Other Forums Containment Thread

[Taco Bell Tower]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/the-microsoft-activision-blizzard-acquisition-ot-antitrust-simulator-update-cleared-unconditionally-in-serbia.633344/page-183#post-97504432

They are trying to make this deal as painful as possible and kill it outright if at all possible.

They have caught the ear of the major regulators and They aren't balking at Sonys claims, so Sony has no incentive to stop now.

MLB The Show is on GP d&d, its also a game developed by sie, ms would be hypocrites if they want a Sony developed game on gp but a game from ms cant be on ps+. I think cod on ps+ is a fair request from Sony.
Whatever.

For the first time in the series, the game was made available on Xbox consoles, with cross-platform compatibility between the PlayStation 4 and PlayStation 5.[It was also announced that the Xbox versions of the game would be available for Xbox Game Pass subscribers at no additional cost at release, a decision made solely by digital co-publisher MLB Advanced Media and not Sony themselves.

[Sman]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/kanye-west-launches-white-lives-matter-line-for-yeezys-up2-says-in-alex-jones-interview-hitler-had-value.639399/post-97516444

I recently worked with a patient who who had several mental health issues. One minute he’ll be happy to see you, next minute he’ll cuss you out then minutes later he’ll apologize and start crying. He would sexually harass the staff,he was narcissistic, craved attention and would do extreme things like act out as a nazi , seig heil and all. Dude would be sweet too but everyone grew to hate him by the end of his stay and he got transferred eventually.

 User Banned (1 Month)/Permanently Threadbanned: Ignoring the staff post, thread derailment


Those actual, "mental health professionals," Nepenthe wanted was just a ruse to find more people to ban, I guess.

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But... he ignored the staff post; His work experience plainly contradicted it. Can you imagine if real life entered Resetera? The whole thing would crumble. Banning this poster was the only way. Ban stick if you disagree.

 

[benjipwns]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/the-microsoft-activision-blizzard-acquisition-ot-antitrust-simulator-update-cleared-unconditionally-in-serbia.633344/page-183#post-97504432

They are trying to make this deal as painful as possible and kill it outright if at all possible.

They have caught the ear of the major regulators and They aren't balking at Sonys claims, so Sony has no incentive to stop now.

MLB The Show is on GP d&d, its also a game developed by sie, ms would be hypocrites if they want a Sony developed game on gp but a game from ms cant be on ps+. I think cod on ps+ is a fair request from Sony.
Whatever.

This would be an actual serious federal crime by Sony and Microsoft to discuss in the way they're suggesting.

[benjipwns]

That whole discussion on that page makes no sense at all because only one person on there seems to know anything about antitrust. Sony and Microsoft can't negotiate an antitrust issue away, this would literally violate antitrust law, it would be Sony and Microsoft forming a cartel.

[benjipwns]

Holy shit at this thread, you don't get to do federal crimes just because your largest competitor says it's okay.

[Nintex]

Microsoft had such poor timing with this deal that it looked fishy from the start.

Had they waited for Activision to tank a bit and then come in as the saviours they wouldn't be under this much scrutiny.
Now it was basically Spencer threatening to cut ties or 'voicing his concerns' and then Microsoft offering to take over.

Next they started to act like it was already a done deal and completing the transaction would be nothing but a formality.
Bragging about how big of a player they would be in the industry with this acquisition.

They probably thought that Sony would not complain because it would also limit Sony's ability to buy studios and set-up mergers.

[benjipwns]

That thread is a great example of that thing I was talking about one time where people on ResetERA.com won't know anything about a topic but it's FOMO time so they have to discuss it for pages and pages and argue with each other and everything else while pretending they've always known everything there is to know about the topic. (Which is dumb, only the staff can do that.) I just scoured it for way too long trying to figure out if they were having all this discussion around some kind of esoteric technical point about antitrust that had been established somewhere that I was just missing and would need to go learn about, but nope, just a whole bunch of people assuming they know how the law works so refusing to find out. The one guy who seems to know anything (who says he's a lawyer, in Europe, whatever that is, sounds pretty white to me) said in one post there's no information on that the FTC is interested in behavioral remedies but they're all discussing that for pages and how Sony should "hold out" for this or that.

I'm not going to claim I understand the specifics of antitrust but I'm pretty sure the law doesn't operate in a way where Sony can call up the FTC and say "hey, remember those antitrust complaints we made? Nevermind, we worked it out" and the government just says "okay, consider the whole thing dropped." The merger still will or will not violate antitrust law! It's like Potato calling the police and saying "hey, remember that murder Nintex did of Uncle the other day I told you about? Nevermind, we worked it out" you're not a fucking party here dude! It's a quirk of the video game industry that places Sony in their position of being the beneficiary of remedies, not antitrust law. It's not up to your competitors to decide if you're violating the law, but the independent regulator. If you sic it on somebody you don't get to call it off once it's squeezed your competitor to terms you like.

For being so ACAB and "never call the police" that place sure is uninterested in the why of the slogans they repeat.

[GreatSageEqualOfHeaven]

Mermaids is an amazing organisation. Hope they can fight through this. I wonder if this is pushback after Mermaids has been fighting LGB Alliance to remain a charity under the Charity Commission.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/targeted-harassment-leads-to-formal-charity-commission-inquiry-into-trans-charity-mermaids.660346/

I’m going to laugh if Messy has worked in that org. That would explain a lot of his behavior and how he gets leeway.

