Random talk thread: It just keeps happening

[ToxicAdam]

I'm sick and tired of my ear buds always breaking where one side won't work. My sennheisers lasted me a good few years but I'm sick and tired of the issues that show up after a while. Does anyone know of a good fix to this?

Earbuds are like sunglasses to me. I just buy 15-25 dollar ones and when they break, they break.

I find the 'over the ear' ones last much longer.

[Brehvolution]

They sound much better as well.

[Kara]

Yeah, buds are definitely sunglasses tier.

[nudemacusers]

Yeah, buds are definitely sunglasses tier.

so I should get some that are black, overpriced yuropean? 

[Phoenix Dark]

My brother is only 21 but his childish, selfish behavior truly stuns me. He's been dating a very career focused chick who is a nurse making good money. He's in med school and wants to be a surgeon, yet doesn't seem really serious. Right now he has a cushy research job at the biggest university in the state thanks to his gf's sister recommending him, despite him having no experience. He sister basically told him he's apart of the family and wanted to help him out; she's very keen on the idea of him becoming a doctor.

As I said his gf is super driven and rather serious, whereas my bro is lazy and very junky (messy room). She's been dealing with all that shit...and now he has decided he wants to dump her for no reason. Basically he wants to meet other people/fuck around.

The problem is that he plans on keeping the job, which strikes me as a douche move. He'll have to see the sister every day, too, which will no doubt be awkward but he doesn't give a fuck.


I'm not a fan of the gf but she's nice. She does everything for him BTW, including driving him around to various med schools (he's planning on transferring to a new one later). So it looks like he basically used her for a year and then threw her in the bushes...and he's completely oblivious that anyone would think that lol.

[Rahxephon91]

I'm sick and tired of my ear buds always breaking where one side won't work. My sennheisers lasted me a good few years but I'm sick and tired of the issues that show up after a while. Does anyone know of a good fix to this?

Earbuds are like sunglasses to me. I just buy 15-25 dollar ones and when they break, they break.

I find the 'over the ear' ones last much longer.

Yeah it dosen't even seem to matter how much they cost at this point.

I buy ear buds so I can throw them in my pocket and take them out during commuting. I feel like thats the entire point of them. They're small an easy to move around with.

Yet, each one I've had has fallen a part pretty quickly.

I had $100 Shure ones. Sounded nice, but thanks to having to put them in my ear strangley the wire eventually fucked up.

The Yurbuds I had just fell apart.

The Sound Magic ones that were nice and around $40 had the right ear just fall apart for whatever reason.

Now I'm on some $30 sennhesiers which sound ok, but I'm sure will also fall apart.

[Shadow Mod]

My brother is only 21 but his childish, selfish behavior truly stuns me. He's been dating a very career focused chick who is a nurse making good money. He's in med school and wants to be a surgeon, yet doesn't seem really serious. Right now he has a cushy research job at the biggest university in the state thanks to his gf's sister recommending him, despite him having no experience. He sister basically told him he's apart of the family and wanted to help him out; she's very keen on the idea of him becoming a doctor.

As I said his gf is super driven and rather serious, whereas my bro is lazy and very junky (messy room). She's been dealing with all that shit...and now he has decided he wants to dump her for no reason. Basically he wants to meet other people/fuck around.

The problem is that he plans on keeping the job, which strikes me as a douche move. He'll have to see the sister every day, too, which will no doubt be awkward but he doesn't give a fuck.


I'm not a fan of the gf but she's nice. She does everything for him BTW, including driving him around to various med schools (he's planning on transferring to a new one later). So it looks like he basically used her for a year and then threw her in the bushes...and he's completely oblivious that anyone would think that lol.

Tell him to go ahead with the dumping already because it's way more honest than stringing her along.

[Madrun Badrun]

Nami finally pooped.  But not pumpkin, so there is more up there.

[Phoenix Dark]

My brother is only 21 but his childish, selfish behavior truly stuns me. He's been dating a very career focused chick who is a nurse making good money. He's in med school and wants to be a surgeon, yet doesn't seem really serious. Right now he has a cushy research job at the biggest university in the state thanks to his gf's sister recommending him, despite him having no experience. He sister basically told him he's apart of the family and wanted to help him out; she's very keen on the idea of him becoming a doctor.

