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[benjipwns]

The reason we're even communicating directly to each other right now is because you initially quoted a post I made wherein about 95% of it is an explanation to someone else about the racist implications of the backlash towards initial responders in this thread post-tweet. Note that those tweets are absolutely essential to understanding the basic story, both how it began and how it completely flipped. You can't possibly be unaware of all of the story's major details at this point if you're participating in earnest, and subsequently you cannot wave away the fact that there is already an ongoing context for this thread's direction simply because you finally decided to respond ten pages in.

beautiful opening sentence, more quality wordsmanships

[killamajig]

This is strange.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/being-a-black-atheist-agnostic.81831/

All those people that love to get on their high horse and run their mouth get real quiet about their non-belief.

 

[benjipwns]

I have always found it surprising that minorities are so religious considering that religion is a tool often used to suppress and oppress minorities. How do black people reconcile with all the slavery in the bible?

uhh, probably pretty easily?

[benjipwns]

yo you buried the lead when you didn't note that brainchild is all up in that thread

[PogiJones]

buried the lede*

Yeah, it's a dumb word, but I don't make the rules.

[clothedmacuser]

The reason we're even communicating directly to each other right now is because you initially quoted a post I made wherein about 95% of it is an explanation to someone else about the racist implications of the backlash towards initial responders in this thread post-tweet. Note that those tweets are absolutely essential to understanding the basic story, both how it began and how it completely flipped. You can't possibly be unaware of all of the story's major details at this point if you're participating in earnest, and subsequently you cannot wave away the fact that there is already an ongoing context for this thread's direction simply because you finally decided to respond ten pages in.

beautiful opening sentence, more quality wordsmanships

She sounds like one of Nick Kroll's dumb characters

Go 1m 53s in since the former way to timecode doesn't work anymore!



I bet the mods saw her and were like "she talks as convolutededly and circularently as our such actionship-wise notes!" they just had to hire.

[benjipwns]

buried the lede*

Yeah, it's a dumb word, but I don't make the rules.

No, he works for the New York City Housing Authority, so I was correct, as always.

[clothedmacuser]

How do we timecode?

And not the movie where Salma Hayek was a lesbian.

[Jansen]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/my-wife-is-a-homophobe-wtf-fantastic-beasts-2-spoikers.81878/

[Cauliflower Of Love]

How do we timecode?

And not the movie where Salma Hayek was a lesbian.

Link?

[who is ted danson?]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/my-wife-is-a-homophobe-wtf-fantastic-beasts-2-spoikers.81878/

 

[EightBitNate]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/my-wife-is-a-homophobe-wtf-fantastic-beasts-2-spoikers.81878/

“Here, let me make a life-altering decision for you based off two sentences.”

Fuck homophobes but that genuinely seems like something you could talk through and change her mind.

[Coax]

buried the lede*

Yeah, it's a dumb word, but I don't make the rules.

From what I heard from a columnist it was only intentionally misspelled by editors in notes so writers would pick up on it when writing revisions and not include it in the actual copy, among a pool of other misspelled words for the same reason. Some still would slip into publication occasionally.

[Uncle]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/my-wife-is-a-homophobe-wtf-fantastic-beasts-2-spoikers.81878/

Calling it, her argument will be she is an LGBT ally but doesn't think it should be featured in media made for children

[benjipwns]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/my-wife-is-a-homophobe-wtf-fantastic-beasts-2-spoikers.81878/

I’m sure this will come off a little more harsh than I mean it to, but it sounds like you don’t really know the person you married as well as you may think.

I think it’s time to have a serious talk with her to see if your values actually align in ways you’d want them to, in order to have a successful relationship.

It’s never easy when a relationship goes south because you suddenly realize you’re two different people and can never hope to meet the expectations of the other and are constantly feeling the looming dread that you will ruin their life.

But you hold on for so long because you feel indebted to them but honestly, the real reason is that you don’t want to be alone. So you put distance between the two of you until one day you can’t stand yourself or what you’ve been doing anymore and you lash out on them and end things dramatically and with such cold cruelty you don’t recognize yourself and neither do your friends. And then...you keep spiraling out of control until you hit the absolute bottom and it is an inescapable grace you’ve made for yourself. You’ll never escape this hell you’ve made. You don’t even try. You know you deserve it. Because of what you did.

