Pallando avoid this thread like the plague, go chill and put it in your head that you're banging this friday. Think of it in a positive way. Co-signing this.
VIDEO Pallando, hear me out, you NEED to stop approaching life like there's a formula for everything--that it's all a matter of doing A, B, & C with specific outcomes in mind. I get wanting to feel better informed about unfamiliar situations that'll likely feel uncomfortable. I get thinking that coming here for advice will help, sort of--all good to an extent bouncing some ideas off people that actually KNOW you. But you keep crossing that fine line where you think you're helping yourself by asking for advice, but IMO this insatiable need for reassurance is doing more harm than good and just reinforcing your anxieties. Stop treating life like there's a manual for everything. Most of the answers you seek along with that inner confidence comes from doing: by putting yourself out there and inevitably making mistakes, but being okay with that and learning through your actions. You've been puttin in work lately which is great and all, but...
You need to chill the fuck out and be in the moment with these chicks, calm yourself down, and trust in yourself knowing that you can adapt to whatever the situation is. You're going to feel uncomfortable at times being out of your element, it's a given for most people, so just learn to accept this and please stop fucking yourself over by overthinking everything. Stop propping up everybody but yourself. There's no expert opinion out there specifically tailored to you with the sure fire methodology on getting you laid--that's on YOU to figure out through some classic trial and error.
Your anxiety issues and more importantly HOW you choose to deal with them are the reason you're a virgin, period. A lot of that anxiety is natural to feel and yeah it sucks, but where you go wrong is in how you handle it and you tend to want to internalize it or overanalyze everything which is probably the worst thing to do with anxiety. Seeking reassurance as much as you do just tells your brain, "yeah dude, this IS worth worrying about!" That's how anxiety works and all this incessant reassurance seeking to me just reeks of bad neural reinforcement. So again, my point, chill the fuck out; maybe devote that mental energy into learning better ways to accomplish this--CBT, meditation & mindfulness, exercise, diet, good sleep, exposure therapy, medications. There's a lot you can do that'll be more helpful for your anxiety than the shit I'm seeing everytime I click on this thread.
