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« Reply #12600 on: December 21, 2019, 03:09:59 PM »
Oh no

Man asked out a woman

She didnt want to

LETS FIRE HIS ASS

 :lol Jesus christ what kind of fucked up culture are yall running over there in the US man
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« Reply #12601 on: December 21, 2019, 03:11:13 PM »
It’s not about how you perceive the interaction, MMaRsu. It’s about how she perceived it and how your coworkers and managers will when they find out. I say when because shit like this never stays quiet in an office. Whatever context may or may not have been there is irrelevant in the gossip circle. We read and interpreted it as a cringe worthy and creepy encounter, whether it really was or not. Your coworkers will likely take it the same way because quite frankly, what you did is not something that most people do.

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« Reply #12602 on: December 21, 2019, 03:27:36 PM »
You gonna have to upgrade to a zara outfit and try again.
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« Reply #12603 on: December 21, 2019, 03:27:37 PM »
The fact that MMaRsu's bloodline is certain to die with him is the best part of all this.
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« Reply #12604 on: December 21, 2019, 03:55:29 PM »
mmars will finish out his 6 month extension and be fine  ::)
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« Reply #12605 on: December 21, 2019, 04:10:40 PM »
The fact that MMaRsu's bloodline is certain to die with him is the best part of all this.
Kill the past. Choke it if you have to.

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« Reply #12606 on: December 21, 2019, 06:08:15 PM »
It's not about asking out a female coworker . It's about asking out your supervisor, in the most Dutch Direct™ way possible.  :doge

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She's not my "supervisor" she's just a direct collegue who has the most knowledge of the systems involved and reports to our floor manager.


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« Reply #12607 on: December 21, 2019, 06:08:49 PM »
Official policy at Microsoft is not to compliment your coworkers looks.  That includes telling them you like their hair cut, an outfit they are wearing, etc.

Why does that policy exist?  The cost of handling all of the HR complaints for those very actions.

edit: not saying I think that’s a good thing just providing context for why some people might think you’d get fired for being sex-pest adjacent.

Because idiocracy apparantly is a real thing
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« Reply #12608 on: December 21, 2019, 06:20:03 PM »
Official policy at Microsoft is not to compliment your coworkers looks.  That includes telling them you like their hair cut, an outfit they are wearing, etc.

Why does that policy exist?  The cost of handling all of the HR complaints for those very actions.

edit: not saying I think that’s a good thing just providing context for why some people might think you’d get fired for being sex-pest adjacent.

Squiddy was permanently banned from The Bore dot com for being less of a pest than MMaRsu was to this poor woman.
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« Reply #12609 on: December 21, 2019, 06:38:54 PM »
The 18 y/o never got back to me but I still had fun Friday.  :doge

Going out with a 26 y/o tonight for drinks.

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« Reply #12610 on: December 21, 2019, 06:41:51 PM »
:shaq2

Too late

One day ban for James is pretty weak shit, IMO.

Whoa, hold up there, dude, it's not like he's Assy McGee or Floptimus.

My Dogmod: James is a sexual predator. I called this shit out months ago (yet another TIMU win[TM]) with his Splatoon :donot -questionable avatars and with this latest fiasco just proves I'm right: He's a fucking pedo and he's going to pester Atra (who has bad judgement) for more jailbait shit because Atra doesn't delete photos he saves of the jailbait from Tindr (for whatever god forsaken reason) when he's back.

Ya'll banned Assy for shitting up threads and C.ash R.ules E.verything A.round M.e for the same thing (Bork having a stick up his ass about this sort of thing) but you won't ban an actual pedophile? :gurl :donot

When the FBI comes raiding this server, don't tell me I didn't warn you. :trumps

Like, I get ya'll want to be the "cool mom" and not a fascist dictator, but holy shit sometimes you need to ban-hammer pretty hard.


Going out with a 26 y/o tonight for drinks.

Good, you're going for someone nearly your age and not a fucking kindergartner. Please up your filters.

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« Reply #12611 on: December 21, 2019, 06:44:56 PM »
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« Reply #12612 on: December 21, 2019, 06:46:04 PM »
You misunderstood. He meant 20 6yo. He’s taking the whole kindergarten class!

