Author Topic: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011 (Read 1411793 times)

tiesto · « **Reply #1800 on:** July 19, 2017, 08:19:45 PM »

Went to a tapas/wine bar place for a bite to eat today. Sat at the bar, a seat over was a girl by herself just drinking wine. She was talking with the bartender about her vacation to Australia (I think), I then asked her "hey, I overheard you just got back from Australia"... she was like "no" and turned around so fast. Never had THAT blatant of a rejection before.

I barely have any courage to approach people I don't know, so of course it's always a big setback when I get that blatantly shut down. Hence why I'm hedging my bets on someone who doesn't even have a pic up. At least she still responds to my messages, unlike what seems every other person who I'll email, they'll write back once, and then go cold after I write a follow up email.

CatsCatsCats · « **Reply #1801 on:** July 19, 2017, 08:21:46 PM »

The West coast east coat thing with the typo makes it honestly easy to misconceive as you musing rather than asking

Mupepe · « **Reply #1802 on:** July 19, 2017, 08:23:36 PM »

Quote from: Atramental on July 19, 2017, 08:11:21 PM

I'm so used to girls wanting me to text them for days before we meet up.

I'll try to close soon.

edit: We've only sent each other a total of ten messages so far.

Ah ok. Seemed like you sent more. I just always try to push the convo in a direction that leads to a convenient "oh yeah, we should meet up and do that"

CatsCatsCats · « **Reply #1803 on:** July 19, 2017, 08:27:08 PM »

Tough break, tiesto, just gotta let that shit be water off a duck's back

Atramental · « **Reply #1804 on:** July 19, 2017, 09:01:44 PM »

next page.

Atramental · « **Reply #1805 on:** July 19, 2017, 09:05:30 PM »

I have a work emergency I need to take care of so I went ahead and gave her my number and told her to text me tomorrow if she wants to stay in touch and possibly make plans this weekend.

Probably could've exited a bit more gracefully but oh well. She didn't stop responding after my cringy INTP comment. let's see if she comes through after this.

Quote from: tiesto on July 19, 2017, 08:19:45 PM

Went to a tapas/wine bar place for a bite to eat today. Sat at the bar, a seat over was a girl by herself just drinking wine. She was talking with the bartender about her vacation to Australia (I think), I then asked her "hey, I overheard you just got back from Australia"... she was like "no" and turned around so fast. Never had THAT blatant of a rejection before.

I barely have any courage to approach people I don't know, so of course it's always a big setback when I get that blatantly shut down. Hence why I'm hedging my bets on someone who doesn't even have a pic up. At least she still responds to my messages, unlike what seems every other person who I'll email, they'll write back once, and then go cold after I write a follow up email.

I've had stuff like that happen to me before.

Nothing burns the soul more than seeing disgust and disapproval emanate from a woman's face you were going to ask out.

thisismyusername · « **Reply #1806 on:** July 19, 2017, 09:17:17 PM »

Quote from: tiesto on July 19, 2017, 08:19:45 PM

I barely have any courage to approach people I don't know, so of course it's always a big setback when I get that blatantly shut down. Hence why I'm hedging my bets on someone who doesn't even have a pic up. At least she still responds to my messages, unlike what seems every other person who I'll email, they'll write back once, and then go cold after I write a follow up email.

I know the feeling. It's why I don't do face-to-face interactions and grow feelings of infatuation for men through various game sites/programs and just let it happen over the internet. The rejection is much easier to soothe that way than physically.

(That's not to mention the current relationship troubles, though)

I've been waffling on going to the only gay bar in town since 1) I've never been and 2) I probably should do it just to say I've done it. But a lot of the folks there are going to be in their early 20's or so since it's a college town and I'm not really feeling up for one-night stands with a bunch of early 20 men. I'm sure it'd be Andy's heaven, but that's not the feeling I'm wanting right now. I'm past my "rage" stage (mostly) and wanting to have something more in my life. Hard to describe in this thread to a bunch of straight men.

