Random talk thread: It just keeps happening

[Himu]

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[Himu]

ALUMINUM FOIL ALUMINUM FOIL

USE ALUMINUM FOIL

[drew]

A cook who doesn't cook anything, how fitting.

actually i do cook some things like chicken for greek salads, make onion rings and calamari from scratch, as well as doing all the deep fried stuff

anyways shit was overwhelming as fuck, i have a lot to memorize and not a lot of time to do it, also i SUCK SHIT at using a knife

[Himu]

Madix is actually doing surprisingly well with all of this.  He's right at that age where he doesn't fully comprehend what's going on.  He knows that things have changed, and he knows his mommy isn't coming back, but he's got a lot of family members here at the new house (I call it a compound) to keep him preoccupied from thinking on it too much. 

I told Demi this already, but I really appreciate all the support you guys have given me.  This is the last place that I am always able to turn to and vent if need be.

who lives at the new house right now?

[Bebpo]

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By this point I think everyone on my friends list is a beautiful strong black woman.

[Himu]

are they independent

[lennedsay]

Damn Andrew. I'm glad you have other family around. Someday he'll realize what a bum grandpa is/was and he won't want anything to do with him. As someone that had two grandparents bow out less than gracefully, I can honestly say I had a better life after and never wanted to be around them even though I was just a kid. If you need to cut him out of you and your son's life, chances are your son won't be upset in the long run.

I hope you guys are adjusting well to the new place. Surrounding yourself with good people right now is the best thing.

[Groogrux]

who lives at the new house right now?

I'm staying in a house with my sister, her three children, and my son.  There is an apartment built over the garage where my mom and stepdad live.  Our next door neighbor is my uncle.   

[demi]

We all hope for the best for you and Maddie, keep us updated...

[Mr. Gundam]

Naughty kitty has no remorse

This cat has been drinking from toilets, climbing up screen doors, breaking plants, pooped on the stairs once (that was probably just because people were over and he was too scared to go up to the litter box, maybe we should get a second) and not giving a shit haha. He's sooo cute.

We've got two litter boxes for our cat (one up stairs, one in the basement), it's perfect.

[Reb]

A cook who doesn't cook anything, how fitting.

actually i do cook some things like chicken for greek salads, make onion rings and calamari from scratch, as well as doing all the deep fried stuff

anyways shit was overwhelming as fuck, i have a lot to memorize and not a lot of time to do it, also i SUCK SHIT at using a knife

Haha, don't you have a collection of knives?

[CajoleJuice]

A cook who doesn't cook anything, how fitting.

actually i do cook some things like chicken for greek salads, make onion rings and calamari from scratch, as well as doing all the deep fried stuff

anyways shit was overwhelming as fuck, i have a lot to memorize and not a lot of time to do it, also i SUCK SHIT at using a knife

Haha, don't you have a collection of knives?

Yeah, this is fucking hilarious.

[Diunx]

slitting the throat of a potential mugger and chopping onions are completely different things guys!

[Robo]

A cook who doesn't cook anything, how fitting.

actually i do cook some things like chicken for greek salads, make onion rings and calamari from scratch, as well as doing all the deep fried stuff

anyways shit was overwhelming as fuck, i have a lot to memorize and not a lot of time to do it, also i SUCK SHIT at using a knife

Haha, don't you have a collection of knives?

EVISCERATED

[drew]

cuttin a nicca hamstring does not equal chefin up a pear

[Phoenix Dark]

What  type of food do you get in the military right now?

[Madrun Badrun]

It wasn't suppose to look like this

[Mupepe]

It wasn't suppose to look like this

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Fixed

[Madrun Badrun]

 


This is all spacey and cool though.  Both pictures stem from the same original image.

[Madrun Badrun]

Some more of the gradient images

[Mupepe]

purty

[Himu]

I'm like, seeing colors man

[Madrun Badrun]

[Robo]

You really need to set up a Tumblr page.  Maybe you'll get discovered by a buzzband and they'll use one of your images as an album cover and you'll get famous and meet lots of chicks.  Think on it, bro.

[Madrun Badrun]

I'm always up for meeting lots of chicks!... except for the part where you actually have to interact with them of course.

[Madrun Badrun]

[Himu]

looks like a germ shot his goo

[Bebpo]

girl-age: since I'm always learning something; what I've learned this time around is that you NEVER EVER add a girl to your facebook unless you are like in a serious relationship or something, if then.  Will not do this next time!  Awkward situations become 100x more awkward when facebook is involved!

