Struggle Thread mk II - No one likes us, we don't care

[Bebpo]

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[Steve Contra]

My dad's cancer has luckily not spread, which is like the only good news I've had in a while, and it's just like kinda good news.

[agrajag]

Damn, that sucks Shosta.

edit: there were so many moments during my youth where I could have and should have gotten a DUI but somehow I skated by.

[agrajag]

Economy's never been better.

Keep telling yourself that bro. My industry has been ravaged by poor tourism.

Maybe you should consider working in the kitchen, we don't care that much about prior convictions.

[agrajag]

Ouch. I mean I've been pulled over drunk many times and the cops just let me get off with a warning every time #whiteprivelege. One time I was driving with my friend in the car and we were both shitfaced. The elderly cop told me to get in the passenger seat and my friend to drive. The sad part is that most of the times I got pulled over under the influence was because I had a broke tail light.

[TVC15]

there were so many moments during my youth where I could have and should have gotten a DUI but somehow I skated by.

I mean I can't tell you how many times I should have gotten one, too, barreling down Sacramento streets after 3 tall beers. I used to drive to the grocery store drunk. They only caught me after I finally totalled my car!

Slow down there, John Wayne.

[toku]

bless up

[agrajag]

there were so many moments during my youth where I could have and should have gotten a DUI but somehow I skated by.

I mean I can't tell you how many times I should have gotten one, too, barreling down Sacramento streets after 3 tall beers. I used to drive to the grocery store drunk. They only caught me after I finally totalled my car!

Slow down there, John Wayne.

Remember he's a cool young dude

[El Babua]

Threw up while walking home then I realized I lost my keys

[Madrun Badrun]

Do you usually keep them in your stomach?

[I'm a Puppy!]

Got a call today from my Mom, my dad apparently burst a vein in his leg. He had to be taken in ambulance to the hospital because they couldn't stop the bleeding. They stitched him up, but still scary, he could have bled out if things went differently. Also sorta scary to see how helpless my mom was, she was on the phone with my oldest brother asking him what to do. I've prepared myself for the fact that the inevitable will come from my parents just like everyone else, still it's scary when it looks you in the eye. 

[Madrun Badrun]

Sorry dude, Is he ok now?

[I'm a Puppy!]

Yeah, he's recovering but still scary.

[agrajag]

sorry to hear that Ronito, hope he's doing better

My great aunt was in the hospital over the weekend with pneumonia. She's 94, so it was very scary. Got released yesterday and she's doing better.

[Valkyrie]

My grandma fell in her living room and broke her hand and her hip, so she was taken to the hospital for surgery. I haven’t been there since she’s not allowed visitors yet, but really hoping to go tomorrow or whenever they will let us.

I feel so bad for her because she was still recovering from a shoulder surgery, which was already making her unable to do a lot of things. She’s a skinny old lady, but I’m still surprised by how little it takes for old people to break their bones.

She surprised us all by walking the week after her surgery. She seemed well awake, and to recover really fast. But ever since she got home she’s been showing clear signs of developing dementia.. her short term memory is sometimes worrying. She’ll forget things she shouldn’t, like how she called my mom twice within a couple of hours of each time to ask her for the same favor. She forgot she had called me on my birthday (3 times) the day after when I was visiting her. We haven’t said anything directly to her because I once saw how confused she was when I corrected her with something she had forgotten the same day it happened. It was heartbreaking. She forgot who did what, and that it was done. She often calls me by my mom’s name now (I know mixing names happens, but she doesn’t even correct herself anymore), and she’ll forget which one of us did certain things. She often asks us both the same favor. I try to just go along with most so she won’t feel bad about it, but it’s so heartbreaking to watch.. I’ve still got all 4 of my grandparents alive. I feel so incredibly grateful for it, but at the same time now I don’t know what it’s like to lose someone close. And this was not what I was expecting at all, I never thought my own grandma would become dement. I hope it’s a slow process... because even though she walks (often with a walker now) after surgery, she’s really frail and deteriorating. At least they live right up the street from me so I go there several times a week to check on them and to hang out.

[I'm a Puppy!]

Dementia is so rough. I'm sorry Val.
My wife used to work in a group home for dementia patients.
There was one woman who kept on forgetting that her husband had died, so she'd wake up in a panic that they were gone and she'd have to be explained that her husband had died years ago. It was heartbreaking every time that happened.  :'(

[skullstorm]

Sorry to hear that Valkyrie. Memory issues suck so much. Two of my grandparents had strokes and they started showing severe signs of dementia right away and very quickly deteriorated both physically and cognitively and it was truly heartbreaking and very shocking to witness. I really hope your grandma's memory issues won't worsen fast. Get her to a doctor asap, there might be some medications that could help.

