tried to hide a bunch of my extraneous garbage in spoiler tags for you duders, especially the Joy Reid kerfuffle silliness since it's just dumb funny crap instead of any kind of discussion
apologies to all and esp. like JimmyEatWorld, who I know dislikes a benji dump, so for DashboardConfessional especially I put in the tags, so remember that I'm thinking of you at least sometimes, HawthorneHeights