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« Reply #12613 on: December 21, 2019, 07:16:10 PM »
Official policy at Microsoft is not to compliment your coworkers looks.  That includes telling them you like their hair cut, an outfit they are wearing, etc.

Why does that policy exist?  The cost of handling all of the HR complaints for those very actions.

edit: not saying I think that’s a good thing just providing context for why some people might think you’d get fired for being sex-pest adjacent.

Squiddy was permanently banned from The Bore dot com for being less of a pest than MMaRsu was to this poor woman.

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« Reply #12614 on: December 21, 2019, 07:52:51 PM »
:shaq2

Too late

One day ban for James is pretty weak shit, IMO.

Whoa, hold up there, dude, it's not like he's Assy McGee or Floptimus.

My Dogmod: James is a sexual predator. I called this shit out months ago (yet another TIMU win[TM]) with his Splatoon :donot -questionable avatars and with this latest fiasco just proves I'm right: He's a fucking pedo and he's going to pester Atra (who has bad judgement) for more jailbait shit because Atra doesn't delete photos he saves of the jailbait from Tindr (for whatever god forsaken reason) when he's back.

Ya'll banned Assy for shitting up threads and C.ash R.ules E.verything A.round M.e for the same thing (Bork having a stick up his ass about this sort of thing) but you won't ban an actual pedophile? :gurl :donot

When the FBI comes raiding this server, don't tell me I didn't warn you. :trumps

Like, I get ya'll want to be the "cool mom" and not a fascist dictator, but holy shit sometimes you need to ban-hammer pretty hard.


Going out with a 26 y/o tonight for drinks.

Good, you're going for someone nearly your age and not a fucking kindergartner. Please up your filters.

Which is funny since shitting up threads is fun and benign comparatively.

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« Reply #12615 on: December 21, 2019, 11:11:58 PM »
Ugh I’m so bad at tinder. Or maybe I’m impatient. Anyway, lots of matches, lots of lil chats, lots of nothing

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« Reply #12616 on: December 21, 2019, 11:24:33 PM »
Ugh I’m so bad at tinder. Or maybe I’m impatient. Anyway, lots of matches, lots of lil chats, lots of nothing

You're not bad at it, that's how Tinder goes.

I'm happy if I make a new friend on Tinder. Half the time, it goes nowhere. The other half, you meet up and bang once or twice, and then it goes nowhere.
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« Reply #12617 on: December 21, 2019, 11:49:39 PM »
What are the hot apps nowadays anyway?

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« Reply #12618 on: December 21, 2019, 11:55:34 PM »
Tinder, okCupid, bumble, POF (plenty of fish). Facebook's dating thing pools a lot of people in your area locally.

Tinder and OkCupid seem to have the largest amounts of users. Facebook should have a lot, and women tend to use more of Facebook's features such as dating and shopping more than men, if I had to guess.

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« Reply #12619 on: December 22, 2019, 07:05:13 AM »
What are the hot apps nowadays anyway?

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« Reply #12620 on: December 22, 2019, 07:56:59 PM »
this thread took an...interesting turn

the youngest i've ever dated was 26. and she was older than me  :doge

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« Reply #12621 on: December 22, 2019, 09:04:15 PM »
This thread will be used as evidence some day.

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« Reply #12622 on: December 22, 2019, 09:37:07 PM »
the thread that will prevent from holding office

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« Reply #12623 on: December 22, 2019, 10:35:36 PM »
Lmao who would had guessed the 18YO probably just decided to buy her own drugs.

Oblivion how’s the “lady friend”? Since we had a go about using that word the thread went to shit

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« Reply #12624 on: December 22, 2019, 10:43:39 PM »
the thread that will prevent from holding office

Sometimes I stay up at night and wonder how people saw that post before the edit

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« Reply #12625 on: December 22, 2019, 11:22:31 PM »
:jared Hello officer, this thread right here. Oblivion is the only one that can save us know and that’s depressing

well, for what it's worth, my love life is going great  :patel

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« Reply #12626 on: December 22, 2019, 11:54:23 PM »
Going out with a 26 y/o tonight for drinks.
Bleh, she was basic af...