Well, anyway, good luck my man. Hope you guys can work things out and figure out where to go from here.

[benjipwns]

ask her views on circumnavigating the world in a sailboat

[Transhuman]

How do we timecode?

And not the movie where Salma Hayek was a lesbian.

Ugh, one of those disgusting Salma Hayek lesbian films

[benjipwns]

ironic, another husband and wife of ten years with children in which one spouse was hateful of homosexuals before discovering their true self...

[Raist]

Reminder:

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To be fair this thread probably contributes to half of that.

[EightBitNate]

Half of zero is still zero

[Raist]

Talking about the reetatata curve.

[EightBitNate]

Oh true

[Cauliflower Of Love]

mac and dee fucking must be amazing to watch

[Bore Expert]

So last night I went to the Bire by myself to have a few chalupas and dance. Had a great time after the place was closing I started talking to a group of people that invited me to go hang out at their hate site afterwards.

Obviously of course I want to eat more and hang out so we get in an Uber and head to their Hate Site. Once we are there we eat more chalupas for a bit but that is when things started to get weird.

A couple of the girls there started ordering more Taco Bell and then more Mountain Dew  and then clothes started to come off. I had no idea what the fuck was going on, it was too much for my flavor dust encrusted fingers  to process at the time.

Me still not processing what is going on is just sitting there on the couch reading the Bire on my phone while this all happens. Then one of the girls came up to me and started trying to doxx me. Other people around us had now graduated to watching Ghostbusters partially clothed.

Well I wake up this morning with an intense sense to shitpost all over Resetera, but I got out of there as quick as possible, fearing the wrath of sweetnicole

I'm still conflicted about the night. I bring this up because one of the girls who took my credit card number  messaged me and said it was fun and she hang out again sometime.

The Bire is a bizarre place.

 

[jorma]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/my-wife-is-a-homophobe-wtf-fantastic-beasts-2-spoikers.81878/

“Here, let me make a life-altering decision for you based off two sentences.”

Fuck homophobes but that genuinely seems like something you could talk through and change her mind.

I'm kinda surprised the OP wasn't banned for being a racist towards the Chinese to be honest.

[benjipwns]

astro still shook about Chipotle crimes, exploring their feelings in the homophobic wife thread: https://www.resetera.com/posts/15144701/

All the people saying "get off the forum and talk with your wife" need to exit the thread.

The dude was shook and came here for a little support before he decides how to approach her and y'all drop that condescending nonsense.

I think you need to have a very in-depth conversation about this and discover just how deep it goes. Try to find out if this was recent development picked up from somewhere, or if it's more deeply ingrained.

I can't imagine what it must be like to suddenly discover this about someone you've been married to for that long.

Good luck mate, I really hope it's something you can convince her is nonsense.

OP is very obviously shaken and has no idea how to approach her. He was obviously hoping for a little more than "just speak with her".

Came here for a little support and advice.And got a bunch of lazy jokes and condescending stuff like this.

Not being condescending jerks would be a good place to start.

You do realise I meant posts that are JUST "talk to your wife" mixed in with condescension, right?

Talk to your wife is the right answer, but you can relay that to OP with a little fucking sympathy. Browse the thread again, a few people have done this.

Also there may be people here who can give some other advice with it, people experienced with relevant talking points etc...

This isn't hard mate.

ResetEra is a video game forum pal

Nope, half of it is. Many of us didn't sign up for video games.


Well, it's inevitable because it's online, but some of us can actually have adult discussions here.

And it's entirely possible that her views could have been influenced recently. They may have roots in a more conservative upbringing that had never manifested fully before she joined those WeChat rooms.

Lmao, it doesn't matter what the FAQ says. Much of the OT regs don't care about the VG side, and many of us didn't sign up for that.

MrMephistoX - I'd like to add to my previous posts that perhaps speaking with your LGBTQ friends and asking them for advice might be a good idea.

She's probably going to have some talking points that need addressing, and maybe some of your friends have had to deal with this kind of thing before. It would be good to load up on reasonable counter points before you attempt to penetrate whatever nonsense she's basing this on.

Over the last few years I've seen good friends who've never expressed bigoted opinion start throwing out ignorant malicious bullshit about gender identity. I think as we age sometimes we grow a little less tolerant of things, and if we have any kind of foundation in our upbringing that could support bigotry like this it's possible it could be built upon at a later stage.