As I said his gf is super driven and rather serious, whereas my bro is lazy and very junky (messy room). She's been dealing with all that shit...and now he has decided he wants to dump her for no reason. Basically he wants to meet other people/fuck around.

The problem is that he plans on keeping the job, which strikes me as a douche move. He'll have to see the sister every day, too, which will no doubt be awkward but he doesn't give a fuck.


I'm not a fan of the gf but she's nice. She does everything for him BTW, including driving him around to various med schools (he's planning on transferring to a new one later). So it looks like he basically used her for a year and then threw her in the bushes...and he's completely oblivious that anyone would think that lol.

Tell him to go ahead with the dumping already because it's way more honest than stringing her along.

She deserve that. From what I understand their plan was for him to move in with her, and she was cool with being the breadwinner until he became a doctor. Why would you dick around a chick who is in your corner that much? She was ready to go all the way.

Also learned he's been seeing someone else on the side and plans on moving in with her after he breaks up with his gf. I am a scumbag and have become a savage lately...but even I can't imagine doing something as shitty as this. scust

[Madrun Badrun]

My brother is only 21 but his childish, selfish behavior truly stuns me. He's been dating a very career focused chick who is a nurse making good money. He's in med school and wants to be a surgeon, yet doesn't seem really serious. Right now he has a cushy research job at the biggest university in the state thanks to his gf's sister recommending him, despite him having no experience. He sister basically told him he's apart of the family and wanted to help him out; she's very keen on the idea of him becoming a doctor.

As I said his gf is super driven and rather serious, whereas my bro is lazy and very junky (messy room). She's been dealing with all that shit...and now he has decided he wants to dump her for no reason. Basically he wants to meet other people/fuck around.

The problem is that he plans on keeping the job, which strikes me as a douche move. He'll have to see the sister every day, too, which will no doubt be awkward but he doesn't give a fuck.


I'm not a fan of the gf but she's nice. She does everything for him BTW, including driving him around to various med schools (he's planning on transferring to a new one later). So it looks like he basically used her for a year and then threw her in the bushes...and he's completely oblivious that anyone would think that lol.

Tell him to go ahead with the dumping already because it's way more honest than stringing her along.

She deserve that. From what I understand their plan was for him to move in with him, and she was cool with being the breadwinner until he became a doctor. Why would you dick around a chick who is in your corner that much? She was ready to go all the way.

Also learned he's been seeing someone else on the side and plans on moving in with her after he breaks up with his bf. I am a scumbag and have become a savage lately...but even I can't imagine doing something as shitty as this. scust

I am so confused PD.

[Phoenix Dark]

I pulled a Father Mike there, my bad for the typos 

[Madrun Badrun]

You just subconsciously think your brother is dating a dude.  Got it. 

[Kara]

I used to be like your bro, PD. Now I live in a commune. No trophy, no flowers, no flashbulbs, no wine, haunted by something I cannot define. Tell him to stop being a shit.

[bluemax]

I helped financially support a girl who was prepping to go to med school when she stopped working full time and started doing MCAT classes and volunteer work.

Then she broke up with me right as the company I was working for was about to go out of business and I wasn't getting paid. Good times.

[Shadow Mod]

Honestly you should never "support" another person. It rarely ends well. They either meet someone else and or you feel used.

The reverse is true as well though, don't be supported, that can be used against you as some kind of power/manipulation grab.

I mean there are instances where it's not this black and white, relationships work but for the most part it just ends up complicating a relationship and infusing bitterness into the equation when it doesn't work out.

[Shadow Mod]

Oh come on, you can definitely support a significant other and accept support from them. The only time it affects a relationship negatively is if you fuck up horribly or they're an asshole.

What? I'm talking like huge support, as in you gotta work and support them financially while they go for something like a MD and then they end up just bonding with some other person because you never see each other any more and they have more in common with some peer than your ass now. It happens time and again. I just warn people off of doing that because it rarely works in their favor. It's one thing if they're shouldering some or a lot of the burden themselves but if you're just a piggy bank and someone who gets rarely seen except when bills are due, then pffft.

