Pallando will return in "Never Say Never Again"

[Himu]

Resentment towards the opposite sex among people who are gay is very real.

Gurl what

I didn't mean it among every person  - or even most - that is gay. Don't read it as that. I'm talking about people who mostly have not come to terms with their sexuality.

Rahx trying to get with women, but can't stand them, and is continuously turned down reminds me of gay friends who have been on the down low or hadn't realized they're gay yet.

I'm not sure he's gay though, so I'll leave it at that.

[Phoenix Dark]

gay dudes also steal all of their clever shit from black women and pass it off as their own.
 

[Himu]

gay dudes also steal all of their clever shit from black women and pass it off as their own.
 

most of this comes from black gay men so it's not necessarily stealing. Then it just goes out into the community.

[ToxicAdam]

You can get that way by having a horrible mother or older sister, also.

[Tasty]

If Rahx says he isn't gay then he isn't, simple as that. It's a scale anyways.

What he has to realize though is that womenkind isn't some giant hivemind of anti-Rahx harpie bitches. They're individual people and deserve to be treated as such and given the benefit of the doubt. Once it's stuck in your head that "everyone is against me," it's a rabbit hole that's hard to recover from and could likely end with Elliot Roger.

gay dudes also steal all of their clever shit from black women and pass it off as their own.
 

most of this comes from black gay men so it's not necessarily stealing. Then it just goes out into the community.

We need cultural tariffs. #MakeBlacksGreatAgain

[Himu]

What he has to realize though is that womenkind isn't some giant hivemind of anti-Rahx harpie bitches. They're individual people and deserve to be treated as such and given the benefit of the doubt.

The fact this needs to be said is sad.

Have you expressed your frustration with women with your therapist, Rah?

[tiesto]

Resentment towards the opposite sex among people who are gay is very real.

No wonder gay dudes like Madonna.
 

She teams up with some good producers at least. This was probably the first ever Above & Beyond production I heard:


Also this:

[king of the internet]

Someday I will learn the right buttons for tinder and stop accidentally super liking the wrong girls. Especially when I'm buzzed. But the good news is that I'm matched with 6 or 7 girls I'll probably never try to talk to. I just don't care right now. I'm on here to feed my ego. I did see a few girls I know and like irl but I'm not gonna chase them on a fucking app. That's what RL is for.

[tiesto]

Tomorrow's the big day. Meeting up for Korean food (it'll be her first time trying Korean food). I'm honestly a bit nervous (I'm also a bit twitchy and awkward in person, which sucks when you first meet new people) since it's been a while since I have went out on a date, and this girl seems very cool from the texting we do back and forth with each other.

[Rahxephon91]

Rahx do you know what you want in a girl

I guess I don't really know, since I've never had a girlfriend.

I'm not looking for a clingy, lovey doovy type girl. That would annoy me. A girl who can stand on her own, do her own thing, have her own life separate from mine. I don't think Im a controlling person, but I also like my alone time even from my own friends. I have a friend who basically gets into symbiotic relationships and I guess he likes them for his own issues. I rather just date a chill girl who is still herself during the whole thing.

I wouldn't mind a girl who is a bit more together then myself. Smarter and more organized. I'm smartish and for the most part able to handle myself, but I am easily unfocused and unorganized. Recently, I'm attracted to women who are more put together, at least professionally.  But not unkept emotionally either, for all my ranting on here. I don't actually believe most of it and I don't really talk like this outside of the fourm and I like to think I'm a rather logical and rationale person. So whatever matches with that would be nice.

I'm also extremely liberal, but probably a bit more of an asshole and ignorant to more I guess SJW stuff. So a girl who bleeds feminism is'nt my cup of tea. I'm liberal, but not political.

I'm also not really into sports, so I doubt I'd interests a more sporty girl, but that doesn't mean I'm not interested in biking, swimming, or general outdoorsy stuff. I'm just not much of an athletic stuff and don't care about competitive sports. I do like to swim, go kayaking, biking, and being outside in general.

I do like to go out, to the movies, shows, bars, whatever. So a girl who likes to do those things would be cool. Someone who just likes to leave the house for random reasons is what I'm talking about. Sitting at home is cool and I like to do it, but it need not be the only thing you do.

