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[CatsCatsCats]

What you're not understanding is there's a difference between not having a sex drive and not being able or willing to get your sex drive fulfilled

[Rahxephon91]

Yeah I understand. Yeah I'm not asexual. If anything I have a pretty high sex drive and it's driving me mad not to use it.

[Atramental]

Chatting with a chubby redhead on tinder right now.

Will report back if things develop further.

We're still chatting back and forth. Asked her if she would be available to meet up for dinner this weekend but she's directing a show of some sort tonight and the rest of this weekend.

Hopefully sometime next week we can meet up and I can get a front row seat to see her large, porcelain white breasts. 

[thisismyusername]

Chatting with a chubby redhead on tinder right now.

Will report back if things develop further.

We're still chatting back and forth. Asked her if she would be available to meet up for dinner this weekend but she's directing a show of some sort tonight and the rest of this weekend.

Hopefully sometime next week we can meet up and I can get a front row seat to see her large, porcelain white breasts. 

Why don't you go to to her show? Unless it's like the Vagina Monologues, it'd be neat?

[Atramental]

I'll see what I can do. I probably haven't built enough trust with her yet. We've only exchanged 8 messages so far but she seems fairly receptive.

[FreeNudeLyleLanley]

Chatting with a chubby redhead on tinder right now.

Will report back if things develop further.

We're still chatting back and forth. Asked her if she would be available to meet up for dinner this weekend but she's directing a show of some sort tonight and the rest of this weekend.

Hopefully sometime next week we can meet up and I can get a front row seat to see her large, porcelain white breasts. 

Why don't you go to to her show? Unless it's like the Vagina Monologues, it'd be neat?

A Tinder first date at her show? Seems like a bit much.

[Rahxephon91]

Just don't update the ole Facebook after.

[FreeNudeLyleLanley]

Do it before.

[demi]

her large, porcelain white breasts

Now this distinguished mentally-challenged fellow loves chubby girls now that the secret's out

/r/bbwgonewild

[thisismyusername]

Chatting with a chubby redhead on tinder right now.

Will report back if things develop further.

We're still chatting back and forth. Asked her if she would be available to meet up for dinner this weekend but she's directing a show of some sort tonight and the rest of this weekend.

Hopefully sometime next week we can meet up and I can get a front row seat to see her large, porcelain white breasts. 

Why don't you go to to her show? Unless it's like the Vagina Monologues, it'd be neat?

A Tinder first date at her show? Seems like a bit much.

Not necessarily a date. But I mean if you go to her show, you show you have interest in her.

[Atramental]

It could also come off as stalkerish/invasive if I try to persuade her invite me to her show.

If she wants me there she'll let me know but for now I should just focus on taking her out to dinner or whatever. i.e. a place or context that we can easily converse with & learn about each other.

[FreeNudeLyleLanley]

Chatting with a chubby redhead on tinder right now.

Will report back if things develop further.

We're still chatting back and forth. Asked her if she would be available to meet up for dinner this weekend but she's directing a show of some sort tonight and the rest of this weekend.

Hopefully sometime next week we can meet up and I can get a front row seat to see her large, porcelain white breasts. 

Why don't you go to to her show? Unless it's like the Vagina Monologues, it'd be neat?

A Tinder first date at her show? Seems like a bit much.

Not necessarily a date. But I mean if you go to her show, you show you have interest in her.

Could be cute if they met in person but I don't think that'd work as well in this situation.

[Atramental]

her large, porcelain white breasts

Now this distinguished mentally-challenged fellow loves chubby girls now that the secret's out

/r/bbwgonewild

Not gonna lie... I had a lot of fun pounding away on the last (and only ...so far) chubby girl I was with. 

Good for warmth too during the winter time. 

spoiler (click to show/hide)

My taste in porn is changing as well as a result... 

[close]

edit: Dufus, find yerself a chubby gal!

[thisismyusername]

Dufus, find yerself a chubby gal!

But only to lose your virginity with.