[Kara]

Relationships are like the casino, never put up more than you're willing to lose.

[brawndolicious]

I don't get it, why is she willing to pay for his living expenses if he's in medical school? The amount of money he's saving is tiny compared to the actual tuition.

Edit: No he has a research lab job but she's still supporting him financially? I'm confused.

Oh come on, you can definitely support a significant other and accept support from them. The only time it affects a relationship negatively is if you fuck up horribly or they're an asshole.

No. I mean it's okay when there's a young child to take care of which is a full-time obligation but there will usually be some regret assuming both partners have career goals. In that case the parent staying home has to pause for several years before going back to school/work which isn't great plus it's not uncommon in single-income relationships for the breadwinner to feel entitled to spending a disproportionate amount of money on themselves or to hiding finances.

Of course it works out a lot of the time but I don't think anyone has met somebody and thought they would make an awesome stay-at-home mother/father.

[Shadow Mod]

Also a lot of the time people don't even break up or divorce but that enmity is always fucking there regardless.

[Phoenix Dark]

His new chick also has a pretty good job, also in the medical field. So he's basically going from one person supporting him to another. smh

My mom is VERY disappointed. She never really liked the gf but really dislikes how this went down, and how ungrateful my brother seems. This chick literally drove his ass around to different med schools (in different states) for interviews; took off time from work to do it in fact. She noted that she's seen this general story play out many times, including in her own life to an extent: IE the guy is in school, chick has a steady job, guy gets close to graduating or graduates and starts looking for a new chick. As if the woman is a car that needs to be traded in for a newer one after you get a better job. ugh...

Glad I'm not in a real relationship brehs. It would be the opposite for me, since I have a steady career whereas my friend is in retail and went back to school. So naturally I end up meeting people at work or in restaurants who are closer to my field or "level" than she is. But I can't imagine just throwing someone in the bushes because she's not having similar success. Granted if you're in a relationship with some GAFer type who is working retail and has no ambitions/goals/direction as a late 20s/early 30s year old person, throw them in the bushes. But if the person is actively trying to advance in life, has a goal, etc? Why judge that person or be a dick.

[CatsCatsCats]

Something about this page makes me want to eat cake

[Shadow Mod]

His new chick also has a pretty good job, also in the medical field. So he's basically going from one person supporting him to another. smh

My mom is VERY disappointed. She never really liked the gf but really dislikes how this went down, and how ungrateful my brother seems. This chick literally drove his ass around to different med schools (in different states) for interviews; took off time from work to do it in fact. She noted that she's seen this general story play out many times, including in her own life to an extent: IE the guy is in school, chick has a steady job, guy gets close to graduating or graduates and starts looking for a new chick. As if the woman is a car that needs to be traded in for a newer one after you get a better job. ugh...

Glad I'm not in a real relationship brehs. It would be the opposite for me, since I have a steady career whereas my friend is in retail and went back to school. So naturally I end up meeting people at work or in restaurants who are closer to my field or "level" than she is. But I can't imagine just throwing someone in the bushes because she's not having similar success. Granted if you're in a relationship with some GAFer type who is working retail and has no ambitions/goals/direction as a late 20s/early 30s year old person, throw them in the bushes. But if the person is actively trying to advance in life, has a goal, etc? Why judge that person or be a dick.

This is the shit I've been talking about. Being a nurse though is nothing to turn your nose up at. Honestly though people shouldn't be afraid to think of themselves first sometimes in these situations, it's better in the long run.

[brawndolicious]

Something about this page makes me want to eat cake

I got myself one of these tonight and it looks like a cupcake.



>2,000 calories each.

[Kara]

Something about this page makes me want to eat cake

#JeSuisArvie

[Phoenix Dark]

His new chick also has a pretty good job, also in the medical field. So he's basically going from one person supporting him to another. smh

My mom is VERY disappointed. She never really liked the gf but really dislikes how this went down, and how ungrateful my brother seems. This chick literally drove his ass around to different med schools (in different states) for interviews; took off time from work to do it in fact. She noted that she's seen this general story play out many times, including in her own life to an extent: IE the guy is in school, chick has a steady job, guy gets close to graduating or graduates and starts looking for a new chick. As if the woman is a car that needs to be traded in for a newer one after you get a better job. ugh...

