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[Joe Molotov]

Walt Disney bought a piece of meat covered in metal shavings once from a gay butcher, you’re probably too busy not washing your feet to try to understand.

[joeboy101]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/wait-not-everyone-washes-and-dries-their-meat-before-seasoning.558760/page-13#post-83080768

User Banned (Permanent): Hostility and trolling; prior infraction for Insensitive Commentary

This thread could have finished after 6 posts and it would have been fine. An incredulous query with non-snarky replies explaining why and some links to evidence.

Instead it carried on into this shitshow. Still, a good point to be made on cultural reasons. Unfortunately, it was a point made by Nepenthe.

No one in this thread is getting banned, or even warned, for anything they post in here. Calm down, Karen.

Welp...

 

[jorma]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/disney-to-still-fund-‘don’t-say-gay’-bill-backers-will-support-gay-rights-with-‘inspiring-content’.559285/

I’m sure they’ll give Disney the CDPR treatment over this. Any minute now. 

They're actually posting the  comic to defend giving disney a pass 

How dare they suggest people should do something that takes more effort than shouting "fuck disney" into the void! I'm so tired from all the shouting i almost didn't have the energy to fury-press the "report" button!

[benjipwns]

User Banned (1 Month): Dismissing Concerns of Transphobia; Back Seat Moderation

I'm not a mod and I'm not policing what people can post here but... I think it is a bad look to dogpile someone for taking a potshot at CDPR, even if it is unrelated to this topic. What CDPR is doing here is a good thing (that others have done and hopefully more will do too), but this company has done a number of questionable things in the past and I don't see how doing something good now means that they're suddenly beyond reproach.

In no way do I defend CDPR when I say this but I think we should do one of two things....ban CDPR talk altogether or stop derailing threads about CDPR that have nothing to do with their well known past issues. Not allow talk about them and allow thread derail just because it's CDPR imo.

User Banned (2 Weeks): Dismissing Concerns of Transphobia

Good for them, sadly drive by post gonna derail this thread into something else, when it's clearly about the invasion, not some toy.

User Banned (1 Month): Dismissing Concerns of Transphobia

I feel like all the people trying to spin this as bad or a PR stunt like, have no awareness of what GoG is and the fact they sell thousands of games.

Try not to make everything about your pet focus.

User Banned (Duration Pending Review): Dismissing Concerns of Transphobia; History of Hostility

Probably best for people not to play their games anyways.

What games are best for me to play, pray tell?

User Banned (2 Weeks): Dismissing Concerns of Transphobia; Metacommentary

Did you miss Texas actively trying to prosecute parents of trans kids? There can be more than one ACTIVE THREAT that can happen and be addressed at the same time.

The war against the people of Ukraine is important, but so is making sure people realize that trans people are also being attacked and criminalized. CDPR has played a role in that, and their protests against Russia doesn't absolute them of that.

None of that has anything at all to do with this thread, there are specific topics on this site for exactly for all of the points you are making.

Just recently an Xbox sales thread was derailed because one of the titles on sale was Cyberpunk, yet oddly the PSN that had the Witcher 3 on sale at the same time was fine?

This company has a track record of doing terrible things, however this specific topic is not the case.

All employees that work at the company or gamers who play their games should not all be painted with the same brush.

It's not a thread derail if it's about the ACTIVE THREAT of CDPR's violent transphobia.

[benjipwns]

User Banned (1 Month): Inflammatory Generalization; Long History of Hostility

We're 32 pages in, did we all come to a consensus yet?

I came to the conclusion that Era is largely ableist and really don’t give a shit about inclusivity and accessibility

[HardcoreRetro]

Are the people whining about an easy mode the entitled gamers we hear so much about?

[D3RANG3D]

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[benjipwns]

Are the people whining about an easy mode the entitled gamers we hear so much about?

No, they are just people who want game companies to institute protections of basic human rights.

