Random talk thread: It just keeps happening

[Barry Egan]

One of my folks is gonna commit career suicide tomorrow. (Won't be more specific, sorry. They're both semi-public figures.)

I've had better 4 week spans in my life, I'm not going to lie.

I skimmed over the word "career" in this post and was seriously  for a bit.

[Boogie]

Moncton shooter caught.

[Himu]

Um. Is Esperanza a good middle name? I like it. Yeah, it's hispanic but who gives a shit? I asked a friend about it and she's like,"I don't like taking other peoples culture" as if I have any naming scheme culture to fall back on. I sure as fuck am not Jewish and I chose Naomi as a first name.

[Reb]

Just choose some kind of luxury car.

[Himu]

I have a cousin named Mercedes. People give her shit for being named after "car" but she really wasn't.

[Rufus]

Good call about the car names. I bet they vet them to be inoffensive all over the world.

As far as appropriating other culture's names: wuh-huh? If she's white (even if not, really...) the chances of her having a 'Christian' name having Semitic or Greek origin are pretty high. Just pick something that sounds nice to you and/or has a nice meaning.

[nudemacusers]

my wife is named mercedes. occassionally you'll get some doofus making a joke but it's not very common at all... but it is fun especially when I play this song around her

[Phoenix Dark]

I didn't know your wife was black.

[nudemacusers]

just her booty 

[Himu]

It's about more than liking a name. I refuse be one of those cheeseburgers with a stupid ass name.

from the roadmap:

Types of names which are more common among transgender women

I've noticed that TGs and strippers often gravitate toward similar naming patterns... I'm not exactly sure of the significance of that generalization. They often seem to do with notions of hyperfeminine glamor and skew toward certain socioeconomic groups.

Puns: Anita Drink, Amber Waves, Amanda B. Reckonedwith, you get the idea.
Divas: Bette, Whitney, Barbra, Liza, etc.
Minerals and gems: Jade, Sapphire, Amber, Crystal, etc. Generally more popular with strippers than trans women, I think.
French-sounding names: -ique, -ette, La- etc. which seems linked to...
Fashion and luxury names: CoCo, Chloe, Chanel, Tiffany, Lexus, etc.
 
Pet names: Sasha, Ginger, Fifi, etc. In fact, there's a TG game where you can come up with your drag name by taking a family pet name and either your street name or mother's maiden name.
 
Soap-opera names: Lexie, Reena, Drucilla, the sorts of names you've probably never heard used for real people.
 
Alliterative: Repeating beginning letters in a name. For instance, two famous Chicago showgirls are Mimi Marks and Monica Munro.
Hyper-feminine endings: -elle -ette -a -ee, -ita, -ique, -i, -ie.

Is Naomi Esperanza Daniels like these names? Is it a transsexual name or does it blend?

DO NOT QUOTE THIS POST. Will be deleted by end of the day.

[nudemacusers]

the middle name is over the top imo. doesn't say 'cheeseburger' to me necessarily. I'd go for something a little more grounded. I like your first name, though, and I assume that's your family name, yeah?

[Rufus]

It doesn't fit any of the categories outlined there, so no, not a typical transgender name. They're both nice and 'normal' names.

[Great Rumbler]

If I ever change my name, it's gonna be to "Xerxes Alexander Charlemagne."

[Himu]

Fucking middle names.

[Reb]

I personally think its too much Himu.
I would go for something vanilla like Sarah.


Or no middle name, I have no middle name, it's working out thus far.

[Himu]

I can opt to not have a middle name?!

[Himu]

I'm not from Africa and have no source of African pride. Where in Africa do I choose a middle name from? Ghana? Nigeria? South Africa? Might as well give some Chinese kid an Indian middle name because he's Asian. A Latina name is more relatable than an African one. The only African I know is momo!

[nudemacusers]

you can opt not to have a middle name, fwiw

[Mupepe]

It's about more than liking a name. I refuse be one of those cheeseburgers with a stupid ass name.

How come she can say cheeseburger but I can't!!??

[Shadow Mod]

Do something Greek for your middle name.

[Madrun Badrun]

And a  black pornstar at that. 

edit:  goddamn it missed the page. 

[TVC15]

If I ever change my name, it's gonna be to "Xerxes Alexander Charlemagne."

I'd shoot for something classy like Gustav Fahrenheit Ransome.

[Kara]

The name I'd pick if I could change my name is the one I use on Twitter.

If I ever write a book I'm going to be dead last in the alphabetized listing of authors in every library. 

[Shadow Mod]

Talk about name you use on twitter but don't plug it brehs.

[Shadow Mod]

Yes. It's truly patriotic. (sent in a pm)

[hampster]

The most important part of choosing a middle name is making sure you have awesome initials. Would rather be MNX () for MAX () for example

[brawndolicious]

If you're going with a full first, middle and last name change, won't it make sense to go with something that ties it all together? Like your full name being from one culture/language or having some unifying meaning behind it? Naomi and Esperanza do sound nice on their own but Daniels makes me think of Cedric from The Wire.