Seeing a 22 y/o tomorrow.

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« Reply #12627 on: December 23, 2019, 12:35:05 AM »
this thread took an...interesting turn

the youngest i've ever dated was 26. and she was older than me  :doge

When I was 30 I went out with one girl who said she was 24 on her profile... Short, chubby, big boobs, cute... we met up and walked around the outlets, talking... then she dropped the bomb she was only 19. I had to cut it off after that.
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« Reply #12628 on: December 23, 2019, 12:55:38 AM »
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« Reply #12629 on: December 23, 2019, 01:16:56 AM »
Should have broke off that dick in a cooze that could have easily moved on, indifferent

Lol wait did I say that out loud   :trigger
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« Reply #12630 on: December 23, 2019, 10:02:55 AM »
finally, a nonces and mind rapists lOTl.

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« Reply #12631 on: December 23, 2019, 04:47:23 PM »

I was at the christmas party just chilling, in my new outfit by h&m,

:rofl

omg. I scrolled past most of this work/pedo drama because I'd already murdered the posters in question in the digital realm but this quote is gold. thank you Esch.

going back and clicking through the hidden posts tho. yikes.  :holeup
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« Reply #12632 on: December 23, 2019, 06:30:31 PM »
edit-nvm
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« Reply #12633 on: December 23, 2019, 10:49:08 PM »
Not sure if normal non-pedo shit is ok to discuss here but...GF moved in with me months ago, going good so far. Mom isn't thrilled, meanwhile her family is pretty nice to me (outside of some of her racist cousins). Hispanic....coworker.
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Technically we don't work together, we just work for the same firm. Feels good man.

carry on, weirdos
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« Reply #12634 on: December 23, 2019, 11:33:43 PM »
Lock up those chanclas.
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« Reply #12635 on: December 25, 2019, 02:22:22 AM »
So that phatass co-worker I vibed with, I'm pretty sure I punched in a wrong number. So yes, it's been radio silence since we danced. And I have no other way to reach her outside of a regular work day as we're on break for one and a half weeks. Is this not a Seinfeld episode? Cause it fucking should be. The shit i'll be catching at the end of this vacation will be epic.
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« Reply #12636 on: December 25, 2019, 02:26:26 AM »
There are ways of verifying phone numbers. White Pages, Google search, adding to contacts and then checking FB/Snapchat for friends in your contacts, etc. That’s if you’re unsure about the number.

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« Reply #12637 on: December 25, 2019, 02:28:00 AM »
There are ways of verifying phone numbers. White Pages, Google search, adding to contacts and then checking FB/Snapchat for friends in your contacts, etc. That’s if you’re unsure about the number.

It's not HER number I woke up realizing I misplaced but MY middle number given to her as 865 when it should have been 685. Aka FUCK MY LIFE. I was already pretty blitzed when she me asked me to enter it in. Like I said, a fucking Seinfeld episode. Or maybe a Curb Your Enthusiasm version.
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« Reply #12638 on: December 25, 2019, 03:51:55 AM »
You just have to Larry it up when you see her


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« Reply #12639 on: December 25, 2019, 04:02:58 AM »
You just have to Larry it up when you see her

(Image removed from quote.)

I've been slowly forming the facial expressions and verbal conception. But whether i win or lose will always have this ridiculous experience.it really isn't worth the effort, I'm just trying to desperately avoid the embarrassment. Thus the sitcom esque languishment.

Which means that GIF is what I'll be reenacting lmao
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« Reply #12640 on: December 26, 2019, 11:21:57 AM »
Hey guys! What's up? Sorry, been busy....with...christmas :holeup
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« Reply #12641 on: December 26, 2019, 08:45:02 PM »

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« Reply #12642 on: December 26, 2019, 08:47:18 PM »
tbf, there are plenty of women whose 'hobbies' are analogous to that... maybe instead of Star Wars and comic movies they watch the Kardashians...
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« Reply #12643 on: December 26, 2019, 09:05:33 PM »
But can you quote the office tho
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« Reply #12644 on: December 26, 2019, 09:26:02 PM »
as if i'd share my ff ranking with just any random woman :kobeyuck that's privileged info

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« Reply #12645 on: December 26, 2019, 09:28:25 PM »
Far be it for me to apply more nuance to a 4chan shitpost, but I see the general gist of such sentiments is get a personality and some drive cause a lot of people shape their personality entirely on the entertainment they consume to the point where there isn't much to them beyond their opinions on what is generally children's media.

