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[Himu]

rainbow is his fave

rainbow kicks ass

[Shaka Khan]

I'm just catching up...

That was a very touching letter that brought a tear to my eye. What you did was incredibly courageous, not cowardly. I'm genuinely proud of you.

As for your father's response, judging from what I read so far, it's nothing to worry about. Actually the fact he's taking time to process it and let it set in, is the *best* thing you can hope for. Because it's a *lot* to process and take in. Had you gotten an instant reaction, it would far more likely be rash, and hurtful word and/or actions that cannot not taken back would slip out. I bet he's not even "reconsidering" his love and support for you... he's more occupied with what most parents often do— "Was it because of us? Did we do this? Is she gonna be okay? How will the world treat her? What can I do? How can I make it better?" and if you give them enough time, they'll know the right thing to do.

I hope the eventual talk goes well. Emotions will run high. So don't take any charged words at face value. Parents always come around, whether in a day or a decade, they usually do.

Today is the day you become a true woman.

Today is the day you can stop farting.

(Please)

[Madrun Badrun]

Neapolitan?

Rainbow sherbert, I shit you not.

You sure 'waiting for your mom' isn't just him being coy about taking some time to write you his own transgender coming out letter?  cause he sounds like a girl.

[Oblivion]

My dad confronted me. He asked if I wrote that letter and handed it back to me and that we would discuss it when my mom is back home later this week. Just what the fuck. Am I wrong for reacting badly to that?

Uh, sorry Himu, but I'm a bit confused here. I thought you wrote the letter cause you were living somewhere else separate from your parents, but you're actually present. So...wouldn't your dad already be aware of your current self?

I think I might have missed something some where....

[G The Resurrected]

N where you going to move to here in Cali? So many bores here now that we should all get together and welcome you to our lovely state. I'm glad your father isn't reacting in a worse fashion. And fuck yeah Rainbow sherbert is the bomb, when you come out here I'll show you a place that makes it by order.

[Himu]

LA. I was going to move out a while back but I realized I have almost nothing left here in Houston career wise and I'm almost 30 and I still haven't worked on my career goal so fuck it, I'm going to save up money for LA. Living with the rents allows me to save up more money while also putting me in a position for paying off student loans. Buy a new car, save up 10k for move, new computer, and I'm on my way. Should be ready by 2015.

I'd prefer going to bay area, but LA has more jobs. Where in Bay area are you, G?

[G The Resurrected]

South bay (Sunnyvale) but I travel all around this area. There are a lot more jobs springing up for your design talents in the LA area vs here. But there are a lot of app companies that need designers for assets and stuff, but those places can't pay as much as the ones that are down south. You'd do yourself a favor by traveling out here and taking a week to find out which area you like best though. You will need a car, but if you find a place close to the City (SF) you can use bart/caltrains and if you are in LA you can use the Metro to get to a lot of places.

I too am almost 30 and feel exactly the same way so don't feel bad about that, just survive and everything else will happen! 

sorry to get the thread off topic

[Himu]

I am getting out of graphic design. Though it will service me when i move to LA because Im going to need all the help i can get with odd jobs and staying afloat. I'm moving to LA because it has the most animation studios. Bay area mostly only really has Pixar. But LA has the cream of the crop.

I've researched the valley has nice cheap places because it is the hottest place in the city. I'm used to heat, so bring it. I am targeting Burbank. Disney Animation Studios is there in Burbank, and Burbank is a part of the valley, and iirc Fox and WB? Makes me wonder what they're using the old Hannah-barbara studios for. Those are Burbank. The plan is to work my way up.

I think I'll be passable enough by 2015 to apply for an official name change and gender marker change in California but I'm not sure how long it'd take for that to happen. This much is true, California trans laws are much easier than Texas trans laws. Over here, you have to get the genital surgery before getting stuff like that changed. Depends on the area, but fuck that. I love Tejas, born and raised, but it just isn't a part of my future and I need to move to a place that fits me more politically and job wise.

[Himu]

Also I need to lose the weight that will allow me to wear a sun dress with cowboy boots and some fucking generic but cute as fuck native American inspired necklace bought at Earthbound the first day I get to LA.

Yes. Sun dresses

[Himu]

Okay

Will LA help? How fat is that city?

[Himu]

I haven't been to LA since 1997. I stayed there the whole summer and all I remember is that LA heat had nothing on Houston heat and that Angelenos water their grass with water hoses even though their grass is all but dead. Then again, this was on the southside so

Any idea why LA has so many fit young people even though it's a notorious car city like Houston? Is it cuz of the California "get out and do something" culture?

[CatsCatsCats]

I would suspect because so many people out there are in or trying to be in an entertainment industry

[Kara]

Any idea why LA has so many fit young people even though it's a notorious car city like Houston? Is it cuz of the California "get out and do something" culture?

