if all we ultimately grade women on are looks -- which is what we do with porn, by and large, and in literally fetishistic detail -- then yeah. fortunately, we duders are only that shallow collectively when it comes to real women; as individuals, we're as much a complicated matrix of desires and needs as any of the women we stereotype. the problems result when we, like the pua folks, attempt a false consistency of thought and action.
i do not want any woman other than my wife. if i were single and presented with her and a sexy porn slut, i would choose my wife in an eyeblink. she is what i want from a WOMAN, not from porn. but do i still get a big ol' stiffy from pics of nekkid ladies on the internet? fuck yeah. that conundrum is your answer.