If anything really comes through in era moderations interactions with regular users, its how much they haaaaaaate tone policing
"downplaying"
"unproductive"
"dismissing concerns"
"sensitive thread"
"we're not doing this"
"boys club rhetoric"
"inappropriate"
"trolling"
"drive by"
"inflammatory"
"hostility"
"generalising"
like... 95% of their fucking bans are literal tone policing, but GOD FORBID you ask the cult to stop blackpilling, and also please tell all your friends about our cult