The guy I'm into isn't that chubby. Has a bit of a stomach but is like a southern-auto-mechanic-fit-build. Find a girl like that (well not necessarily like that.  ) after the fat girl. You can raise your standards after the first fuck, you know?

It could also come off as stalkerish/invasive if I try to persuade her invite me to her show.

If she wants me there she'll let me know but for now I should just focus on taking her out to dinner or whatever. i.e. a place or context that we can easily converse with & learn about each other.

I mean, sure. I'm not saying "lol can I come to your show?" But I'm more saying "hey, when is it? I might be able to go. Tell me a bit more about it, I'm interested."

[FreeNudeLyleLanley]

I just feel like with online dating you want to make sure the other person isn't an internet person before you introduce them to your real life.

[thisismyusername]

I just feel like with online dating you want to make sure the other person isn't an internet person before you introduce them to your real life.

Game over man. Game over.

[Huff]

Feels like I told you to go after chubby girls with self confidence issues a year ago

[Atramental]

Feels like I told you to go after chubby girls with self confidence issues a year ago

You probably did. It just took a while to sink into my thick, shiny skull. 

[I'm a Puppy!]

So get out there fail already so we can start the standard lowering!

[ToxicAdam]

I had an ex-girlfriend (on the way out the door) say "Good luck with your future fat girlfriend".

It did a number on me, because about 5 years later I met a pretty awesome overweight girl (had a degree, a career, a house, a personality) but I couldn't be in a relationship with her because I was afraid that ex would see me one day and get the last laugh.

So, I married the next skinny girl I was with and had a lousy marriage.

[Atramental]

So get out there fail already so we can start the standard lowering!

Yep. Fail early & often. Dating and life are so much more exciting/interesting/rewarding when you do that. 

[Rahxephon91]

So get out there fail already so we can start the standard lowering!

Yep. Fail early & often. Dating and life are so much more exciting/interesting/rewarding when you do that. 

duh fuck? No it isn't.

[Atramental]

 Works for some people. Worked for me.

edit:


The video is about game design but the core concept still applies to anything in life.

[Mupepe]

I had an ex-girlfriend (on the way out the door) say "Good luck with your future fat girlfriend".

It did a number on me, because about 5 years later I met a pretty awesome overweight girl (had a degree, a career, a house, a personality) but I couldn't be in a relationship with her because I was afraid that ex would see me one day and get the last laugh.

So, I married the next skinny girl I was with and had a lousy marriage.

[thisismyusername]

Feels like I told you to go after chubby girls with self confidence issues a year ago

Everyone did. Most people pork the fat girl/guy as their first-time. It's a pretty known trope.

But I'd never try to get it on with someone who I didn't think was attractive. For it's mostly the eyes, and maybe also the voice. The idea of lowering standards is absurd when I haven't even really tried to date a hot girl. Only when that fails should standards lower. That's kind of the point of lowering standards to begin with. Although no doubt dating someone really hot would fail, I'm too socially awkward.

You and Rah are dumb. You both are so dumb, for real.

Spoiler: You're both not dating anyone. Your standards are preventing you from dating someone that you may get attracted to later (if only for NSA sex right now). Lowering your standards helps you in the long-run find what you want because you get more confidence. You dinguses.

[tiesto]

Feels like I told you to go after chubby girls with self confidence issues a year ago

It will work for a little while, you'll definitely get action, but the problems will quickly suffice. Take my word on it.

Confident chubby girls is more like it 

Also I don't recommend lowering your standards -too- much. This is what I have done plenty of times in the past, and it prompts a ton of "tiesto, you are so smart, have a good job, have a house, educated, handsome, you can do so much better" from family and friends. Which makes you think even worse about yourself since you feel you can't live up to the standards others have set for you.

[thisismyusername]

and it prompts a ton of "tiesto, you are so smart, have a good job, have a house, educated, handsome, you can do so much better" from family and friends. Which makes you think even worse about yourself since you feel you can't live up to the standards others have set for you.

Fuck that. If you're happy with your "lowered standards" girl, you should be happy. Screw the haters, yo.