Atramental · « **Reply #1807 on:** July 19, 2017, 09:27:00 PM »

As soon as I was hopping onto some work I just matched with her:

Had to look up SSC/RACK since I don't know what those are ....aaand now I do.

Asheville girls are fucking wild, mang.

etiolate · « **Reply #1808 on:** July 19, 2017, 09:43:42 PM »

jesus christ dude just ask a girl at starbucks

Mupepe · « **Reply #1809 on:** July 19, 2017, 09:47:02 PM »

Fucking go for that chick and let her teach you some things bro

thisismyusername · « **Reply #1810 on:** July 19, 2017, 09:48:32 PM »

For those of us not freak-flag'd enough to know: What is SSC/RACK?

etiolate · « **Reply #1811 on:** July 19, 2017, 09:52:53 PM »

it's either a WoW raid or Altra gonna be buying some rope

Mupepe · « **Reply #1812 on:** July 19, 2017, 09:54:08 PM »

Safe sane consensual and rational consensual kink (I don't remember the a). But basically bdsm for people who aren't completely mentally fucked. They don't want to hurt or be hurt and they don't condone unhealthy dom/sub relationships.

etiolate · « **Reply #1813 on:** July 19, 2017, 09:56:22 PM »

so she buys 40 shades of grey but swears she doesn't

etiolate · « **Reply #1814 on:** July 19, 2017, 09:57:51 PM »

NO MUGGLES PLS

Atramental · « **Reply #1815 on:** July 19, 2017, 10:05:06 PM »

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on July 19, 2017, 09:57:12 PM

Atra the last time you became a man, now you can become a real man.

What would be a good opener for a girl like this?

etiolate · « **Reply #1816 on:** July 19, 2017, 10:07:17 PM »

Goodbye.

Mupepe · « **Reply #1817 on:** July 19, 2017, 10:09:21 PM »

She says she likes poetry. Use that name poetry shit. Or a smiley. Bitches love smileys

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #1818 on:** July 19, 2017, 10:10:13 PM »

tbh explicit direct "rejection" from women is rare enough that when it does happen it's less ego-stomping to me than more subtle rejection, because I figure there is some idiosyncratic reason (e.g., she had a recent bad experience, there are some PUA-esque "rules/game" going on in her head, she's been hit on a ton recently and sick of it, she just feels like being a jerk, I remind her of someone specific, ... whatever) that probably doesn't generalize

Atramental · « **Reply #1819 on:** July 19, 2017, 10:10:32 PM »

I'll have you know, etiolate, that I was spanking and pinning down the last girl that I was with (and it was all consensual, of course).

etiolate · « **Reply #1820 on:** July 19, 2017, 10:13:00 PM »

I'll have you know that a lot of girls are into some kink but the ones that advertise it want more than just some spanking, honey.

Like girls are trained to be reserved, but like any normal person they got their wants. Ones that feel the need to advertise, then that don't mean slap their ass a bit.

Atramental · « **Reply #1821 on:** July 19, 2017, 10:14:29 PM »

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Life is too short to be a prude.

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Valkyrie · « **Reply #1822 on:** July 19, 2017, 10:29:39 PM »

She looks like she makes voodoo dolls of the men who ghost her after they find her DIY taxidermy collection of dead roadkills.

Atramental · « **Reply #1823 on:** July 19, 2017, 10:34:27 PM »

She has some normal pics as well.

Maybe it's a mad max or blade runner related cosplay.

Atramental · « **Reply #1824 on:** July 19, 2017, 10:52:39 PM »

Hopefully she likes being a sub rather than being a dom because there's no fucking way I'm being a sub. Not being in control of a situation freaks me the fuck out.

