Even though this post is a couple pages late, I would like to bring up arranged marriages from the southeast Asian side.
I'm Bengali and arranged marriages there is basically Indian "tradition" mixed with Islamic stuff, oftentimes clashing. There's a whole exchanging of gifts and jewels, the sweets thing as our boy messi showed, and a ceremony before the main wedding where you stick tameric on the spouses to be. Then there's a shitton of music and dancing. Very Haram.
As far as how they are conducted, that depends on the couple. In a lot of cases, it's been softened to "Hey, you can marry anyone you love, as long as they're Muslim (and there family is well educated, and she speaks Bengali, and he's got a good job, and etc.)" But there are dudes who get older and oftentimes place requests, whether they're through newspapers or online, with a number and email to contact with their "biodata" - a summary of themselves, career and immediate family. They find families looking to marry off their daughter and do the whole song and dance while having the two potential spouses get to know one another.
There is pressure to marry within your "tribe" so to speak and there's a lot of Stigma when it comes to divorce and separation, but not as shitty as the Shariaville Wrath is from.
Of course, my perspective is very biased as much of my family is super well off (both here and in Bangladesh). It'll be interesting to see what the kids of the millennial generation will do. They are more liberal than their parents, and those living in the US would be greater separated from the societal pressure that their homelands had.
