You remind me of a friend I just unfollowed on Facebook.
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https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-left-my-husband-went-to-nyc-for-five-days-and-pretty-much-ruined-my-life.296237/QuoteThis will be the last thread I make here since I requested a permaban earlier because being on message boards is making me miserable but I’ll continue to post replies as long as I can or until my flight leaves or whatever.I split up with my husband recently, we had been together for eight years and married for three. While our togetherness was good, we were essentially roommates and did not have a physical relationship at all. He was unhappy with it, I was unhappy with it, but we simply weren’t attracted to each other very much these days. I am a very emotionally responsive person and have some attachment issues along with a history of depression, anxiety, and self-destructive behaviors.The 36 years before my husband I was very lonely and I was lonely again for at least the past year or two. I needed someone to need me, to rely on me, to want me. So when this guy on Instagram contacted me about a month ago, we quickly began to talk everyday. I felt sick even doing this, but couldn’t stop myself from continuing. After a couple weeks I confessed to my husband that I was getting emotionally attached to this person, and he told me that if it had been a simple instance of cheating then he could’ve gotten past it, but having such strong emotion already was an obvious indicator that I wanted to be with this person — and i did. We went for days without speaking to each other, and living in the apartment like this was awkward. Later we’d have additional conversations, tearful ones, about where do we go from here. This isn’t a bitter split, there’s no real anger involved, just sadness and disappointment.I would then decide to take a trip to NYC to see my friend? Hook-up? Crush? Who knows. I didn’t care that we’re in a pandemic, I wanted to feel loved. I got a covid test the day before leaving (negative) just to be vaguely cautious. We met up the first afternoon and I bought him some expensive things at a vintage store. He was elated and so sweet. We had lunch, we would uber around the city sightseeing and shopping. I always paid. Why? It felt good to make him happy. At the end of the day, he fell asleep immediately after falling onto the bed at my hotel.We’d had a very busy day and I totally understood it... I was immensely content just being there with him quietly resting next to me. His phone began to ring over and over: his female roommate was having some crisis, he had to go. I paid for an enormous uber bill to get him there. He texted me later to say that he was upset I hadn’t been more supportive about helping her, and that maybe I didn’t really want to be with him after all. I would apologize profusely and try to fix the dumb mess I inadvertently made. He was fine the next morning and we went out shopping again; it would take a bigger effort to keep him happy after our little tiff. I spent a lot of money on that second day.On the third day, I spent more. I couldn’t say no to anything he asked for, I wasn’t capable and he wasn’t about to accept that answer regardless. He would have salesclerks ring up things without telling me, and to avoid an embarrassing scene or argument, I would sigh and pull out my credit card. I kissed him only twice after we had dinner and drinks at Rockefeller Center. I was beaming... if i could ignore all the spending that was eating away at me. He had to go to his sister’s birthday so we couldn’t stay together once again. I was pretty sad about it, but there was one more night and we both promised it would happen this time.Day four, more gifts. Why was i being so foolish? I knew it was a scam, that I was being used, and yet I couldn’t help myself. It still felt good seeing him light up and hug me after every purchase. “Thank you sooo much, Dad.” He knew I didn’t like being called that, but it still struck me as kind of cute. I played along. We went for drinks again, and the waiter was flirting with him. He joked about giving the waiter his Snapchat, and I made some silly comment about kicking his ass of he did. We laughed, but as we got up to leave, he changed into someone else. I apparently had said something similar to what an abusive ex used to say to him, and he was now convinced I was a violent person. He didn’t want to see me again, he’s sobbing, I had betrayed his trust. I went home to the hotel alone and hated myself. Hated that i was allowing someone to use me, take advantage of my good nature, and hating that I still wanted to be with him so badly.Today, the last day I would be in NY, we made up over breakfast (guess who paid?) and he insisted that we shop again to make up for the “damage” i had done. I just quietly walked with him from store to store, furious with myself and loving