[Mupepe]

Details

[Phoenix Dark]

Saw a couple depressing things at work today. First was a 86+ yo guy who came in to have some extractions done. I've talked to him on the phone many times about insurance and stuff, but had never seen him irl. While on the phone he would constantly apologize to me if he didn't understand something, or forgot something, etc. I'd always be like "it's no problem sir, you have nothing to apologize for blah blah blah" and thought nothing of it; I figured he was just an old dude who was sensitive about being forgetful. Anyway he came in today for an hour and a half, and I heard him constantly telling the doctor "I'm sorry, oh my apologies sir, oh I forgot sorry" etc. I still kinda blew it off as him being sensitive.

At the end of his appointment his care worker came in to pick him up and help schedule his next appointment. I had to leave the side office to get some paperwork when I heard her yelling at him and saying stuff like "just stop talking, you asked me to handle this right? I thought so. No, I'm taking you straight home." I went back to the desk and finished up his scheduling and shook his hand. He seemed to be pretending everything was alright, and I just felt so shitty  :'(


Then later in the day our deaf patient brought her son in for his appointment; he's three and already is good at sign language. She can read lips very well and seems super energetic, but I couldn't help feeling shitty thinking wow, she'll never hear him laugh or cry or anything.

[lennedsay]

 

[Broseidon]

;_;

[Bacchus7]

It won't make you love them any less. And if you're a good person, be thankful that they will have at least one loving parent to help them along their way in life.

[Bacchus7]

I guess I just always looked at it like, if there happen to be blind, deaf, and mentally handicapped people born into this world, I'd rather they be mine than worse parents' children 'cause I know I would try my hardest to make their lives the happiest possible.

[Mr. Gundam]

My biggest fear in life is having my children become mentally handicapped   

Solution: Don't have children.

Kids are terrible.

Aren't you still one?

[Madrun Badrun]

My biggest fear in life is having my children become mentally handicapped  

In Saudi Arabia can't you just say your kid is an adulterer and have it stoned?  Presumably along with the goat.

[Bebpo]

So my LA casual friend didn't work.  There's nothing there but a dead end and I've accepted that and moved on.  Honestly I feel kind of uninterested in yet more effort of messaging, messaging, messaging until maybe a date and see how it works and 99% of the people on these internet sites are there because they have ISSUES and so it won't work in the longterm and ughhh.  I know it's a defeatist attitude and so I shouldn't think about it and just do do do, but it really is a lot of time that could be spent on more enjoyable things, like rpg discussions with magus.

[Bebpo]

Actually uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, maybe not.  I think things may have turned around.  Maaaaaybe.  It's worth a shot!  Do or do not, there is not try!

[Fresh Prince]

  ....

[Mr. Gundam]

Not this shit again.

DERP DERP DERPITY DERP!

[Cerveza mas fina]

Bebpo

Saw a couple depressing things at work today. First was a 86+ yo guy who came in to have some extractions done. I've talked to him on the phone many times about insurance and stuff, but had never seen him irl. While on the phone he would constantly apologize to me if he didn't understand something, or forgot something, etc. I'd always be like "it's no problem sir, you have nothing to apologize for blah blah blah" and thought nothing of it; I figured he was just an old dude who was sensitive about being forgetful. Anyway he came in today for an hour and a half, and I heard him constantly telling the doctor "I'm sorry, oh my apologies sir, oh I forgot sorry" etc. I still kinda blew it off as him being sensitive.

At the end of his appointment his care worker came in to pick him up and help schedule his next appointment. I had to leave the side office to get some paperwork when I heard her yelling at him and saying stuff like "just stop talking, you asked me to handle this right? I thought so. No, I'm taking you straight home." I went back to the desk and finished up his scheduling and shook his hand. He seemed to be pretending everything was alright, and I just felt so shitty  :'(

That's really sad

[Bebpo]

Everything thinks I'm an idiot for not bailing out and that I'm going to crash and burn fucking hard in the end on this.

99% chance they are right!  I can objectively see the fail coming from miles away.


But people do stupid shit with women for that 1%

I'm really good at doing stupid shit  


See you guys after I've blown up

[Bebpo]

Also I like being a nice guy :X  I don't see myself ever being a NOT nice guy in dating with a girl.  I cannot play the tough guy/bad guy part.  It's impossible for me.

[Fresh Prince]

Frankly I really don't understand what's going on. Is th- fuck better not to ask.

[Bebpo]

Are there even any girls out there who like nice, charming, sweet, and chivalrous men who are kind and sweet talk them and do nice gestures for them and always treat them right?

Because I'm under the impression all girls say they want prince charming like that, but they actually want biker bill from prison who beats up people who don't pay their dealers for a living.


Cause I'm always going to be prince charming, so it would be nice if some girls actually wanted to date that.  From my limited online dating experience, girls love to bed prince charming but they have no interest in actually dating him as a boyfriend.