Yes I like comic books, video games, and anime, but I'm not looking for a girl who is a nerd. At least, not defined by the nerdom to the point that they take it completely serious and it is their life. Honestly, most of my friends aren't nerds and only casually like what I like. Which is cool and preferable to me. Be open to the stuff. My mother only has a passing interests in what I like mostly because she really likes movies and is a movie buff. Open to some anime or comic books, but really only the stuff that a little casual person could find appealing. And thats what I'm looking for. Have a passing interest. Most of my friends are into rap music, I only have a passing interest and thats fine.

I guess I'd like a girl who is actually stylish with he clothes. Nice jackets and boots. I don't know, I like when women have nice jackets and boots. I guess I have more posh sense of clothing style that I like. I hate to see a girl in sweats or boy looking outfits.  But I'm not into fashionistas either. Someone who wears simple but nice clothing is what I'm getting at. Someone who is mellow about their appearance i guess. Someone who looks like they drink at starbucks if that makes sense.

As far as looks I guess I have preferences, like anyone, but I dont think they are as rigid as some here think they are. I like girls with long hair, while plenty of girls with short hair are able to make it work. I still like long, soft, flowing hair. I'm just a fan of long hair, at least shoulder length hair. Doesn't matter the color though, but obviously I like red heads and blondes. Brunettes are nice when a girl has pale skin or brownish skin like I do.

As for body type, I don't think I care for athletic looking girls, or girls who are too skinny. Girls with some meat or at least somewhat curvy appeal to me. If shes skinny, I guess I'd hope she is short, but wiith long legs. But I guess short and stout girls are somewhat perferable? I don't know. I'm attracted to all body types I guess, except girls who are BBW. But what really defines BBW I don't know. Either way I think I like shorter curvyier girls than anything.

If I had to use references it would have to be porntstar refrences because it's me. I guess I like (currently) Mandy Muse, Harley Jade, Riley Reynolds, Melissa Moore, Remy LaCroix, Ava Addams, Lexi Belle, Veronica Rodriguez, Angella White, Jamie Jackson, Lola Foxx, Alexis Breeze, Felcia Clover, Jessica Rabbit, Dani Daneils, Natasha Nice, Siri, Noelle Easton, Candice Dare, Keisha Grey,Jynx Maze, Aj Applegate, Ryan Smiles..

Maybe that tells you something.

As for ethnicity and race. I probably have a preference for white and latino women over anything, but it's whatever.

I mean I guess at the end of the day it's all whatever, but this is what I have in my mind at this moment.

[toku]

That also can be a problem. Not wanting a girl that's "too available." I know because I have/had that problem too. You will get called on it.

[king of the internet]

What you want from a person shouldn't be a fucking novel. But I know I'm responding to a future serial killer so my views on the simplicity of connecting with people would be lost on the likes of you.

[Rahxephon91]

I don't fucking understand any of this.

I try to tone down any angry rhetoric. Apparently that makes me a serial killer.

I try to describe what I'm interested in like a lot of people do. Apparently I'm on the spectrum.

I try to describe those interests with a dose of being open minded to other things(which is something I was criticized for before). That makes me indecisive and I guess a potential murder.

I've never wanted to hurt or kill anyone before in my life(well except maybe myself). I don't know why I'm being pinned as a potential killer.  I got help, it did'nt do anything. It was a lot of "change your mindset bs". I've tried your people's advice. I've gone out there, tried dating apps, I guess tired "lowering my standards". None of it went anywhere, and apparently even mentioning that means I'm some kind of murder.

All your advice here is the most inane stuff.

Degrade yourself and get a hooker.
Lower Your standards and find someone who disgusts you.
Have confidence somehow.
Use women as practice women(and somehow I'm the mysgonist)
Don't have any prefrences.
Have prefrences, just not a lot?
Have prefrencs, but not be loose or else you're an Elliot Roger's person.
Your hobbies suck. Find New Hobbies.
You suck, change everything about you.
Somehow have confidence in yourself despite the fact that we said you're a boring person and you're hobbies suck.
Pay women for sex, because it's not low at all and bask in the fakness of their admiration.
Relationships are so simple! I guess you should just be able to make them easily!
Relationships are complex and you have to do all these things to make them!

Such great advice!

Either way, I would never kill anyone.

[king of the internet]

I'm not reading that shit

[Madrun Badrun]

I'm not reading any of this shit. 

[Rahxephon91]

Man it probably would be easy for me to get a gun.

[Atramental]

I think an unspoken rule of finding your quote "ideal partner" is that there's no such thing as an "ideal partner".