I don't really know why per se, but there's an old adage about the place, if you want to meet people you either run (jog) or you smoke. (Probably because we're all in cars the rest of the day.)

[Steve Contra]

Everyone goes to the fucking gym.

[Himu]

Looking over legal between different states.

It costs 400~ dollars to get a name change in Cali. From anything to anything. Doesn't matter. Little paperwork required.

It costs a very specific lawyer - only one or two in the state - and a few thousand bucks to get a gender change without gender surgery in Texas. I think I'm making the right call here.

[Steve Contra]

Yeah come to Cali

[Himu]

What is it with my family and California and Texas? My grandpa hightailed it from Texas to California. My dad moved from California to Texas. I am going to follow my grandparents footsteps and go to California. Jesus Christ.

[Steve Contra]

Uh, it's called the black history of America?

[Himu]

[Raban]

Any idea why LA has so many fit young people even though it's a notorious car city like Houston? Is it cuz of the California "get out and do something" culture?

can't afford to overeat

[Himu]

[Raban]

real talk I was in LA one time outside of the coliseum and a homeless black dude who had to weigh >400lbs was parked on the bench outside a McDonalds gas station and had a pile of change, asking me if I had 98 cents for a cheeseburger

[Himu]

I'm this close to getting back on DIY.

My doctor appointments are once a year if that, my doctor still has me on 100 mg Spiro and 4mg E and I swear my body can TELL that's not enough because that feels off to me now, she swears they cannot measure estrogen levels either in blood tests which I know is bullshit. There's only one other trans doctor in Houston. Yes, a major city like Houston only has two trans clinics.

More than that it feels like my doc has no fucking clue what hormones actually do to transsexuals. I lamented the constant hunger I had under hormones and she gives me this "hormones don't do that" shit that is so opposite of actual accounts from trans friends both here and offline.


The one I go to is always backed up. I was scheduled for a new appointment in December 2013 for a check up. I had a blood test and by the time I saw the doctor for my blood results a month had already passed and the results were outdated. They said my next appointment would be in June or July. This was in bloody January.

The only other clinic seems just as backed up. I tried to get an appointment there three weeks ago and they have yet to call me. I call them and they don't even have an answering machine. I had to drive 35 minutes to go to their clinic to even schedule an appointment and they said that I needed a letter from a therapist or a doctor even though I've been on hrt for a year.

I'm at my wits end. I want injections and finasteride. I'm this close to going back to DIY.

Seriously hope Raban and Junpei doesn't go through this fucking bullshit when the time comes.

[Phoenix Dark]

I'll pay for everything, Junpei
 

[Mupepe]

You can measure estradiol in blood tests. You can get a blood panel for 50 bucks which will you give you estradiol, test, free test and cholesterol levels (and more).

[Broseidon]

that reminds me junpei get on skype already i have shit to tell you

not now tho im going to bed

[Himu]

Where? They may require insurance and trans care is not covered by most insurance policies.

I'm going to order injections DIY and use a doctor for blood test results. Where can I get fast, request tests though?

[Mupepe]

I sent you a text

[Raban]

that reminds me junpei get on skype already i have shit to tell you

not now tho im going to bed

Yeah, what he said!

[Himu]

I don't have junpei's skype

[Himu]

Girl on trans forum I visited responsed with this informative post. Figured I'd share because it could help others here.

can always just get your own blood work done for ~$50 if you can afford it while waiting for injections if you decide to self-med them (or for 1 month after, just so you know where you stand. levels and dosages can vary wildly from person to person.

i'm in texas, too. i used: http://www.privatemdlabs.com/lp/Female_Hormone_Testing.php

i guess it's 63 bucks now, but they email 15% off coupons like every day if you're on the mailing list.

i used them 3 or 4 times before. no issue.

select the closest bloodwork center, pay, wait a day, print a thing, fast the night before, drive to bloodwork center, get blood taken, go home, wait 1-2 days, check e-mail, done. big detailed pdf sheet of all your results, base levels, etc.

totally worth it if you can afford it, imo.

[Himu]

More resources!

Estradiol valerate:

http://www.inhousepharmacy.biz/p-333-progynon-depot-10mg.aspx

Needles/syringes:

http://www.allegromedical.com/syringes-c570.html

Not sure what size syringe I'd need but I'm researching.

May not need to do any of this. Friend told me about an endocrinologist.

[Mupepe]

Himu, I hope you're planning on doing A LOT more research.  And find a different site.  Buying controlled substances on a website that lets you pay with a credit card is a big

[Raban]

inhousepharmacy is pretty legit tho, been doing DIY for almost two years now using meds from that site and it's been aight so far

[Himu]

Half the trans people I know do DIY and order from inhouse. No one has been in trouble legally not once.

[Mupepe]

*shrug* That's just a general most underground places abide by when ordering something illegal, but since you guys are more familiar with the industry I could definitely be wrong.