I've actually had to cut ties with people I've had relationships with for 20+ years because of this, I really hope you find a way to resolve it without the need for something so drastic.

My initial point was to counter the silly idea that threads like these shouldn't be made on this forum because "it's a video game forum", which is not the case as it's evolved beyond it's original intent and definition by the simple fact many of the OT community aren't here for VGs in the slightest. So OP's thread is perfectly valid here.

Now it's become a derail as we've gone further into that discussion.

As I said, I disagree with you. If you want to continue, PM me or make a thread.

As mentioned above, I've known people (close friends) for 20+ years who only JUST started spewing anti-gender identity rhetoric, and some of them "both sides" crap in relation to politics and racism etc...

As we grow older we become less tolerant in many ways. Some people have less tolerance for intolerance, others build upon a more bigoted foundation. I've seen this happen often, it's perfectly possible OP's wife only recently had that stuff brought into focus by recent discussions etc...

[Bananas]

I'm not sure what's the point you are trying to make? If my partner suddenly went into racist tirades I'd probably reconsider my relationship.

[who is ted danson?]

Imagine actually taking life advice from someone like astro. What a tragedy.

[paprikastaude]

I'm not sure what's the point you are trying to make? If my partner suddenly went into racist tirades I'd probably reconsider my relationship.

My first action would be to cry for help on an internet forum of socially underdeveloped, uneducated extremist nerds.

[EightBitNate]

I'm not sure what's the point you are trying to make? If my partner suddenly went into racist tirades I'd probably reconsider my relationship.

Your first reaction wouldn’t be to talk about it? It’s his wife, not some distant acquaintance he’s had limited contact with. 

[benjipwns]

Considering her status as a minority, the proper task is for him to simply shut up and listen as she speaks her truth. He's trying to get permission from ResetERA.com to mansplain his colonist viewpoint to her instead of pursuing an understanding of her lived experiences that differ from his own.

The fact that so many posters are lining up to attack a woman, a minority by birth, for expressing her feelings and trying to figure out ways to manipulate her, including threatening her family and life, into changing them against her will is just more evidence of why minorities are fleeing ResetERA.com in disorganized frightened karavans that increase with the exponential growth of the danger on the forums.

It's not surprising that a white male GAMER dominated forum is whipping up mob hatred against a minority and trying to drive her into single motherhood purely to assuage the feelings of a white male and his deeply internalized colonist thinking that promotes the idea that he owns any minority and their personal realities.

[ashep]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/today-nov-19th-is-international-mens-day.81905/

Jesus fuck the replies in this thread

 

[Maiden Voyage]

Fuck already? I haven't finished knitting my dick hat.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/today-nov-19th-is-international-mens-day.81905/#post-15148007

[Propagandhim]

Yet men also make up the majority of violent offenders, rapists, terrorists etc

And sorry to hear about your issues OP but the ones who designed it so you can’t show emotion without being shamed for it are also men unfortunately.

Reading about the numerous kidnappings, murders and unsolved mysteries both historic and current committed by men honestly make it difficult for me not to think there are a lot more bad than good.

See, if you were a man you might have the math skills to understand statistics and proportions. 

[ashep]

Trojita gonna get dunked on fuckin HARD for this

[GreatSageEqualOfHeaven]

Can't be bothered to read the "my wife of a decade expressed a view I don't agree with, wth?" thread, but I'm pretty safe in assuming Eras standard """""""""""advice""""""""""" is in abundance, namely:

• Cut out everyone in your life that isn't Era and isolate yourself from all voices and opinions that are not vERAfied
• Become a lonely, vulnerable, miserable, self-hating, misanthropic hermit
• 
• Excelsior!

[bork]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-cant-relate-to-all-the-people-who-dont-play-video-games-here.81915/

You always see it brought up in threads.
"You're on a video game forum, don't be surprised" or something a long the lines of that.

Then you will have people like this person who inspired this thread.

Nope, half of it is. Many of us didn't sign up for video games.