Everyone settles for someone that meets most of their standards. Not all of their standards.


edit: Another thing, I think you've set the bar for success so high that's impossible for you to succeed, Rahx.

That's something that I've been doing as of late is setting my bar for success super low so I can build momentum for larger successes down the road.

You're trying to lift 4x your body weight when really you should only be lifting 35 pound weights.

[Himu]

one of my standards is that he fucks me in the ass joyously



sorry for overshare but i can't help it

[Himu]

my standards for a man:

support and protection
is willing to work out and be gym buddies
interesting to talk to
will fuck me in the ass

thank god such a man is out there

keep it simple and ye shall succeed!

[chronovore]

Rahx, you say stuff that seems really resentful some days. I want you to be happy and fulfilled, and I think it starts with addressing your own self-worth. Who cares what any of us here think?

I dunno, maybe meditate or get a physical activity like a martial art or something? Find some peace in yourself.

[Rahxephon91]

I think an unspoken rule of finding your quote "ideal partner" is that there's no such thing as an "ideal partner".

Everyone settles for someone that meets most of their standards. Not all of their standards.

I thought that was what I was saying, but apparently not.

edit: Another thing, I think you've set the bar for success so high that's impossible for you to succeed, Rahx.

That's something that I've been doing as of late is setting my bar for success super low so I can build momentum for larger successes down the road.

You're trying to lift 4x your body weight when really you should only be lifting 35 pound weights.

I just want a decent woman who I connect with. Everyone else seems to be able to do it, with little effort. Little effort, most guys I know simply exist and women like them. They get to be just themselves. Why can't I? I'm not trying to find a super model or some pristine asian anime girl. Just someone decent. Is that a crime? Even you are able to get moderate attractive women on tinder. Tinder was the worst thing to even try, because it just proved my point. All women past me, just based on my picture. It's not even my supposed toxic personality. I don't even get a chance to be boring. Have confidence? Go out and be social? Ok then what? My friends get hit on, I get ignored. I dress and smell like a decent person, don't even get a chance. How can you even have confidence if it's clear your very being is unattractive unless you just take whatever you can get. I doubt you people here just take whatever you can get. I'm not an Elliot Rogers person. I would never harm anyone for my own problems or deficiency. Get the hell out of here with that shit. I blame myself before I blame anyone.

But how can you even talk to me. You have success and you've had it with women you actually find attractive by simply being on tinder. Of course, you're confidence is'nt broken. You find things you like. I've seen the pictures of girls you post, there's hardly anything bad about them. So don't feed me this bullshit about lifting. You easily went straight to what you wanted. I'm being told I should try being gay.

[toku]

Idk I'll say what I said to pallo before he doubled down. Just focus on yourself for a bit. Peace and equanimity and all that. Get some new hobbies, maybe something outdoors or exercise based? Focus on just making friends. Get into situations with ppl without expectations of getting something in return, learn to be okay with that. Love yourself.

[Himu]

What are your hobbies RahX?

[Atramental]

I mean... I've only been able to date these cute girls once and afterwards they fall off the face of the earth. 

So it's not like I'm getting mad puss or anything. At least... not yet.

edit: I'm probably not going to see that girl from Boone ever again, btw. I think I talked way too much about myself and didn't ask enough about her. I dunno. Just a guess.

[Atramental]

 

[fistfulofmetal]

We've been giving dude a lot of advise. Some good some not as good, some maybe contradictory (at least to him). So whatever. Not all us are experts but we're trying to help by giving him advise that has worked (or not worked as much) for us.

The only advise I have is that Rahx needs to have some self awareness. I didn't start having any kind of success until I stopped assuming things and removed all expectations. I was like "wow, I'm just a dude. there's a lot of other dudes out there with the same problems as me. i'm not special in my idiosyncrasies." that perspective helped a lot.

Nobody expects you to take every piece of advise as gospel. listen to all of it and let it help you inform your own decisions. get some perspective.

[Phoenix Dark]

Man it probably would be easy for me to get a gun.

Please just kill yourself, don't take other people out with you.

[toku]

Stop it.

[Boogie]

Rahx, maybe not include an extensive list of porn star names as a reference in a serious post about what you want in a woman.