[Kara]

Talk about name you use on twitter but don't plug it brehs.

I like to manage my personal brands. 

I PM'd you mine, hope you ready for some grade A nonsense.

[Himu]

I'm not from Africa and have no source of African pride. Where in Africa do I choose a middle name from? Ghana? Nigeria? South Africa? Might as well give some Chinese kid an Indian middle name because he's Asian. A Latina name is more relatable than an African one. The only African I know is momo!

The point of the "troll" smiley is to indicate a tongue in cheek, joking post himu.

Please understand.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

somali girl names are pretty imo

[close]

I know you were. But people have actually suggested that.

[Raban]

my twitter handle is my mom's name

[nudemacusers]

if anyone needs to tweet me you can do so at @andrewonderick

don't expect much activity tho 

[Phoenix Dark]

Himuro: what about "Annette"? It's my favorite middle name for girls.

[TVC15]

@tvc15

[Phoenix Dark]

@realPhoenixDark

[Shadow Mod]

Has mac seen the Cop Dog red letter media review...

[ZephyrFate]

@Tagesreste

[Broseidon]

Played a game of 40k today. Havent played a table top game of it in the best part of a decade. Still won tho

[Kara]

Made a Section 179 joke today at bidness lunch that a CPA laughed at and I didn't even have to repeat myself. 

Too bad I've wanted to cry all afternoon but haven't just gone and gotten it over with so I can be productive. Instead I've just been sniffling at my desk for hours while being preoccupied. Peeps prolly thinks I had an allergic reaction to something I ate. 

[Raban]

I thought that was your name now.

nah my irl name is my grandmother's name and mother's maiden name, tho I'm not totally sure I can legally change my last name in the new transgender law that passed in California. I'd like to do away with the "Raban" so there's no way to trace my horribly shameful post history on this board back to me

[benjipwns]

"No no no, it's Ray-ban, I'm heir to the sunglass fortune. I have no idea who made all these horrible posts on this weird hate forum."

[Atramental]

 

[Himu]

Himuro: what about "Annette"? It's my favorite middle name for girls.

I'm leaning on no middle name. This is too stressful and forced. I chose the first name instantly. Just works for me. Didn't have to think about it, and have been going by that privately since 2009. For a middle name, I actually have to put work into it, and nothing feels natural.

[hampster]

(Image removed from quote.)

 

Will Space Jam is Canon need to give up the crown now

[nudemacusers]

Himuro: what about "Annette"? It's my favorite middle name for girls.

I'm leaning on no middle name. This is too stressful and forced. I chose the first name instantly. Just works for me. Didn't have to think about it, and have been going by that privately since 2009. For a middle name, I actually have to put work into it, and nothing feels natural.

could pick an old family middle name or some such (i.e., grandmother's, great-grandmother's, etc)

[Kara]

Will Space Jam is Canon need to give up the crown now

Too appropriate from M:tG flavor text, empires rise and fall, but Space Jam is eternal.

[Himu]

(Image removed from quote.)

 

Will Space Jam is Canon need to give up the crown now

Naw. It is close but Space Jam is still the king.

[Great Rumbler]

(Image removed from quote.)

 

Will Space Jam is Canon need to give up the crown now

Naw. It is close but Space Jam is still the king.

And Oscar already did that joke months ago.

[brawndolicious]

What about Anna? I always liked it because it's a palindrome and because of the Boten Anna song but Naomi Anna Daniels actually flows pretty well. Just don't go with Faith though, I reserved that for my future daughter so I can intimidate the first boyfriend she brings over by asking if he's a man of Faith.

[chronovore]

It's about more than liking a name. I refuse be one of those cheeseburgers with a stupid ass name.

How come she can say cheeseburger but I can't!!??

http://brokeassstuart.com/sf/2014/06/05/etiquette-for-using-slurs-in-a-post-trannyshack-world/

[Kara]

Woke up drunk--sorry to everyone who actually read those tweets last night BTW--which I realized I'm too old and have too many responsibilities to be doing, moped around for hours sad and drunk, did a high stress professional activity OK when I sobered up, developed a way to talk to my shrink about a subject I can't really talk honestly with them about without jamming them up that's more substantive than "So let's say I have this friend..." because they told me in session on Friday that they've known I was not always honest with them about this subject (in truth I am almost never honest with them about it, but some days I play the chess game we have to play wrt this matter better than others), called my shrink and left them a message saying that I had a way to talk about that thing I can't talk honestly with them about without jamming them up and they could call me back for the deets, emotionally broke down but actually cried it out unlike Friday, then went into the highest of high stress situations for like 8 hours and performed admirably--my utterly demolished self-esteem and eternal self-loathing couldn't argue contra--even though the entire time I was profoundly sad and wracked by despair, I didn't even flinch when someone made a quip about me not sitting in the bride's room because it was full of women--like that would dissuade me--and not because I couldn't stand to be in a room so specifically designed to remind me of the latest and greatest personal failure in my trophy case of great personal failures.

