There is good in most religions as charitable organizations but the bad outweighs the good. As much as I dislike the extreme left, my disdain for the extreme religious zealots is much greater.

I pretty much hate everyone 

[Transhuman]

I hate everyone AND myself 

[Potato]

The only way that someone can know you're a minority online is if you broadcast your minority status to everyone at every opportunity and weaponise it in order to get status in the community or leeway from the mods for your bad behaviour.

[Transhuman]

Shut up Australian

[BrokenEchelon]

This bit of intersectionality has been one of the hardest weeks I as an individual have had to deal with in my life.

We should all be so lucky as to have never have had a single real problem in our entire lives, Nepenthe.

[james]

Page 48 has me shaking

Pray for Bork and the dog mod

[Ghoul]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/there%E2%80%99s-too-much-incest-in-porn-these-days.155057/#post-26787560

Do porn sites recommend you stuff based on what you've previously watched because now all I get are these kind of videos.

Check out this guy, doesn't even know how the internet works in the year of the lord 2019. Must be a boomer.

[BIONIC]

This is my first post on the matter, and as I'm writing it, I'm not sure I will post it still. I'm one of the newest staff recruits, it's now getting close to 4 months since I've been appointed moderator, and it never stops being a wild roller-coaster. But the past week or two have been the most depressing and hurtful I've had to go through in a very long while.

I am a queer cis woman, as such, all LGBT+ related issues matter a great deal do me. And I saw several of my communities hurting. Being stuck in the middle, I felt like utter shit, and my mental health took a serious toll, to the point of physical self-harm (nothing serious, but it still happened). I questioned my position in the staff, I questioned my work, my ethics and morals. But this wasn't about me and it wasn't about my pain, so I stayed silent about it and weathered it all. I am just but a faceless moderator tag to most anyway. So I read the complaints, and heard the pain. I kept on reading, and I tried my best to listen.

At some point when everybody around you are just hurting, on all sides, it has to stop. I wanna build bridges, and I wanna let the hurt be healed, and we currently are planning on different ways of doing so, or are already doing so. Several communities on ERA have been hurting for much longer than I have. And it pains me greatly to see that. I want all minorities to feel safe, welcomed, valid and to freely exist in this space that we all love and cherish, for it is quite unique on the Internet, and absolutely needed. I'll do my best to do so, and hope that we can all make a better ERA out of this. I really want to. I know most of you do too.

I love this community a pretty good deal, and think its diversity is one of its strongest asset. I'm willing to tank any pain, as long as it means we can grow past it and be better together. I want to learn and I want to help. I don't know for how long I'll be able to weather this, it might eventually just catch up to me one day, but I'll do my very best to sincerely serve this community in the meantime, as much as my time, energy and mental health allow it.

I love you all.

[BIONIC]

Why is Cerium preying on individuals with very fragile mental states to be his moderators?



Dude rakes in that acne cream cash, while these poor fucks don’t even get a fruit basket. I’m almost starting to feel bad for these dumb cunts.

[REDPILLALPH ABIGCOCK]

at all the drama at reset.

start a new community  based on open moderation and being welcoming to minorities and the first time you get tested do neither

How about closed moderation and "welcoming" to minors?

[benjipwns]

Self harm due to a fucking forum?

Maybe you start should doing wellness checks on Frank.

[benjipwns]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/mental-health-era-ot2-community-and-understanding.95803/post-26797357

This is a weird question, but is No Nut November actually healthy? I've heard that it's a right wing thing for some reason

Thank god Ketkat is no longer banned.

[benjipwns]

People downplay the homophobia all the time, post transphobic stuff all the time, and absolutely nothing happens

[Propagandhim]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/mental-health-era-ot2-community-and-understanding.95803/post-26797357

This is a weird question, but is No Nut November actually healthy? I've heard that it's a right wing thing for some reason

Thank god Ketkat is no longer banned.

I want to stop masturbating because it has demonstrably affected my studies and scheduling in a negative manner (for example I'd get horny before doing my homework so I'd masturbate, but then I'd end up falling asleep bc I got too tired from my orgasm and thus miss my homework)

 


Literally has the brain of an ape

[benjipwns]

So because it can be used to set a precedent in lesser crimes, something as simple as a password can't be retrieved by someone committing one of societys most agregious crimes? That sounds completely nonsensical. When the government finally decides to erradicate our rights it will happen with or without this case being used as an example.