Like no girl gives a shit if you have an FF ranking or what your FF ranking is, she cares if you're smart/funny/confident/etc.

It's a real quality one. Flippant but could cut real deep depending on circumstances.

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« Reply #12646 on: December 26, 2019, 09:39:22 PM »
Tactics=8>6>9>7>15>11>who cares about the others

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« Reply #12647 on: December 26, 2019, 11:50:03 PM »
Matched with a hot BBC on Tinder who works at the grocery store down the street. Ran into him at his work today and we started chatting irl.

He’s 24 and I’m 30, does this mean I’m an early onset cougar?

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« Reply #12648 on: December 27, 2019, 12:03:07 AM »
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« Reply #12649 on: December 28, 2019, 07:57:12 AM »
Matched with a hot BBC on Tinder who works at the grocery store down the street. Ran into him at his work today and we started chatting irl.

He’s 24 and I’m 30, does this mean I’m an early onset cougar?

6 years is not that much really. But if you like the idea. ;)

Not much going on here in the E-plot of this thread.
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« Reply #12651 on: December 28, 2019, 12:18:12 PM »
For the creatives here who work non-creative jobs, how did you make peace with that? And how did you find drive/passion/energy towards a non-creative job?

I'm definitely in my mid-life-crisis year in 2019. I'm almost 10 years into my job (I think somewhere between 8-9) and it's just a job to me. I show up and do my work and head off. I used to work late nights but now I get out at a decent time so I can go work out and have dinner and have a few hours before heading to bed. The first few years on the job were sorta fun and exciting learning the ropes and being like a kid figuring things out. But I know what I'm doing now and it's just a job.
 
Outside work, I hang with friends and run meetup group stuff. Hosting a trivia night shortly and spent a few hours coming up with horror movie questions yesterday. I jog and walk as much as I can in a driving city and try to do some creative writing, idea concepts, game design concepts and stuff but never stick with anything more than for a few hours one night. Haven't messed with music creation since Fruity Loops. I've always been a creative person but I've never actually been any good at creating anything. My main success has been on the critic & analyzing side. I loved teaching when I did it for a short bit. If I could be anything I'd be a creator, and if I couldn't be a creator I'd be a fashionable scarf and coat wearing college professor.

I realize most people in this world are not screenwriters, film directors, good artists, good musicians, hideo kojima, etc... and just do a 9-5 job to make a living and deposit a check and pay the rent and beer. Almost all of my friends are in non-creative jobs. None of them made the dream and became some famous creator.

But I kinda feel like since almost all of them are in relationships and some have kids/families that when you're in that position your priorities change and feeding your kids and sending them to school takes over the concept of creating something. I've always dated creative type people and put a lot of my energy into supporting their drive and their creative works and giving constructive thoughts and brainstorms with them. But I haven't been in a real relationship for about 4 years now.

As I get older and approaching 40, I see all these creatives out there who are younger than me and deep into their careers, having started in their early 20s and improving over decades. Makes me feel like I went in the wrong direction in life and missed out.

I think about taking online classes or even going to film school at night, but that's a lot of time and energy and working full time idk if I have the drive to swing it at my age.


I feel like my emptiness in my day to day life reflects on my dating too and why I've been single for 4 years. When I was dating in my 20s I was in schools and had all these dreams and ideas of where I was gonna go in the future and that was attractive to people. When I was dating in my early 30s I had just started my law career and it was crazy and intense and I didn't know what I was doing but was doing it and that was attractive to people. But in my late 30s I'm confident and know what I'm doing but it's just a job and life has gotten a bit routine even with the events I host with my horror meetup group. I feel like I don't have anything interesting to talk about anymore with people on dates and it makes me more reluctant to date at all. I generally just talk about my horror events stuff which only really appeals to women really into horror and I'm not even a hardcore horror fan, I just like making and running events. I haven't messaged anyone for a couple months.