the attention he gave me as the bags piled up. There was a street photographer who wanted to take our picture. My toxic friend looks like a young French actor in the Polaroid. He’s stunning. I was to pay the man $20 for the photo, but I didn’t have cash. Daaad, go to the atm! I ask why he can’t pay just this once. We argue, I storm away to get cash. Upon returning, my friend is gone. The photographer tells me he had gotten scared of my “temper” and left. Frantically calling and texting, he finally responds: “Come to [store name] and I’ll forgive you for embarrassing me like that.” I have to leave for the airport soon, but I go anyway because I’m shattered at the idea of losing him once and for all. We meet up finally and he makes me spend over $1,000 on vintage clothes before silently walking away with his prizes. I remind myself that I’m now financially ruined after nearly an entire week of indulgence on someone that despises me. I think about walking in front of a city bus but the traffic is bad enough that nothing is moving fast enough to even injure me. I run to catch up with him, we barely speak, he demands I get an Uber to take him home. When it arrives, he gets in and leaves me standing there (now late for the airport). Some time later, my only ridiculous instinct is to text him that it was heartbreaking not being able to say goodbye. What is wrong with me?! He only replies that the damage is done.I’m on a plane back to LA now, wondering how I ever arrived in this situation. It’s ludicrous. I’ve mocked others dense enough to fall for similar traps, that would never be me I told myself. I’m too smart!All I wanted was to be loved. And if he calls me tomorrow, I’m probably sick enough to apologize again and try to repair “what we had.” I only needed him to need me. I’m fucked in the head. QuoteYeah, this was clearly a skilled and manipulative con artist - he's no doubt done this to others before
This will be the last thread I make here since I requested a permaban earlier because being on message boards is making me miserable but I’ll continue to post replies as long as I can or until my flight leaves or whatever.I split up with my husband recently, we had been together for eight years and married for three. While our togetherness was good, we were essentially roommates and did not have a physical relationship at all. He was unhappy with it, I was unhappy with it, but we simply weren’t attracted to each other very much these days. I am a very emotionally responsive person and have some attachment issues along with a history of depression, anxiety, and self-destructive behaviors.The 36 years before my husband I was very lonely and I was lonely again for at least the past year or two. I needed someone to need me, to rely on me, to want me. So when this guy on Instagram contacted me about a month ago, we quickly began to talk everyday. I felt sick even doing this, but couldn’t stop myself from continuing. After a couple weeks I confessed to my husband that I was getting emotionally attached to this person, and he told me that if it had been a simple instance of cheating then he could’ve gotten past it, but having such strong emotion already was an obvious indicator that I wanted to be with this person — and i did. We went for days without speaking to each other, and living in the apartment like this was awkward. Later we’d have additional conversations, tearful ones, about where do we go from here. This isn’t a bitter split, there’s no real anger involved, just sadness and disappointment.I would then decide to take a trip to NYC to see my friend? Hook-up? Crush? Who knows. I didn’t care that we’re in a pandemic, I wanted to feel loved. I got a covid test the day before leaving (negative) just to be vaguely cautious. We met up the first afternoon and I bought him some expensive things at a vintage store. He was elated and so sweet. We had lunch, we would uber around the city sightseeing and shopping. I always paid. Why? It felt good to make him happy. At the end of the day, he fell asleep immediately after falling onto the bed at my hotel.We’d had a very busy day and I totally understood it... I was immensely content just being there with him quietly resting next to me. His phone began to ring over and over: his female roommate was having some crisis, he had to go. I paid for an enormous uber bill to get him there. He texted me later to say that he was upset I hadn’t been more supportive about helping her, and that maybe I didn’t really want to be with him after all. I would apologize profusely and try to fix the dumb mess I inadvertently made. He was fine the next morning and we went out shopping again; it would take a bigger effort to keep him happy after our little tiff. I spent a lot of money on that second day.On the third day, I spent more. I couldn’t say no to anything he asked for, I wasn’t capable and he wasn’t about to accept that answer regardless. He