whatevs, all I know is that I blew my chance with a girl I was preeeeetty damn sure I had a good chance with, and blew it in no small part due to niggling doubts that she wasn't attractive enough for me, not that she actually was in any way not attractive in the sense that I wasn't attracted to her, cuz I totally was, but just in the sense that I was afraid she wasn't conventionally attractive enough not to embarrass me vis-a-vis my (male) friends
which, not to belabor the obvious, was distinguished mentally-challenged of me and I don't want it ever to happen again.
also men are dumbshits, I have to work in all-male IT environments anyway (if I ever again have a job lol), why would I ever want to talk to a man outside of work if I'm not absolutely forced to
and I'm perfectly willing to accept any flaws imaginable short of liking Ayn Rand or writing bad poetry