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[Phoenix Dark]

Not sure I can watch this show anymore.

[Atramental]

2017 Atramental don't give a fuck. 

[nudemacusers]

Just made the call.

I told her we should take things slower and that I'm cool if she sees other people. 

Why don't you tell her in person?

Because I don't want her breaking shit or physically accosting me.

This is a joke right


Do her a solid and just not see her again.  No wishy washy bs.

[FreeNudeLyleLanley]

OMG, and I thought the pre-sex Pallo was cringe entertainment at its finest. We have achieved the next level

edit: and yeah dude, doing that over the phone was a bit of a dick move.

Should've texted her.

But yeah, calling her to tell her that she should see other people after she said you were soul mates and you guys made it Facebook official was a shitty move. Either way I look forward to the posts of you calling her up crying when you find out she's boning another guy and you want her back.

[CatsCatsCats]

Bro, you didn't want her to break shit? That's weak as shit. Straight up cowardice. Ugly way to go out but I really don't think you should be in a relationship so in the end it will work out. But yeah, you better at least leave her alone now

[demi]

I'm so enjoying this right now LMFAO

[Atramental]

I'm so enjoying this right now LMFAO

[Atramental]

Brehs. You have no idea how good I feel right now.

[nudemacusers]

So what's the Facebook status 🤔

[Atramental]

So what's the Facebook status 🤔

Nothing right now. 

[TakingBackSunday]

So you went from an asshole virgin to straight up an asshole.  Evolution is complete!

[Phoenix Dark]

If you're gonna be a savage I'm all for it. But don't play games with people, it's wack.

just edit your profile to say you're looking for fwb/nsa/nothing serious and feast




We don't take them on dates, we just fuck 'em
I appreciate the way you fuck me
We could never tell the fuckin' public
Pussy good enough to make me love you
Pussy good enough to make me love you

[Atramental]

So you went from an asshole virgin to straight up an asshole.  Evolution is complete!

Feelings are fickle things, man. Also, thank god I nipped this in the bud quick instead of drawing it out for a month. 

[FreeNudeLyleLanley]

I look forward to the next twist in this story.

[nudemacusers]

I feel like you're allowed one mulligan especially since you're a total n00b but do as pd suggests and lay your fuck only cards on the table. You'd be surprised how many just want that anyway.

[FreeNudeLyleLanley]

I feel like you're allowed one mulligan especially since you're a total n00b but do as pd suggests and lay your fuck only cards on the table. You'd be surprised how many just want that anyway.

I don't think it takes an expert to realize you shouldn't become super intense with someone and then bitch out via phone call when she reciprocates similar feelings.

[nudemacusers]

Yeah but the man is relationship distinguished mentally-challenged (literally) 


No offense ofc

[Beezy]

2017 Atramental don't give a fuck. 

2017 Atramental also won't be fucking for a while.

[Atramental]

2017 Atramental don't give a fuck. 

2017 Atramental also won't be fucking for a while.

That's okay. 

I did go 25+ years without fucking, after-all. 

[Beezy]

So did I. Once you've had a taste, you'll want it even more.

[Bebpo]

So did I. Once you've had a taste, you'll want it even more.

Depends, for me, after like a decade of regular sex I think I'm drifting more and more asexual.  I honestly could probably go the rest of my life without sex and I wouldn't mind, and I had some really great sex so it's not like I just haven't found the right person yet.  It's more like it was exciting as a horny teenager and then it got more exciting in relationships and then it's sorta not so exciting anymore.  For me what I'm looking for in my next relationship is mainly a great SO to do 40s/50s+ life things together.

[Beezy]

So did I. Once you've had a taste, you'll want it even more.

Depends, for me, after like a decade of regular sex *snip*

You're comparing your decade to Atra's week.

[Bebpo]

So did I. Once you've had a taste, you'll want it even more.

Depends, for me, after like a decade of regular sex *snip*

You're comparing your decade to Atra's week.

Oh yeah, I was just talking about in the general.  I definitely was really into sex and relationships once I started being in both.

[Rufus]

I feel like we should be coaching her instead.

[Atramental]

 

[Atramental]

She's talking in the past-tense, are you ok with that?

YES! Oh my god, yes. 

[thisismyusername]

So, I'll stay true to my word and give this a month...

No, fuck that. You're going to stay in this for six months and not be an asshole that dumps her in Feb 14th or March (the highest occurrence of breakups). Break up in the summer, this will make it seem like you were into her and at the same time MAYBE you will consider her.