[HaughtyFrank]

Did you miss Texas actively trying to prosecute parents of trans kids? There can be more than one ACTIVE THREAT that can happen and be addressed at the same time.

The war against the people of Ukraine is important, but so is making sure people realize that trans people are also being attacked and criminalized. CDPR has played a role in that, and their protests against Russia doesn't absolute them of that.

Imagine thinking CDPR is an active threat 

They've deluded themselves so hard.

The only real lesson from all of this appears to be that including trans characters in your game is truly not worth the trouble

[benjipwns]

Even better is that they think derailing a thread by posting "reminder: CPDR is transphobic garbage and no one should ever interact with them" is "addressing" that ACTIVE THREAT.

[HaughtyFrank]

https://twitter.com/matthewgoldin/status/1499902167284523009

[benjipwns]

https://twitter.com/TravisL89816144/status/1500150333745426437
https://twitter.com/oatmeal_addict/status/1500166752096894980
https://twitter.com/SeaMitten/status/1500158362268409863
 

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https://twitter.com/BatstoneJC/status/1500159013513838593

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[Snoopycat_]

Nazis when they see some animal sporting a HP tatt

[SmokyDave]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/africans-are-being-blocked-from-fleeing-ukraine.557212/page-8#post-83168908

Wanted to post this here to give folks a better scope of how infuriating this whole thing is for anyone black or brown.

www.refinery29.com
Africans In Ukraine: Stories Of War, Anti-Blackness & White Supremacy

Fuck these cracka ass countries. You can't pay me enough to care for what is going on in Ukraine.

Nice community you got there. Healthy, diverse, inclusive, progressive.

[Propagandhim]

You can't pay him enough to leave one of the cracka ass countries he lives in, either

[benjipwns]

ACTIVE THREAT UPDATE:

Cyberpunk 2077's Character Creator Is Still Failing Trans People
BY JADE KING
PUBLISHED 1 DAY AGO
Even after all of the updates it still isn't good enough.

There aren’t many character creators in games that cater well to trans people. Pronoun choice and more diverse voice or appearance options have become increasingly commonplace, but the majority of triple-A titles continually operate from a cisnormative perspective. As someone going through their transition right now, counting on games to provide an experience where I can truly be myself has become a lost cause.

I usually don’t mind this too much. I know I’m a minority in the gaming sphere, and that catering to people like me will often have toxic idiots complaining that games have become too woke, or are changing themselves to appeal to a certain political agenda or overly sensitive demographic. I know that most character creators haven’t considered trans people previously, and I know it doesn’t break the game. But the reality is the world is changing as we move into the future, hoping to become a better place for everyone who exists within it instead of bowing down to an overwhelming mass of straight white cis dudes. Get used to it or get fucked is my mantra, and I’m sticking to it.

That’s why Cyberpunk 2077’s character creator was so disappointing at launch. CD Projekt Red made a huge deal about a world where you could create a futuristic vision of yourself without compromise, inhabiting a body, voice, and personality that was unabashedly you. Amazing - the sort of inclusivity I’d been waiting for. The reality was far more restrictive. You could slap a penis on a female avatar and a vagina on a male one before switching around the voice options, but beyond that the opportunity for gender non-conforming people to express themselves in Night City was minimal. Pronouns were tied to voice, and no they/them option existed at all. While that would be a little disappointing (but not unexpected) for a regular character creator, it’s a major let down in a game that touted itself as having a trans-friendly one.

It wasn’t good enough. A crying shame because some anatomical additions here are rather groundbreaking in some respects. I’ve yet to have bottom surgery, so being able to control a female avatar with male genitalia was initially thrilling, and not something the medium had ever tackled in a mainstream capacity before. It can be a source of dysphoria for many trans people, but being able to own it in Night City and have it become a confident part of your identity that nobody questions in the slightest felt amazing. It’s just a shame that the game never acknowledges your character when it comes to how they’ve been customised.

