Quote from a reddit on this phenomenon:
When I was a kid taking AP courses and the like, the girls in those classes would all form study groups, and were very serious about academics. The boys, myself included, refused to have study groups, and we seemed to always be bragging and trying to one-up each other about how little we studied. Most of us were much more interested in gaming the system than learning whatever we were supposed to be learning.
I've never really considered the implications as they relate to gender, but I do think this outlook is critical for adjusting to life after school. Things are never as they seem. Gaming the system is the only goal, unless one works in a legitimate field in the sciences of whatever. The rest of us work in commerce, which is just a sea of liers and thieves. No room for earnest study, if I'm making any sense...
See? Girls are all about the group.and tend to follow trends within that group. This is both good and bad.
Good: girls get good grades in school because their girl group prioritizes good grades.
Bad: "Dad, I'm making an Only Fans."
How much you wanna BET, that the Only Fans girl is only doing it because it's cool amongst her friends?
Women are followers of what their social group is doing.
Men are often doing something else entirely but often it's not aligned with a group but for themselves.
This is both good and bad.
Good: Men create the Personal Computer in their garage, ignoring ALL social calls of their class to go to college, get a 9 to 5 job. The result is something like Apple.
Bad: Men use their leadership to corrupt and abuse. Most men are CEOs and data suggests most CEOs are narcissists which is individualism to an extreme.
So when I say women are followers I don't think it's a bad thing. It's just a very observable social dynamic. In fact, men bear the brunt of our excesses far worse than women!
Watch little kids (pause) and you'll see this happen naturally with no one's direct involvement.
While it is true that men have a group too, because after all we are human (didn't I say this in the original gatdamn post?), Men usually use the group as a way to compete and exoresss their individuality or as a mechanism for contacts and building a network to help them prosper in their career which lifts them even more as an individual and leader. For men, the group isnkostlu a means to get ahead. For women, the group is a means for support and something worth following to get that support.
The more you look at social dynamics the more you see it. It's utterly fascinating.