At one point in the night someone complimented me on being the picture of serenity in chaos and I wanted to be like  but instead I was like  .

Just another day in paradise y'all.

[Yulwei]

waking up drunk is seriously one of the worst feelings  i don't do that anymore. had a bad experience

i am now going to bed so  c ya

[Yulwei]

well i just read the rest of yoiur post and that's good. the shrink probably knew you were bullshitting 100% though

im really going to bed now

[Kara]

Maybe they did, maybe they didn't, maybe the true extent of what they're asking about is so severe that they can't even comprehend how much I have to lie about it. Who knows, I'm not going to expose myself trying to find out--if tonight taught me anything it's that I'm too important a cog in too may machinations to be unreliable, even when I'm at ground zero.

I think they've learned enough from our time apart (we split over creative differences late last year) to just be upfront with me about not believing some (or all) of my bullshit in our reentry session, and I didn't exactly retreat from that honesty when they broke kayfabe--I admitted that that subject is nothing but a very high stakes cat and mouse game we both play, it's our Cold War if you will.

Anyways, the call didn't pique their interest enough to call me back, and I know they check their voice mail every day, so w/e.

[Kara]

So a cool thing about being a key person is that when your shit goes south no one will let you go south. (And by cool I mean absolutely uncool, to be clear.)

Initially when my shit went south I had the presence of mind to go to my clients and ask them to work with me on allowing me to have a normal person schedule, if only for 1 day a week, because I knew that I wouldn't be reliable at my old work rate. I got the same response from all of them, this  . (I especially enjoyed getting this from my family first and devoutly religious client, they were like, "I'm sympathetic, I've been in your position before, but .")

I managed to negotiate my most demanding client down to letting me leave at a "reasonable hour" on Fridays because I knew Fridays would always be the worst day for me, but in the back of my mind I knew it was a bullshit agreement, and it has been bullshit so far. 

Anyways, I guess they felt bad about making me work so late on Friday even though a large part of me having to stay late that night was just me shitting the bed on project after project after project because I was in a state so they sent me this hilarious email on Saturday when I was at that "rise to the occasion" professional thing I rambled about earlier itt. "Karakand, regarding the work I asked you to have done by Sunday night, you don't have to do it if you've done [impossible task to have had done by this point]," to which I had to email back, "Then it looks like I have to have that work done by Sunday night." Manufacturing consent brehs. 

So I came into the office to only work on these items, then go home and collapse because I couldn't sleep again last night (2 days now) and am basically just emotionally amortizing myself to meet my obligations this week when they contact me with, "Karakand, what will you be working on for me today?" to which I responded with "[The work you asked to have done by tonight] and my regular weekly billing, then I'm going to head home." (They've been riding my ass about the billing so I threw that in there to show I wasn't just doing the bare minimum.) Then they thanked me for remembering the billing, but told me to table that and do [high stress task] instead, in addition to the work they already wanted to have done by tonight.  The manipulation brehs.

[Madrun Badrun]

Consecutive stinky farts

[Phoenix Dark]

be an accountant brehs

spoiler (click to show/hide)

[close]

[ZephyrFate]

hungover, brehs

fun night at GLAM (gay drag queen show once a month downtown), met an average looking guy who was at least very sweet & moved here from SE Oregon after his parents disowned him for being gay. Got his number. Didn't go home with him because I can be a classy girl with I'm not #sluttingitup most of the time.

Then I got home and got hit up on Grindr to hookup. Luckily, this hookup had 420. Unluckily, this is probably why I am so damn hungover today. Alcohol and 420 is just not a great combo for the next day.

[Himu]

On Friday I went to a BBQ and a drag bar for a show with friends. I got a guys number. He was pretty gross but it was good for confidence. The show made it worth it. I had a martini and a piña colada and I was drunk off my rocker. Had a migraine by the time I got home. Went to a graduation party for my cousin yesterday, had a fun time with my cousins. My cousin and her girlfriend are having their wedding in September. It's doctor who themed. That alone had me laughing for line a minute. It's still hilarious. We are going to get me glammed up and get me my first dress for that wedding.

Today I had tacos for lunch.

If only I had weed

[Kara]

Your life is a mess. Quit and join the Peace Corps?

For quite some time.

My career change is something like that--if it works out that is--I've got no reason to hang around anymore, but it's not going to be a quick process. Just getting out of my current field will take 6 months, and let's be honest, I need a little bit of self-reformation before I leap into the void.

Say what you will about Karakand, but his twitter is amazing.

imo it's the best manner of interacting with me, even the last few weeks.

Be sure to check out my Favstar for some grade A shit, even though my tweet about LeBron James and SFR Yugoslavian workers' self-management that I thought of during the 2011 NBA Finals and waited a fucking year to be able to tweet after the 2012 NBA Finals is no longer on my most popular tweets page.  :'(

e: NO WAIT IT'S STILL THERE 

[Phoenix Dark]

lie about yourself in a family history portrait brehs 

come on