Makes sense to me. #KamalaHarrisForThePeople

[benjipwns]

User Banned (Duration Pending): Peddling Misinformation and Trolling; Prior Ban for Trolling

Relax. Privatisation of the NHS won’t happen. Just scare tactics from the Labour Party.
International companies leaving the U.K. is probably more likely to happen if Corbyn taxes them hand over fist, which his plans intend on doing. Brexit doesn’t help in the short term, but it’s been voted on and we need to respect the result of the first referendum, so its debate is a moot point at this time.

As for the Sterling devaluation, a Corbyn majority is going to tank it a lot further than any Brexit, save a very hard one. Corbyn’s policies got the financial market shook. Only thing helping is the odds of a Corbyn majority are so low (at this stage), but the further it goes up, the more market volatility you’ll see.

yikes, this now being against the rules is going to be rough

[NekoFever]

Why is Cerium preying on individuals with very fragile mental states to be his moderators?



Dude rakes in that acne cream cash, while these poor fucks don’t even get a fruit basket. I’m almost starting to feel bad for these dumb cunts.

It's not like he has a wide pool of well-adjusted, mentally resilient regulars to choose from.

[benjipwns]

User Banned (2 weeks): sexist dogwhistles

Her criticism has Merritt, but Anita has a habit throughout her career to make it about her and not necessarily about the movement. And I know about the ungodly amount of harassment she gets, death threats. Which no one should go through or experience.

But I would argue if she was more part of a panel of representatives for the movement. It would not be all directed to singular person who tweets about the issue to bring levity to it.

IV seen her at panels, she comes off sometimes as a bully, and self-righteous. Gets to be on Colbert, gets tons of attention. Instead of the movement or group that she represents.

And that's my issue with how she comes off when talking about certain topics.

She makes it about her.

this is my new favorite meme, other than the PTSD the mods all have

[benjipwns]

If shosta was still alive he could tell us what kind of non-serious but happened physical self-harm moderators like Delphine might practice.

[benjipwns]

I want to stop masturbating because it has demonstrably affected my studies and scheduling in a negative manner (for example I'd get horny before doing my homework so I'd masturbate, but then I'd end up falling asleep bc I got too tired from my orgasm and thus miss my homework)

Literally has the brain of an ape

I should have kept reading the replies in that thread:

I try but I keep getting horny man, doesn't help that:

My fetish isn't NSFW at all since it's about people growing up/improving themselves (stuff like working out), so I don't even need porn to get horny, like one of the most common things I jerk off to is just imagining Tomoko Kuroki from Watamote properly maturing in her uni years by having a proper sleep schedule (which got rid of her dark eye bags in my headcanon/"sexual" fantasy) and exercising for once by joining her uni's track & field team (because in the comics she's shown to be surprisingly decent at marathons even tho she doesn't realize it), which finally allowed her body to properly mature (because in my headcanon she has delayed puberty, since like she's supposed to be 15-17 but she hasn't grown at all from her middle school even as the story progresses through her high school years, and she hasn't experienced a period either)

Wait, I mean I shouldn't have kept reading the replies in that thread.

[benjipwns]

i cant help but wonder if people that are for not giving away their password have done illegal shit on their computer, and that's why they are for it obviously.

like the unnamed acephobic moderators of ResetERA.com!

[Straight Edge]

Much like Samus, god is a poorly written fictional character who seems compelling to people with nothing else in their lives

So God is a message board?

[Pissy F Benny]

Ash735
Banned
Thursday at 9:16 PM
#2,107
 User Banned (permanent): dismissive comments surrounding gender identity and sexual orientation, prior severe infractions
FeistyBoots said:
I am trans, a woman, pansexual, a lesbian, demisexual -
Hold up, care to explain this one? How can you be both pansexual AND lesbian? They contradict each other, it would be like me saying I'm bi and straight.

Sweeney Swift
Member
Thursday at 9:52 PM
#2,112
Ash735 said:
Hold up, care to explain this one?
User Banned (permanent): dismissive comments surrounding gender identity and sexual orientation, prior severe infractions
Thank you mods

"I am only attracted to women. I am also attracted to men, and anything."