[Mupepe]

Dementia is so rough. I'm sorry Val.
My wife used to work in a group home for dementia patients.
There was one woman who kept on forgetting that her husband had died, so she'd wake up in a panic that they were gone and she'd have to be explained that her husband had died years ago. It was heartbreaking every time that happened.  :'(

Yeah I watched my great grandmother go through this.  My grandfather (her son in law) used to take care of her and when he died she deteriorated rapidly.  She used to ask when he was coming home and in the beginning my mom would explain that he had died but it became too painful for her she just started to tell her he was running late and would be home soon.  The first time we knew something was wrong, my brother, my sister and I were home alone with her.  We went into the kitchen and she started screaming and throwing things at us.  We locked ourselves in a room and called my uncle.  She didn't know who we were and thought we were there to rob her. 

The worst part was honestly when she was lucid.  We'd have her back again and it was great but you were just waiting for it to slip.  Dementia is some tough shit to go through.  I wish all the best to you and your family, Valkyrie. 

[Valkyrie]

We went into the kitchen and she started screaming and throwing things at us.  We locked ourselves in a room and called my uncle.  She didn't know who we were and thought we were there to rob her.

Oh my god, that sounds horrible. I read that people with dementia will often get aggressive because they think people are lying to them, because they don't believe them.

My stepdad's dad forgot that his wife died, and one time he ran off to get into a cab trying to find his wife.

[Freyj]

My neighbors are the worst white trash imaginable and have an above ground pool with an outdoor TV and stereo system setup. They don’t play music, they fucking blast country music with the bass turned up as far as it can go.

Last night they decided to have a karaoke party and around 7pm I hear this woman start crowing “these boots are made for walking” at the top of her lungs. I wish the worst things imaginable in life to happen to these people.

[team filler]

 

[Madrun Badrun]

Sounds like they are walking all over you. 

[G The Resurrected]

My family has been on my ass guilting me into going to my Grandfather's memorial service (yeah he passed) in Phoenix. I can't afford the trip and I've been forward about my reasons for not going. Since the day he passed it's been the only thing they ask about. I'm always the initiator of any point of contact with that side of my life and I have never felt like I was part of the family since my parents divorced. For a family that hasn't cared about me for a vast majority of my life, they sure do give a fuck about me going to this service! I feel bad about my Grandfather's passing, but he had long been suffering since 2011 with dementia/alzheimer's. My father who I've rebuilt a relationship with is of course not having any of it, which is putting a strain on our relationship yet again. I'm expected to just drop everything and spend what money I have to travel on memorial day weekend to appease my family. What kind of family is that? Guilt tripping someone for their own selfish narcissistic reasons, just another reason I'm not very close to that family.

We also had a huge scare this week too. I drained a good amount of my monthly income on an unexpected vet bill for our kitty Catsworth. And while I'm pretty sure he will recover fully I don't think he'll be the same. He is at least taking well to his meds, even if he doesn't like them.

This along with the Missus losing her Grandmother a few weeks back and all the shit that brought up with her family, I'm drained emotionally and spent mentally.

I also fucked up my knee recently and so I haven't been able to keep up with my daily walk/runs at all. I need new shoes that can handle my weight and width, which is hard to find since I'm a half size/extra wide.

I'm focused on what I can do, but even that is getting hard lately. I want to just unplug from the stresses, but it's impossible to ignore them right now. Putting them off even for a day doesn't seem possible, but it is something I need for my sanity and soon.

[TVC15]

Sorry things are tough, Bz. Hope things pick up soon

[G The Resurrected]

Sorry things are tough, Bz. Hope things pick up soon

Things will in time. I'm being positive, even if the day to day for a while is a bit bleak. I'll find a way to lighten the stress soon enough.

[chronovore]

Sounds like they are walking all over you.

[TVC15]

Thinking of renting a car and just driving away and trying to disappear.

I really don’t want the job I start tomorrow. I hate what I do and it’s a waste of my life.

Don’t know where I’d go, but I can’t live like that anymore. I can’t spend that much time doing something I really don’t want to do

[Nintex]

Thinking of renting a car and just driving away and trying to disappear.

I really don’t want the job I start tomorrow. I hate what I do and it’s a waste of my life.

Don’t know where I’d go, but I can’t live like that anymore. I can’t spend that much time doing something I really don’t want to do

What's the job?

[TVC15]

It’s what I normally do. Computer related shit.

[Mupepe]

Come to Houston. I’ll give you food and shelter to be one of my fuck holes. You’ll be free for about 21/22 hours a day to do as you please.

[TVC15]

Come to Houston. I’ll give you food and shelter to be one of my fuck holes. You’ll be free for about 21/22 hours a day to do as you please.

Eh, maybe. My first location is kinda already picked, but you could maybe be two. Need to look at a map.

[G The Resurrected]

Thinking of renting a car and just driving away and trying to disappear.

I really don’t want the job I start tomorrow. I hate what I do and it’s a waste of my life.

Don’t know where I’d go, but I can’t live like that anymore. I can’t spend that much time doing something I really don’t want to do

Anyway I could learn what you do and work for you? Serious question...

