Random talk thread: It just keeps happening

[Madrun Badrun]

Went to a Jay's game during work today.  Baseball is boring but the private box was nice. 

[Valkyrie]

Baseball is one of those sports I never cared for, but would probably still enjoy watching a real game experience of IRL. Which reminds me, I've yet to check out sumo. Heard the tickets are really expensive though.

[I'm a Puppy!]

I hate baseball, but seeing it in person is really a nice experience.

[CatsCatsCats]

Any sport is a lot more fun from packed stands with snacks and booze

[FatalT]

Anything is a lot more fun with snacks and booze

Fixed.

[Kara]

I finally saw Pacific Rim tonight and in retrospect all the think pieces that were penned shat out from the anus on the forehead of the media at the time of its release about how #woke the movie was because it positively depicted international cooperation (I guess they were in the can when the sea monsters unceremoniously dispatched the Chinese and Russian stereotype mechs) were so hilariously off the mark; the #woke bit of that movie was stuff like the inefficient and irrational public-private partnership with Hannibal.

But then again, these are people who think Wells Fargo's predatory mortgage division would be better if only it was totally committed to diversity in the workplace instead of prosecuted into oblivion and / or expropriated for being a criminal enterprise, so is it really that hilarious?

[Mupepe]

I love me some Pacific Rim, but just like most movies the Russian and Chinese characters were a way to get more money from overseas markets.  Luckily for Legendary, Del Toro and myself it worked.

[I'm a Puppy!]

I finally saw Pacific Rim tonight and in retrospect all the think pieces that were penned shat out from the anus on the forehead of the media at the time of its release about how #woke the movie was because it positively depicted international cooperation (I guess they were in the can when the sea monsters unceremoniously dispatched the Chinese and Russian stereotype mechs) were so hilariously off the mark; the #woke bit of that movie was stuff like the inefficient and irrational public-private partnership with Hannibal.

But then again, these are people who think Wells Fargo's predatory mortgage division would be better if only it was totally committed to diversity in the workplace instead of prosecuted into oblivion and / or expropriated for being a criminal enterprise, so is it really that hilarious?

spoiler (click to show/hide)

[close]

[I'm a Puppy!]

In the last week a friend of mine has made something like 5 posts about how the friendzone doesn't exist and people need to stop thinking it does because its misogynistic.

I was like
1) I know a TON of women that have been friendzoned by men (and sometimes other women). The stereotype is always of the "nice guy" but in reality I think this happens just as much in either gender when someone's just an average looking person. (friendzones don't apply much to the beautiful people)
2) Of course it exists. In some relationships there's going to be someone who wants to be more than just friends. And yes, that person might do nice things for the other person. It's called wooing. People do it. Whether it's buying gifts, taking them to shows, dressing sexy, helping them with problems. It's when people go overboard that's the problem.
3) I know this lady, she's never friendzoned anyone in her life so I don't really know why she keeps posting about it

[etiolate]

I would bet she's been accused of it and responded by denouncing the whole idea.

The main issue with freindzone is the power relationship. If the person in power takes advantage of the person with affections then it can get abusive.

[I'm a Puppy!]

I would bet she's been accused of it and responded by denouncing the whole idea.

The main issue with freindzone is the power relationship. If the person in power takes advantage of the person with affections then it can get abusive.

Well I actually think it goes both ways. Either the person doing the friendzone or the person being friendzoned. But again, this is just when it goes overboard. But like anything in a relationship anything that really goes overboard makes it bad. I guess it's the designation of what's "Friendzone" and not. To me friendzone is any relationship where one person wants to be more than friends and the other doesn't and the person that wants to be more is trying to woo the other. I think when people say friendzone they mean the overboard kind I guess.

[etiolate]

Yeah the person being friendzoned can be too caught up in their feelings to deal with being the friend. I do think it's used to refer to something other than just a basic attraction scenario. You tend to have friends you find attractive, but once it becomes closer to infatuation it goes friendzone.

[El Babua]

What's the protocol in asking for an update for the job you applied for if they didn't let you know by the specified timeframe? Should have gotten a response last week.

They finally took the job listing off their site so I'm guessing I'll find out sooner than later anyway.

Edit: Just remembered I sent them an email asking for one this past Thursday lol

[chronovore]

I would bet she's been accused of it and responded by denouncing the whole idea.

The main issue with freindzone is the power relationship. If the person in power takes advantage of the person with affections then it can get abusive.

Well I actually think it goes both ways. Either the person doing the friendzone or the person being friendzoned. But again, this is just when it goes overboard. But like anything in a relationship anything that really goes overboard makes it bad. I guess it's the designation of what's "Friendzone" and not. To me friendzone is any relationship where one person wants to be more than friends and the other doesn't and the person that wants to be more is trying to woo the other. I think when people say friendzone they mean the overboard kind I guess.

There are plenty of times we want to get into someone's pants, and like them as a person as well. It's when the target of affection does not recognize those feelings that things get complicated. Just look at Mups. He probably thinks we're all being nice to him because he's a swell guy. He doesn't realize that if he ever makes it to BoreCon he'll be walking home bow-legged.