K thx bye

[Samson Manhug]

If I had to use references it would have to be porntstar refrences because it's me. I guess I like (currently) Mandy Muse, Harley Jade, Riley Reynolds, Melissa Moore, Remy LaCroix, Ava Addams, Lexi Belle, Veronica Rodriguez, Angella White, Jamie Jackson, Lola Foxx, Alexis Breeze, Felcia Clover, Jessica Rabbit, Dani Daneils, Natasha Nice, Siri, Noelle Easton, Candice Dare, Keisha Grey,Jynx Maze, Aj Applegate, Ryan Smiles..

Maybe that tells you something.

Yes it does.

[Joe Molotov]

I want a girl with a short skirt and a long jacket.

[fistfulofmetal]

Rahx, maybe not include an extensive list of porn star names as a reference in a serious post about what you want in a woman.

K thx bye

that's the kind of lack of self awareness i was talking about.

[Himu]

all you're telling me rah, especially based off that porn star thing is that you don't see women as people but as perfect beings. you say what you're looking for and it's everything under the sun. you wonder why you're not a hit with women but post your favorite porn stars in the same post as your highly detailed requirements. it just feels like you have placed women on an unnecessary pedestal.

there is a relevant quote in ferris bueller's day off for this:

Cameron's never been in love. At least no one's ever been in love with him. He's gonna marry the first girl he lays. And she's gonna treat him like shit because he's gonna kiss her ass for giving him what he's built-up in his mind as the end-all, be-all of human existance. She won't respect him because you can't respect someone who kisses your ass. It just doesn't work.

Sex is not the highest of human existence. I mean, it's up there and and amazing feeling, but it's not all there is to life, dating, or relationships.

Naming porn stars just sends me a red flag on how you perceive women to be and what your main goal in pursuing a woman is. It's normal for a man to want to have sex, but not at the expense of a woman's humanity. Women are just people. That special flower you described in that list of demands you jotted down will never come. Porn is fake. It is an illusion. All you're telling me is you don't interact with women in no real way.

Bebpo may be right. You need to be more social and pursue friendships more than looking for a relationship at this point, for your own good.

Again, what are your hobbies? You need to work on yourself before you put any time into anyone else.

[Mupepe]

If I had to name the perfect woman based off of porn stars it would be Sunny Leone and Lacey Banghard.  Someone like that.  They seem sweet and like someone I could share a life with.

[Himu]

i don't know who any of these porn stars are.

who is siri? rah jacks it to the iphone chick?

[Atramental]

It would probably do you some good to ween yourself off of porn, Rahx.

Like, if you fap only once ever other day try fapping at least once a week instead. 

And it has to be to legit amateur stuff. Poorly lit amateur stuff. 

[fistfulofmetal]

I didn't bring it up specifically, but Himu is right on the money. In your mind when you list the long string of porn stars you're merely providing context to your physical preferences. And I get it. You probably have no idea that it looks pretty bad. But that's the lack of self awareness I mean. It does look bad. It throws up red flags about how you view women.

You may disagree with us, and we may not really know you that well. But it's a good idea to take some time and really trying to figure out why you decided to list a bunch of porn stars to describe your ideal girl may be in bad taste.

[fistfulofmetal]

And I don't want you to think we're looking down on you for anything. Dude this shit can be hard to figure out when you have no one to help. Not everyone just does it on their own. I didn't start to figure it out without the people here helping and friends at home as well. I had to realize that I wasn't getting anywhere on my own and actually started taking the advise of others seriously. I knew not all of it was relevant but I listened to it and helped it color my future choices.

[Himu]

I understand you're a man and you're going to place an emphasis on looks but what about personality? What about hobbies? Why do looks take a precedence over everything else? Are we talking about gaining a partner or a fuck buddy? Sharing a human connection is the basis of relationships that goes beyond looks. This morning, my bf and I lifted weights together at the gym. What do you have that you are willing to share with someone to be a part of your life? What do you have to offer? It sucks to frame it like this, but relationships are a two way street. You listed a whole slew of things you want, without offering anything that you can offer in return. It is very...um, nerdy. I hope for your sake that you've got abs, chiseled muscles, a hot face, and a thick ass dick because there's no reason a woman should go for you with your list of requirements when you're not on par. Combined with the list of porn star names, it comes across as entitlement and objectification. This is why working on yourself is so important. What do you have to offer a woman? You can't ask for the world while having the value of a single buck. Any woman is going to wonder what you have to offer, and no offense but I'm not seeing much. Do you put nearly into yourself as you demand a woman puts into herself? If you don't, then you have a problem. I'm not saying to be a beautiful gym beast but work on some part of yourself to make yourself attractive and palpable to women.