Looking at my "things you've finished" list, I've watched like 76 movies this year and finished 75 games and a dozen books and hundreds of hours of music and a dozen concerts and stuff. Which basically means this was a depressing year for me. I can tell the good years because I take in like 1/4th of that entertainment because I'm doing other things in my life. My social media reflects it too. I've been out doing things (parties, movies, birthdays) but haven't posted anything on my social media about it really since I got back from a Japan trip a month ago, because outside traveling I just don't feel any pride in my life stuff to bother sharing it. I just feel I'm boring and no one would care.

Any suggestions and re-kindling the passionate flame that used to burn inside me? I used to be fiery argumentative fucker but as I got older and the internet got worse I became a lot more chill because it's just not worth the energy of arguing most of the time. At my job at this point I usually know the right things to say and talking points and arguments when I argue so it's just going through those and don't have to get worked up about anything. I'm not completely dead inside, but pretty cold atm. Maybe I should go help out with kids charities or something feel good.

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« Reply #12652 on: December 28, 2019, 04:03:36 PM »
Not trying to be flippant but did you try questioning what you're doing with your life?

It sounds like you feel the intention for change and recognize all the symptoms of being unhappy, but at the same time you're in a situation where most people would tell you that you "made it" and to just double-down on the lawyer direction and settle with somebody who you can tolerate. I'm being presumptuous but I assume that the general advice you get is to just shut up for the next 30 years rather than have any dreams.

I think the passion will develop once you have a commitment to change direction.

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« Reply #12653 on: December 28, 2019, 04:08:35 PM »
You sound a lot like me, Bebps. I’m 39 next month and my head is in the same place in many ways. Love you, brah.
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« Reply #12654 on: December 28, 2019, 04:27:08 PM »
Do you have nephews or nieces? One way to really feel connected with the world again is to involve yourself in your family's lives and mentor them to greatness. Patriarch lifestyle
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« Reply #12655 on: December 28, 2019, 05:54:08 PM »
Have you looked into ways to switch up work a little bit. You mentioned teaching - and is that not something You could get back into. Or on the flip becoming a mention to law students/undergrad

Or use your law degree/experience to consult on movies/freelance art stuff
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Re: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011
« Reply #12656 on: December 28, 2019, 06:38:02 PM »
Glen's post is good and to piggy back off it whatever you can do now, even as some side thing to feed your creativity is good. Maybe that means taking a day (or lunch break?) a week to do something like shooting. Maybe that means less jrpg time and maybe you spend an hour or two of that going on trips to shoot. Maybe that means even just reading more books about photography and film concepts. Immersing yourself more and more in the things that feed your creativity.

Take photos now.
Make music now.
Do it now.

And don't compare yourself to others, especially youngers. Something I struggle with too but trust me when I tell you there are many artists in all fields who had nothing to show for it until well up in years. Bukowski failed at being a full time writer twice. His career in terms of note/prestige/money etc did not come until his fifty's. He never stopped writing through all of it. That's just one example.


If you want to look on the bright side, this feeling you're going through is good! You reached a level of comfort and stability some literally dream of. You're a business owner, well travelled, decent social life and interesting hobbies. Your life isn't over, you're gonna do more and there will always be more. Until you die. That's how life works. You constantly set goals and experiences you want, you keep your spirits up and work towards them. As always be kinder to yourself. Bless up.

Rahxephon91

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Re: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011
« Reply #12657 on: December 28, 2019, 11:21:00 PM »
Girlfriend decided to make New Years Eve plans in the city with old male friend who has tried to fuck her before. Instead of plans with me obviously. Should that tick me off?

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Re: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011
« Reply #12658 on: December 28, 2019, 11:26:06 PM »
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Re: RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011
« Reply #12659 on: December 28, 2019, 11:54:00 PM »
Thanks Glen and Toku. Sound advice from both of you. And pretty much I've been trying to do and have figured for a long time is the solution, but haven't actually done it much. Glen's idea of finding a film making group to join up and try to get involved in sounds good. Every time I try to get a short film going with friends, everyone flakes after the first few sessions and it never goes anywhere.