[Cerveza mas fina]

You have it all twisted homey.

You're problem is not that you're charming and nice, but that you're desperate to have a girlfriend.

[Bebpo]

Err, I don't need a gf.  I've been not having one for a few years since my last one because I'd rather spend my time on my own life than on someone else.  I'm perfectly fine on my own.

I'm only following this up because I like being with this girl and want to have a working casual relationship.  Plus I like the attention because I'm a bit of an attention whore; to be fair though so is she so it works out for us both

And if you mean as opposed to having one night stands and fuck buddies, then yeah I have no interest in them.  I'd rather be alone and independent if I'm not dating someone (at least casually).  Just hooking up with random chicks for a night doesn't do anything for me.  In fact, when I hit around 28 after having slept with a few girls I kind of stopped caring about sex and action.  Especially when I figured out that if I want to, I can go get laid pretty much whenever I want. It's fun for a few hours but after you get off you're like "why did I even bother" and it doesn't seem worth it.  If I date someone it'll be for the companionship and to have someone to actually hang out with and do things with and not for just sex.

[Cerveza mas fina]

I don't see the problem man, you get to have sex now and you're single. But you want a girl to hang out with, but nothing that will be serious. You're asking for the impossible, a casual fuck buddy that you can also go to the movies with or a dinner. This is only possible extremely short periods of time, weeks, months tops.

From experience: Casual relationships always end in tears.

[Bebpo]

I don't see the problem man, you get to have sex now and you're single. But you want a girl to hang out with, but nothing that will be serious. You're asking for the impossible, a casual fuck buddy that you can also go to the movies with or a dinner.

From experience: Casual relationships always end in tears.

Yeah, that's basically what I would ideally like out of this situation.  I mean I'd be fine with a NORMAL relationship too if that's what it took to get the above, but she doesn't want that so I dunno.  I guess I just don't really know how casual relationships work since this is my first.  Am I supposed to not talk to her and then call her/text her up on random nights and say "hey, you wanna get together tonight?"  Because the way I see it is to get to the point where you start hooking up, you need a lead up first like going out to dinner or a movie or SOMETHING so that you can transition into the hook up.

So yes, I want to actually go on activities with this person so that we can then hook up from there when the mood is right.


I'm basically treating casual relationship as the same as open relationship, meaning a normal relationship but there's no commitment.  But that's not reaaaally what it is since she has no emotional investment.  I guess friends with benefits is a better description because friends hang out and do things together and then we hook up afterwards and that's the benefit!

[Bebpo]

Also I like being a nice guy :X  I don't see myself ever being a NOT nice guy in dating with a girl.  I cannot play the tough guy/bad guy part.  It's impossible for me.

You missed my point. Its great that you're a nice guy, none of us would have it any other way. But there's such a thing as being too nice to get out of this or being optimistic over the improbable.

My point, you're dating/fucking/whatever a girl who doesn't want a nice guy and is using you.

Speaking of being used, the girl who I had the one night stand with on Friday...disappeared.  Like I e-mailed her the next day and she never replied and that seems that.  It seemed like she just wanted to meet up with me in person, fuck me, and then never see me again.  WTF.  It feels oddly wrong to be used like that!

[Cerveza mas fina]

It's hard to feel sorry for you bro, I guess you'll find your way in time    

I didn't know this online dating thing could lead to actual hook ups, you seem to be pimping 

[chronovore]

A cook who doesn't cook anything, how fitting.

actually i do cook some things like chicken for greek salads, make onion rings and calamari from scratch, as well as doing all the deep fried stuff

anyways shit was overwhelming as fuck, i have a lot to memorize and not a lot of time to do it, also i SUCK SHIT at using a knife

Considering you have a closetful of knives, according to the What Did You Buy thread, the irony in this statement is overwhelming.

[chronovore]

Everything thinks I'm an idiot for not bailing out and that I'm going to crash and burn fucking hard in the end on this.

99% chance they are right!  I can objectively see the fail coming from miles away.


But people do stupid shit with women for that 1%

I'm really good at doing stupid shit  


See you guys after I've blown up

This is Evilbore. We all have differing opinions. Except on this one matter. Have you considered that? We all seem to agree on this one topic.

So you're either a opposite-sex relationship savant, or an idiot. Which does your dating history suggest?

I like you tons, Bebpo, but you're going to faceplant on this one.