I have said it before and I will say it again - 1984 larp.  Direct contradiction is intentional, blind acceptance is mandatory. It's a cult.  They're a fucking cult.

I’m guessing it means I’ll take clit and girl dick, no icky cis men tho 

[thisismyusername]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/there%E2%80%99s-too-much-incest-in-porn-these-days.155057/

That is why you type "Not Mom and Not Daughter" in your Xhamster searches.

instead, search for father and brother 

https://twitter.com/AttitudeMag/status/1198910027584753664

[Propagandhim]

I want to stop masturbating because it has demonstrably affected my studies and scheduling in a negative manner (for example I'd get horny before doing my homework so I'd masturbate, but then I'd end up falling asleep bc I got too tired from my orgasm and thus miss my homework)

Literally has the brain of an ape

I should have kept reading the replies in that thread:

I try but I keep getting horny man, doesn't help that:

My fetish isn't NSFW at all since it's about people growing up/improving themselves (stuff like working out), so I don't even need porn to get horny, like one of the most common things I jerk off to is just imagining Tomoko Kuroki from Watamote properly maturing in her uni years by having a proper sleep schedule (which got rid of her dark eye bags in my headcanon/"sexual" fantasy) and exercising for once by joining her uni's track & field team (because in the comics she's shown to be surprisingly decent at marathons even tho she doesn't realize it), which finally allowed her body to properly mature (because in my headcanon she has delayed puberty, since like she's supposed to be 15-17 but she hasn't grown at all from her middle school even as the story progresses through her high school years, and she hasn't experienced a period either)

Wait, I mean I shouldn't have kept reading the replies in that thread.

What.  the.  fuck.

[bdoughty]

Makes sense to me. #KamalaHarrisForThePeople

[HaughtyFrank]

I want to stop masturbating because it has demonstrably affected my studies and scheduling in a negative manner (for example I'd get horny before doing my homework so I'd masturbate, but then I'd end up falling asleep bc I got too tired from my orgasm and thus miss my homework)

Literally has the brain of an ape

I should have kept reading the replies in that thread:

I try but I keep getting horny man, doesn't help that:

My fetish isn't NSFW at all since it's about people growing up/improving themselves (stuff like working out), so I don't even need porn to get horny, like one of the most common things I jerk off to is just imagining Tomoko Kuroki from Watamote properly maturing in her uni years by having a proper sleep schedule (which got rid of her dark eye bags in my headcanon/"sexual" fantasy) and exercising for once by joining her uni's track & field team (because in the comics she's shown to be surprisingly decent at marathons even tho she doesn't realize it), which finally allowed her body to properly mature (because in my headcanon she has delayed puberty, since like she's supposed to be 15-17 but she hasn't grown at all from her middle school even as the story progresses through her high school years, and she hasn't experienced a period either)

Wait, I mean I shouldn't have kept reading the replies in that thread.

"What gets me horny is people improving themselves"

*Proceeds to talk about an underage fictional characters period*

[HaughtyFrank]

User Banned (2 weeks): sexist dogwhistles

Her criticism has Merritt, but Anita has a habit throughout her career to make it about her and not necessarily about the movement. And I know about the ungodly amount of harassment she gets, death threats. Which no one should go through or experience.

But I would argue if she was more part of a panel of representatives for the movement. It would not be all directed to singular person who tweets about the issue to bring levity to it.

IV seen her at panels, she comes off sometimes as a bully, and self-righteous. Gets to be on Colbert, gets tons of attention. Instead of the movement or group that she represents.

And that's my issue with how she comes off when talking about certain topics.

She makes it about her.

this is my new favorite meme, other than the PTSD the mods all have

This is enough to get someone banned and yet they whine about rampant sexism being everywhere 

[benjipwns]

Unfortunate that Amir0x is already back in the pokey, he could have tried "in my headcanon she has delayed puberty" this time.

[nudemacusers]

Who, while in the throes of wild onanistic passion, doesn’t think of 15 year olds working out, getting enough rest, and conveniently aging just enough to be legal, before they spurt a meager load on their stomach and pass out.