[Mupepe]

I also tend to be a nervous nelly 

[Himu]

I've ordered from InHouse about three-four times. No problems. I read that it won't be a huge problem with customs unless you're trying to get in something Vicodin. Could be wrong, but trans people have been ordering from them for well over a decade without an issue.

[TVC15]

*shrug* That's just a general most underground places abide by when ordering something illegal, but since you guys are more familiar with the industry I could definitely be wrong.

This shitty inhouse place doesn't even sell fen-phen.  What a sham.

[Mupepe]

*shrug* That's just a general most underground places abide by when ordering something illegal, but since you guys are more familiar with the industry I could definitely be wrong.

This shitty inhouse place doesn't even sell fen-phen.  What a sham.

Their ED selection is very lacking IMO.  Although something called "Royal Jelly" caught my eye.

[Himu]

Made a new FB account because I couldn't change my name anymore on my other account. Really, REALLY happy with the results. Being able to profess my attraction to men without feeling odd about it because I'm not a "man" account anymore, people calling me NAOMI, and SHE in a public space - even it's just facebook, really just makes me soooooooo happy.

[Himu]

My mom comes home and she hasn't read her letter. She hasn't even opened it. I spend an entire week being a nervous wreck because my mother has not texted nor called me and she hasn't fucking opened it. Giving my dad his letter was the hardest thing I ever did. Coming home after the fact was even harder. And now I'm doing it again. Twice in a week. Kill me now and fuck this Earth.

[Madrun Badrun]

Ya, but maybe you'll get mango sherbert out of it.  Totally worth the wait. 

[Himu]

I got these texts.

You are loved! You are brave!  You are welcome to come home. - mom
we Love you! Come on back home, so we can talk! - dad

omg

[CatsCatsCats]

Oh man, Naomi, I'm so happy for you. Your Facebook post had me stressed by proxy!

[Positive Touch]

YOU DID IT BUDDY YOU DID IT

[Phoenix Dark]

powerful parenting, brehs

[Mupepe]

actually shed a tear here, and i never cry

yeah I teared up reading himu's post His parents are great people and this just reinforces it. Thats so awesome.

edit:something something black excellence

[Skidmark]

Good luck himuro. I wish you the best.

[Human Snorenado]

<3 So happy to hear that! And yeah, it's uh. Dusty in here. WHATEVER.

[Yeti]

[TVC15]

I want all the awkward details about the conversation.

[Himu]

I want all the awkward details about the conversation.

"Were you sexually abused at any time?"

"No. No I wasn't."

"Do you...like women?"

"I used to before hormones, but now I'm almost entirely attracted to men."

"I do not understand."

"Hormones can change peoples sexuality. Not always, but it does happen."

"I don't understand. See, I don't get this."

"I'll send you some reading material. You want some?"

*nod*

"Is there anything you want from us?"

"Mom, let's go on mother-daughter shopping sprees! Help me pick out a bra! I've done it alone and it's a rush!"

Mom:  Like she was both scared and excited at the possibility.

"Also, I'd like it if you referred to me as she and her and Naomi as often as possible."

"That...that will be hard."

"Don't worry, I will help you! Take your time."

"Daddy, give me a hug."

"How about a handshake?"

"No, that's so manly. Gross."

Both of us:

Mom sat there looking at us bewildered and crying.

It was long and I feel great now, like a giant rock has been lifted off my shoulders. My mother is mourning, but I'm supporting her the best I can, and she understands it's something that I HAVE to do. My dad is accepting but it's going to be hard adjusting from calling son he/his to the opposite.

I'm sure they'll be entirely more open to it and adjust the more I transition.

I'm just really glad to get it out. It feels like a giant weight has been lifted from me. During mid convo I unknowingly raised my voice to almost female pitch, changed my inflection, and mannerisms and they both went  and my dad asked if I was going to act like a woman now. I said happilly,"yes! I am! Nothing to hide anymore!" He just doesn't want me walking around in panties and bra. Can't promise that, boy shorts You are not fucking with my hips and thighs, bitches. SHOW EM OFF.

Basically, best night in a long time. Very emotional for all of us. Now for me to print out reading material for my momma.

Yes I am calling my parents momma and daddy, I am TEXAN, and THAT'S WHAT TEXAN GIRLS DO.

[FatalT]

Naomi you're adorable <3

[TVC15]

So are you trading in your fleshlight for a dildo?

[Himu]

Why do you assume I don't already have a dildo?



But this is getting gross and TMI.

[TVC15]

Just keep in mind that your wrist doesn't bend the right way to fist yourself.

[benjipwns]

Just keep in mind that your wrist doesn't bend the right way to fist yourself.

Quitter.

[Himu]

tvc stop asking gross and invasive questions, hun!

[TVC15]

Go cram some sanitary napkins between your ass cheeks, spaz.