Sex is common in Night City, and despite having a body that we’re encouraged to own, they are always expressed in a cisgendered capacity. Your romance with Judy culminates in a scene where it is heavily implied for both women involved to be in possession of a vagina, while V’s romance with Panam concludes with a similar scene that implies the presence of a penis. That or she’s being pounded with a cybernetic strap-on or something. CD Projekt Red seems mostly vanilla when it comes to being super-duper horny, so I doubt it. Trans people are being left out in the cold here, making it clear that the character customisation system wasn’t even considered when these scenes were being drafted. I know it’s just a short sex scene in a game filled with distinct discoveries, but it’s part of a bigger problem.

One of our common criticisms of Cyberpunk 2077 here at TheGamer is how many features it was missing at launch, such as being unable to customise your character at all once the game begins. Sure you can wear new clothes, but they all look like V’s driven a car through a Primark warehouse instead of feeling wholly cohesive to the world around them. Certain RPGs and other open world adventures also don’t allow for additional tweaks to be made in the midst of a campaign, but they aren’t built upon a world where changing your body through technology and drifting further and further away from humanity is a core thematic tenet. It is here, so being stuck in the same body with no way of changing it without mods felt like a glaring omission, and one that has only just been fixed with the next-gen patch.

Now I can return to my apartment to change my facial features, but some parts of my anatomy remain locked off, meaning that as I progress through my transition I can’t return to Cyberpunk 2077 with the hope of changing my character to reflect that. The role-playing aspect of this ‘RPG’ is criminally absent, only now being bolstered by things it should have had when it first launched. It isn’t good enough, stifled further by a world whose depiction of Cyberpunk is also very stilted, much of its storytelling failing to critique the sickening capitalism that brings Night City and its people to exist in such a broken dystopia.

It all feels half-baked, or like the genre was approached in a way that hoped to be sterile so as not to turn off a mainstream audience. This also meant failing trans players with a character creator that while somewhat ahead of the competition, still feels underwhelming because it tries to accomplish new things while never going far enough. Representation is and will never be a linear path, but when it comes so close to breaking new ground like Cyberpunk 2077 clearly hopes to, the more deflated I feel about the finished product. Things could still change, so I’ll be keeping an eye on CDPR when the first expansion rolls around.

[BisMarckie]

From the author of articles such as:

"5 Signs That Elden Ring's The Lands Between Is Really Just Tory Britain"

"7 Elden Ring Characters You Will Definitely Simp For"

"Capcom Is Horny As Hell And I'm Totally Here For It"

"Persona 6 Should Embrace Poly Relationships"

"Xenoblade Chronicles 3 Better Have A Cute Welsh Catgirl"

Kinda wasting all that talent on thegamer dot com.

btw. They should probably advocate for a name change of the website, it's giving me big captial G gamer vibes,

[benjipwns]

Another mil vet and I went to Ukraine consulate, we were turned away because they have too many applicants to support (!!) and are now prioritizing people specifically with combat/infantry experience.

[team filler]

Another mil vet and I went to Ukraine consulate, we were turned away because they have too many applicants to support (!!) and are now prioritizing people specifically with combat/infantry experience.

it's like they're trying to one up the people who go out defending fast food restaurants during protests

[BIONIC]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/us-covid-19-phase-moving-from-pandemic-toward-endemic-estimated-73-80-immune-optimistic-but-caution-still-recommended.559432/#post-83173612

Sad that my family caught it right at the tail end of the pandemic. I've felt sluggish and brain-addled for almost two weeks and I don't even know if I have it or not.

Pretty sure that’s just your default mode, bub 

[Potato]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/us-covid-19-phase-moving-from-pandemic-toward-endemic-estimated-73-80-immune-optimistic-but-caution-still-recommended.559432/#post-83173612

Sad that my family caught it right at the tail end of the pandemic. I've felt sluggish and brain-addled for almost two weeks and I don't even know if I have it or not.