There's a fucking laundry list of questionable actions a nominal children's charity has taken regarding mermaids, but yes, trying to get another charity's charitable status removed by taking them to court apropos of nothing is definitely fucking on there.

[GreatSageEqualOfHeaven]

I'd also like to note since nobody has explicitly said this yet, that ResetERA.com now proudly has its own Other Forums Containment Thread of over 400 pages about its favorite Other Forum. When will they sticky it?

I mean, they already have a couple of dedicated megathreads dedicated to tracking everything done by specific individuals, in addition to jumping into threads about other people (eg Girlfriend Reviews or Chris Pratt) that arent on the target list (yet) to deliberately shit up any attempts at discussion, so maybe they could go one further and have a whole subforum dedicated to stalking lolcows documenting the actions of designated targets.

[GreatSageEqualOfHeaven]

lol someone bring out Etika:

https://www.resetera.com/threads/kanye-west-launches-white-lives-matter-line-for-yeezys-up2-says-in-alex-jones-interview-hitler-had-value.639399/page-104#post-97456645

This. I'm reminded of the Etika situation and how that was treated here. I honestly believe with the way Kanye is going there is a decent chance he will end up the same way or worse.

I can't understand how people are saying that mental illness can't be used to explain Kanye's support for nazis. Mental illness has excused horrific things in our court systems. Does Kanye have to become a cannibal for people to realize that all of this is due to mental illness?

Guess the ban message.

I was expecting a "misrepresenting moderator actions" slapped on there tbh

[HaughtyFrank]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/kanye-west-launches-white-lives-matter-line-for-yeezys-up2-says-in-alex-jones-interview-hitler-had-value.639399/post-97516444

I recently worked with a patient who who had several mental health issues. One minute he’ll be happy to see you, next minute he’ll cuss you out then minutes later he’ll apologize and start crying. He would sexually harass the staff,he was narcissistic, craved attention and would do extreme things like act out as a nazi , seig heil and all. Dude would be sweet too but everyone grew to hate him by the end of his stay and he got transferred eventually.

 User Banned (1 Month)/Permanently Threadbanned: Ignoring the staff post, thread derailment


Those actual, "mental health professionals," Nepenthe wanted was just a ruse to find more people to ban, I guess.

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So we have someone who professionally works with mental health, giving deeper insights into bipolar disorders, and going out of his way to make clear that he's not excusing Kanye or that being angry at him is invalid

It’s difficult to process working with these types because he was a POS but he obviously had issues that are difficult to control. How much are you allowed to hate someone like that and how much do you have to endure someone like this? I wouldn’t wish condition on my worst enemies. and that makes it difficult to process because you want to be sympathetic on some level but god damn are they hateable. Our pain/anger is valid and it’s not lessened because they have a clinical diagnosis. I don’t feel most people where making excuses as much as addressing it in a clumsily manner. If people were saying adidas or Kim should keep backing him then yeah thats garbage, he’s earned his consequences. Hopefully out of this spectacle we increase funding and awareness for those that need it.

And all the RE mods do is

"RESPECT MAH AUTHORITAH" 

Truly one of the dumbest forums to have a discussion on.

[nudemacusers]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/datingera-this-isnt-like-one-of-your-animes.666/page-509#post-97509589

So hi, I'm the guy who got scammed out of 40 bucks on a hookup app. I'm trying to turn this experience into a net positive and putting myself back out there on more legitimate channels. Would anybody be willing to look over my Bumble profile and see what I can improve? I already know my pictures suck so I would like some ideas on what to do there.

Some reasonable advice

How does this sound?

I'm the guy your mom told you to worry about - the cyclist nerd. I'm looking for a player two but more than that - someone who enjoys conversation, doing right by others and, of course, cycling. I'm down for drinks, walks/bikes or just hanging out and watching/playing something.

someone should tell my dude not to use the *exact same username* on reddit... 

[benjipwns]

I mean, they already have a couple of dedicated megathreads dedicated to tracking everything done by specific individuals, in addition to jumping into threads about other people (eg Girlfriend Reviews or Chris Pratt) that arent on the target list (yet) to deliberately shit up any attempts at discussion, so maybe they could go one further and have a whole subforum dedicated to stalking lolcows documenting the actions of designated targets.

Weird, the way you described it this all sounds like this other forum I've seen before. I'd link you to it to see if you agree but Messofanego told me the international internet regulator, Keffals, shut it down a few months back. Something I also read from NBC News disinformation reporter Ben Collins. What's that? The name or URL? Sorry, No Habla English.

It’s difficult to process working with these types because he was a POS but he obviously had issues that are difficult to control. How much are you allowed to hate someone like that and how much do you have to endure someone like this? I wouldn’t wish condition on my worst enemies. and that makes it difficult to process because you want to be sympathetic on some level but god damn are they hateable. Our pain/anger is valid and it’s not lessened because they have a clinical diagnosis. I don’t feel most people where making excuses as much as addressing it in a clumsily manner. If people were saying adidas or Kim should keep backing him then yeah thats garbage, he’s earned his consequences. Hopefully out of this spectacle we increase funding and awareness for those that need it.

