RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011

[Raist]

Don't wait for someone for two weeks, vom! That's 1/24th of a year! Get out there!

A year now has 48 weeks brehs.

[VomKriege]

Don't wait for someone for two weeks, vom! That's 1/24th of a year! Get out there!

Working odd hours anyway so can't really put myself out here at the moment.

[Raist]

... 1/26th?

Good grief man.

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

As an update for me, the new ex stops at my place just about every night to bang   So essentially nothing has changed except I even have less emotional commitment than before.

I also fucked some random girl off of Bumble.  Not much to be said about that.  I don't have much respect or regard for online dating.

Friend is setting me up with an optometrist next week.  From looking her up online, she looks cute but I can't tell what her body looks like.  We'll see how it goes!

[Bebpo]

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Thinking about people tonight whose hearts I've broken. I've caused a lot of pain in my life. Most of us probably have. I'm young but I'm still being visited by the ghost of Christmas past. Please treat people the way they deserve to be treated and cause some good in the world.

As long as you didn't kill anyone, they'll get over it. Instead of focusing on the bad stuff, try to focus on all the great moments you gave other people.

[Bebpo]

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[Raist]

Look for a new job?

[Raist]

I don't mean a different field. Just a different place/job type.

[VomKriege]

Update : Well, still in vacation. What an innate sense of timing I have. 
I'll see if I can get ahold of her through Hangouts because even as a patient fellow the thing is grinding me down.

[I'm a Puppy!]

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Hrm....I sorta agree. If your work has become the main pillar of your life and it's a big gloomy disaster in your eyes, then it stands to reason that would affect other areas of your life. Totally agree there. But, at the same time you gotta tread carefully because if you wait until work situation is perfect then you'll never leave where you are. But yeah, I think he might be right though. I've certainly seen it.  Best of luck, man.

[I'm a Puppy!]

Eh, I'd actually be flattered that anyone missed me while I was gone.



Of course that depends if there's a like a few messages waiting for a mountain of them.

[VomKriege]

Update : Well, still in vacation. What an innate sense of timing I have. 
I'll see if I can get ahold of her through Hangouts because even as a patient fellow the thing is grinding me down.

Imagine being on vacation and some special fellow you just had coffee with is annoyingly trying to get ahold of you.

I'm clumsy, no denying that, but I believe I've been restrained. One text message (the original one), one voicemail (which is how I learnt she was on vacation) and one invite on Hangout (literally just "hello") in the space of three weeks. I agree it's the most I can do though.

[I'm a Puppy!]

Send her this


Post results pls.

[VomKriege]

Send her this
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Post results pls.

[Bebpo]

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[toku]

you got this, you're a catch

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i told you that sailing photo was great

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[I'm a Puppy!]

Bebpo, you got this! Just reply that she's the most gorgeous woman you've ever seen. So much so you told your friends on a videogame forum about her.

Post responses pls.

[BlueTsunami]

Just interacted with a chick that sent me a bunch of personal snaps but tried to invoke some thirteen year old relationship response in walking in back. I was like, you get to that, imma listen to Men I Trust.

[BlueTsunami]

She's fucking out the playbook. I apparently deleted her in all ways

[BlueTsunami]

I deleted her in all wayyyys follow the ring!

[Bebpo]

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[VomKriege]

Update : denied. Probably misread the signs a bit. I'll let her breath, I think it's someone I could be friends with but I'll let her handle that if she so wishes. I'm relieved and more at peace with being single for the moment.

Live and learn.

[Tasty]

Update : denied. Probably misread the signs a bit. I'll let her breath, I think it's someone I could be friends with but I'll let her handle that if she so wishes.

Live and learn.

I got u fam.

[toku]

oops wrong thread

[I'm a Puppy!]

So much slapping. I'm disturbed. Aroused. Very aroused. By somewhat disturbed.

[toku]

it might not be you, it might just be vegas

[toku]

maybe love is a fever and we all just have to pray it passes as quick as it comes, for the sake of all of us

[toku]

in a relationship with this album coming to a digital platform sometime 2018 look for it

[Clockwork5]

Ugh I guess I need to vent a bit and any input on my situation would be appreciated as well.

So I have brought this up in the Triumph thread but left some important details out. Ive had a crush on a girl I have worked with for a couple years. We became pretty good friends over that time but I kind of put up a wall because I didn't want to get too mixed up. She has been exclusively dating girls for several years (far longer than I have known her) so I never made a move and wanted to be respectful of her sexuality and didn't want to make things complicated at work. But I always liked her quite a bit.