[demi]

Bebpo is recreating The Last American Virgin right in front of our eyes

[Mupepe]

Bebpo, you do come off as desperate (and as I've said before, insecure).  Your multi paragraph posts saying "NUH UH!  HERE'S WHY!" reinforce that.  Dating is not about going into this shit with a plan.  You just date and see what happens with who.  You have these arbitrary rules and boundaries that come as childish.  I have to ask.  Have you ever had a serious relationship?  It seems like you haven't.  You seem to have a really strange ideal/robotic way that human relationships are supposed to follow.  Some shit is unfixable and some shit isn't worth your time in the first place.  I don't think you understand what a real connection is between two people that sparks a healthy relationship. NOTHING you have described with this girl seems have any more significance than just a friend but yet you have gone on about how you feel like you two are totally the same.  You barely talk!  When you do it seems to be dysfunctional!  And you seem to want totally different things!  Good fucking is not enough.  You'll find good fucking elsewhere without all the BS. 

And to my point...

You trying to mold these mixed signals, awkward conversations and dysfunctional encounters into something real is what reeks of desperation.  I'm sure you've seen people in a relationship where you smack your forehead and you think to yourself "the inevitable breakup is going to be epic. why are these people together?" haven't you? That's US watching YOU.  It's hard to see the problem when you're part of it and that's what friends are for.

I don't know what you tell these women when you meet them, but it probably reeks of desperation and insecurity as well since when someone doesn't realize that they are insecure/desperate it's hard to hide.  That's probably why they use you to fuck (because you are good looking and successful) but keep you back with a ten foot pole when it comes to relationships.

[Mr. Gundam]

Are there even any girls out there who like nice, charming, sweet, and chivalrous men who are kind and sweet talk them and do nice gestures for them and always treat them right?

Yeah, they're out there. My wife is one of them. You just act like a normal human being and not some desperate dude who wants to "rescue" them.

As crazy as she may be, this girl has made her intentions clear. You're so full of chivalrous whimsy that you fail to realize this and continue on your quixotic quest of fighting windmills and making her love you.

I love you man, you're my ro-bro! But, this is just going to be messy chaotic fail and we'd rather not see you crash and burn like so many of us have done before you.

[Mr. Gundam]

Don't you know people from college? Graduate school? Teaching English in Japan? Your law firm? Temple? Surely there is someone out there connected to you who knows people that might be more stable and date-worthy.

[Bebpo]

I have to ask.  Have you ever had a serious relationship?  It seems like you haven't.  You seem to have a really strange ideal/robotic way that human relationships are supposed to follow.  Some shit is unfixable and some shit isn't worth your time in the first place.  I don't think you understand what a real connection is between two people that sparks a healthy relationship. NOTHING you have described with this girl seems have any more significance than just a friend but yet you have gone on about how you feel like you two are totally the same.  You barely talk!  When you do it seems to be dysfunctional!  And you seem to want totally different things!  Good fucking is not enough.  You'll find good fucking elsewhere without all the BS. 

Sure.  Although wouldn't have defined it as "serious" since I'm not that serious of person in the first place.  My gf said our relationship was fun because "It was like being in a high school relationship", so take that for whatever its worth.

Otoh to the rest of your post, I like the BS though.  I'm one of those people that enjoy drama in the chase because it keeps things exciting and unpredictable.  I looooove the chase, it's my favorite part of dating; it beats any xbox live game or games of chess.  It's the ultimate battle of minds and strategies and left curveballs.  And when you survive it, and get to a relationship it feels awesome.

And I know you don't believe me, but I don't think I come off as desperate or wanting a relationship when I go on dates with new girls.  In fact, I think it's the exact opposite: I come off as nice, polite, and totally distant/uninterested because 90% of the time I am!  For every 5 girls I meet, I'm maaaybe interested in one and the rest I just agree to go on a date to get more first date experience for future dates; get more comfortable at meeting and greeting new people.  Although I think I'm over that and from now on I'll only go on first dates with girls I am actually interested in (and not just physically, but actually interested in finding out more about them).  I think I know what I'm doing at this point for at least first dates, so I'm done practicing.

[Mupepe]

You like the drama?

*washes hands*

Welp, that explains it.  You can have an exciting chase without the drama, but that seems to define it for you.  Good luck, buddy.  At least take nudie pics of her before she kills your pet rabbit so that you can post them here as revenge.

[BlackMage]

So my LA casual friend didn't work.  There's nothing there but a dead end and I've accepted that and moved on.  Honestly I feel kind of uninterested in yet more effort of messaging, messaging, messaging until maybe a date and see how it works and 99% of the people on these internet sites are there because they have ISSUES and so it won't work in the longterm and ughhh.  I know it's a defeatist attitude and so I shouldn't think about it and just do do do, but it really is a lot of time that could be spent on more enjoyable things, like rpg discussions with magus.

That's how i ended up feeling at the end too. It's too much work for nothing.