And all the RE mods do is

"RESPECT MAH AUTHORITAH" 

Truly one of the dumbest forums to have a discussion on.

It's very funny to me that despite the self-diagnosis craze, I feel like I never see anyone mentioning dichotomous thinking in how they self-diagnosed something.

I was going to write my own paragraph to compare the deliberate culture of a certain forum to this but I looked for a source to link for more information and their paragraphs can already do the work:

When was the last time that you set a goal for yourself? Let’s say you had a goal to finish ten projects by the end of the week. At the end of the week, you’ve only accomplished eight. Now what? For most people, they might be a little disappointed, but they’ll also be able to look at accomplishing eight projects as a good start and a good effort. For someone who uses dichotomous thinking, there is no gray area of ‘okay.’ Instead, there is only success and failure. Because your goal was ten and you only got eight, it would mean that you failed.

Going through life in terms of only total success or total failure would lead to stress, low self-esteem, and even feelings of depression or anger. Spending time thinking that you’ve failed, even when you’ve made a valiant effort and done well, can feel like self-punishment. For most, finishing eight projects instead of ten might be a sign that your goals were a little too high and you should slow them down a little. For someone with this type of thinking, however, that’s not possible, and instead, they feel upset at the failure every time they don’t meet the goal.

In psychology, the official term is actually ‘splitting,’ though most people don’t think of that term in conjunction with this process. When an average person looks at a situation, they can usually see the positive and negative aspects of it at the same time. Someone with this method of thinking can only see one or the other. Either the situation is good, or the situation is bad. There is no ‘mix’ or ‘partial’ aspect to it. There’s just one or the other. It’s a difficult way to live

So, where do borderline personality disorder and dichotomous thinking come from? In a lot of people, it occurs simply because they have no other frame of reference. Most of us, as we grow up and get older, start to see that things are not black and white—that there is not always a right and wrong answer—but an answer that lies somewhere in the middle. Those with this disorder, at least most frequently, seem to have never developed that understanding.

Because they may have never learned about a gray area or how it could affect them, they don’t know how to see it or how to understand it for themselves. They’ve never learned how to cope with something that doesn’t fit into one of those two boxes, and so they disregard anything that doesn’t.

This thought pattern, which the American Psychological Association also calls dichotomous or polarized thinking, is considered a cognitive distortion because it keeps us from seeing the world as it often is: complex, nuanced, and full of all the shades in between.

An all-or-nothing mindset doesn’t allow us to find the middle ground. And let’s face it: There’s a reason most people don’t live on Everest or in the Mariana Trench. It’s hard to sustain life at those extremes.
...
Certain words can alert you that your thoughts are becoming extreme.

always
never
impossible
disaster
furious
ruined
perfect
Of course, these words aren’t bad in themselves. However, if you notice that they keep coming up in your thoughts and conversations, it could be a signal that you’ve adopted a black and white perspective on something.

Relationships happen between individuals, whether they see each other as family, friends, neighbors, co-workers, or something else entirely.

And because people have ups and downs (to phrase it dichotomously), plus quirks and inconsistencies, conflicts inevitably arise.

If we approach normal conflicts with dichotomous thinking, we’ll probably draw the wrong conclusions about other people, and we’ll miss opportunities to negotiate and compromise.

Worse still, black and white thinking can cause a person to make decisions without thinking about the impact of that decision on themselves and others involved.

Examples may include:

suddenly moving people from the “good person” category to the “bad person” category
quitting a job or firing people
breaking up a relationship
avoiding genuine resolution of the issues [or perhaps, turning to an authority figure to establish "truth" for everyone? ]

Dichotomous thinking often shifts between idealizing and devaluing others. Being in a relationship with someone who thinks in extremes can be really difficult because of the repeated cycles of emotional upheaval.

It can keep you from learning
It’s the product of a success or failure mindset, which is a natural outgrowth of a grading system that defines failure (scores of 0–59) as over half the grading scale.

Some courses even have a simple binary to measure learning: pass or fail. One or the other.

It’s all too easy to fall into dichotomous thinking about your academic accomplishments.

A growth mindset, which is becoming increasingly popular, encourages students to recognize incremental progress toward mastery — to see themselves moving closer to being able to do what they have set out to do.

It can limit your career
Dichotomous thinking makes and sticks to rigidly defined categories: My job. Their job. My role. Their role.

Some black and white thinking is normal, but persistent dichotomous thought patterns are associated with a number of conditions.

Narcissism (NPD)
Borderline personality disorder (BPD)
Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
Anxiety and depression
People who are vulnerable to anxiety and depression may have a tendency to think in absolutes.

A 2018 study that examined the natural speech of people with anxiety and depression found much more frequent use of “absolutist” language among them than in control groups.

All-or-nothing thinking can also cause us to ruminate, which can worsen anxiety or depression.
...
Racism and homophobia
It’s been surmised that dichotomous thinking may be at the root of some of our most persistent social divisions.

Racist, transphobic, and homophobic ideologies often fixate on “in” groups and “out” groups in society.

These ideologies tend to involve projecting negative qualities almost exclusively on the “out” group.

Negative stereotypes are typically used to describe members of those groups who they believe are unlike themselves.