Lmao a mod removed “inappropriate content”. Why not ban the creepy pervoid.

Edit: I spoke too soon.  Let’s see the duration pending 

[TVC15]

onision?

[Cauliflower Of Love]

So because it can be used to set a precedent in lesser crimes, something as simple as a password can't be retrieved by someone committing one of societys most agregious crimes? That sounds completely nonsensical. When the government finally decides to erradicate our rights it will happen with or without this case being used as an example.

Makes sense to me. #KamalaHarrisForThePeople

I can't tell if they are for authoritarianism or anarchism.

[benjipwns]

Another member of a marginalized sexual orientation being SILENCED by the ResetERA.com moderators.

User banned (duration pending): Admitting to sexual fantasies based on depiction of minors

[nachobro]

wanting to fuck kids isn't against the rules, just admitting to it

[benjipwns]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/how-is-everyone’s-mental-health.155084/

Pretty much everyone on Era has poor mental health every time it’s asked.

Many people here don’t seem to even know where to start or the basic differences between psychiatrists vs counselors vs psychologists.

Someone should probably make some kind of “First Timer’s Guide to Mental Health.” I would do it but I don’t really have time or the desire.

This is Ketkat erasure!

[TVC15]

Freakzilla taking advantage of Nepenthe’s absence to claim the crown of Dumbest Resetterer

[Cauliflower Of Love]

Freakzilla taking advantage of Nepenthe’s absence to claim the crown of Dumbest Resetterer

This is good stuff.

[Tripon]

WTF.

[TVC15]

I’d be an authoritarian as monarch, but I’d own it. Most of you would probably have been killed after a single sexual encounter to ensure my many bedroom peccadilloes don’t reach public ears.

[Hermit]

These woke individuals saying a volunteer forum moderator position being the hardest thing they've ever done is wild to me.

[Tripon]

These woke individuals saying a volunteer forum moderator position being the hardest thing they've ever done is wild to me.

If it's so hard and it's a business, honestly they should get paid. Cerium fucking making out like a bandit.

But modding a website isn't the hardest thing in the world.

[team filler]

[nudemacusers]

[Hermit]

You have been banned for the following reason: User Banned (2 weeks): Persistent hostility towards moderation staff, inflammatory comparison - Your next ban for this behaviour will be permanent. Your ban will be lifted on Dec 8, 2019 at 7:00 PM.

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[thisismyusername]

2 weeks and a perm warning is a cowards move.

PERMA HIM. DO IT YOU COWARDS.

[nachobro]

this dumbass made yet another star wars thread cause he continues to be asspained at RLM making fun of the movie
https://www.resetera.com/threads/setting-the-record-straight-the-message-of-the-last-jedi-was-not-let-the-past-die.155086/

and then crossing eden shows up to point out that ACTUALLY I WAS ASSPAINED FIRST
https://www.resetera.com/threads/setting-the-record-straight-the-message-of-the-last-jedi-was-not-let-the-past-die.155086/post-26792961

[GreatSageEqualOfHeaven]

I'd feel kind of bad if our shittalking did this to nepenthe, but instead it was the alphabet gang that broke her

I'm not gonna feel 'sorry' for anyone who decides to GTFO of resetera, no matter the reason.
It's probably the smartest thing they could do to measurably improve their life.

[Ghoul]

https://twitter.com/tylerthecreator/status/285670822264307712

Take notes mods.

[Tripon]

I'd feel kind of bad if our shittalking did this to nepenthe, but instead it was the alphabet gang that broke her

I'm not gonna feel 'sorry' for anyone who decides to GTFO of resetera, no matter the reason.
It's probably the smartest thing they could do to measurably improve their life.

I just come back to if the mods applied their own rules fairly and of they don't have protected users, a banned list they refused to write down or a million other BS things Ree does on a daily basis, the mods and moderation would be clear cut and maybe it wouldn't weigh on them so heavily that their protected groups wouldn't look to fucking burn suspected witches on the stake because they know they can make it happen.

[Ghoul]

You have been banned for the following reason: User Banned (2 weeks): Persistent hostility towards moderation staff, inflammatory comparison - Your next ban for this behaviour will be permanent. Your ban will be lifted on Dec 8, 2019 at 7:00 PM.