It's all down to communication. The Friendzone does not spring into existence when the infatuatee responds to the infatuated that they're uninterested in connecting genitals. It is built by the person projecting affection onto their target while not honestly or effectively communicating their desire.

[brawndolicious]

The only times I've friend zoned girls was when they were thin, pretty, over achievers who I was just trying to play hard to get with but waited too long to do anything. All because I was trying to seem harder to impress...which I realized made me a bit of an asshole. Especially after they pointed it out.

But then the only girls who ever felt the need to explain to me that they just want to be friends but then continued to flirt outrageously were kind of the opposite and I was actually annoyed they felt the need to take my affection/offer so seriously.  And yes that is my peak level of assholery in life.

But my point is treating anybody like a bench warmer to get them more into you is wrong and will inevitably backfire on both of you. And you should reevaluate any relationship that has that sort of asymmetry.

[I'm a Puppy!]

He probably thinks we're all being nice to him because he's a swell guy. He doesn't realize that if he ever makes it to BoreCon he'll be walking home bow-legged.

Newsfeed pls

[Huff]

I friendzone every time I left swipe

[Mupepe]

I am shocked and appalled.

[chronovore]

I am shocked and appalled.

You misspelled "intrigued."

[Valkyrie]

yogurt is pretty nice

even the high fat varieties are low in calories

Which ones do you like? Those with cereal in the lid or whatever you call em is pretty good, especially vanilla yoghurt with dried banana. Not a fan of 100% stuff, tastes nasty imo.

[Valkyrie]

 

[Rufus]

yogurt is pretty nice

even the high fat varieties are low in calories

Which ones do you like? Those with cereal in the lid or whatever you call em is pretty good, especially vanilla yoghurt with dried banana. Not a fan of 100% stuff, tastes nasty imo.

Good stuff.


The real GOAT though are these greek yogurt ones:
https://www.muellermilch.de/produkte/joghurt-mit-der-ecke/joghurt-mit-der-ecke-griechischer-art/

I like the plain variety too, though. Müller make them with different kinds of Müsli now. The packaging looks uncharateristically hardcore though. Half-expected a shot of vodka in these when I first saw them.
https://www.muellermilch.de/produkte/joghurt-mit-der-ecke/joghurt-mit-der-ecke-muesli/

[Valkyrie]

Finally two helpful posts in a row that makes it easy enough to differentiate between you two. Those damn usernames.

[Rufus]

It's not hard!

[Mupepe]

It's not hard!

That's what she said

[fistfulofmetal]

My girlfriend just bought a Surface Book. It's so fucking sexy I want one but I can't justify a 2k laptop right now.

[Freyj]

What's the protocol in asking for an update for the job you applied for if they didn't let you know by the specified timeframe? Should have gotten a response last week.

They finally took the job listing off their site so I'm guessing I'll find out sooner than later anyway.

Edit: Just remembered I sent them an email asking for one this past Thursday lol

I've been interviewing and applying off and on since January and my experience so far is that if you don't hear back in a reasonable or agreed upon timeframe they've moved on to other candidates and have either forgotten to address your application or are waiting to see if anyone else bails before cutting you loose.

Surprising amount of ghosting in the job hunt nowadays.

[VomKriege]

Gonna be discussing my raise next week. Fingers crossed, HR told me my workshop head is the one deciding. At least he knows who I am (though he's kind of duplicit out of fear of confrontation and a bit out of his depth). I really like everything better about this employer except the pay (and the shit job they're doing with the related paperwork) but I can't continue at the current rate there.

[VomKriege]

Happy Labor Day you all, by the way.
A cheers to those who protest and those who are just taking a break.

[Madrun Badrun]

Labour day is in September on the years when my boss is generous enough to let us have it. 

[Joe Molotov]

job creators

[Madrun Badrun]

[Great Rumbler]

(Image removed from quote.)

Says the guy who benefited from being a card-carrying union member.

[VomKriege]

That feeling when you have to devote your entire shift to cover for the laziest / most incompetent worker in your department.

[Joe Molotov]

That feeling when you have to devote your entire shift to cover for the laziest / most incompetent worker in your department.

sorry bout that

[Kara]

That feeling when you have to devote your entire shift to cover for the laziest / most incompetent worker in your department.

Comrade, bosses aren't workers.

[VomKriege]

That feeling when you have to devote your entire shift to cover for the laziest / most incompetent worker in your department.

Comrade, bosses aren't workers.

 
Well I guess too but this one I take with more fatalism.
It's kind of petty on my part but I can't really have an open and frank talk about it with him since I'm freelance and he's permanent. My trade is a small world and you're condemned of seeing the same people at various employers for many years. No point in antagonizing them in unwinnable arguments.

[fistfulofmetal]

this fucking board needs a dark theme like yesterday. gaf has it, waypoints forums have it, now youtube has it. i need all dark everything in my website rotation

[Valkyrie]

this fucking board needs a dark theme like yesterday. gaf has it, waypoints forums have it, now youtube has it. i need all dark everything in my website rotation

Dark theme + responsive or mobile version.  pls, admin gods 

[Coax]

I've sometimes wondered how far a new theme should take it. There are already some alternative themes in the user settings but the default feels more Bore-like in its plainness so I stuck with it. Would an update keep the existing design but just make it more mobile friendly at smaller widths (larger link targets, text sizes, etc) and add a dark theme?