I'm sorry but if i were single I would choose Pallando over you any day of the week.

Please don't take my tone as harsh criticism but it's a fact that people need to work on themselves.

[Rahxephon91]

I thought I just listed things I liked, not required. But no I don't have anything to offer. Neither did most of the dudes I knew back in high school and early days of college. That wasn't a problem for them, but I gussed I missed out on that developmental stage.

So as I see it it's pretty lose lose situation. I have to basicly become a new person because as I am I'm worth nothing. So I guess that will take a few years. Which by then I'll be in my 30s and have had no experience or knowledge and probably be at an extreme loss. I'd have basicly wasted my peak years. This is great. I wonder why I had to have such a hard time with this while everyone I know seemed to just have these things naturally happen while not having to force new hobbies on themselves, workout, or be completely different people.

[Atramental]

Or you can keep putting yourself out there and use trial & error until something clicks.

All these text convos I've had and dates I've been on are nothing but little social experiments. Eventually you'll begin to discover what works best for you and what doesn't.

[Rahxephon91]

What did you do other then try various online dating things? I've tried okCupid and Tinder and they don't really go anywhere for me. Do you think I wouldn't try dating if I was allowed to?

And I have a friend group that goes it, so it's not like I'm not social.

[Atramental]

The issue I'm trying address here is that you're not comfortable with failure.

You need to be comfortable with failure because your failures (and there will be many) will teach you how to succeed.

[Rahxephon91]

I've been failing for the last decade. It's nothing new and it's lessons are exteremley frustrating.

Treat women like shit. Don't treat women like shit. Ignore Women. Give a lot of attention to women. Give no attention. Give a little attention. Be mysterious. Be open. Care. Don't care. Be yourself. Don't be yourself. Don't like anything gay. Like whatever you want.  Have some preferences, don't have any, and so on.

[Himu]

I've been failing for the last decade. It's nothing new and it's lessons are exteremley frustrating.

Treat women like shit. Don't treat women like shit. Ignore Women. Give a lot of attention to women. Give no attention. Give a little attention. Be mysterious. Be open. Care. Don't care. Be yourself. Don't be yourself. Don't like anything gay. Like whatever you want.  Have some preferences, don't have any, and so on.

Just treat women like humans.  Don't think too hard. All these "rules" are pointless and don't fit every glove. But I'm sure you can make it work with self reflection. Don't treat it as a game or something with established rules of what to do and what not to do. Just treat women like people. You have some friendships that work and some that don't work. Dating is like that. You said you have female friends, right? How do you treat them compared to how you treat a woman you like?

[Rahxephon91]

"Treat women like humans"

What the fuck does that even mean? I don't know what image you have in your head, but I'm not some fedorea wearing dude who goes around treating women like sacred objects needing protection. I treat every woman like I treat every dude. If they are cool, I talk to them. If they don't jive with me I don't. It doesn't matter if I'm sexually attracted to them or not.  If they seem cool and can tolarte the kind of person I am then I am cool with them. Thats it. I have female friends that I talk to and interact the same way I do my male friends. Them being women doesn't change that(which actually leads to some problems).

[Himu]

it means what it sounds like. not every person is going to have a connection with you. a lot of date "rules" for men are done in a way where they have to use some pick up artist crap or rules about basic social engagement with another human being when it's mostly just going up to them, talking about their day or interests, and maybe asking for their number to see if they want to go to the rodeo with you that weekend or whatever. Too many men fall for tricks like "ignore them" or "act uninterested" or "don't reply to her text for two days, i'm fucking telling you" when all you have to do is treat a woman like a person and have a basic sense of self worth. You don't make these rules with your other friends, so why do it with women that interest you? It just complicates matters, gives you anxiety, makes you curious about your performance rather than concentrating the most important thing: the human connection.

speaking of rodeos, it's almost rodeo season

[bork]

Rahx, you say stuff that seems really resentful some days. I want you to be happy and fulfilled, and I think it starts with addressing your own self-worth. Who cares what any of us here think?

I dunno, maybe meditate or get a physical activity like a martial art or something? Find some peace in yourself.

I didn't bring it up specifically, but Himu is right on the money. In your mind when you list the long string of porn stars you're merely providing context to your physical preferences. And I get it. You probably have no idea that it looks pretty bad. But that's the lack of self awareness I mean. It does look bad. It throws up red flags about how you view women.