[CatsCatsCats]

Yeah, learn from what TA has shared here

[thisismyusername]

Your standards are preventing you from dating someone

Rahx and I are not the same person FYI.

WHOOSH goes my point over your head.

His standards are high, which prevents him from dating someone. YOURS is that you're looking for the perfect girl to ask out. Same shit, different levels of the same point. You need to get out of your "she's not cute" bubble and ask girls out. This will make your more confident for when you do have some attraction to someone you'll knock it out of the park.

But I'd never try to get it on with someone who I didn't think was attractive. [... ... ...] I'm too socially awkward.

This is the problem for you, right here. You want to date those girls that you think are attractive? Start with the girls that you don't. You don't even need to fuck them/date them. Just get that "socially awkward" phase out by hitting on women that you don't have much attraction towards. Once that's done, you should be able to hit those girls that are within your standards unless you're Rah level of "Statue of David" in standards.

[thisismyusername]

YOURS is that you're looking for the perfect girl to ask out.

What the fuck are you blabbing about.

See above. See the parts I cut out.

"I don't talk to women because I'm socially awkward."
"So hit on the women you don't find attractive to get over that hump to talk to the ones you DO find attractive?"
"I can't do that! I don't find them attractive!"
" "

It's got nothing to do with your attraction right now. It's got everything to do with you feeling you're a social dufus (pun not intended) and thereby hitting on the girls you don't find attractive will give you the experience and confidence in talking/hitting on the women you do find attractive. The more you don't talk to women to try to find your strengths in hitting on them and getting out of your "I'm a social loser, nobody will ever be attracted to me" bubble, the worse it'll get.

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

Why are you guys trying to get these guys laid?  Let Darwin do his thing.

[thisismyusername]

I mean, if I (and others) can get Atra laid... we should be able to get Dufus laid.

[Atramental]

Thinking back when I first started tindering, I probably would've swiped left on the girl that I lost my virginity to because my standards were too high at the very beginning. 

[Kara]

I had an ex-girlfriend (on the way out the door) say "Good luck with your future fat girlfriend".

It did a number on me, because about 5 years later I met a pretty awesome overweight girl (had a degree, a career, a house, a personality) but I couldn't be in a relationship with her because I was afraid that ex would see me one day and get the last laugh.

So, I married the next skinny girl I was with and had a lousy marriage.

It's better to be unhappy than to fulfill a called own.

[Rahxephon91]

Dufus, don't believe thier bullshit.

[Atramental]

Can't wait to post another sexual triumph story due to my and username's "bullshit" mindsets about getting some ass. 

[Rahxephon91]

Hopefully followed by the "I LOVE THIS GIRL EVEN THOUGH IVE KNOW HER FOR A WEEk" aftermath posts.

But I mean it is complete bullshit. Just because you got lucky and took whatever you could get doesn't mean you're an expert now.

And we're supposed to take advice from username(who I now realize is gay) because he thinks everyone loses their virginity to a fat girl. I don't know any guy who lost their virginity to some girl they did'nt find attractive/some practice girl. They lost it to their current girlfriend or highschool thing. This advice of use fat chicks is kind of disgusting.

I mean oh boy you had to have sex with an uggo. What a big confidence booster.

I deleted my tinder because I got only uggos and it made me realize oh I guess I can't get any attractive women. It destroyed any sort of confidence I could have. So yeah having to fuck fat chicks when no one else has had too sure aint going to make me feel better about myself. Oh wow I can't get anything I want.

And please my standards I'd just like a decent white or hispanic chick. Oh wow much high standards.

[Madrun Badrun]

I had an ex-girlfriend (on the way out the door) say "Good luck with your future fat girlfriend".

It did a number on me, because about 5 years later I met a pretty awesome overweight girl (had a degree, a career, a house, a personality) but I couldn't be in a relationship with her because I was afraid that ex would see me one day and get the last laugh.

So, I married the next skinny girl I was with and had a lousy marriage.

It's better to be unhappy than to fulfill a called own.

Everyday I'm dodging future owns like Neo to the detriment of my future happiness. 