Pretty sure that’s just your default mode, bub 

Did he think that tomorrow he wouldn't be able to catch it?

[tiesto]

From the author of articles such as:

"Xenoblade Chronicles 3 Better Have A Cute Welsh Catgirl"

Hey, no argument from me.

[Uncle]

you put the ground beef in a strainer and do it like noodles

[Hap Shaughnessy]

You wash your noodles?

[Uncle]

[BIONIC]

You wash your noodles?

You don’t wash your noodle? 

[benjipwns]

(Image removed from quote.)

FACT CHECK:
https://twitter.com/Journotopia/status/1500093818699456527

[ShutUp]

https://twitter.com/matthewgoldin/status/1499902167284523009

“Writer for Saturday Night Live”

Yeah, that makes sense.

[Potato]

https://twitter.com/matthewgoldin/status/1499902167284523009

“Writer for Saturday Night Live”

Yeah, that makes sense.

Is Saturday Night Live still a thing? I thought they got cancelled years ago.

[ShutUp]

Still very much a thing. Terrible, with a very few exceptions.

[SmokyDave]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/careful-with-the-webussy.559453/

Phew, I’m glad this is gay or we’d be in real Boy’s Club territory.

[Transhuman]

https://twitter.com/matthewgoldin/status/1499902167284523009

“Writer for Saturday Night Live”

Yeah, that makes sense.

https://twitter.com/wokbonds/status/1500307456462704640

His twitter bio also says he is 23 and his substack says he was a writer on 30 Rock. So even if he only joined the writers in the very last season, that would make him... 13 years old

[benjipwns]

You're a fucking weirdo

.

This is childish and completely uncalled for.

So is the title

The OP made a mistake and already owned up to it. Yet you felt the need to insult them like a bully.

There are usually much harsher consequences for posting reactionary misinformation on this board.

Op already admitted they made a mistake and has already reported their thread for a title change. Meanwhile your post adds nothing and could very well get modded for hostility.

Nah it don't take long to find out that this story old and on top of that, there was no reason to say Russia has some weird ass master plan arresting American athletes who come to play in their country on weed charges lmao

User warned: hostility

You're a fucking weirdo

Log off. Better yet, delete your account.

To be fair to the OP, the article makes the same assumption of a prisoner trade, so let’s not excoriate them for the title…

To be fair to the excoriation of the title, "seemingly in response to worldwide sanctions, Russia kidnaps Brittney Griner" is some heavy editorializing of non existant events as of three weeks ago and such editorializing has already been cracked down on several times in the past by mods for obvious reasons.

You're missing the point: we know the title was bad. So did the OP, so they had it fixed. That doesn't mean it's okay to call the OP a "fucking weirdo" over it. It makes you a bully.

Considering how hard this has derailed over a thread title that was fixed, we're locking it.

Good talk.

[Taco Bell Tower]

THORDISON IS FUCKING WHITE?!

This could be it.

Anecdotally, as a white person who only grew up around and knows non-white people, I've never heard of anyone washing their meat. I didn't know it was a thing until I worked at restaurants and was taught it's fairly common.

The way he talked about how hard he spent time in prison that sure as heck surprised me
 

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/russia-has-begun-a-full-scale-invasion-in-ukraine-read-staff-posts.556366/page-660#post-83233633

Find the names of every single soldier and commander responsible for the shelling and bombing of civilian targets and hunt them down until the end of their days. Mossad style. They should not get to live a single day without having to look over their shoulder.

What you are suggesting is a war crime

Targeting civilians isn't?

Won't somebody please think of the war criminals with the blood of children on their hands and let.them live in peace and not be held accountable.

Jeebus some people here.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/russia-has-begun-a-full-scale-invasion-in-ukraine-read-staff-posts.556366/page-660#post-

User Banned (1 Week): Hostility toward another user

How easy do you think it would be to get an accurate list of people who had participated in specific attacks in an active warzone?
Whose job would it be to decide who was culpable enough for an extra judicial killing?