Edit: Guess I'm late and she's fine with the breakup then. Okay. Lesson learned: Don't be rushing into things fast and if you are going for sex (like you were initially) do one-night stands and not a fucking relationship. You're going to hurt someone that doesn't take it so easy if you don't be upfront on what you're looking for.

[nudemacusers]

The one that got away...

[Boogie]

I didn't think the new season could possibly match the entertainment value of the last, but I honestly think it has topped it instead already.

How did I go so long without following this thread?

[Madrun Badrun]

Told you that sex wasn't worth all the shit you put yourself though emotionally. 

[Madrun Badrun]

I didn't think the new season could possibly match the entertainment value of the last, but I honestly think it has topped it instead already.

How did I go so long without following this thread?

I feel like this is his Wire Season 2.  It will have its fans but it will be a slow burn that leaves loved characters dead on the waterfront. 

[Huff]

you didn't even follow the rule of always have a new one lined up before you dump the old one

Or is that jobs?

[nudemacusers]

It may start out wire season 2 but it's gonna end as dexter season 8

[thisismyusername]

6 months is a really long time.

He's new to the game, so six months at least gives him a valid time-frame to go through "relationship-ruts" where he thinks she's boring (like now) and maybe actually really does like her (which he said he did... until he didn't).

If ya'll haven't broken up (I'm not caught up on this, sounds like you did?), and are taking it slow: TAKE IT FUCKING SLOW. If you're in a "relationship" it's going to be "work" between the two of you. If she thinks you're her soul-mate, you need to lower her expectations on that and make sure she's not TRULY crazy instead of bailing.

[I'm a Puppy!]

Gentlemen, we have achieved quantum cringe.

[Boogie]

Gentlemen, we have achieved quantum cringe.

Not until, say.....four days from now when he says he's lonely and missing the sexing.

[Rahxephon91]

I'm surprised people are mad at you Atra. I mean it would been better if you didn't go all "this is my girlfriend" spergy and had been more upfront about this being a clear tinder hookup. I mean on your 2nd "date" your already fucking. It didn't really seem to be anything serious. But I don't see the big deal here. 

Let's be honest here you used her for sex and since you don't know how to handle these things you thought the natural and structural next move was a relationship. It didn't need to be, but you didn't know where to go. She is an adult too and should have had a realistic approach to this as well. Seems like she doesn't, but that's not really your problem.

[Atramental]

Gentlemen, we have achieved quantum cringe.

And 2017 just started. It'll be hard for someone else to top this in the *current year*. 

[Himu]

That is the shitty thing about relationships, sexual chemistry isn't personal chemistry. Sometimes they coincide, but not nearly often enough.

You can fool yourself for awhile that one makes up for the other, but eventually that dam breaks.

Then you break up but she keeps wanting to get back with you because the sexual chemistry is amazing and she doesn't want to let that go so you oblige because hey, you like the sexual chemistry too. But then the sex and fun ends and the boredom begins and you realize you don't like anything about her except how her pussy tastes, so you break up with her again and want to leave it as a friends with benefits thing but she's not into that but dammit you just wanna eat that puss and you two keep doing this song and dance until people are hurt and going around making accusations that you're using her for sex when it was both a mutual thing and then you realize that you like dudes more than chicks and never look back

[Himu]

That is the shitty thing about relationships, sexual chemistry isn't personal chemistry. Sometimes they coincide, but not nearly often enough.

You can fool yourself for awhile that one makes up for the other, but eventually that dam breaks.

Then you break up but she keeps wanting to get back with you because the sexual chemistry is amazing and she doesn't want to let that go so you oblige because hey, you like the sexual chemistry too. But then the sex and fun ends and the boredom begins and you realize you don't like anything about her except how her pussy tastes, so you break up with her again and want to leave it as a friends with benefits thing but she's not into that but dammit you just wanna eat that puss and you two keep doing this song and dance until people are hurt and going around making accusations that you're using her for sex when it was both a mutual thing and then you realize that you like dudes more than chicks and never look back

DO NOT GET BACK WITH HER ATRA IT'S A TRAP DO NOT

[FreeNudeLyleLanley]

DO NOT GET BACK WITH HER ATRA IT'S A TRAP DO NOT

I give him 3 days before he's texting her every 20 minutes begging her to come back.

[Atramental]

DO NOT GET BACK WITH HER ATRA IT'S A TRAP DO NOT

I give him 3 days before he's texting her every 20 minutes begging her to come back.

Nah, man.

Once it started to dawn on me how much of my own time and energy I would be giving up to be in relationship with this girl... totally not worth it.