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What was the post though? Don't make me go to a hate site and look you up.

[Cauliflower Of Love]

You have been banned for the following reason: User Banned (2 weeks): Persistent hostility towards moderation staff, inflammatory comparison - Your next ban for this behaviour will be permanent. Your ban will be lifted on Dec 8, 2019 at 7:00 PM.

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[GreatSageEqualOfHeaven]

I'd feel kind of bad if our shittalking did this to nepenthe, but instead it was the alphabet gang that broke her

I'm not gonna feel 'sorry' for anyone who decides to GTFO of resetera, no matter the reason.
It's probably the smartest thing they could do to measurably improve their life.

I just come back to if the mods applied their own rules fairly and of they don't have protected users, a banned list they refused to write down or a million other BS things Ree does on a daily basis, the mods and moderation would be clear cut and maybe it wouldn't weigh on them so heavily that their protected groups wouldn't look to fucking burn suspected witches on the stake because they know they can make it happen.

Well, yeah, have a list of fucking rules visible to posters, and then ban the people who break those rules is how most mods on most forums function, and they manage to do so without getting so much cognitive dissonance about how to justify bending the rules that some protected asshole is violently shitting all over because some other mod declared them as member of their tribe that they're fucking self harming over it.

But then just being a fucking forum janitor minus the drama doesn;t let you play the victim card I guess

[nachobro]

Kyuuji ran into an issue where a thread wasn't about them enough so they had to word vomit all over it to make sure they got more attention

Ok, if this is the routine for the thread let's stop referring to the past few weeks as "drama" or an "issue" that others have had to put up with, because it seems it's too detached for 99% of the forum to appreciate we're talking about human beings there as well.

-- -- -- -- --
Note: This isn't aimed at the staff posts or staff / ex-staff. Staff have every right to post and express their thoughts and I'm glad they do. Part of healing this divide is diminishing the perceived wall between us. More will be coming out soon but in the background TransEra x staff communication is positive. Things have happened recently and elements are coming soon that will start to make the trans community feel better and repair the divide. It's warming to see, and something that everyone is keen to ensure is afforded to, and works for, the broader minority groups on the forum too. Going through the past few months is something I would rather not experience again. The past fortnight one staff would rather not as well. We're working to achieve that.
-- -- -- -- --

Warning: This will come across frustrated, because it is built upon a largely-unvoiced frustration by the community.
It will cover things that are now being resolved, because the context is important.

This is at those on the forum that can't resist throwing a shot at the past couple of weeks as being something overblown – the same shit these entire events aim to address. The concern trolls that think they're smart for playing at the child's table without considering the possibility that the adults have been discussing at the dinner table, and the side they think they're on doesn't actually exist.

So, I'll kindly ask you to step outside of whatever wank-group you've gathered around the lunchbox digestives and realise that the 'mob' (or similar) you refer to are people and that half the dumb shit you want to ask you wouldn't have the spine to do so to a group of trans people in real life. I've heard reams about how people can't talk about sensitive issues now because they've been asked to show a degree of tact or consideration before doing so. Pages of it. How do you think that sits - hearing endless whines about how difficult it is to show the most minimal veneer of respect to us as people?

Mental tolls?

How about going months with threads about yourself, your identity and your issues being the least approachable place to go. That in order to engage on a topic that matters to you, you're forced to ensure an unending latrine of being mocked, insulted or dismissed until you tapped out or the thread died. That if you didn't, there's going to be transphobic bile covering the walls and ceilings of the thread like that's supposed to be the norm.

That you operate between not being able to release that frustration for fear of being banned, and not wanting to be banned because then the people that literally track and harass LGBTQ+ members of the forum might descend like wolves to laugh at you on every other medium you frequent. Better to shut the fuck up and put up with the abuse here and keep quiet than deal with that.

How about the people who face transphobic abuse at home, at school and come on to find more here?

Oh, a week? How about months.

Page 1: Discussion about or highlighting of issues
Page 2: Validate yourself and your concern to people mocking and dismissing
Page 3: Validate yourself and your concern to people mocking and dismissing
Page 4: Validate yourself and your concern to people mocking and dismissing
Page 5: Validate yourself and your concern to people mocking and dismissing
Page 6: Validate yourself and your concern to people mocking and dismissing
etc.