I get that this conflict is pretty horrible stuff but this has to be the most moronic thing I've read on this forum. You can absolutely log off before acting like an idiot again.

User Banned (1 Month): Hostility toward another user, thread-derailment, ignoring staff post

I get that this conflict is pretty horrible stuff but this has to be the most moronic thing I've read on this forum.

With you being on this forum? I doubt it.

[benjipwns]

Based on that ban and the warning above I think they're actioning people for saying "log off" as hostility.

[benjipwns]

Capital-G Gamers TheGamer with another SCOOP:

Going by the pseudonym Gregor, they detail the termination in a thread. Gregor, who uses he/they pronouns, also tells TheGamer that queer people are not safe working for Epic, with trans staff "misgendered on the regular".

https://twitter.com/MagusFirebeard/status/1499767870003179520

Speaking to TheGamer, they explained exactly what concerns were raised, which pertained to sharing pronouns during meetings.

"Both Slack and Zoom allow for optional pronoun display behind your name. They [Epic] REFUSE to enable this," they told TheGamer in a DM exchange. "You can opt in/opt out of displaying it, by default it's opt out. That's literally all we wanted, to be able to opt in.

"I had two trans friends leave early from dysphoria/depression on a few notable occasions when they were misgendered publicly in large meetings."

BAN 👏 TENCENT 👏 OWNED 👏 EPIC 👏 GAMES 👏

[Potato]

Capital-G Gamers TheGamer with another SCOOP:

Going by the pseudonym Gregor, they detail the termination in a thread. Gregor, who uses he/they pronouns, also tells TheGamer that queer people are not safe working for Epic, with trans staff "misgendered on the regular".

https://twitter.com/MagusFirebeard/status/1499767870003179520

Speaking to TheGamer, they explained exactly what concerns were raised, which pertained to sharing pronouns during meetings.

"Both Slack and Zoom allow for optional pronoun display behind your name. They [Epic] REFUSE to enable this," they told TheGamer in a DM exchange. "You can opt in/opt out of displaying it, by default it's opt out. That's literally all we wanted, to be able to opt in.

"I had two trans friends leave early from dysphoria/depression on a few notable occasions when they were misgendered publicly in large meetings."

BAN 👏 TENCENT 👏 OWNED 👏 EPIC 👏 GAMES 👏

When will these fucking idiots realise that acting like a cunt in meetings IS poor performance?

[Snoopycat_]

I asked my co workers to call me The Batman instead of Batman because I feel that's closer to my essence. Some of them, like that arsehole Spiderman, made some really hurtful comments in chat.

[SmokyDave]

If my biggest problem at work was that my boss wouldn't enable optional pronoun displays on Zoom, I'd be pretty fucking delighted.

Some of these people are privileged as fuck. It's as if they've never been told they're not the centre of the universe.

[Potato]

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/t89e4j/what_the_most_private_thing_youre_willing_to_admit

Oh my...
 

[benjipwns]

It's as if they've never been told they're not the centre of the universe.

Oh, wow, just going to straight up be violent today huh.

[Snoopycat_]

A normal post -

Slightly regretting buying a car with a large engine as my first car at the beginning of the year! £1.60/litre at the pumps this weekend. At least the weather is improving and I can jump on the bicycle for getting to work(would have done that this morning but the ice was treacherous).

This guy digs it up just to post snark and wag his finger

Considering the impact on the environment you should regret that anyway.

Now this guy has to justify himself. No doubt afraid of catching a ban for owning a car

It's my first ever car(I'm 37, only bought it a few months ago), never having kids, haven't travelled abroad/on a plane since 2013, so I hope that offsets the purchase of a car that I only use to travel for 30 minutes a day.