[Boogie]

DO NOT GET BACK WITH HER ATRA IT'S A TRAP DO NOT

I give him 3 days before he's texting her every 20 minutes begging her to come back.

Nah, man.

Once it started to dawn on me how much of my own time and energy I would be giving up to be in relationship with this girl... totally not worth it.

Is that "I don't like *this* girl enough to make the time and energy commitment" specifically, or a general statement of "I don't want to commit so much of my time and energy for a relationship".

Because if it's the latter.......that's what a relationship is, dude......

[FreeNudeLyleLanley]

DO NOT GET BACK WITH HER ATRA IT'S A TRAP DO NOT

I give him 3 days before he's texting her every 20 minutes begging her to come back.

Nah, man.

Once it started to dawn on me how much of my own time and energy I would be giving up to be in relationship with this girl... totally not worth it.

This bodes well for your future relationships.

[Atramental]

@Boogie

Specifically this girl.

Maybe one day (lol) I'll find someone that's relationship worthy but for now... I'll just stick to being a lone wolf.

[FreeNudeLyleLanley]

Are you still Facebook friends?

[Phoenix Dark]

Should have just said you don't want a relationship but would like to still see her (ie fuck her). Why wouldn't you want FWB with her while looking for something more sustainable on tinder lol. But you should have told her all of this days ago instead of letting it get out of control.

[Atramental]

Should have just said you don't want a relationship but would like to still see her (ie fuck her). Why wouldn't you want FWB with her while looking for something more sustainable on tinder lol. But you should have told her all of this days ago instead of letting it get out of control.

Welp, I'll know better next time.

Are you still Facebook friends?

For now, yes. On our first date she even said she wouldn't mind being my friend if things didn't work out.

But if she starts pulling some weird/vengeful shit I'll unfriend and block her so fucking fast. But right now ...things seem good.

[Madrun Badrun]

Should have just said you don't want a relationship but would like to still see her (ie fuck her). Why wouldn't you want FWB with her while looking for something more sustainable on tinder lol. But you should have told her all of this days ago instead of letting it get out of control.

Welp, I'll know better next time.

Are you still Facebook friends?

For now, yes. On our first date she even said she wouldn't mind being my friend if things didn't work out.

[Rahxephon91]

I'm surprised people are mad at you Atra. I mean it would been better if you didn't go all "this is my girlfriend" spergy and had been more upfront about this being a clear tinder hookup. I mean on your 2nd "date" your already fucking. It didn't really seem to be anything serious. But I don't see the big deal here. 

Let's be honest here you used her for sex and since you don't know how to handle these things you thought the natural and structural next move was a relationship. It didn't need to be, but you didn't know where to go. She is an adult too and should have had a realistic approach to this as well. Seems like she doesn't, but that's not really your problem.

How does that dictate what relationship is serious or isn't?

Then you break up but she keeps wanting to get back with you because the sexual chemistry is amazing and she doesn't want to let that go so you oblige because hey, you like the sexual chemistry too. But then the sex and fun ends and the boredom begins and you realize you don't like anything about her except how her pussy tastes, so you break up with her again and want to leave it as a friends with benefits thing but she's not into that but dammit you just wanna eat that puss and you two keep doing this song and dance until people are hurt and going around making accusations that you're using her for sex when it was both a mutual thing and then you realize that you like dudes more than chicks and never look back

Thanks for spoiling the whole plot.

A relationship that seemed built solely on someone's desire for sex to the point of quickly jumping into sex after the first introduction doesn't seem very serious to me. I mean I don't even remember hearing anything about the girl before the sex, just Atras navigation to the sex and seeing if this girl would allow it.

[FreeNudeLyleLanley]

Suddenly there's something wrong with fucking on the first date?

[nudemacusers]

Should have just said you don't want a relationship but would like to still see her (ie fuck her). Why wouldn't you want FWB with her while looking for something more sustainable on tinder lol. But you should have told her all of this days ago instead of letting it get out of control.

Welp, I'll know better next time.

Are you still Facebook friends?

For now, yes. On our first date she even said she wouldn't mind being my friend if things didn't work out.

But if she starts pulling some weird/vengeful shit I'll unfriend and block her so fucking fast. But right now ...things seem good.

lol why do you think she's going to smash your shit or enact some revenge on you? 

[FreeNudeLyleLanley]

She's just going to post some great looking pictures of herself with some other dude to make you jealous. Assuming she cares that is.