[Rufus]

It's better to be unhappy than to fulfill a called own.

Parents, take note.

[Boogie]

Can't wait to post another sexual triumph story due to my and username's "bullshit" mindsets about getting some ass. 

Quit talkin' about doing it, and do it then.

The 2017 season of this thread is really slacking these days. 

I mean, GS wouldn't even tell us the deets of how he crashed and burned with that one woman. 

[king of the internet]

Season one didn't have any payoff until basically the penultimate episode. Let's not forget how painful it was to read that shit. I fully expect disappointment, but there's still time. 

[thisismyusername]

The years long PD "will he or won't he?" arc with BBC subtext almost got us cancelled

I thought that was a web episode? 🤔

[king of the internet]

For what it's worth I might try to get back into the game this summer and if I do my exploits are sure to at the very least give me some comic relief to share. My cold sores have cleared up and I've been matching with some cute girls so things might be finally looking up for me.

[seagrams hotsauce]

Hopefully followed by the "I LOVE THIS GIRL EVEN THOUGH IVE KNOW HER FOR A WEEk" aftermath posts.

But I mean it is complete bullshit. Just because you got lucky and took whatever you could get doesn't mean you're an expert now.

And we're supposed to take advice from username(who I now realize is gay) because he thinks everyone loses their virginity to a fat girl. I don't know any guy who lost their virginity to some girl they did'nt find attractive/some practice girl. They lost it to their current girlfriend or highschool thing. This advice of use fat chicks is kind of disgusting.

I mean oh boy you had to have sex with an uggo. What a big confidence booster.

I deleted my tinder because I got only uggos and it made me realize oh I guess I can't get any attractive women. It destroyed any sort of confidence I could have. So yeah having to fuck fat chicks when no one else has had too sure aint going to make me feel better about myself. Oh wow I can't get anything I want.

And please my standards I'd just like a decent white or hispanic chick. Oh wow much high standards.

You can keep making posts like this where you qualifying Atra's getting laid and talking yourself into believing it doesn't to 'count', but the bottom line is he got laid, and you never will as long as you keep sticking to this crab in a bucket bullshit.

"I deleted my tinder cuz uggos" Lol and what are you some kind of Dry-Dicked Adonis? You're closing an avenue to a relationship because Tinder doesn't toss you models every swipe? Grow the fuck up.

[FreeNudeLyleLanley]

Lowering your standards doesn't mean you have to have sex with a pig. Hell, you don't even have to have sex with any of them, just get out there and start talking to actual women who have any interest in you whatsoever and see what happens.

[FreeNudeLyleLanley]

just

My advice was for someone who claims their high standards are what's keeping them from fucking, if you can't talk to anyone then maybe go see a psychiatrist about that.

[Rahxephon91]

Hopefully followed by the "I LOVE THIS GIRL EVEN THOUGH IVE KNOW HER FOR A WEEk" aftermath posts.

But I mean it is complete bullshit. Just because you got lucky and took whatever you could get doesn't mean you're an expert now.

And we're supposed to take advice from username(who I now realize is gay) because he thinks everyone loses their virginity to a fat girl. I don't know any guy who lost their virginity to some girl they did'nt find attractive/some practice girl. They lost it to their current girlfriend or highschool thing. This advice of use fat chicks is kind of disgusting.

I mean oh boy you had to have sex with an uggo. What a big confidence booster.

I deleted my tinder because I got only uggos and it made me realize oh I guess I can't get any attractive women. It destroyed any sort of confidence I could have. So yeah having to fuck fat chicks when no one else has had too sure aint going to make me feel better about myself. Oh wow I can't get anything I want.

And please my standards I'd just like a decent white or hispanic chick. Oh wow much high standards.

You can keep making posts like this where you qualifying Atra's getting laid and talking yourself into believing it doesn't to 'count', but the bottom line is he got laid, and you never will as long as you keep sticking to this crab in a bucket bullshit.

"I deleted my tinder cuz uggos" Lol and what are you some kind of Dry-Dicked Adonis? You're closing an avenue to a relationship because Tinder doesn't toss you models every swipe? Grow the fuck up.