I'm just going to say it, if you don't play video games I really can't relate to you at all.    Sometimes I see dismissive phrases on this side of the forum like "fucking nerds" when people like or don't like a certain thing.   It just bugs me, when this site crashes it's not because of what people are posting on this side of things.  It's because of the nerds.   We have verified video game industry people on this forum.   We don't have verified sociopolitical journalists on here.   That's not the focus of the site, those people are not attracted here because they know ResetEra= video games.

This is a house of nerds imo.

So if you're reading this and you're one of the people who didn't sign up here for video game discussion.....Why did you join?

 

[bork]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/dead-or-alive-xtreme-3-scarlet-switch-version-not-censored-ps4-version-on-the-other-hand.81860/page-10

Very good said! Japan actually has enormous problems with molesting and sexual harrasment. The Japanese gov. will eventually change by more women coming in and the change must start somewhere, games being one thing. The porn industry is so strong though that it will be hard to change but taking away porn from teenage magazines and porn in convenient stores will maybe happen next hopefully.

Japan is now taking great steps towards complience with the Western ideals in before Tokyo Olympic 2020.
They are also doing good things towards making it more open and welcoming. Much happening in transportation with better information in other languages. So they don’t want to scare people off with porn in convenient stores is my bet

[HaughtyFrank]

This is the "molesting" content they're so worried about.

  (just to be safe)

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[close]

Isn't this pretty damn harmless? Yes, it's childish etc. whatever, but to think that this will lead to people molesting anyone seems like a reach.

[Averon]

Instead of talking to your wife of ten years, you instead go to a forum filled with socially inept people for relationship advice? Advice that, if you're dumb enough to take seriously, could end a 10 year marriage that up to this point was fine? Also, you expect people to believe you not once noticed your wife's views on homosexuality in the ten year you been with her until now?

[bork]

This is the "molesting" content they're so worried about.

  (just to be safe)

spoiler (click to show/hide)

[close]

Isn't this pretty damn harmless?

DOAX3 is like the Cinemax 90's USA Network late-night movie equivalent of a porn game.

[bork]

Tabris couldn't help but contribute to the orgy thread.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-wound-up-at-an-orgy.81874/page-3

After hour sex-positive parties I've been to just had successful well-adjusted and well-off people having fun and the combination of MDMA, cocaine, and alcohol makes them want to extend that high with the physical nature of sex, or riding their emotional high, or even just feeling bodies against them.

[GreatSageEqualOfHeaven]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/dead-or-alive-xtreme-3-scarlet-switch-version-not-censored-ps4-version-on-the-other-hand.81860/page-10

Very good said! Japan actually has enormous problems with molesting and sexual harrasment. The Japanese gov. will eventually change by more women coming in and the change must start somewhere, games being one thing. The porn industry is so strong though that it will be hard to change but taking away porn from teenage magazines and porn in convenient stores will maybe happen next hopefully.

Japan is now taking great steps towards complience with the Western ideals in before Tokyo Olympic 2020.
They are also doing good things towards making it more open and welcoming. Much happening in transportation with better information in other languages. So they don’t want to scare people off with porn in convenient stores is my bet

Doesn't the US rank significantly higher for sexual assaults on a per capita basis than Japan?

It definitely has better porn.

[BisMarckie]

Decided to have a look at the Giantbomb OT
https://www.resetera.com/posts/15143333/

I'm just going to say it ahead of time

Don't target any of the staffers for harassment due to GOTY. This happened last year with Abby and it was shameful.

I will be reporting this stuff if it happens again. I also have mod contacts so if it becomes a repeated trend further actions might be taken.

[thetylerrob]

The Giant Bomb OT is one of the worst, it's been fully taken over by some incelsheet-lite tier posters who are also completely unfunny but think they are because they watch giantbomb shit all day. Also yeah don't disagree with any of the staff over anything or you will be actioned accordingly/

[who is ted danson?]

Didn't the giant bomb forums also chase those guys away when gaf went tits up anyway?

[HaughtyFrank]

Decided to have a look at the Giantbomb OT
https://www.resetera.com/posts/15143333/

I'm just going to say it ahead of time

Don't target any of the staffers for harassment due to GOTY. This happened last year with Abby and it was shameful.

I will be reporting this stuff if it happens again. I also have mod contacts so if it becomes a repeated trend further actions might be taken.

[FStop7]

Reminder:

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It’s interesting seeing GAF was on a steady decline before showergate.  That top notch moderation.