I should probably update my avy to APNG to avoid the light theme only matte lines around the GIF.

[Momo]

I made a dark and a light theme with cool bore icons and shit like 2 years ago i think. I dunno where that shit is but it isnt that hard to modify existing themes to be bore relevant.

[Freyj]

wow i just discovered a yogurt they sell at my supermarket

it's 1.5% fat so i never bothered to try it, thinking the taste wouldn't be good

the taste is amazing, holy shit! it's just plain yogurt but it's incredible

This is  as fuck, but Noosa yogurt is so good

[Great Rumbler]

This sounds like the oddest of odd questions, but: What's the best site for support online?

Plug.DJ?

[Atramental]

This sounds like the oddest of odd questions, but: What's the best site for support online?

I can't exactly afford a therapist and I doubt there's any good online substitute, but I thought it was worth an ask.

I've heard about this through osmosis: https://www.talkspace.com/

Haven't had any first hand experience with it, though.

[Bebpo]

The business lounge at LAX international is nice.  There's like a half-bar with no bartender and you can just take what you want :0

[Valkyrie]

This sounds like the oddest of odd questions, but: What's the best site for support online?

I can't exactly afford a therapist and I doubt there's any good online substitute, but I thought it was worth an ask.

Video games and talking to online friends is my favorite therapy tbh.

[chronovore]

This sounds like the oddest of odd questions, but: What's the best site for support online?

I can't exactly afford a therapist and I doubt there's any good online substitute, but I thought it was worth an ask.

Video games and talking to online friends is my favorite therapy tbh.

 Talking to online friends is definitely the closest I get to therapy as well. I thought about going in for it when I was feeling depressed, but I didn't feel like explaining my problems in Japanese, and I have a feeling that the English-speaking psychologists in Japan would have their own specific detriments, let alone being a much smaller subset from which to select competent providers.

 My nights out with my friends, and being able to speak in person, are incredibly helpful to my psyche.

[Valkyrie]

The whole mental health situation in Japan makes me wanna puke. They just throw Xanax at you and expect you to "get over it". I know you already know everything I'm talking about here, but yeah. Another time, another place. #GloriousNippon

[toku]

play bullet hell shmups and disassociate

[Momo]

I'm rarely emotive in a real way(outwardly), but when I am, oh boy is it a tornado of feels. My friends online are pretty great listeners <3 

[bork]

My wife bought a USB flash drive off a co-worker yesterday.  I thought that was weird, because she said he told her he knew a guy who made the drives.

Sure enough, it was weird- the flash drive was $20 and was marked as having TWO TERABYTES of space.    Checked this out online and found the same drives being sold on Amazon for $7 a piece, with negative reviews saying that they're hacked/bootleg drives from China.  (The real 2TB flash drives go for $1600+!)

Turns out this is a big thing and they hack the drives to appear to have 2TB of space when you check them in a PC, but of course that's bullshit and the drives either flat-out don't work or will just overwrite files you copy onto them without telling you that you've run out of space first.

I told her to give it back to the guy and get her money back.  Which she said was no problem at all...because she showed the guy my texts saying it was fake-scam bullshit and he felt really bad about it. 

[Mupepe]

This sounds like the oddest of odd questions, but: What's the best site for support online?

I can't exactly afford a therapist and I doubt there's any good online substitute, but I thought it was worth an ask.

Video games and talking to online friends is my favorite therapy tbh.

Not enough videogames to play right now since i beat everything I could.

I kind of suck with online friends since I love lending my ear and helping out, but I hate ever asking someone to do the same. Mostly because I feel like I overdid it in the past.

I miss our phone calls.  Just an FYI

[Phoenix Dark]

Anyone have an Amazon Firestick? I let my brother borrow my Chromecast and I'll be traveling this weekend for some work stuff so I might buy one. How does it compare to the Chromecast.

edit: apparently it's not in stock until later this month lol.

[fistfulofmetal]

Anyone have an Amazon Firestick? I let my brother borrow my Chromecast and I'll be traveling this weekend for some work stuff so I might buy one. How does it compare to the Chromecast.

edit: apparently it's not in stock until later this month lol.

they don't really compare because they do different things. the chromecast requires a phone to cast things from while the firestick does everything itself.

[Phoenix Dark]

Target has some in store, whew

[Phoenix Dark]

I like the fire stick way more than chromecast so far. Mainly due to the remote. While using your phone as a remote can be convenient it's not something I enjoyed long term. 

[Valkyrie]

Found the Fire mobile app to be atrociously terrible.

[etiolate]

I'm going to hook my parents up with one of those eventually. I need the best option for old people.

[Huff]

My parents use their roku pretty easily once you set up all the initial stuff and programs

[brawndolicious]

I'd say Roku is the best for supporting everything including Amazon video and having a remote.