I know work sucks, have you considered maybe that if you feel so strongly about it that you might want to find another occupation? Or at least maybe that you're not feeding that part of you that you need fed creatively? Maybe you need to make something for yourself or with people from the ground up, thus giving you more control of what you do.

If you wanna just go for a drive give your boi a call. We could hit up Santa Cruz or I can take you to Fresno. 

[Mupepe]

21 out of 22 hours a day? Why are the days so short in Texas? Is it because you're closer to the equator and moving faster?

you're taking the slash too literally.  It was 21 or 22 hours of the day.

Fucking math nerd

Come to Houston. I’ll give you food and shelter to be one of my fuck holes. You’ll be free for about 21/22 hours a day to do as you please.

Eh, maybe. My first location is kinda already picked, but you could maybe be two. Need to look at a map.

I don't want sloppy seconds.  I don't step on someone else's slippery deck.

[CatsCatsCats]

Should have tried making it funny

[team filler]

my like counts are way down lately

[team filler]

still love you guys 

[G The Resurrected]

I've been especially down lately and I keep feeling myself reach for my old coping mechanism. I'm not about to fuck up my probation, but it's really, really hard. 329 days sober.

Take comfort in knowing you've come this far! Each day is a challenge an accomplishment. As time moves on things will become easier to cope with. You will have those days that make you want to do bad shit, but you have to remember it's just one day and tomorrow can always be a better day.

[zomgee]

Absolutely miserable with yet another sinus infection. I feel like I get three of these a year.

[Cerveza mas fina]

Got word back from a very nice and positive interview I went to.

They are in doubt because
-I come for a high paying job
-My wife has a managerial position, so who will take care of the kids when they are sick

Also my Danish is good but not perfect so they think it could be an issue in some situations, only legit point imho.

This is really depressing.

[brawndolicious]

Do you mean your last job was paying significantly more than this one? That would be a legit point imo since a lot of people might take the job for a short term until they find something better.

[Cerveza mas fina]

Yes

Btw that point about child sick days is illegal and I could sue

[Madrun Badrun]

  How can you fail if you cant pee?

[Madrun Badrun]

That really sucks.  I also have a shy bladder.

[Great Rumbler]

Refusal to try. 3 hours is more than enough time but I have a shy bladder.

Should have just slammed a Red Bull or something, you'd fill up like a dozen of those little cups in no time.

[TVC15]

Refusal to try. 3 hours is more than enough time but I have a shy bladder.

Doesn’t pounding water for three hours straight work for you?

What happens now? You won’t get in trouble, right? I pissed hot for weed at least twice while on probation (but I guess three usually is the magic number).

[team filler]

I'm crying right now. I had to walk out and say "please mark me down as refusal to try". I'm sitting here waiting for my Uber so I can get to work, which I'm late for, and I get a call that says my measely 8ml was enough. So I'm good. Maybe she's diluting it out of pity, I don't know. But I was just filled with so much anguish after that and that's why I'm crying. I didn't want to have to go back to the courts and pay for more expensive plane tickets. I don't want to go to jail. And my insane fucking dad is back home and thinks he can just resume his relationship with me after up and leaving and getting a girlfriend six months ago. And I was up till 1 last night pushing carts at federal minimum wage because I fucked up my last good job grifting from my boss and going to work drunk. Fuck my life. Fuck my shitty fucking life. I just want things to be different and I'm trying but life is so god-damned hard.

Everything is going to be okay, breh. 

[TVC15]

Yeah, dude. Relax. Your effort will eventually pay off.

Now stop making me feel bad for treating you like shit, please.

[team filler]

filler can be harsh, but filler also cares. bless up, brehs 

[CatsCatsCats]

Maybe you just piss excellence 🤷‍♀️

Hang in there, whoever the fuck you are

[TVC15]

 Also, how do you have sex if you have a shy bladder?

[TVC15]

I think the dude sitting in front of me on BART is an albino btw

[Madrun Badrun]

A homeless woman who likes to sit on my doorstep offered me a coke.

[Cerveza mas fina]

Thats late stage capitalism

[Madrun Badrun]

Seriously.  She clearly has some kind of mental disability too. 

[team filler]

would you say she's retardedpressing childhood trauma?

[Cerveza mas fina]

Its really sweet of her, why did you put this in the struggle thread?

[seagrams hotsauce]

are you on parole or probation shosta? i'm guessing from context clues that your piss was clean, the charges are substance related and that you haven't been to jail before since you said "I don't want to go to jail" and not "I don't want to go back to jail"

[team filler]

hope you're feeling better, shtotka breh

[Madrun Badrun]

Its really sweet of her, why did you put this in the struggle thread?

1) Because the world is cruel
2) Because I did not help make it better by saying 'No, thank you' and slamming the door on her face. 

[Cerveza mas fina]

You can still make it right man, buy her a nice lunch package maybe