And yeah, I realize that I'm coming from a place of privilege to be unfulfilled in creative output. A lot of people are concentrating on just making it through the day with food on the table and a roof over their head. I'm definitely lucky and appreciate that I have a pretty stable life at this point. I also realize that if I got into a relationship again, my priorities would probably change, so this may just be a temporary depression I'm in as a result of being single for a while now.

One thing with writing and a lot of creative stuff is I need either another person or a group of people to throw ideas around with and group brainstorm, or I need direction. When I just try to write something without direction I get like one sentence every 10 mins in or something because it's just constant idea block. I think an online class that has me doing directed tasks for homework and stuff would be pretty helpful. I used to write a ton of creative writing and poetry from K-12 in my English classes and used to get good remarks on all my work. I just dropped creative writing entirely after high school.

Today I sat down with a tablet and a pen and put some music on and spent some time coming up with stuff. I wrote down a skeleton outline to give myself directions and said:

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Platformer concept -

Rpg concept -

Adventure game concept -

Short film concept -

Full length film concept -

Haunted House Maze Concept -"

And tried to fill in as much as I could. I ended up coming up with a 2d action platformer that's a mix of Mario Maker x Super Meat Boy x Okami where you kill enemies to get materials to build platforms to get across and each mid-boss opens up a new type of platform that's used in the puzzle platforming for the 2nd half of the stage and during the stage boss fight. The Okami bit comes in with it being a black & white world and the enemies are color and the platforms you create are made with the colors. And the whole thing is a metaphor for MC's battle with the loss of their emotions because of the death of their mom and trying to regain them and feel alive again.

Also designed my haunted house horror maze where you go meet god (talking ball of light) in the center of the universe and then a tentacle monster from another dimension eats him and you have to escape the universe while running from the monster complete with spinning light tunnels with stars exploding/fading out and a finale on the moon.

Hoping to come up with a practical short film concept tomorrow. Definitely felt better about life after getting some ideas down on (digital) paper. Though my main problem is taking my ideas and turning them into something practical that can be done on a shoestring budget and without years of time and actually taking the steps to do them.

You sound a lot like me, Bebps. I’m 39 next month and my head is in the same place in many ways. Love you, brah.

Thanks TVC, love ya too. Hopefully you figure something out before me haha.

Do you have nephews or nieces? One way to really feel connected with the world again is to involve yourself in your family's lives and mentor them to greatness. Patriarch lifestyle

Nope. I could definitely use an activity friend to do stuff with. It's fun hanging with my group of friends once a week or two, but I miss having someone to go do stuff whenever with. One thing I've noticed is I'm pretty much the only one of my friends or family that lives alone. Everyone either still lives with their parents, lives with an SO, or is married, or has roomates. I kinda feel like my friends can't relate to sitting around all by yourself in an empty house most of the time, eating by yourself almost all the time, etc...and it's loneliness. There was a great piece of dialogue in the new Little Women about even when not falling in love towards anyone, wanting to feel loved, because after a while the weight of loneliness just gets too hard to bear. Resonated with me since I haven't really loved anyone (I've liked people and had infatuations rarely) in about 8 years but definitely want to feel loved myself and am pretty lonely.

Have you looked into ways to switch up work a little bit. You mentioned teaching - and is that not something You could get back into. Or on the flip becoming a mention to law students/undergrad

Or use your law degree/experience to consult on movies/freelance art stuff

I could get into teaching by getting a degree and teaching HS or something but I'm not really interested in that. Plus all my friends who teach K-12 have like 1 hour+ commutes to some school in the middle of nowhere. I'd only want to teach at college level, but that requires grad school and I don't have the energy for that and doing a multi-year thesis and everything. I could teach at a law school, but finding a job would be really tough and I don't find law interesting and would probably be bored teaching it.

I taught Japanese 1 which was fun and taught English in Japan which was fun. Language is pretty great to teach. I'd also like to teach a classes on giant robots, their history and influence on modern culture. I was thinking maybe I should just put up a website/blog on topics I want to teach instead. That's definitely less exciting than teaching people in discussions.