Ye/shooter can't be mentally ill/non-binary because mentally ill/non-binary = good and Ye/shooter = bad. Plug in with as many other examples as you want, there's a whole forum of them.

[benjipwns]

someone should tell my dude not to use the *exact same username* on reddit... 

I have to admit, I didn't expect that it would only be that part of the body. He should have led with "banned for life from Tinder" rather than "average build" imo.

[BIONIC]

His idea of “more legitimate channels” is posting dick pics on hookup reddits   

[BisMarckie]

you don't have to be worried about your dick pics getting leaked by a scammer if you post them on reddit yourself

[Uncle]

t's like Potato calling the police and saying "hey, remember that murder Nintex did of Uncle the other day I told you about? Nevermind, we worked it out"

 

[benjipwns]

Sorry, the dead don't have standing. You should have filed your motion sooner.

[SmokyDave]

At least moisturise or something first. Shit look desiccated 

[HaughtyFrank]

So this guy who loves to post dickpics claims he was banned on tinder for no reason at all...
Don't have to be Columbo to solve this one

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/elon-musk-twitter-drama-ot-let%E2%80%99s-keep-it-here-parody-%F0%9F%94%B5-official-%EA%95%A4-up-musk-exposes-that-twitter-censored-stolen-naked-pictures.649272/page-416#post-97529764

If y'all haven't deleted your Twitter account, what is stopping you? This shit needs to be stamped out

if you haven't noticed that time and time again people are really all about self-sacrifice for that greater good.....right up until the point when it's their turn.

You see it time and time again in this country and sadly in this community as well. It's pretty sad and pathetic honestly. (cue the excuses of why they can't won't leave)

 

Edit:
https://www.resetera.com/threads/elon-musk-twitter-drama-ot-let%E2%80%99s-keep-it-here-parody-%F0%9F%94%B5-official-%EA%95%A4-up-musk-exposes-that-twitter-censored-stolen-naked-pictures.649272/page-416#post-97530304

If you consider getting off twitter or any social media an actual "sacrifice" you are pathetically beyond the pale.

God, I really, really wish I could ever feel as superior as some of you about anything because you managed to pull off the ultimate self-sacrifice of...deleting your Twitter account, redifining what it means to be an activist for the forces of good for generations to come.

as morally superior as you for being such a big strong man and.....helping support right-wing and fascist rhetoric to avoid the minor inconvenience of having to make e few extra clicks to find an article or news story?

 

[Taco Bell Tower]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/hot-take-games-having-no-missable-content-ex-side-quests-sucks.660727/#post-97515484

There are ways to make content not feel like a checklist of items without making stuff missable. I can see how missables can immerse you more into the story of the world, but as someone who mostly plays video games as games, not as interactive art pieces, it mostly annoys me.

as I'm getting old, stressing about missing out things in games is the LAST thing I want in my life

Sometimes you read a take that just makes you want to go to sleep.

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/elon-musk-twitter-drama-ot-let%E2%80%99s-keep-it-here-parody-%F0%9F%94%B5-official-%EA%95%A4-up-musk-exposes-that-twitter-censored-stolen-naked-pictures.649272/page-416#post-97531870

Nice superiority complex.

Is it? I mean, yeah, a lot of people rely on Twitter.
Also, by staying on Twitter and supporting Twitter, you are supporting a hateful person to spread hate and misinformation and to mistreat large groups of people, and the only way to stop that is to get off Twitter. That’s the reality of it.

Yeah, calling people pathetic is.

I didn’t see the pathetic.
But people should get off Twitter.
The richest man in the world wants to support Russian disinformation/anti-Ukraine, he wants to roll back rights across the board for workers, he is by all measure racist and hateful and wants to change the world to reflect that, using Twitter.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/elon-musk-twitter-drama-ot-let%E2%80%99s-keep-it-here-parody-%F0%9F%94%B5-official-%EA%95%A4-up-musk-exposes-that-twitter-censored-stolen-naked-pictures.649272/page-417#post-97532197

And everyone in this thread could delete their twitter account and it wouldn't make a dent. So the sanctimony was a pointless endeavour.

“It won’t make a difference so I’m not going to bother”.
Heroic sentiments here. Glad people really know when to stand up for things.

 

[GreatSageEqualOfHeaven]

The series has made incels and the alt-right absolutely furious.

Which is a sign that the show is doing something right.

"Hows your pizza?"
"It tastes like shit, but random group I dislike also hate it, so its doing something right!"

[GreatSageEqualOfHeaven]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/florida-woman-sues-kraft-heinz-for-5-million-because-her-mac-and-cheese-took-longer-than-3-5-minutes-to-prepare.660817/

ostensive anti-capitalist, anti-police, anti-'the system' forum resetterradotcom on hearing about a womans lawsuit against one of the biggest multinationals on the planet:

"Fuck that stupid bitch, hope she gets bankrupted and goes to prison"

[D3RANG3D]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/hot-take-games-having-no-missable-content-ex-side-quests-sucks.660727/#post-97515484

There are ways to make content not feel like a checklist of items without making stuff missable. I can see how missables can immerse you more into the story of the world, but as someone who mostly plays video games as games, not as interactive art pieces, it mostly annoys me.

as I'm getting old, stressing about missing out things in games is the LAST thing I want in my life

Sometimes you read a take that just makes you want to go to sleep.