would have salesclerks ring up things without telling me, and to avoid an embarrassing scene or argument, I would sigh and pull out my credit card. I kissed him only twice after we had dinner and drinks at Rockefeller Center. I was beaming... if i could ignore all the spending that was eating away at me. He had to go to his sister’s birthday so we couldn’t stay together once again. I was pretty sad about it, but there was one more night and we both promised it would happen this time.Day four, more gifts. Why was i being so foolish? I knew it was a scam, that I was being used, and yet I couldn’t help myself. It still felt good seeing him light up and hug me after every purchase. “Thank you sooo much, Dad.” He knew I didn’t like being called that, but it still struck me as kind of cute. I played along. We went for drinks again, and the waiter was flirting with him. He joked about giving the waiter his Snapchat, and I made some silly comment about kicking his ass of he did. We laughed, but as we got up to leave, he changed into someone else. I apparently had said something similar to what an abusive ex used to say to him, and he was now convinced I was a violent person. He didn’t want to see me again, he’s sobbing, I had betrayed his trust. I went home to the hotel alone and hated myself. Hated that i was allowing someone to use me, take advantage of my good nature, and hating that I still wanted to be with him so badly.Today, the last day I would be in NY, we made up over breakfast (guess who paid?) and he insisted that we shop again to make up for the “damage” i had done. I just quietly walked with him from store to store, furious with myself and loving the attention he gave me as the bags piled up. There was a street photographer who wanted to take our picture. My toxic friend looks like a young French actor in the Polaroid. He’s stunning. I was to pay the man $20 for the photo, but I didn’t have cash. Daaad, go to the atm! I ask why he can’t pay just this once. We argue, I storm away to get cash. Upon returning, my friend is gone. The photographer tells me he had gotten scared of my “temper” and left. Frantically calling and texting, he finally responds: “Come to [store name] and I’ll forgive you for embarrassing me like that.” I have to leave for the airport soon, but I go anyway because I’m shattered at the idea of losing him once and for all. We meet up finally and he makes me spend over $1,000 on vintage clothes before silently walking away with his prizes. I remind myself that I’m now financially ruined after nearly an entire week of indulgence on someone that despises me. I think about walking in front of a city bus but the traffic is bad enough that nothing is moving fast enough to even injure me. I run to catch up with him, we barely speak, he demands I get an Uber to take him home. When it arrives, he gets in and leaves me standing there (now late for the airport). Some time later, my only ridiculous instinct is to text him that it was heartbreaking not being able to say goodbye. What is wrong with me?! He only replies that the damage is done.I’m on a plane back to LA now, wondering how I ever arrived in this situation. It’s ludicrous. I’ve mocked others dense enough to fall for similar traps, that would never be me I told myself. I’m too smart!All I wanted was to be loved. And if he calls me tomorrow, I’m probably sick enough to apologize again and try to repair “what we had.” I only needed him to need me. I’m fucked in the head.
Yeah, this was clearly a skilled and manipulative con artist - he's no doubt done this to others before
I don't owe you or anyone else any explanation, least of all people who are only out to tear others down.
as someone with a Secret he wouldn't even get Confidentiallike straight up if he was just Some Dude and actually had to apply for one, his SF-86 would get laughed out of the goddamn OPM
(Image removed from quote.)View count is currently approximate to my spending Sept. 23-27, for those looking for a specific figure 🥺😳🤬
Would I be wrong in saying that Bethesda games more align with Xbox anyways so this isn't a great loss for Playstation owners? Idk their IPs never never did anything for me.
The struggle against reality continuesQuoteWould I be wrong in saying that Bethesda games more align with Xbox anyways so this isn't a great loss for Playstation owners? Idk their IPs never never did anything for me.
Why? Most of Era is from NA and the UK, so they used a 360 as their primary console for most of the seventh gen. They're not Xboxphobes. The only reason people turned away from Xbox was due to MS' eighth gen anti-consumer stuff, lack of exclusives, Kinect madness, and the fact that gaming PC ownership was on the rise. PC ownership is still a factor that dissuades people from buying an Xbox, but all the other issues have been addressed as we go into the next generation - particularly due to the acquisition of Bethesda.