Glad I'm not in a real relationship brehs. It would be the opposite for me, since I have a steady career whereas my friend is in retail and went back to school. So naturally I end up meeting people at work or in restaurants who are closer to my field or "level" than she is. But I can't imagine just throwing someone in the bushes because she's not having similar success. Granted if you're in a relationship with some GAFer type who is working retail and has no ambitions/goals/direction as a late 20s/early 30s year old person, throw them in the bushes. But if the person is actively trying to advance in life, has a goal, etc? Why judge that person or be a dick.

This is the shit I've been talking about. Being a nurse though is nothing to turn your nose up at. Honestly though people shouldn't be afraid to think of themselves first sometimes in these situations, it's better in the long run.

Yea being a nurse, especially where she works, is a good job. Crazy hours but they make good money and can get really good health insurance. Especially for someone who isn't even 25 yet? That's a jackpot compared to a lot of young people these days...

I've seen my friends dump chicks in similar positions in terms of graduation. Seems like this shit happens a lot. Shitty. People aren't toys.

[Shadow Mod]

Oh come on, you can definitely support a significant other and accept support from them. The only time it affects a relationship negatively is if you fuck up horribly or they're an asshole.

What? I'm talking like huge support, as in you gotta work and support them financially while they go for something like a MD and then they end up just bonding with some other person because you never see each other any more and they have more in common with some peer than your ass now. It happens time and again. I just warn people off of doing that because it rarely works in their favor. It's one thing if they're shouldering some or a lot of the burden themselves but if you're just a piggy bank and someone who gets rarely seen except when bills are due, then pffft.

Oh OK, got ya now. Excuse my slow-witted self this early morning as I just woke up.

It's cool, I could have been more specific about what kind of support I meant.

[Madrun Badrun]

I just realized that the problem I'm working on for my Ph.D. is basically teaching computers to spell

[Kara]

I just realized that the problem I'm working on for my Ph.D. is basically teaching computers to spell

People can't even do that!

[Madrun Badrun]

How do you guys deal with the amount of time it takes to talk to all your tinder matches?  This is actually a brag post.

[Madrun Badrun]

Also how can you tell if your tinder match isn't just a very pretty bot?

[king of the internet]

Also how can you tell if your tinder match isn't just a very pretty bot?

Is she actually talking to you?

[Madrun Badrun]

Only in 1's and 0's

[Madrun Badrun]

wait, maybe she was just laughing at me

[Shadow Mod]

For some reason I was thinking about New Grounds today. Who remembers that shit.

[Joe Molotov]

For some reason I was thinking about New Grounds today. Who remembers that shit.

Next you'll claim you remember Joe Cartoon.

[Kara]

Buying boxes of cigars now. Degeneration (Opus) X outchea.

[El Babua]

For some reason I was thinking about New Grounds today. Who remembers that shit.

This shit's nearly 10 years old  :'(

[Great Rumbler]

For some reason I was thinking about New Grounds today. Who remembers that shit.

Remember animutations? My God, that was, like, 15 years ago.

[CatsCatsCats]

For some reason I was thinking about New Grounds today. Who remembers that shit.

Next you'll claim you remember Joe Cartoon.

"You ain't got the balls"

[Madrun Badrun]

Thank you for liking my Tinder jokes, chrono.  I spent all day writing them. 

[chronovore]

Thank you for liking my Tinder jokes, chrono.  I spent all day writing them.

I think you're the sweetest serial killer ever.

[T234]

Thank you for liking my Tinder jokes, chrono.  I spent all day writing them.

I think you're the sweetest serial killer ever.

I get the distinct feeling Arvie is the Canadian Travis Bickle.

[Madrun Badrun]

Well I do want to cleanse filthy motorcyclists of their noisy motorcycles.

[Madrun Badrun]

Gonna be raining all day today and I love the rain.  Wish Mexico gets hit with more hurricanes in the future. 

Also 12 Monkeys is filming at my work on the 30th and 31st. 