The hero the world needs.

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/elon-musk-twitter-drama-ot-let%E2%80%99s-keep-it-here-parody-%F0%9F%94%B5-official-%EA%95%A4-up-musk-exposes-that-twitter-censored-stolen-naked-pictures.649272/page-417#post-97534051

Sad to see apple and amazon crawling back

Been reporting and blocking their ads when I see them, which has been alot since Musk said they were a big chunk of Twitter's ad revenue right now. Doing my part to reduce their impact.

 

[GreatSageEqualOfHeaven]

I'm the guy your mom told you to worry about - I report every amazon and apple advert I see on twitter 

[benjipwns]

Wait, reporting and blocking whose ads to who for what?

[GreatSageEqualOfHeaven]

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/elon-musk-twitter-drama-ot-let%E2%80%99s-keep-it-here-parody-%F0%9F%94%B5-official-%EA%95%A4-up-musk-exposes-that-twitter-censored-stolen-naked-pictures.649272/page-417#post-97535632

Me too. I completely understand why people have left. I also completely understand why people have stayed.

I can't read people's minds, and I know everyone has their own specific situation with Twitter. But most of all: I have no say in what people decide to do with their Twitter account. Because, well, it's not my Twitter account, it's theirs. It's entirely up to them. And I 100% respect that.

I 100% respect that people need to make the decision themselves and not just do what I tell them, but I also have zero respect for anyone who has made the choice to stay on a platform where the CEO is putting out neonazi dog whistles. Fuck fascism and anyone who is enabling it.

 

[GreatSageEqualOfHeaven]

I’m honestly surprised anyone picked that up considering how taboo it is to just fart in the wrong direction of Israel in the mainstream. Good on them for keeping the line. I imagine this shitstorm will kill its likelihood of getting a nom, but just the existence and ability for it to be seen is an important thing. There isn’t much of the Palestine view on these events in the mainstream

why don't you say what you really think Kanye

[benjipwns]

Stay on Twitter, delete your Twitter, chase a world record, maybe do a little objectification of trans women in some ad art, enable fascism, post your dick on Reddit, uphold systems of capitalism, colonialism and white supremacy. It's all cool, brehs. I 100% respect your choices. I'm pro-choice.

[Taco Bell Tower]

The series has made incels and the alt-right absolutely furious.

Which is a sign that the show is doing something right.

"Hows your pizza?"
"It tastes like shit, but random group I dislike also hate it, so its doing something right!"

Ignore YouTube in general when it comes to any female or PoC led show

Like maybe you won't like it, but those chuds absolutely poison the well and outside of people occasionally mentioning them I completely ignore it. That said, IMO as of the penultimate episode this cemented itself as the best, most consistent Disney+ show, and yea add Tatiana to the increasingly long list of stellar Phase 4 protagonists.

They keep saying chuds, they're always describing themselves.

[HaughtyFrank]

I've switched to using Mastodon and Cohost for most everything except sports, where Twitter's video highlights are still essential. It'd be wonderful to see more people move (or at least cross-post) to Mastodon; it's never going to be quite as seamless as Twitter, but it covers so many of the same use cases.

People escaping to Mastodon keeps confounding me. With moderation completely left up to whoever runs the server it's arguably more of a "free speech" site than Twitter.

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/the-u-s-air-force-just-revealed-its-new-b-21-stealth-bomber.382425/page-2#post-97489876

Wow! What an incredible Muslim Killing Death Machine!

Fuck America.

[benjipwns]

The Air Force invented a bomber than can only hit Muslim targets? That's actually pretty impressive. But will it know true Muslims like a ResetERA.com staff member?

[Taco Bell Tower]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/datingera-this-isnt-like-one-of-your-animes.666/page-509#post-97509589

So hi, I'm the guy who got scammed out of 40 bucks on a hookup app. I'm trying to turn this experience into a net positive and putting myself back out there on more legitimate channels. Would anybody be willing to look over my Bumble profile and see what I can improve? I already know my pictures suck so I would like some ideas on what to do there.

Some reasonable advice

How does this sound?

I'm the guy your mom told you to worry about - the cyclist nerd. I'm looking for a player two but more than that - someone who enjoys conversation, doing right by others and, of course, cycling. I'm down for drinks, walks/bikes or just hanging out and watching/playing something.

someone should tell my dude not to use the *exact same username* on reddit... 

https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-got-scammed-in-the-dumbest-way-possible-and-i-feel-pathetic.660139/page-2#post-97462843

I've used Bumble for 3 years and haven't gotten a match once. The women who use dating apps where I live (Lexington, KY) are not the kind of women who would even be remotely interested in me. I know there are quote-unquote "nerdy" women here, but they aren't using dating sites or apps. I would imagine they already are dating people they met via personal friend groups or schools. The only people on dating sites/apps here are single moms and Christians who put "Jesus comes first" as the first thing in their profile. That's it.

It's why the only advice I could get in the dating thread was "move." And I can't. So I have to resign myself to being alone.

Imagine taking sex life advices from basement dwellers

Just a word of advice: coming off as super “nerdy” basically kills all interest, even from so-called “nerdy” women. My profile had absolutely no nerdy pics and the “nerdiest” thing about it was that I used a prompt that said I was into Pokémon as a kid. The amount of “gamer girl” messages I received from that prompt is kinda crazy.