A few weeks ago she asked me to hang out after work. We had an awesome time and as I pulled into her driveway to drop her off she jumped on top of me and we fooled around for half the night. It was super exciting. Ever since we have been hanging out and hooking up pretty regularly, going to concerts, out to dinner, hanging at the park staying the night at each other's places, etc.

Well, this would all be fantastic but (here is the kick to the balls) she is moving away in a couple months to go to med school. Here I am getting super attached to a girl I've always liked but never thought I had a chance with and she seems to be getting attached too but we both know this relationship has an expiration date. It's just kinda sad. I'm trying to live in the moment, for now, but it's getting more difficult. I have fun when we're together but sometimes when I'm at home alone I've been getting pretty bummed about the whole thing. I know I'm going to miss her a ton when she leaves.  Taking a step backwards might be a good idea but it feels like this whole thing is so fragile because of the situation. I would prefer to keep this going until the end but sometimes I don't know.

But sometimes it feels like I'm putting myself in a bad situation. I just wish things were different.

Thanks for reading, like I said, I kind of needed to vent a bit.

[Mupepe]

Just go with it and take whatever you two have for what it is and for however long it lasts.  If it is going to die then let it happen naturally IMO

[ToxicAdam]

It's a bummer, but don't think it's 'the end'.

Down the road, you'll find each other again and have the most amazing time together. Even better than it is now.  Might be 2 years, might be 12 or 20 years.

Just don't let yourself become a prisoner to this moment. Don't lock yourself up "waiting" ... that's when this kind of thing becomes toxic.

[Raist]

Whatever you do, just make sure to suggest a threesome before she leaves. Just sayin'

[kingv]

Just remembered a story from three years back. I was living about half an hour from the girlfriend and wanted to surprise her when I arrived for the evening with the most romantic of gifts: lube. I told her I'd be there in about 45 minutes and figured that would be enough time to run into a sex shop and get something. Unfortunately I was unfamiliar with the ones in the area, so I ended up spending the next two hours getting lost and looking around for one that was open. In the meantime, I was ignoring her calls because I was avoidant at the time and didn't want to tell her what it was that I was doing or why I was late (because it was a surprise). When I finally showed up at her house, she told me she was waiting in her room, and when I went in there, she was angrier than I had ever seen her before. She immediately started slapping my face and asking me where I had been. Then she started crying, and slapped me some more, because she seriously thought I had died on the way there, which was the only explanation for why I hadn't returned her calls. When I finally showed her what I had gotten her, she smiled and called me a dumbass, but then slapped me again and said if I ever treated her like that again she'd break up with me. Then she kissed me but bit my lip so hard it bled. Of course, I spent the next year of that relationship being just as unreliable and inconsiderate, over and over again. Women will seemingly put up with things forever but of course everyone has their limits.

Did you take a picture of some innocent Filipino man on a bus and say it was you?

[Valkyrie]

Shosta is catfishing us all with random photos and a wholesome personality.

[Brehvolution]

I walked into the house after work last night and the old lady was eyeing me in odd way. The rest of the night she was overly affectionate and going out of her way to say she loved having me in her life. That's fine and all, but I was wondering where it was coming from. It turns out that something bad happened to me in a dream.   

[Rufus]

Aw

[Tasty]

[Bebpo]

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[I'm a Puppy!]

Dude, I met my wife in Japanese class. As PD would say, ride the wave when you find it.

[I'm a Puppy!]

Going all in on initial romance is a critical part of starting and developing a successful long term relationship. It capitalizes on brain chemistry, hormone release, etc. That's why I think slow dating usually gets it wrong. You gotta spend a ton of time together once you both mutually experience serious attraction.

I agree with my 16 year old friend here.

[CatsCatsCats]

Sounds crazy, but I like it and it holds up anecdotally

[Raist]

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Why are you already thinking about some hypothetical conclusion? Carpe Diem bruv.

[Valkyrie]

well that's good to know

i'd hate to 'take it slow' or some shit, especially because i'm not getting any younger

Just move to Japan, Asian girls love white cock. They’ll be wanting kids from the start, and the language barrier will help you in many ways.

[Mupepe]

Ill go instead.  I'll tell them I'm trying to children, but I'll make sure to get snipped first... and then I'll ask them what's wrong with them when they don't get pregnant.  Fuck that's a good plan. 

[Raist]

Just move to Japan, Asian girls love white cock.

They’ll be wanting kids from the start, and the language barrier will help you in many ways.

[I'm a Puppy!]