That is a good example of why Ree is such a horrible place

https://www.resetera.com/threads/russia-has-begun-a-full-scale-invasion-in-ukraine-read-staff-posts.556366/page-664#post-83240797

[SmokyDave]

Oh, wow, just going to straight up be violent today huh.

Just having my Monday Morning Marrec Moment, powered by HarryPotterCyberpunkMods.com

[HaughtyFrank]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/weird-little-interaction-tonight-with-a-worker-that-i-thought-was-homophobic%E2%80%A6-validation-time-it-sounds-homophobic-right.559750/

So I was celebrating my friend’s engagement party at some banquet hall, and I was like the only openly gay guy there. I have (unnatural, lol) bleached hair.

At one point, I went to the bathroom, and then just took a little break in the main hallway of the venue by leaning against the wall while texting on my phone.

Then, suddenly, even though I was minding my own damn business, some old geezer worker approaches me with some super smug look on his face, and asks me in my home country’s language:

“why is your hair dyed?” (Actually, upon reflection, he was mumbling more than this but this was all I could hear/understand. I asked him to repeat himself and that’s the question he asked. When he repeated it he asked it in some pissed off tone)

I said “idk I just wanted to dye it”

And he continued having this smug ass look while saying “mmmmmm… you wanted to dye it….” And then walked away.

And then some worker that was right behind him said “are you okay sir?” for whatever reason.

Maybe I’m just being ridiculous but this was enough to make me want to leave, and I did. It made me uncomfortable.

I mean I’m not crazy right? That sounds homophobic based on what I’ve said? Why else would he ask that question and respond like that?


Yeah this is not even CLOSE to being close to being close to the racism and harassment that non-white-passing PoC and women face, so maybe this thread is tone-deaf and laughable, but man it didn’t feel good. I mean it’s one thing if this was some random person attending the event, but it’s a worker.

Now I remember why I try to avoid “culturally traditional” events/settings. Even in California, the chances of unnecessary comments and nasty looks from homophobes is fairly high. Sorry I dyed my hair lol


Mods pls close if this comes across as tone deaf

 

[Uncle]

Based on that ban and the warning above I think they're actioning people for saying "log off" as hostility.

it's only a degree removed from "touch grass" which is an alt-right fascist phrase

[benjipwns]

Just having my Monday Morning Marrec Moment, powered by HarryPotterCyberpunkMods.com

I see the rubles made it to your dacha, comrade:
https://twitter.com/natachakennedy/status/1500750768604946432

[ShutUp]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/weird-little-interaction-tonight-with-a-worker-that-i-thought-was-homophobic%E2%80%A6-validation-time-it-sounds-homophobic-right.559750/

So I was celebrating my friend’s engagement party at some banquet hall, and I was like the only openly gay guy there. I have (unnatural, lol) bleached hair.

At one point, I went to the bathroom, and then just took a little break in the main hallway of the venue by leaning against the wall while texting on my phone.

Then, suddenly, even though I was minding my own damn business, some old geezer worker approaches me with some super smug look on his face, and asks me in my home country’s language:

“why is your hair dyed?” (Actually, upon reflection, he was mumbling more than this but this was all I could hear/understand. I asked him to repeat himself and that’s the question he asked. When he repeated it he asked it in some pissed off tone)

I said “idk I just wanted to dye it”

And he continued having this smug ass look while saying “mmmmmm… you wanted to dye it….” And then walked away.

And then some worker that was right behind him said “are you okay sir?” for whatever reason.

Maybe I’m just being ridiculous but this was enough to make me want to leave, and I did. It made me uncomfortable.

I mean I’m not crazy right? That sounds homophobic based on what I’ve said? Why else would he ask that question and respond like that?


Yeah this is not even CLOSE to being close to being close to the racism and harassment that non-white-passing PoC and women face, so maybe this thread is tone-deaf and laughable, but man it didn’t feel good. I mean it’s one thing if this was some random person attending the event, but it’s a worker.