Olivia Wilde Homo · « **Reply #1825 on:** July 19, 2017, 10:55:19 PM »

As I said when you were talking with the drug addict a few months ago, you need a couple mattress monsters in your life to rock your world. That way years later when you are married and get turned down by your wife for lights-off missionary sex, you can think about the good old days and beat off.

thisismyusername · « **Reply #1826 on:** July 19, 2017, 11:22:55 PM »

Quote from: Atramental on July 19, 2017, 10:14:29 PM

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Life is too short to be a prude.
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Please have a safe word ready and make sure she doesn't gag you so you know you can get the safe-word out.

Because, just so you know sweetie: She's going to be the dominate, not you.

toku · « **Reply #1827 on:** July 20, 2017, 12:27:24 AM »

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #1828 on:** July 20, 2017, 12:57:09 AM »

yes you will sub for this girl

thisismyusername · « **Reply #1829 on:** July 20, 2017, 01:03:24 AM »

And there ain't anything wrong with that.

Valkyrie · « **Reply #1830 on:** July 20, 2017, 01:27:26 AM »

#WhyNotBoth

Atramental · « **Reply #1831 on:** July 20, 2017, 11:28:54 AM »

So many dark haired, blue eyed cuties lately. I think the universe is finally letting up on me.

Also, I just shot BDSM chick a message. So, now we wait.

toku · « **Reply #1832 on:** July 20, 2017, 11:33:20 AM »

proud of u

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #1833 on:** July 20, 2017, 12:49:11 PM »

I'm not. You should have never thrown that cute chubby girl in the bushes. You know nothing, Atra Snow.

Atramental · « **Reply #1834 on:** July 20, 2017, 12:59:13 PM »

It's funny you should say that since my last name has ties to winter/ice in the Slavic tounge.

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cute chubby girl is looking even prettier in her most recent pics

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toku · « **Reply #1835 on:** July 20, 2017, 01:10:36 PM »

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on July 20, 2017, 12:49:11 PM

I'm not. You should have never thrown that cute chubby girl in the bushes. You know nothing, Atra Snow.

we'll both be happy when he's married and happy bless up

CatsCatsCats · « **Reply #1836 on:** July 20, 2017, 01:14:50 PM »

So..

My wife and I have been kicking around the idea of opening up our marriage. Atra's tindr escapades makes me think maybe it could be a thing I do 🤔

Atramental · « **Reply #1837 on:** July 20, 2017, 01:56:04 PM »

I dunno bro. I personally wouldn't be down for that unless my wife was just seeing other women.

But that's just me.

CatsCatsCats · « **Reply #1838 on:** July 20, 2017, 02:02:02 PM »

No offense bro, but you're not the dude I'm gonna take advice from about security in a relationship

We're both hippy af and have recently been talking frankly about monogamy and initimacy. Our relationship is at point where I know neither of us is going anywhere, and with continuing discussion, honesty, and making maintaining our relationship the number one priority, I think we can pull it off. She's also okay with me being the only one seeking outside the marriage, but I think that kind of inequality could to easily end up toxic

Mupepe · « **Reply #1839 on:** July 20, 2017, 02:09:51 PM »

Go for it, bro!

Valkyrie · « **Reply #1840 on:** July 20, 2017, 02:10:22 PM »

DO IT. And remember to report back to us about your sexy adventures.

CatsCatsCats · « **Reply #1841 on:** July 20, 2017, 02:12:04 PM »

Guess I might be joining the cast this season

I'm a Puppy! · « **Reply #1842 on:** July 20, 2017, 02:28:31 PM »

The little angel on my shoulder is saying "Tell him to not do it. It will eventually lead to resentment like it has in the dozens of cases you've seen. It never works."

And the devil on my other should is saying, "Tell him to do it! It will be entertaining!"

I'm a Puppy! · « **Reply #1843 on:** July 20, 2017, 02:29:35 PM »

Quote from: Valkyrie on July 20, 2017, 02:10:22 PM

DO IT. And remember to report back to us about your sexy adventures.