It’s ok to mention that you like games, but don’t make it look like your primary hobby.

Also any large metro will have a pretty diverse dating pool, especially a big college town like Lexington, so I’m not sure why you are only seeing the Jesus and single moms

Counterpoint, I've been told I come off as "super nerdy" in my dating profiles without even trying, and a lot of men I've talked to (I'm a straight cis guy) have told me the same thing you're saying.

But I've gotten WAY more positive results from my profiles as they are now than when I intentionally downplayed that aspect of myself. And actual women have told me that they appreciate how I come across (as opposed to how men THINK they would react to me).

Obviously you probably don't want to intentionally play up the nerdiness or anything to an absurd degree. I had a phase like that. But don't hide who you are.

Women don’t mind if you’re nerdy, and it can be seen as attractive in the right context, but if your profile talks about anime and video games, it just comes off poorly

I used to use a prompt on hinge something along the lines of “the dorkiest thing about me is either that I’m engineer that works with code and drawings or that my first PC cost more than my first car”.

Changed it out and the amount of likes on my profile went up a ton.

Right now I’m not using the apps(currently seeing someone who I actually met on Bumble), but that was my experience at the time

Be nerdy. Don't be nerdy. I just changed my profile to say "I'm passionate about my hobbies and sharing them with others just as much as I'm passionate about learning the hobbies of others." Scrubbed all mention of video games, anime and FFXIV from my profile.

But yeah, thanks for all the encouragement, guys. I'm gonna pick myself back up and give the ol' Bumble and Hinge another shot. I'm gonna be patient and try to be more direct if any matches do occur.

In the meantime, I treated myself to a 30 pull in Genshin Impact with the money I got back thus ensuring I really never will find anybody.

I think people who don’t game sometimes have a hard time understanding the appeal of games, which is true for a lot of hobbies. I don’t think simply saying “video games” drives women away though — but it doesn’t convey enough meaning on its own. (And saying FFXIV means nothing to people without any experience with the FF series.)

As a woman who has had many nerdy/gamer crushes and partners but isn’t super into video games herself, I’ve really enjoyed learning about WHY someone was into gaming and what drew people to specific games. Which is a deeper conversation that tells me about what makes the person tick. AND it allows me to participate in the conversation and ask questions about the person, rather than be a passive listener to someone describing a game I’ve never played. (I’ve sat through a lot of the latter. It’s boring to be talked at.) When the person talks about why they got into gaming and why they are drawn to specific games, though, I get to learn about what kind of kid/teen they were, the memories they treasure, what motivates them, what they find interesting, and sometimes even how they view their place in the world and their values. I learned to appreciate video games through conversations that explain why a game is compelling (vs what happened in the game).

I still find it very sweet that my partner will tell me about games he thinks I’d like because it shows me he knows how I tick, too. But he’ll explain to me why he thinks it’s something I’d enjoy.

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/elon-musk-twitter-drama-ot-let%E2%80%99s-keep-it-here-parody-%F0%9F%94%B5-official-%EA%95%A4-up-musk-exposes-that-twitter-censored-stolen-naked-pictures.649272/page-416#post-97531669

WHAT YOU WILL NOT SEE ME DO...

Is judge other people for not making the same choice I made. Out of respect and understanding for those good things -- knowing that there are still good things being shared on Twitter; still good people on Twitter; still people doing good work through Twitter. I'm not going to sit here and judge people for not being exactly where I am.

Look, shared responsibility is hard. Yes, sometimes we have to put our money where our mouths are and make difficult choices, and yes...sometimes not making the choice will say a lot about you. But we still have to leave room for nuance, sensitivity, and respect for each other. Is the line between being pro or anti fascism really on your Twitter account? Really? Does every conversation about trying to do the best we can have to turn into a circular firing squad? Like this thread has?

I dunno man...but I'd like to think that, to a certain point, the concept of respecting other's choices isn't dead.

Big "be tolerant of the intolerant" energy.

[Taco Bell Tower]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/elon-musk-twitter-drama-ot-let%E2%80%99s-keep-it-here-parody-%F0%9F%94%B5-official-%EA%95%A4-up-musk-exposes-that-twitter-censored-stolen-naked-pictures.649272/page-416#post-97531669

WHAT YOU WILL NOT SEE ME DO...

Is judge other people for not making the same choice I made. Out of respect and understanding for those good things -- knowing that there are still good things being shared on Twitter; still good people on Twitter; still people doing good work through Twitter. I'm not going to sit here and judge people for not being [exactly /u]where I am.

Look, shared responsibility is hard. Yes, sometimes we have to put our money where our mouths are and make difficult choices, and yes...sometimes not making the choice will say a lot about you. But we still have to leave room for nuance, sensitivity, and respect for each other. Is the line between being pro or anti fascism really on your Twitter account? Really? Does every conversation about trying to do the best we can have to turn into a circular firing squad? Like this thread has?

I dunno man...but I'd like to think that, to a certain point, the concept of respecting other's choices isn't dead.

Big "be tolerant of the intolerant" energy.

Twitter as an experiment has failed.

But you said...

I have learned so much about my own identity thanks to Twitter. A huge part of who I am was borne through Twitter. I can't deny that.