[Madrun Badrun]

Like I would be ok with 1000 non-Canadian hurricane related deaths a year if I got a day like this every week. 

[Madrun Badrun]

Ok that was a lie.  I'd go as high as 1500 non-Canadians. 

[Madrun Badrun]

Also if I changed my last name to 'Green' would my children be more likely to become R&B singers?

[Rahxephon91]

How are you doing as far as therapy/self-image and so on?

Eh more or less the same. I haven't had an outburst on here in a while, but eh there's really no changing how much I dislike myself. But I don't feel as angry as before. I have friends and little social life. I feel I pretty much missed out on a good portion of my life thanks to whatever reasons. It is strange though, my less then ideal aspects seem to have gotten more attention. People talk about my forehead and how shinny it is a lot more and my terrible hair line. Not much i can do, but accept the jokes I guess. A women turned me down because I was short. Never realized I was short, but whatever. Everyone around me seems to have accepted that I'm not going to have relationships or children and is fine with it, so it's not an issue anymore I guess. I don't know, I feel pretty ok most of the time.

[Beezy]

Ever thought about shaving your head?

[Rahxephon91]

That kind of seems like the opposite of what I'd want. I don't want to be bald and I'd look like a cancer patient if I did.

[Purrp Skirrp]

How are you doing as far as therapy/self-image and so on?

Eh more or less the same. I haven't had an outburst on here in a while, but eh there's really no changing how much I dislike myself. But I don't feel as angry as before. I have friends and little social life. I feel I pretty much missed out on a good portion of my life thanks to whatever reasons. It is strange though, my less then ideal aspects seem to have gotten more attention. People talk about my forehead and how shinny it is a lot more and my terrible hair line. Not much i can do, but accept the jokes I guess. A women turned me down because I was short. Never realized I was short, but whatever. Everyone around me seems to have accepted that I'm not going to have relationships or children and is fine with it, so it's not an issue anymore I guess. I don't know, I feel pretty ok most of the time.

Dude, don't give up on yourself. I get fed up at your outbursts only because AFAIK you're against therapy. So you got this very real problem, but for whatever reasons you won't put in the work in order to help yourself. Therapy isn't about relying on other people; it's a way to better enable yourself and build a decent support group. I really recommend finding a therapist you click with who practices CBT. Your self esteem issues and problems with women are your own doing; that's not to mean it's your fault that your brain is this way, but it really all comes down to how you think and that is something you can change. The problem isn't your hair, your forehead, or your height. It's the thoughts you generate which tend to skew negative. Having low self esteem is going to make you self sabotage any chances of success. CBT is about changing your thoughts, which in turn changes behaviors. Other people can try to validate you and say you're not ugly, but ultimately you have to start challenging your thoughts. There's no reason to not try it out though, as it's the most effective form of treatment for this kind of thing. I mean, what do you have to lose in seriously giving it a try?

[brawndolicious]

^Pretty much what I wanted to say. The only people who should worry about their appearance are those who never hear some feature of theirs made fun of. It feels like you want the world to give you a physical explanation for why you are in your situation which is your problem and why therapy is constantly recommended.

[Kara]

KotI left me on Misery Island,  don't you leave me too Rah.

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Please do I like being alone.

[close]

[Madrun Badrun]

http://www.thefreedictionary.com/Hyperborean

[king of the internet]

KotI left me on Misery Island,  don't you leave me too Rah.

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Please do I like being alone.

[close]

We'll meet again someday 

[Kara]

All my blood work came back normal. Fuck this prison of flesh that encases me.

[Rufus]

We'll all be recycled soon enough. See it as an opportunity to expose yourself to even more danger. Try being financially insecure for a change, very invigorating.

[Madrun Badrun]

All my blood work came back normal. Fuck this prison of flesh that encases me.

Guess there isn't a blood test for communism yet. 

[CatsCatsCats]

Be patient, Kara, you'll die.



Unless of course consciousness is transferred between realities at death, so you'll never really die, just wake up in a less and less likely reality until you get to the one where your consciousness has been eternally imprisoned!

[toku]

2015 y'all gon make it #staypositive