Now I remember why I try to avoid “culturally traditional” events/settings. Even in California, the chances of unnecessary comments and nasty looks from homophobes is fairly high. Sorry I dyed my hair lol


Mods pls close if this comes across as tone deaf

 

Why are they furiously apologizing for even posting the thread? Just because the Era bubble says so, doesn’t mean a white person can’t face harassment out in the world.

[ShutUp]

If my biggest problem at work was that my boss wouldn't enable optional pronoun displays on Zoom, I'd be pretty fucking delighted.

Some of these people are privileged as fuck. It's as if they've never been told they're not the centre of the universe.

Many of them were raised in upper middle class or just flat out upper class and got participation trophies all the time. Now they enter the real world and can’t cope with anything resembling adversity, even something as stupid as this.

[Snoopycat_]

So I was celebrating my friend’s engagement party at some banquet hall, and I was like the only openly emo there. I have (unnatural, lol) emo hair.

At one point, I went to the bathroom, and then just took a little break in the main hallway of the venue by leaning against the wall while texting emo shit on my phone about how all depressed n swizzle I was.

Then, suddenly, even though I was minding my own damn business, some fuckin goth approaches me with a super smug look on his face, and asks me in my home country’s goth language:

“why have you got emo hair?” I asked him to repeat himself, he said, “Why is your hair all wrong?”

I said “It represents my inner turmoil.”

And he continued having this smug ass look while saying “Your inner turmoil? Lol. What a plastic.” And then walked away laughing loudly like a bat.

And then some worker that was right behind him said “ It’s ok emo guy I like your gay hair. It’s cute.” It made me uncomfortable. I choked out a quick thanks and brushed past him so he wouldn’t see my emo tears ruining my mascara.

I mean I’m not crazy right ? It’s pretty racist to make fun of someone’s emo hair


Yeah this is not even CLOSE to being close to being close to the racism and harassment that other emos and women of the emo persuasion face, so maybe this thread is tone-deaf and laughable, but man it didn’t feel good. I mean it’s one thing if this was some random rapper or metal head attending the event, but this was a fucking goth having a go.

Now I remember why I try to avoid “culturally traditional” events/settings. Even in California, the chances of unnecessary comments and nasty looks from other goths is fairly high. Sorry I have emo hair lol.


Mods pls close if this comes across as tarded

[SmokyDave]

I'm a tall, rough-looking white dude with a very short crop, bordering on skinhead. Everyone assumes I'm a racist or rapist, and I just go about my day because I will not be held accountable for their perceptions.

[Tuckers Law]

All those Harry Potter tattoos probably don’t help either.  I get so many Sieg Heils whenever people see my deathly hallows symbol.

[SmokyDave]

All those Harry Potter tattoos probably don’t help either.  I get so many Sieg Heils whenever people see my deathly hallows symbol.

That’s one of the reasons why my metal Hagrid tattoo is somewhere that only intimate partners see.

Going back to the well for another page header:

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Engorgium Leviosa.

[Nintex]

Now that people have finally woken up to the Russian menace you can shout Slava Ukraini, legally own Panzer Fausts and share tactics on how to assault Moscow from 6 directions by land, sea and air openly.

[Rahxephon91]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/weird-little-interaction-tonight-with-a-worker-that-i-thought-was-homophobic%E2%80%A6-validation-time-it-sounds-homophobic-right.559750/

So I was celebrating my friend’s engagement party at some banquet hall, and I was like the only openly gay guy there. I have (unnatural, lol) bleached hair.

At one point, I went to the bathroom, and then just took a little break in the main hallway of the venue by leaning against the wall while texting on my phone.

Then, suddenly, even though I was minding my own damn business, some old geezer worker approaches me with some super smug look on his face, and asks me in my home country’s language:

“why is your hair dyed?” (Actually, upon reflection, he was mumbling more than this but this was all I could hear/understand. I asked him to repeat himself and that’s the question he asked. When he repeated it he asked it in some pissed off tone)

I said “idk I just wanted to dye it”

And he continued having this smug ass look while saying “mmmmmm… you wanted to dye it….” And then walked away.