So it didn't failed

[NekoFever]

I’m honestly surprised anyone picked that up considering how taboo it is to just fart in the wrong direction of Israel in the mainstream. Good on them for keeping the line. I imagine this shitstorm will kill its likelihood of getting a nom, but just the existence and ability for it to be seen is an important thing. There isn’t much of the Palestine view on these events in the mainstream

why don't you say what you really think Kanye

Farting in the direction of Israel is really going to stop this movie getting nominations from Hollywood, right guys?

 

[Taco Bell Tower]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/elon-musk-twitter-drama-ot-let%E2%80%99s-keep-it-here-parody-%F0%9F%94%B5-official-%EA%95%A4-up-musk-exposes-that-twitter-censored-stolen-naked-pictures.649272/page-416#post-97530328

all the people saying people should leave twitter sound exactly like MAGAS that say people should leave America when Trump won.

If this is is a joke, then I declare you to be a god of irony. This is so authentically "ResetEra hot take", it's impossible to tell it if it's sincere or not.

Lot of anger Ree posters replying to that with gifs lol

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/elon-musk-twitter-drama-ot-let%E2%80%99s-keep-it-here-parody-%F0%9F%94%B5-official-%EA%95%A4-up-musk-exposes-that-twitter-censored-stolen-naked-pictures.649272/page-418#post-97538614

Yeah Musk's Twitter is starting to determine how Republicans will run congress. Yeah, I don't think it's really a just a matter of Social Media anymore. This is starting to have real world consequences and these things tend to lead to violence on the Right. Every passing day Musk goes more extreme with his views, not less.

Honestly, twitter should be banned from this site. I'm sure that just posting tweets doesn't "support" it but I truly believe that propagating Twitter will be damaging in the long term. It seems very much like we have resigned ourselves to a reality where Twitter simply cannot be stopped and we should just get used to it. People may not view Musks Twitter acquisition as the equivalent of trump being elected but maybe we should.

[HaughtyFrank]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/is-jacob-from-the-castillo-protocol-the-most-generic-looking-protag-for-a-semi-major-game-in-the-last-five-years.660856/

*Resetera sees white videogame protagonist*

"Is this the most generic character ever?"

 

[BIONIC]

Yts should be eliminated from the gene pool

[HaughtyFrank]

Yts should be eliminated from the gene pool

Kinda over white protagonists tbh

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/elon-musk-twitter-drama-ot-let%E2%80%99s-keep-it-here-parody-%F0%9F%94%B5-official-%EA%95%A4-up-musk-exposes-that-twitter-censored-stolen-naked-pictures.649272/page-410#post-97485484

User Banned (3 days): Inappropriate inflammatory insinuations

I'd like to thank everyone that bought a Tesla. Hope you're happy with supporting this fascist.

[Hap Shaughnessy]

Edit:
https://www.resetera.com/threads/elon-musk-twitter-drama-ot-let%E2%80%99s-keep-it-here-parody-%F0%9F%94%B5-official-%EA%95%A4-up-musk-exposes-that-twitter-censored-stolen-naked-pictures.649272/page-416#post-97530304

If you consider getting off twitter or any social media an actual "sacrifice" you are pathetically beyond the pale.

God, I really, really wish I could ever feel as superior as some of you about anything because you managed to pull off the ultimate self-sacrifice of...deleting your Twitter account, redifining what it means to be an activist for the forces of good for generations to come.

as morally superior as you for being such a big strong man and.....helping support right-wing and fascist rhetoric to avoid the minor inconvenience of having to make e few extra clicks to find an article or news story?

User Banned (2 Weeks): Trolling, condescending rhetoric

[BIONIC]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/elon-musk-twitter-drama-ot-let%E2%80%99s-keep-it-here-parody-%F0%9F%94%B5-official-%EA%95%A4-up-musk-exposes-that-twitter-censored-stolen-naked-pictures.649272/page-410#post-97485484

User Banned (3 days): Inappropriate inflammatory insinuations

I'd like to thank everyone that bought a Tesla. Hope you're happy with supporting this fascist.

Well, we know that nepnep didn’t issue this particular ban 

[HaughtyFrank]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/elon-musk-twitter-drama-ot-let%E2%80%99s-keep-it-here-parody-%F0%9F%94%B5-official-%EA%95%A4-up-musk-exposes-that-twitter-censored-stolen-naked-pictures.649272/page-410#post-97485484

User Banned (3 days): Inappropriate inflammatory insinuations

I'd like to thank everyone that bought a Tesla. Hope you're happy with supporting this fascist.

The bar for what constitutes a fascist has fallen quite low

[Taco Bell Tower]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/rumor-areajugones-the-metal-gear-solid-remake-for-ps5-is-real-and-will-be-announced-soon-according-to-their-own-sources.660793/page-5#post-97540768

Just a reminder that at one point you all laugh about the idea of SH2 Remake.
And here we are.

OP is bitter because they tend to post rumors without backups 

[BIONIC]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/is-jacob-from-the-castillo-protocol-the-most-generic-looking-protag-for-a-semi-major-game-in-the-last-five-years.660856/page-5#post-97541440

User Banned (2 Weeks): Trolling, inflammatory accusations

White dude bad. Upvotes to the left.