[Uncle]

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Resetera summed up in a pic

[thetylerrob]

That's our boy RedMercury in the pic

[Uncle]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/today-nov-19th-is-international-mens-day.81905/

Jesus fuck the replies in this thread

 

OP: I suffer from depression and difficulty in expressing my feelings without being called a pussy

KillstealWolf:

Isn't every day already International Mens Day?

I read that some places also call it International Toilet Day. That might be a noble cause, apparantly one in three people don't have access to a toilet in the world.

Still, if we can take down Toxic Masculanity on this day. I suppose that's a good purpose as well.

[Cauliflower Of Love]

so the house is starting to get documents they hadn't been given before, in terms of sites and orgs online.

what i'm being told is that, they held off until they were a chance of proper prosecution.

considering what was already known that gaf was one of the top site linkers to rodham's site. yikes.

[joeboy101]

The Giant Bomb OT is one of the worst, it's been fully taken over by some incelsheet-lite tier posters who are also completely unfunny but think they are because they watch giantbomb shit all day. Also yeah don't disagree with any of the staff over anything or you will be actioned accordingly/

Don't ever go to a Giantbomb panel. Remember that episode of Seinfeld with the B.O. Car? Its like that but the car is a room that's meant to fit 100 people.

Went to one Con in my life and the entire venue smelled like that. It was an inordinate train wreck that did wonders for my self esteem. The people watching was absolutely stellar though.

[agrajag]

I’m so goddamn conflicted. I want trump gone and beaten, but I don’t want another Straight, White dude at the top. Hmmmm, whatever I’m still gonna vote for him, but Kamala you better channel your inner Queen and rise up.

[bork]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/dead-or-alive-xtreme-3-scarlet-switch-version-not-censored-ps4-version-on-the-other-hand.81860/page-12#post-15150031

I wasn't saying that everyone who likes the lewd is right-wing, hell I watch a lot of hentai and read a lot of doujinshi myself, but what I am saying is that a lot of people who will be complaining about this are right-wing.

Read my post above. I myself have Senran Kagura and OneeChanbara games. To be honest though, being more left wing than the Democrats is not really that hard.

I voted for Hillary but now I'm right wing because I don't want my video games censored and I want maybe some DLC option or menu options to play my games uncensored.

Hillary Clinton is not what I'd call left-wing.

ERA never stops to amaze me.
If you complain about anime trash you are right-wing looooooool

 
How is it that every single thing that gets posts on Era is somehow political? 

[Uncle]

"the ones who designed it so you can’t show emotion without being shamed for it are also men unfortunately"

Oh now we're doing zero sympathy for a group's self-imposed problems huh

[Jansen]

Oh man you got me

Nah, gamers are prone to this, and if you don't think the president is making it worse than you're part of the problem.

https://www.resetera.com/posts/15153474/

[bork]

hell I watch a lot of hentai and read a lot of doujinshi myself

Personally, I was thinking of getting it for PS4, but now I don't know, because I want 60FPS, but I also want the version with the most content. I will probably just take a wait and see approach because I never got the original DOAX3, despite owning DOAX1 and DOAX2 (mainly because I was not willing to pay the prices that it was selling for, and while I used to be a DOA collector my interest in the series is not what it used to be).

The new characters in Scarlet will apparently be released as DLC for Fortune the original uncensored version of DoAX3 so you may want to grab a copy of that while you can

Eh, depending on how much I'm willing to resume my DOA collecting, I may just get both. What got me to stop was me not being able to keep up with all of the DOA5 releases.

 

[Tripon]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/today-nov-19th-is-international-mens-day.81905/

Jesus fuck the replies in this thread

 

OP: I suffer from depression and difficulty in expressing my feelings without being called a pussy

KillstealWolf:

Isn't every day already International Mens Day?

I read that some places also call it International Toilet Day. That might be a noble cause, apparantly one in three people don't have access to a toilet in the world.

Still, if we can take down Toxic Masculanity on this day. I suppose that's a good purpose as well.

I actually don't get the mindset of people trying to negatively criticize this. If you really think toxic masculinity is an issue for men, then yes, there should be a day that recognizes, and tries to show what a positive relationship men can have so they don't fall into the trap of toxic masculinity.

[Cauliflower Of Love]

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