Quote from: Cosmic Bus, post: 46923998, member: 13548(Image removed from quote.)View count is currently approximate to my spending Sept. 23-27, for those looking for a specific figure 🥺😳🤬My dude spent $15k+ on some cool young dude slut and didn’t even get a whiff of dat boi pussy
Quote from: BIONIC on September 28, 2020, 06:23:58 AMQuote from: Cosmic Bus, post: 46923998, member: 13548(Image removed from quote.)View count is currently approximate to my spending Sept. 23-27, for those looking for a specific figure 🥺😳🤬My dude spent $15k+ on some cool young dude slut and didn’t even get a whiff of dat boi pussy and I couldn't even get a single old saudi oil guy to buy me a drink in bahrain 😤
A 41 year old grown ass man was conned by some rando on IG to fly across the country and spend thousands on him. I feel bad for his ex, who he was still apparently married to during all of this. Absolutely no sympathy for Cosmic. Dude uses his awful mental state as a crutch or excuse for all of this.
Quote from: Hermit on September 28, 2020, 08:31:59 AMA 41 year old grown ass man was conned by some rando on IG to fly across the country and spend thousands on him. I feel bad for his ex, who he was still apparently married to during all of this. Absolutely no sympathy for Cosmic. Dude uses his awful mental state as a crutch or excuse for all of this.There are multiple people in that thread saying how they met him in person. Apparently if you say “Cosmic Bus” three times in front of a mirror, he shows up at your nearest airport.
isn't that just normal gay community talk esp in the context of sugar daddiesit's not mockery
Yeah, mac buys stuff for people that call him dad all the time.
Who are any of those people and who cares?
Trend deez nuts.
What a joke.
Would be nice to know why there's a delay considering the history of the series.
Not cool
March and digital-only free upgrade? Fuck you Sega.
Fuck Sega, I hope series dies again in west.
Bleh :/ Timed exclusive next-gen version is some real shit.
Digital upgrade only? Wow what a joke
Good thing that MS doesn't do timed exclusives,huh?
Wow im sorry but loyal Playstation Yakuza fans got royally screwed.
"Thanks for supporting the franchise for it's entire lifespan, now eat shit!"
https://www.resetera.com/threads/yakuza-7-will-release-on-march-2nd-on-ps5-free-upgrade-for-ps4-digital-owners.296468/QuoteWhat a joke.QuoteWould be nice to know why there's a delay considering the history of the series.QuoteNot coolQuoteMarch and digital-only free upgrade? Fuck you Sega.QuoteFuck Sega, I hope series dies again in west.QuoteBleh :/ Timed exclusive next-gen version is some real shit.QuoteDigital upgrade only? Wow what a jokeQuoteGood thing that MS doesn't do timed exclusives,huh?QuoteWow im sorry but loyal Playstation Yakuza fans got royally screwed.Quote"Thanks for supporting the franchise for it's entire lifespan, now eat shit!"MICROSOFT!!!(Image removed from quote.)But it's OK when Sony does it!
Quote from: https://www.resetera.com/threads/us-poliera-2020-ot8-do-it-for-her.293636/post-46917734as someone with a Secret he wouldn't even get Confidentiallike straight up if he was just Some Dude and actually had to apply for one, his SF-86 would get laughed out of the goddamn OPMGot him !
every time someone points out Trump's debts from the tax returns story I get about 1% more pissed off that someone this fucking compromised got access to all that classified information
https://www.resetera.com/threads/whats-the-point-of-life-if-if-never-gets-better.296654/Daily suicide thread.
I'm just resentful and bitter of life itself at this point, as well as sick of anyone who insists "it gets better". I've seen less horseshit out of Donald Trump.