[Atramental]

Should have just said you don't want a relationship but would like to still see her (ie fuck her). Why wouldn't you want FWB with her while looking for something more sustainable on tinder lol. But you should have told her all of this days ago instead of letting it get out of control.

Welp, I'll know better next time.

Are you still Facebook friends?

For now, yes. On our first date she even said she wouldn't mind being my friend if things didn't work out.

But if she starts pulling some weird/vengeful shit I'll unfriend and block her so fucking fast. But right now ...things seem good.

lol why do you think she's going to smash your shit or enact some revenge on you? 

1. Because my religious upbringing hyped up sex as this super important thing that you shouldn't meddle with outside of marriage.
2. I'm highly neurotic/anxious and assume the worst possible scenarios. 

[Rahxephon91]

Suddenly there's something wrong with fucking on the first date?

Eh I didn't say that. I said I don't think bodes well. It's obvious Atra just wanted to have sex and it didn't really matter with who hence now he is realizing he actually doesn't like this person. It's not like he was into her because of her personality. Something that starts solely based on a person wanting to have sex doesn't seem serious or strong to me but I guess you guys are the experts.....



... who apparently didn't see this happening and are now giving him shit.

[Himu]

I guess you realized something that I realized when I started dating, that people, including women, are often boring people.  I remember reading the PUA stuff about how you need to be well versed in international travel, do all kinds of evening activities, know all kinds of languages, just to impress a girl who 99% of her life consists of:

- Going to class
- Going to work
- Going on Facebook
- Going on Snapchat
- Going to the bar with her friends two nights a week
- Maybe binges on some shlock on Bravo, E!, or Netflix

and that's it.  Probably never went outside the country, probably not even out of the state (or at best, an adjacent state), no salsa or ballroom dancing classes, no exciting adventures, nothing.  I remember thinking that I had to lead this super interesting life.

Just let things play out naturally.  This was never going to be a thing and I'm glad to hear that you're at least temporarily shaken off the First Fuck Syndrome.  Now you get to find that most women are just as boring as you and your friends.

Eh. While I don't think you need to do all that I do think it's good for someone to be at least a little interesting? Like, liking certain things and doing certain things that are uniquely you? Or maybe it's just me. Like, I wouldn't wanna be with a guy who doesn't like working out. I kind of made it my goal to not date someone who is all work and American Dream (tm) gotta get that money all the time. Where's the passion and interest in that? At least fit in something interesting. I just couldn't be with anyone who has no goals or passions besides working, working, working. When I got on okcupid earlier this year to start dating again I made it my goal I didn't want to date anyone who had no opinions on anything or wasn't passionate about anything. That PUA stuff sounds stupid. I'm not expecting Superman - someone who can do anything - but at least SOMETHING, whether it's cars, martial arts, music, guns, what the fuck ever.

That girlfriend I mentioned above had no opinions on anything, no actual talents or hobbies she pursued. I'd go for early evening walks during the golden hour taking photos on my camera alone because she had no interest even when invited. No actual interests besides finishing college. After that I said NEVER AGAIN: being interesting became a prequisite then and there.

I think sharing things is pretty important I guess I dunno.

[CatsCatsCats]

Kinda have the feeling Atra is just on the "well I did sex a few times, so I never have to think about relationships again" train. Some people are just happier alone

[Tasty]

Skipped a couple pages but saw there was some texting talk from Atra.

With my boyfriend, I was straight () at the start with him that I don't do "text drama" (where you're guilted if you don't respond "quick enough") and most of the time I won't be able to respond immediately if it's not an emergency. He's been able to keep to that pretty well so far.

There's so much bullshit and distractions in this world that I won't let myself get caught up in faux-ass drama because of fucking text messages.

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We're also really honest with each other in general, though. Like I told him after his second BJ that he needed to shower before coming over cause his dick was stank as hell and I'm not into that.

[close]

[Tasty]

So did I. Once you've had a taste, you'll want it even more.

Depends, for me, after like a decade of regular sex I think I'm drifting more and more asexual.  I honestly could probably go the rest of my life without sex and I wouldn't mind, and I had some really great sex so it's not like I just haven't found the right person yet.  It's more like it was exciting as a horny teenager and then it got more exciting in relationships and then it's sorta not so exciting anymore.  For me what I'm looking for in my next relationship is mainly a great SO to do 40s/50s+ life things together.

I could see this happening to me in a few years.

Right now I really wanna go to an orgy or two though.

[CatsCatsCats]

Also I think username's advice to stay in a relationship for 6 months just to make sure it's not right is insanity