Well actually I had sex long before Atra just took whatever came a long on tinder and caught feels for.

And it has nothing to do with be an adonis(of which I obviously am not). I closed an avenue that did provide anything. Here I can give you my tinder and you can see for yourself. But I'm not sure why you people can't seem to see any middle ground. No one here is trying to find models or anything, just something average, something they like. While you people are sitting here saying "waste your time on things you couldnt possibly get a hard on for". It's like how is this a confidence booster? Oh boy I can get chicks that no one would want! I should feel so good about myself. I should muster the strengh to waste time with women I do not find the slightest bit attractive, yeah that will really build me up. Which is all tinder showed me and well who wants to mess with that? Do any of you even follow your own advice? Did most of you pay for escorts? Did most of you have sex with women you found repulsive? Do most of you do anything you people claim you need to do? I very much doubt it. Most of you people lost your virginity naturally to a girl you liked, not some fat girl you were just using as some testing ground.

And this point about no one cares? Do any of you have friends. Of course you're friends will snicker and make fun of you if you're dating something they find t be bad. Hell even your family will. Hell people at work make comments all the time about who people are with and if it makes sense. Yeah it will be a big confidence booster to walk around with someone nobody thinks is decent. I can feel the confidence growing!

Lowering your standards doesn't mean you have to have sex with a pig. Hell, you don't even have to have sex with any of them, just get out there and start talking to actual women who have any interest in you whatsoever and see what happens.

So it's almost as if it's the woman who has to give you a chance.....wow I never said that before.

I don't even know what standards and lowering them even means at this point. I guess you either have high or low, because apprantly there's nothing in between. And wow the idea itself even sounds soul crushing. You could'nt get what you like so you need to lower yourself and accept this. You're crap so accept crap. I guess you're confidence was for nothing because you're value is'nt there, so lower your value. Wow so much confidence boosting.

[thisismyusername]

And we're supposed to take advice from username(who I now realize is gay) because he thinks everyone loses their virginity to a fat girl. I don't know any guy who lost their virginity to some girl they did'nt find attractive/some practice girl. They lost it to their current girlfriend or highschool thing. This advice of use fat chicks is kind of disgusting.

I mean oh boy you had to have sex with an uggo. What a big confidence booster.

  Oh my god, you are so fucking dumb if you think "#NotAllGirlfriends" is true.

Especially the underlined. If you honestly think those "current girlfriend or highschool thing" is not "some practice girl" you are a bigger moron than I get you credit for.

How many of those "current girlfriend or highschool things" are still together. Go on, count them.

You can keep making posts like this where you qualifying Atra's getting laid and talking yourself into believing it doesn't to 'count', but the bottom line is he got laid, and you never will as long as you keep sticking to this crab in a bucket bullshit.

Sis.

"I deleted my tinder cuz uggos" Lol and what are you some kind of Dry-Dicked Adonis? You're closing an avenue to a relationship because Tinder doesn't toss you models every swipe? Grow the fuck up.

Exactly why I keep saying he should pork a fat chick. At least then he'll stop feeling so fucking bad because *gasp* some fat chick found him attractive enough to drop her panties for him meanwhile, he's sitting here masturbating to Atra's stories while crying and considering suicide.

Lowering your standards doesn't mean you have to have sex with a pig. Hell, you don't even have to have sex with any of them, just get out there and start talking to actual women who have any interest in you whatsoever and see what happens.

Exactly what I'm telling Dufus. Think of those unattractive women as practice-bats for the sake of getting with a girl you do find attractive. Just because you give them a "hey, I'm interested" vibe doesn't mean you have to take them home and fuck them, Dufus. Use them as getting over your social anxiety. It's a known psychology trick: You want to get over your "social Dufus"-ism? Talk to more people even if you have no interest in them.

[Boogie]

Can't wait to post another sexual triumph story due to my and username's "bullshit" mindsets about getting some ass. 

What are you being so boastful about? You've only had one more girlfriend than me.