I'd say it's more rational to expect Trump to be a decent president than to expect something in my life to be worth existing for.
https://www.resetera.com/threads/yakuza-7-will-release-on-march-2nd-on-ps5-free-upgrade-for-ps4-digital-owners.296468/
(Image removed from quote.)https://twitter.com/TSM_Leffen/status/1310482233170579456 spoiler (click to show/hide)Leffen parody account on 9/14:[close]
QuoteI havent been without my wife since Highschool so I cant help you on how to find another person but you have to put yourself out there to try.You wont find another by doing nothing.Been trying for years. I've failed enough times to realize that it's never going to happen, and i'd have to be fucking retarded to pretend that there's someone out there desperate enough for me.
I havent been without my wife since Highschool so I cant help you on how to find another person but you have to put yourself out there to try.You wont find another by doing nothing.
Meanwhile, the next Final Fantasy as of now will be PlayStation exclusive and they predictably don't mind it at all. At least the Yakuza game is still coming to Playstation.
Wow, I never realized how conservative this place was. Huh.No kid is going to be scarred for life because he saw someone with tattoos, especially if they'll get to know them. Yes, maybe they'll be scared at the beginning - but they can also get over it and realize people can look different in a variety of ways and there's no reason to be afraid of someone just because he has tattoos.
https://www.resetera.com/threads/whats-the-point-of-life-if-if-never-gets-better.296654/#post-46976042QuoteQuoteI havent been without my wife since Highschool so I cant help you on how to find another person but you have to put yourself out there to try.You wont find another by doing nothing.Been trying for years. I've failed enough times to realize that it's never going to happen, and i'd have to be fucking retarded to pretend that there's someone out there desperate enough for me.Well not with that sort of talk
QuoteHmmm I remember lots of Bernie Bros back then on this forum refused to vote for Hillary, probably things changed now?Also there were lots of people in the primary saying that if Biden was the nominee they would'nt vote.There was a lot, but wasn't GAF also literally one of the top 10 referrer sites for Clinton?
Hmmm I remember lots of Bernie Bros back then on this forum refused to vote for Hillary, probably things changed now?Also there were lots of people in the primary saying that if Biden was the nominee they would'nt vote.
Quote from: MidrambleWait, is this "the middle is a wonderful place to be" boogie?That is the one, the only, boogie1488
Wait, is this "the middle is a wonderful place to be" boogie?
I'm so damn glad people are not taking shit from Trump supporters anymore. Enough is enough. Anyone supporting Trump can get the hell out of my life. They can stop posting on Era. They can stop buying the same video games I do. Everyone with any thought needs to realize how much of a shit hole Trump is. Any remaining followers of his are mindless. I'm very glad Cory spoke up here. I strongly suggest everyone does. We're a country divided but it's best we weed out the filth. I'm not about trying to even attempt to convince Trump supporters anymore. They're a lost cause.
Quote from: ShutUp on September 28, 2020, 03:38:39 PMMeanwhile, the next Final Fantasy as of now will be PlayStation exclusive and they predictably don't mind it at all. At least the Yakuza game is still coming to Playstation. the next gen version has been money hatted for a whopping 3 months Usually it’s a year or 6 months at least, ponies should be celebrating
asain era feedback thread didn't have staff replying in it for weeks before it was locked and hidden away in the archive but like ten members of staff had time to post in this thread within an hour of it being postedmakes you think
Quote from: https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-just-wanna-say-i-love-you-fuckers.296318/post-46933037asain era feedback thread didn't have staff replying in it for weeks before it was locked and hidden away in the archive but like ten members of staff had time to post in this thread within an hour of it being postedmakes you thinkUser banned (permanent): Derailing a lighthearted thread with unprovoked and persistent hostility over multiple posts. Multiple recent bans for trolling and hostility to other members.
Eddie Redmayne says that he's upset by all the abuse thrown against trans people but also by the vitriol against RowlingRE: Fucking get him!https://www.resetera.com/threads/eddie-redmayne-cis-actor-who-played-trans-character-in-2015-says-online-vitriol-aimed-at-j-k-rowling-is-absolutely-disgusting.296933/post-47006915Edit: And get that fucking Stephen King too!https://www.resetera.com/threads/terf-jk-rowling-continues-to-be-a-hateful-bigot.221245/post-46992299
The tide seems to be turning in her favour and its pissing me right off.