You may disagree with us, and we may not really know you that well. But it's a good idea to take some time and really trying to figure out why you decided to list a bunch of porn stars to describe your ideal girl may be in bad taste.

Good advice here.

[etiolate]

Rahx do you know what you want in a girl

I guess I don't really know, since I've never had a girlfriend.

I'm not looking for a clingy, lovey doovy type girl. That would annoy me. A girl who can stand on her own, do her own thing, have her own life separate from mine. I don't think Im a controlling person, but I also like my alone time even from my own friends. I have a friend who basically gets into symbiotic relationships and I guess he likes them for his own issues. I rather just date a chill girl who is still herself during the whole thing.

I wouldn't mind a girl who is a bit more together then myself. Smarter and more organized. I'm smartish and for the most part able to handle myself, but I am easily unfocused and unorganized. Recently, I'm attracted to women who are more put together, at least professionally.  But not unkept emotionally either, for all my ranting on here. I don't actually believe most of it and I don't really talk like this outside of the fourm and I like to think I'm a rather logical and rationale person. So whatever matches with that would be nice.

I'm also extremely liberal, but probably a bit more of an asshole and ignorant to more I guess SJW stuff. So a girl who bleeds feminism is'nt my cup of tea. I'm liberal, but not political.

I'm also not really into sports, so I doubt I'd interests a more sporty girl, but that doesn't mean I'm not interested in biking, swimming, or general outdoorsy stuff. I'm just not much of an athletic stuff and don't care about competitive sports. I do like to swim, go kayaking, biking, and being outside in general.

I do like to go out, to the movies, shows, bars, whatever. So a girl who likes to do those things would be cool. Someone who just likes to leave the house for random reasons is what I'm talking about. Sitting at home is cool and I like to do it, but it need not be the only thing you do.

Yes I like comic books, video games, and anime, but I'm not looking for a girl who is a nerd. At least, not defined by the nerdom to the point that they take it completely serious and it is their life. Honestly, most of my friends aren't nerds and only casually like what I like. Which is cool and preferable to me. Be open to the stuff. My mother only has a passing interests in what I like mostly because she really likes movies and is a movie buff. Open to some anime or comic books, but really only the stuff that a little casual person could find appealing. And thats what I'm looking for. Have a passing interest. Most of my friends are into rap music, I only have a passing interest and thats fine.

I guess I'd like a girl who is actually stylish with he clothes. Nice jackets and boots. I don't know, I like when women have nice jackets and boots. I guess I have more posh sense of clothing style that I like. I hate to see a girl in sweats or boy looking outfits.  But I'm not into fashionistas either. Someone who wears simple but nice clothing is what I'm getting at. Someone who is mellow about their appearance i guess. Someone who looks like they drink at starbucks if that makes sense.

As far as looks I guess I have preferences, like anyone, but I dont think they are as rigid as some here think they are. I like girls with long hair, while plenty of girls with short hair are able to make it work. I still like long, soft, flowing hair. I'm just a fan of long hair, at least shoulder length hair. Doesn't matter the color though, but obviously I like red heads and blondes. Brunettes are nice when a girl has pale skin or brownish skin like I do.

As for body type, I don't think I care for athletic looking girls, or girls who are too skinny. Girls with some meat or at least somewhat curvy appeal to me. If shes skinny, I guess I'd hope she is short, but wiith long legs. But I guess short and stout girls are somewhat perferable? I don't know. I'm attracted to all body types I guess, except girls who are BBW. But what really defines BBW I don't know. Either way I think I like shorter curvyier girls than anything.

If I had to use references it would have to be porntstar refrences because it's me. I guess I like (currently) Mandy Muse, Harley Jade, Riley Reynolds, Melissa Moore, Remy LaCroix, Ava Addams, Lexi Belle, Veronica Rodriguez, Angella White, Jamie Jackson, Lola Foxx, Alexis Breeze, Felcia Clover, Jessica Rabbit, Dani Daneils, Natasha Nice, Siri, Noelle Easton, Candice Dare, Keisha Grey,Jynx Maze, Aj Applegate, Ryan Smiles..

Maybe that tells you something.

As for ethnicity and race. I probably have a preference for white and latino women over anything, but it's whatever.

I mean I guess at the end of the day it's all whatever, but this is what I have in my mind at this moment.

I'm going to assume that this was a long response just because you're responding to me like a questionnaire that you're trying to fully fill out.