Every fucking thread.

Some cisgender personality tells the non-binary community they're not worth apologising to before throwing out a transphobic joke and the thread is bursting at the seams with cis people telling us how to feel about it. People in there saying we're "too sensitive" about transphobia being normalised catching a warning while trans people are under the fucking ground because the notion of gender identity is still something to be mocked and rejected.

Then when after those months the staff finally draw focus to it?
50%: Boilerplate "transphobia is bad"
50%: This has made the moderators feel bad, please think about them.
0%: Acknowledgement of the mental toll taken by the trans community through the months, nothing even about the months.

How do you think it feels that when a months-long issue is finally highlighted it's immediately put upon you to feel bad for showing discontent? That despite it having been a growing issue over time with no intervention, we should feel bad for shouting loud enough that it finally got people to notice. Not the months of ignoring a festering situation, no us for finally reaching breaking point with it.

This isn't some shitty The Last Jedi drama that might be the most significant thing that impacts you here, it was a serious concern that after a lot of time, pain and hurt is being addressed. Why some of you think you're being smart by trying to sidle up to the mods with the "psh these guys, right?" attitude and think it's going to afford you warmth from either side I don't know.

Want to speak of people dropping out?

Moderators step down for wholly understandable reasons and they can post here, receive warranted affection for the work and commitment put into the community and (hopefully) start leaving most of the stress behind them. That's how it should be.

I want to talk about the trans people who left the forum feeling shit at best and thinking themselves unnatural at worst. The members here that now only feel comfortable talking about trans topics -- topics about them-fucking-selves -- in Discord and will ignore trans related topics on the forum because they don't have the stamina to run the gauntlet every time. The trans people for whom this forum was the only place they feel valid while facing abuse at home or work, them being forced further into the dark.

People not so concerned about them on the whole though. Just eye-rolled as "drama" or not even entered as a thought into the mind.

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The past few months have been difficult. Not the past week.

It is a situation that needed to come to the fore. It having impacted staff negatively is shit. I don't enjoy that. Delphine is one of my favourite people on the forum because all of her posts exude warmth, and topics with her in are some of the most joyous I've been a part of. I think she's an exemplary mod. I hate that she felt shit. I know for a fact she hates that I felt shit. No one wants to feel like shit, yet through the resulting mess many were made to feel so.

The moderators acknowledge all of this and are working with us to create a better environment for trans people and minorities in general. I just wish more people here would, instead of suggesting we've been a nuisance or doing so infringes too much on their right to post bluntly and without consideration.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-just-want-to-say-thank-you-to-the-moderation-staff.155006/post-26801956

[nudemacusers]

Kyuuji ran into an issue where a thread wasn't about them enough so they had to word vomit all over it to make sure they got more attention

Ok, if this is the routine for the thread let's stop referring to the past few weeks as "drama" or an "issue" that others have had to put up with, because it seems it's too detached for 99% of the forum to appreciate we're talking about human beings there as well.

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Note: This isn't aimed at the staff posts or staff / ex-staff. Staff have every right to post and express their thoughts and I'm glad they do. Part of healing this divide is diminishing the perceived wall between us. More will be coming out soon but in the background TransEra x staff communication is positive. Things have happened recently and elements are coming soon that will start to make the trans community feel better and repair the divide. It's warming to see, and something that everyone is keen to ensure is afforded to, and works for, the broader minority groups on the forum too. Going through the past few months is something I would rather not experience again. The past fortnight one staff would rather not as well. We're working to achieve that.
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Warning: This will come across frustrated, because it is built upon a largely-unvoiced frustration by the community.
It will cover things that are now being resolved, because the context is important.

This is at those on the forum that can't resist throwing a shot at the past couple of weeks as being something overblown – the same shit these entire events aim to address. The concern trolls that think they're smart for playing at the child's table without considering the possibility that the adults have been discussing at the dinner table, and the side they think they're on doesn't actually exist.