Facebook status change notwithstanding, I'm not sure that's even true.

[Atramental]

Lowering your standards doesn't mean you have to have sex with a pig. Hell, you don't even have to have sex with any of them, just get out there and start talking to actual women who have any interest in you whatsoever and see what happens.

For the record, the girl I slept with was by no means ugly. She was just a bit... rounder than I was originally comfortable with. 

edit: Also, she has a boyfriend since early February. She found new dick quick. 

[Rahxephon91]

No guy that I know went out and found some disgusting girl they had no interests in. They all lost it to a girl they either found attractive or were already dating which would mean they liked something. They didn't just go find some fat girl they wouldn't like simply to have sex and get it over. They weren't practice girls meant to be trash mobs for cheap experience. Even with casual hook ups the dudes I know at least try to hook up with girls they find attractive enough. That's what I meant username and no im not dumb, but I guess since you're gay you wouldn't know anyway and I have no reason to listen to. Of course none of them are a current thing, that's not the point. The point is I don't know anyone in the real world who took the advice of just get a hooker or fuck a woman you find disgusting just to do it. Which is the usual advice here. People in the real world would give you shit for doing either.

But I'm not even sure why this is hard to figure out for you. I don't know any person who's going to feel good about themselves because they have to setlle for something they don't want. I'm sure plenty of ugly fat chicks have found me attractive. I'm sure I could sleep with them if I wanted to. I don't and doing so wouldn't make me or anyone feel better. In fact normal people would dog on someone doing that. Um Chubby chaser isn't used as a good thing.

No one is jerking off to Atra's singular story of having sex with an uggo. And the only reason I contemplate suicide is because my life is rather useless and being told I can only have women I wouldn't want to touch with a stick and that I need to lower my standards to 0 sure don't make me feel better or simply pay, but that is the advice given here and no one should listen to it.

[FreeNudeLyleLanley]

No one is saying you have to lower your standards so far that you end up having sex with women you find disgusting.

[Atramental]

She wasn't an uggo, man. She was cute. Cute!

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[Boogie]

No guy that I know went out and found some disgusting girl they had no interests in.

No one in this thread has ever told anyone to do the above.

"some disgusting girl" is your language, not ours.  And that phrasing is very telling.

But then, you're the one who conceptualised your "ideal woman" in terms of porn stars, so I don't expect any self-awareness coming from you.

[Atramental]

Rahx seems to have an almost binary definition of what is attractive and what isn't.

When really attractiveness is a vast and diverse spectrum. 

[CatsCatsCats]

🤦‍♂️ this thread 🤦‍♀️

[thisismyusername]

http://cnn.it/2lBy6wh

No excuses, Dufus.

[Rahxephon91]

No guy that I know went out and found some disgusting girl they had no interests in.

No one in this thread has ever told anyone to do the above.

"some disgusting girl" is your language, not ours.  And that phrasing is very telling.

But then, you're the one who conceptualised your "ideal woman" in terms of porn stars, so I don't expect any self-awareness coming from you.

Thats exactly what people have said. What else can you mean with lowering your standards? Like how low are you supposed to go?

And what was the big deal with that list. People talk about celebrities like that.

[nudemacusers]

She wasn't an uggo, man. She was cute. Cute!

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How am I supposed to creep if you delete em

[Atramental]

No guy that I know went out and found some disgusting girl they had no interests in.

No one in this thread has ever told anyone to do the above.

"some disgusting girl" is your language, not ours.  And that phrasing is very telling.

But then, you're the one who conceptualised your "ideal woman" in terms of porn stars, so I don't expect any self-awareness coming from you.

Thats exactly what people have said. What else can you mean with lowering your standards? Like how low are you supposed to go?

And what was the big deal with that list. People talk about celebrities like that.

Okay, how about this... post an example of what you consider to be the lowest point of your "attractiveness" standard.

Someone who you would sleep with, with a few qualms, but you would still go through with it because they are attractive enough. 

She wasn't an uggo, man. She was cute. Cute!

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How am I supposed to creep if you delete em

Check your PMs in a bit.