I can understand wanting to avoid the modern internet feminist type. They really aren't compatible with a healthy relationship. However, you sound like you want a self-assured independent woman and those exist. They just take time to find because it's a matter of maturity on both sides part.

You can either have a lot of casual dating with women you don't see anything more with or you can know what you want and have to wait a long time to find it. I would suggest looking in places you may not be looking. Perhaps girls you hadn't thought about. Something outside the pornstar body, because I doubt you're really that picky about physical features.

My final advice is not to seek advice from this forum. I wouldn't ever do so and for many damned good reasons. You have to figure things out on your own. Vent here if you must, not care about the response, and keep trying.

[Himu]

I can understand wanting to avoid the modern internet feminist type. They really aren't compatible with a healthy relationship.

Oh my god

[seagrams hotsauce]

Man, Pallando looking more and more well adjusted by the page.

Rahx, get to a fucking shrink dude.

[Atramental]

I also have Shark Johnson to thank for coaching me as I weave in and out of all these various social interactions. 

[Atramental]

Chatting with a chubby Latina with big tiddies right now. She just got Pokémon Moon as well. 

[chronovore]

I thought I just listed things I liked, not required. But no I don't have anything to offer. Neither did most of the dudes I knew back in high school and early days of college. That wasn't a problem for them, but I gussed I missed out on that developmental stage.

So as I see it it's pretty lose lose situation. I have to basicly become a new person because as I am I'm worth nothing. So I guess that will take a few years. Which by then I'll be in my 30s and have had no experience or knowledge and probably be at an extreme loss. I'd have basicly wasted my peak years. This is great. I wonder why I had to have such a hard time with this while everyone I know seemed to just have these things naturally happen while not having to force new hobbies on themselves, workout, or be completely different people.

No-one is saying you're worth nothing. At least, not seriously. It's frustrating to see you so down on yourself, and there is the indignation that comes with seeing someone with low self-worth also make entitled assumptions about what they deserve.

You're not worthless, you're not a bad person. You probably aren't looking at yourself enough, or you're looking through cracked lenses at yourself and seeing something distorted. You have value, and you seem to not recognize it.

As for those "other guys" that also didn't have anything to offer, I think we all saw that in high school and college, where some other guy seemed to have nothing more to offer than what we did, but actually was having luck getting dates. The thing is, at the very least they did not stop themselves before starting. They put themselves out there and took chances.

I worry you're in a vicious cycle that is just going to leave you in a deeper hole than you need to be. Exercise. Get out and start a chat with someone. Don't chat up the cute register clerk or barista, because they are required to be pleasant. Anyone not-working, just tell them you like their shoes or their belt or whatever, and ask them about it. People love to talk. Let them carry the bulk of the conversation, and you'll get used to actually interacting with people. And by people, I mean women, because that's all women are.

[TakingBackSunday]

This thread is depressing

[tiesto]

So I just got back from my date. Dirty blonde hair, big brown eyes, got some curves, definitely my type. She seemed to be enjoying herself (kept twirling her hair, lol), we talked a lot about all sorts of things - art history, our respective trips to Paris back in HS, home ownership (she recently bought a house as well), our jobs, movies, etc. She seemed to really enjoy the Korean food and then I venue switched to the Starbucks up the block. She is big into politics (she teaches government as well as word history) and thankfully is liberal, though we didn't discuss much about politics aside from how we are both pretty reviled at Trump and his cabinet picks. I told her I had a great time and we should do this again, we hugged and I kissed her on the cheek. Then right as I'm walking into the door of my house, I get a text from her saying she was so glad to meet me and is looking forward to seeing me again!

Me right now:

[WanderingWind]

Ya if X-rated stories were allowed at the Academy, Atra's 2016 would be Oscar-bait feel good movie stuff. Casey Affleck would play him, prolly

[Atramental]

Probably. But for what exactly?

[Raist]

The issue I'm trying address here is that you're not comfortable with failure.

You need to be comfortable with failure because your failures (and there will be many) will teach you how to succeed.

Who the fuck are you and where did you hide Pallando's body.

[Syph]

Lost a long term relationship last week. Guess I'm going to have to get into some new activities, maybe deactivate my OKC profile. Tinder didn't even exist when me and this last girl got together, so maybe I'll give it a shot.

Sorry to hear. My immediate advice is hit the gym if you don't already. Forces you to focus on something else (the weights) with the added bonus of, you know, a workout