So, I'll kindly ask you to step outside of whatever wank-group you've gathered around the lunchbox digestives and realise that the 'mob' (or similar) you refer to are people and that half the dumb shit you want to ask you wouldn't have the spine to do so to a group of trans people in real life. I've heard reams about how people can't talk about sensitive issues now because they've been asked to show a degree of tact or consideration before doing so. Pages of it. How do you think that sits - hearing endless whines about how difficult it is to show the most minimal veneer of respect to us as people?

Mental tolls?

How about going months with threads about yourself, your identity and your issues being the least approachable place to go. That in order to engage on a topic that matters to you, you're forced to ensure an unending latrine of being mocked, insulted or dismissed until you tapped out or the thread died. That if you didn't, there's going to be transphobic bile covering the walls and ceilings of the thread like that's supposed to be the norm.

That you operate between not being able to release that frustration for fear of being banned, and not wanting to be banned because then the people that literally track and harass LGBTQ+ members of the forum might descend like wolves to laugh at you on every other medium you frequent. Better to shut the fuck up and put up with the abuse here and keep quiet than deal with that.

How about the people who face transphobic abuse at home, at school and come on to find more here?

Oh, a week? How about months.

Page 1: Discussion about or highlighting of issues
Page 2: Validate yourself and your concern to people mocking and dismissing
Page 3: Validate yourself and your concern to people mocking and dismissing
Page 4: Validate yourself and your concern to people mocking and dismissing
Page 5: Validate yourself and your concern to people mocking and dismissing
Page 6: Validate yourself and your concern to people mocking and dismissing
etc.

Every fucking thread.

Some cisgender personality tells the non-binary community they're not worth apologising to before throwing out a transphobic joke and the thread is bursting at the seams with cis people telling us how to feel about it. People in there saying we're "too sensitive" about transphobia being normalised catching a warning while trans people are under the fucking ground because the notion of gender identity is still something to be mocked and rejected.

Then when after those months the staff finally draw focus to it?
50%: Boilerplate "transphobia is bad"
50%: This has made the moderators feel bad, please think about them.
0%: Acknowledgement of the mental toll taken by the trans community through the months, nothing even about the months.

How do you think it feels that when a months-long issue is finally highlighted it's immediately put upon you to feel bad for showing discontent? That despite it having been a growing issue over time with no intervention, we should feel bad for shouting loud enough that it finally got people to notice. Not the months of ignoring a festering situation, no us for finally reaching breaking point with it.

This isn't some shitty The Last Jedi drama that might be the most significant thing that impacts you here, it was a serious concern that after a lot of time, pain and hurt is being addressed. Why some of you think you're being smart by trying to sidle up to the mods with the "psh these guys, right?" attitude and think it's going to afford you warmth from either side I don't know.

Want to speak of people dropping out?

Moderators step down for wholly understandable reasons and they can post here, receive warranted affection for the work and commitment put into the community and (hopefully) start leaving most of the stress behind them. That's how it should be.

I want to talk about the trans people who left the forum feeling shit at best and thinking themselves unnatural at worst. The members here that now only feel comfortable talking about trans topics -- topics about them-fucking-selves -- in Discord and will ignore trans related topics on the forum because they don't have the stamina to run the gauntlet every time. The trans people for whom this forum was the only place they feel valid while facing abuse at home or work, them being forced further into the dark.

People not so concerned about them on the whole though. Just eye-rolled as "drama" or not even entered as a thought into the mind.

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The past few months have been difficult. Not the past week.

It is a situation that needed to come to the fore. It having impacted staff negatively is shit. I don't enjoy that. Delphine is one of my favourite people on the forum because all of her posts exude warmth, and topics with her in are some of the most joyous I've been a part of. I think she's an exemplary mod. I hate that she felt shit. I know for a fact she hates that I felt shit. No one wants to feel like shit, yet through the resulting mess many were made to feel so.

The moderators acknowledge all of this and are working with us to create a better environment for trans people and minorities in general. I just wish more people here would, instead of suggesting we've been a nuisance or doing so infringes too much on their right to post bluntly and without consideration.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-just-want-to-say-thank-you-to-the-moderation-staff.155006/post-26801956

Tldr

[GreatSageEqualOfHeaven]

era mods:
"Now how can I overlook obvious thread shitting from what I'm told is 'a good poster' oooooohhhhhhhh here comes my stress migraine again"