Accusations

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/elon-musk-twitter-drama-ot-let%E2%80%99s-keep-it-here-parody-%F0%9F%94%B5-official-%EA%95%A4-up-musk-exposes-that-twitter-censored-stolen-naked-pictures.649272/page-418#post-97542910

So he really think Twitter is an active part of everyone's life.

It is... for the worst people

Like Kyuuji and excelsiorlef?

[HaughtyFrank]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/is-jacob-from-the-castillo-protocol-the-most-generic-looking-protag-for-a-semi-major-game-in-the-last-five-years.660856/page-5#post-97541440

User Banned (2 Weeks): Trolling, inflammatory accusations

White dude bad. Upvotes to the left.

Accusations

There's literally people who say they don't want a white guy character 

[Taco Bell Tower]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/a-mass-power-outage-in-north-carolina-is-being-investigated-as-a-%E2%80%98criminal-occurrence-%E2%80%99-authorities-say.660814/#post-97531432

So, a right wing terrorist attack?

Does this idiot know what a terrorist attack is?

[BIONIC]

Let's cut to the chase here.

White men spent hundreds of years forcibly making themselves the face of the heroic everyman in fiction, whitewashing ostensibly non-white characters and narratives, and simultaneously upholding barriers for non-white people to tell their own stories in various mediums.

You all are everywhere in fiction, and while this level of indoctrination means it's "easy to relate" to white men, the other side of the coin means there's nothing creatively interesting about a white man as a protagonist in any story at this point. We've seen you all before whether we wanted to or not. And this suddenly doesn't become less true just because we're now scanning in real actors into video games.

The Callisto Protocol was interesting insofar as it was a spiritual sequel to Dead Space. But it would've perked my ears more had a Black person been in the driver's seat instead.

[Daffy Duck]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/datingera-this-isnt-like-one-of-your-animes.666/page-509#post-97509589

So hi, I'm the guy who got scammed out of 40 bucks on a hookup app. I'm trying to turn this experience into a net positive and putting myself back out there on more legitimate channels. Would anybody be willing to look over my Bumble profile and see what I can improve? I already know my pictures suck so I would like some ideas on what to do there.

Some reasonable advice

How does this sound?

I'm the guy your mom told you to worry about - the cyclist nerd. I'm looking for a player two but more than that - someone who enjoys conversation, doing right by others and, of course, cycling. I'm down for drinks, walks/bikes or just hanging out and watching/playing something.

LMAO, what kind of freak comes up with something like that for a dating profile.

Jesus H. Christ

[ShutUp]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/is-jacob-from-the-castillo-protocol-the-most-generic-looking-protag-for-a-semi-major-game-in-the-last-five-years.660856/page-5#post-97541440

User Banned (2 Weeks): Trolling, inflammatory accusations

White dude bad. Upvotes to the left.

Accusations

Meanwhile, they consider Rey from the new Star Wars trilogy amazing over there.

Also, The Racist Has Spoken

Let's cut to the chase here.

White men spent hundreds of years forcibly making themselves the face of the heroic everyman in fiction, whitewashing ostensibly non-white characters and narratives, and simultaneously upholding barriers for non-white people to tell their own stories in various mediums.

You all are everywhere in fiction, and while this level of indoctrination means it's "easy to relate" to white men, the other side of the coin means there's nothing creatively interesting about a white man as a protagonist in any story at this point. We've seen you all before whether we wanted to or not. And this suddenly doesn't become less true just because we're now scanning in real actors into video games.

The Callisto Protocol was interesting insofar as it was a spiritual sequel to Dead Space. But it would've perked my ears more had a Black person been in the driver's seat instead.

Yes, had the game starred a black person being the one tossed in a maximum security prison, you totally wouldn’t have had any problems with that.

Exactly, and this is part of the "generic" argument for many (although, I do wish they'd actually articulate it the way you did to express their specific wants for a character which would actually give something of substance to consider and help prevent people dismissing it).

I'd like to see some prominent non-binary, trans, and characters with disabilities too. Especially in a world of future tech, there's a lot you can explore with prosthesis and how that affects the character.

Of course, more non-white characters are something we need more of, women especially.

There's so much more we can do than able bodied white guy, we've had so much of that already and it just makes the stories feel far less interesting.

This is a game that’s a spiritual successor to the Dead Space series where you fight off monsters. What about a character being trans or in a wheelchair or whatever would be interesting beyond “they’re trans and/or in a wheelchair!”? That’s all it would be, checking off a box. That’s all they ever want in these situations.

And even in saying that, I’d still play the shit out of this game. Characters skin color or gender doesn’t matter to me. Game looks good, I’m playing it.

[BIONIC]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/is-jacob-from-the-castillo-protocol-the-most-generic-looking-protag-for-a-semi-major-game-in-the-last-five-years.660856/page-6#post-97544224

They're saying a protagonist looks generic. A protagonist scanned from a real person can easily still be generic.

Besides, being generic is not an insult in and of itself. I'm a pretty generic looking white dude myself. Walk down the road to the mall and you'll probably find 100 other dudes who look a lot like me. The guy in my profile picture is also a pretty generic looking gay porn star.

It's not this big insult some of you seem to think it is.

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[Taco Bell Tower]

I'm a pretty generic looking white dude myself.

NepNep gon ban him

Edited: I meant them!  God, marrec really made an impact on this site