So I've been thinking about what my 14 year old friend Shos said.
And in reflecting on it, I've never been one to have any kind of chill when it comes to relationships. I've never been one of those "let's see how it goes." kind of person. I've always been a throw yourself completely into it kind of person. This has, admittedly, lead to a lot of heart ache in the past. But now that I look around a lot of those "Let's take it slow couples" are getting tired of each other, or constantly bickering, or are just miserable in their relationships. Meanwhile the wife and I have that relationship that other people are like "Why can't I have that?" Part of me thinks it might be because they started the process with holding back where as we just threw ourselves into it completely and without reservation.  I think that has a lot to do with it.

[I'm a Puppy!]

Yeah, like my 13 year old friend, Shos pointed out it's that vulnerability that makes the cement between my wife and I. There's not a "let's wait and see." thing going on here. There is nothing else and no one else. It's like a piece of music, you either commit yourself completely to it or not at all.

[toku]

keep empty and you will be filled

[Rufus]

So I've been thinking about what my 14 year old friend Shos said.
And in reflecting on it, I've never been one to have any kind of chill when it comes to relationships. I've never been one of those "let's see how it goes." kind of person. I've always been a throw yourself completely into it kind of person. This has, admittedly, lead to a lot of heart ache in the past. But now that I look around a lot of those "Let's take it slow couples" are getting tired of each other, or constantly bickering, or are just miserable in their relationships. Meanwhile the wife and I have that relationship that other people are like "Why can't I have that?" Part of me thinks it might be because they started the process with holding back where as we just threw ourselves into it completely and without reservation.  I think that has a lot to do with it.

I'm happy for you, survivorship bias notwithstanding.

The thing neither you nor Shosta touched on though is that some people who take it slow might not actually have any faith in their partner's long-term viability, but don't want to be alone, either.

[Huff]

Keep empty as butt sex can happen at any time

[I'm a Puppy!]

So I've been thinking about what my 14 year old friend Shos said.
And in reflecting on it, I've never been one to have any kind of chill when it comes to relationships. I've never been one of those "let's see how it goes." kind of person. I've always been a throw yourself completely into it kind of person. This has, admittedly, lead to a lot of heart ache in the past. But now that I look around a lot of those "Let's take it slow couples" are getting tired of each other, or constantly bickering, or are just miserable in their relationships. Meanwhile the wife and I have that relationship that other people are like "Why can't I have that?" Part of me thinks it might be because they started the process with holding back where as we just threw ourselves into it completely and without reservation.  I think that has a lot to do with it.

I'm happy for you, survivorship bias notwithstanding.

The thing neither you nor Shosta touched on though is that some people who take it slow might not actually have any faith in their partner's long-term viability, but don't want to be alone, either.

I've heard that before.  However, I'm of the belief that whatever you have trepidations about comes about, either because you called it correctly, or because you forced it with your perception (usually the latter, not the former).

Don't know if my 12 year old friend, Shos will agree.

[Rufus]

I've heard that before.  However, I'm of the belief that whatever you have trepidations about comes about, either because you called it correctly, or because you forced it with your perception (usually the latter, not the former).

Don't know if my 12 year old friend, Shos will agree.

Forced it to play out that way through perception, or perceived it to likely turn out that way but walked into it anyway? The former would be nonsensical, unless I'm not understanding correctly.

[I'm a Puppy!]

I have to use a work analogy because people are more familiar with that.

A boss has a perception that an employee is lazy and incompetent. Said employee is not.
Said employee doubles their efforts and works harder
Boss looks down at employee because in their eyes they're working harder to overcome their incompetence and keeps an eye on them.
Boss harps on employee over every little thing
Employee finds something better and leaves.

I see the above happen a lot and pretty sure everyone else does.

In relationships it's like that woman that's always jealous and like "Oh I bet you like her!"
Almost always their partners get fed up with that and are like "Welp, I might as well fool around."

[I'm a Puppy!]

Shos gets a lot of action for a pre-teen.

[Rufus]

I don't think self fulfilling prophecies necessarily happen but there is some truth that there are unintended consequences to your latent perceptions about your partner (which later become hostile behavior).

Ah, gotcha. Fair enough then.

[toku]

this season feels like true detective s1

[I'm a Puppy!]

Soon we'll be back to True Detective Season 2.

[Beezy]

well that's good to know

i'd hate to 'take it slow' or some shit, especially because i'm not getting any younger

Just move to Japan, Asian girls love white cock. They’ll be wanting kids from the start, and the language barrier will help you in many ways.

And how they feel about bbc? I'm trying to have some fun when I visit there.

[Beezy]

[Phoenix Dark]

this season feels like true detective s1