And then some worker that was right behind him said “are you okay sir?” for whatever reason.

Maybe I’m just being ridiculous but this was enough to make me want to leave, and I did. It made me uncomfortable.

I mean I’m not crazy right? That sounds homophobic based on what I’ve said? Why else would he ask that question and respond like that?


Yeah this is not even CLOSE to being close to being close to the racism and harassment that non-white-passing PoC and women face, so maybe this thread is tone-deaf and laughable, but man it didn’t feel good. I mean it’s one thing if this was some random person attending the event, but it’s a worker.

Now I remember why I try to avoid “culturally traditional” events/settings. Even in California, the chances of unnecessary comments and nasty looks from homophobes is fairly high. Sorry I dyed my hair lol


Mods pls close if this comes across as tone deaf

 

Waiting for the update that the old man was sent by his mom.

[Kurt Russell]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/weird-little-interaction-tonight-with-a-worker-that-i-thought-was-homophobic%E2%80%A6-validation-time-it-sounds-homophobic-right.559750/

So I was celebrating my friend’s engagement party at some banquet hall, and I was like the only openly gay guy there. I have (unnatural, lol) bleached hair.

At one point, I went to the bathroom, and then just took a little break in the main hallway of the venue by leaning against the wall while texting on my phone.

Then, suddenly, even though I was minding my own damn business, some old geezer worker approaches me with some super smug look on his face, and asks me in my home country’s language:

“why is your hair dyed?” (Actually, upon reflection, he was mumbling more than this but this was all I could hear/understand. I asked him to repeat himself and that’s the question he asked. When he repeated it he asked it in some pissed off tone)

I said “idk I just wanted to dye it”

And he continued having this smug ass look while saying “mmmmmm… you wanted to dye it….” And then walked away.

And then some worker that was right behind him said “are you okay sir?” for whatever reason.

Maybe I’m just being ridiculous but this was enough to make me want to leave, and I did. It made me uncomfortable.

Relateable. Happened to me once - a guy asked me if I dyed my hair and if I was gay.

I was so offended, I immediately removed his penis from my mouth and went home to binge watch Grey's Anatomy.

[Propagandhim]

yeah i bet you watched Grey's anatomy.  the fucking weiner part of his anatomy!

[Uncle]

gay's anatomy 

[Potato]

Imagine having to grovel at the altar this much just to ask a simple question...

So I'm a straight, white, cis, neurotypical, man that can't really recall any instances where I was seriously discriminated against. I mention this for context.

Can someone explain how the interaction in the OP was homophobic? I absolutely see how the dude was being an ass (i.e. questioning why someone looks the way they look), but that's as far as my brain takes it. I guess I don't associate bleached hair with gay men, so maybe that's my disconnect. Obviously my experiences are very different from the OP, so I am not saying the OP's feelings are invalid, just that I don't understand.

I'm asking to geuinely better understand the situation and hopefully be better at identifying discriminatory behavior in the future, so I appreciate any response. Regardless of my interpretation, I'm sorry the OP had that interaction and was made to feel unsafe.

Nice forum you got there Swedish corporate overlords.

He is an asshole, but i don't think he was being homophobic, OP. Hell bleaching your hair in the early 2000's was cool.
Still OP, sorry you had to endure this.

Lol. He didn't have to endure anything. It's not like he's even certain the guy was being anything more than curious. Let's be real here, this isn't exactly something that anyone had to "endure".


Besides, isn't the OP the crazy fuck whose mother still swears at him for losing some clothes in primary school? I don't think he has the social skills to interpret people's supposedly "smug" facial expressions.

[porkbun]

Old guy doesn't like younger shut-in's "crazy" hairstyle.  News at 11.