Yeah, it would be lame to post in this thread then be like "I'm not sharing my adventures with you guys." Don't be that guy Cats, unlike SOME borians

CatsCatsCats · « **Reply #1844 on:** July 20, 2017, 02:30:17 PM »

Yeah, I'm aware I'm setting out to navigate choppy waters

And yeah, I'll share deets.

toku · « **Reply #1845 on:** July 20, 2017, 02:43:18 PM »

we believe in you

demi · « **Reply #1846 on:** July 20, 2017, 02:48:03 PM »

TBH the stories from Atra are only interesting because he's such a complete fuckup

Someone who has things under control and already pounds pussy like a pro like you won't really make for good television

CatsCatsCats · « **Reply #1847 on:** July 20, 2017, 02:51:25 PM »

🤔 I'm sure I'll get spergy somehow and it will be entertaining?

Atramental · « **Reply #1848 on:** July 20, 2017, 03:18:11 PM »

I might be a fuck up but at least I'm an entertaining fuck up.

Can't really say the same for some of the regulars of the GAF relationship thread or on 4chan's /r9k/ board.

CatsCatsCats · « **Reply #1849 on:** July 20, 2017, 03:19:55 PM »

You're a content creator, no hate

toku · « **Reply #1850 on:** July 20, 2017, 03:52:19 PM »

you're not a fuck up

demi · « **Reply #1851 on:** July 20, 2017, 03:56:28 PM »

Definitely a fuck up who blessed up one too many times

Raist · « **Reply #1852 on:** July 20, 2017, 03:59:12 PM »

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on July 19, 2017, 10:36:49 PM

Make sure to rough fuck her in both.

I believe in you.

Both costumes or...

CatsCatsCats · « **Reply #1853 on:** July 20, 2017, 04:00:19 PM »

I mean, Atra, you have inspired me to go crush some spooky puss, so that's pretty good I'd say

thisismyusername · « **Reply #1854 on:** July 20, 2017, 05:03:26 PM »

Quote from: CatsCatsCats on July 20, 2017, 02:02:02 PM

No offense bro, but you're not the dude I'm gonna take advice from about security in a relationship

We're both hippy af and have recently been talking frankly about monogamy and initimacy. Our relationship is at point where I know neither of us is going anywhere, and with continuing discussion, honesty, and making maintaining our relationship the number one priority, I think we can pull it off. She's also okay with me being the only one seeking outside the marriage, but I think that kind of inequality could to easily end up toxic

I mean if you don't think it'll ruin your relationship... by all means. But in my experience with folks that do open relationships (and the other person isn't bisexual)... it's not a good track record. Just saying.

CatsCatsCats · « **Reply #1855 on:** July 20, 2017, 05:06:04 PM »

Yeah, I'm aware of the numbers. I have confidence in our ability to reign things in if/when it goes south tho

thisismyusername · « **Reply #1856 on:** July 20, 2017, 05:09:16 PM »

I mean people say what you say all the time and then it is endless drama. So... I'm just warning. You do you and all that.

Mupepe · « **Reply #1857 on:** July 20, 2017, 05:12:45 PM »

Only you know your relationship and how strong and elastic it is. You also know if you two are doing this from a healthy start. I feel like the ones that go into this and run into those issues knew they were doing it for the wrong reasons. You got this. Good luck.

CatsCatsCats · « **Reply #1858 on:** July 20, 2017, 05:27:06 PM »

I do appreciate the real talk concern, and maybe that will make an entertaining third act for y'all, imma find out

Huff · « **Reply #1859 on:** July 20, 2017, 05:42:01 PM »

I got the "I'm not looking for a relationship right now" ( aka relationship with me). Responded back that I'm moving in 4 days and I agree a relationship is not ideal.

Trying to squeeze one last drunken bang in but looking unlikely

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Author Topic: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011 (Read 1411793 times)