RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011

[BIONIC]

Don’t mind me, I’m just here for the eventual Rahx porn

[chronovore]

I am now the not so proud owner of a framed piece of Amano artwork that will eternally remind me of what a colossal fuck up I am.

You screwed up, but this wasn't going to work out in the long run in any case.

I told her so many times that I was afraid I'd screw up and she always said she didn't think I could.

I guess realistically, I knew there wasn't a great chance of it lasting super long term but I thought I could grow, change and improve and maybe it would last awhile. I was single for a decade before I met her, I'm pushing 40 and it just feels fucking bleak out there. It's not even about wanting to be married, or have kids, I just hate feeling doomed to be alone. I thought after all this time alone I had improved myself but I feel like such a failure.

Sorry, I want to be more clear: abandoning her on NYE seems like a screwup, maybe it is, maybe it isn't. But that's not why I thought it wouldn't last. It sounds like she has control issues and she's subjecting you to being under her thumb. It sounds like you weren't into that, so I thought that would eventually cause a schism.

What I meant to encourage was being nice to yourself and realizing that you can move on.

If you want back together with her, there's maybe a way to do that. Let her control all that stuff like not letting you pay, and redecorating your apartment, etc.

[shosta]

I am now the not so proud owner of a framed piece of Amano artwork that will eternally remind me of what a colossal fuck up I am.

newsfeed btw

[bluemax]

I mean no offense, but I think you forgot how to fall in love and so you're afraid that you must be actually doing something wrong. It's the years of insecurity that builds up and makes you convinced that you must renormalize yourself by letting people walk on you a bit. I've been there.

Move on and know that you did nothing wrong.

I think there is a lot of truth to this, but I don't fully agree that I did nothing wrong.

I am now the not so proud owner of a framed piece of Amano artwork that will eternally remind me of what a colossal fuck up I am.

You screwed up, but this wasn't going to work out in the long run in any case.

I told her so many times that I was afraid I'd screw up and she always said she didn't think I could.

I guess realistically, I knew there wasn't a great chance of it lasting super long term but I thought I could grow, change and improve and maybe it would last awhile. I was single for a decade before I met her, I'm pushing 40 and it just feels fucking bleak out there. It's not even about wanting to be married, or have kids, I just hate feeling doomed to be alone. I thought after all this time alone I had improved myself but I feel like such a failure.

Sorry, I want to be more clear: abandoning her on NYE seems like a screwup, maybe it is, maybe it isn't. But that's not why I thought it wouldn't last. It sounds like she has control issues and she's subjecting you to being under her thumb. It sounds like you weren't into that, so I thought that would eventually cause a schism.

What I meant to encourage was being nice to yourself and realizing that you can move on.

If you want back together with her, there's maybe a way to do that. Let her control all that stuff like not letting you pay, and redecorating your apartment, etc.

Right, the NYE thing and letting my anxiety take hold about money on her birthday were two major screwups. But I also agree that at some point I think she was going to ask me to give up too much of who I am. Cleaning my apartment, upgrading my furniture, sure those things I know I need to do and wanted to do. But giving up all control, not having decision making power (no matter how much she claimed I did) and avoiding things I liked to avoid conflict, those things were going to be issues eventually.

I think about all the parts I liked, and all the stuff I was looking forward to and it hurts a lot. And I think about how long and hard it was to find someone and it hurts even more.

[I'm a Puppy!]

Wow bluemax. I know it hurts but dude. Seriously

[bluemax]

Wow bluemax. I know it hurts but dude. Seriously

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I guess I'm just not there yet.

[mormapope]

So my romantic Life in 2020 is off to a strange start.

Talked and met up with a girl, who was worried that all I was into was sex. She picked me up last night, wanting me to kiss her. We make out, I rub on her, she takes off clothes, I suck on one of her tits, in her car, at my work parking lot. Eventually finger her. She was very horny and into all of this.  After all this, she takes me home, and then ghosts me.

 I don't feel hurt at all, just confused in a very humorous way I guess? .

"Promise me you don't want me just for sex"

 *picks me up with the direct and spoken intention of making out

*tells me to do sexual things

*ghosts me

She probably realized or felt she was more horny than anything and maybe not that into me.

[james]

So my romantic Life in 2020 is off to a strange start.

Talked and met up with a girl, who was worried that all I was into was sex. She picked me up last night, wanting me to kiss her. We make out, I rub on her, she takes off clothes, I suck on one of her tits, in her car, at my work parking lot. Eventually finger her. She was very horny and into all of this.  After all this, she takes me home, and then ghosts me.

 I don't feel hurt at all, just confused in a very humorous way I guess? .

"Promise me you don't want me just for sex"

 *picks me up with the direct and spoken intention of making out

*tells me to do sexual things

*ghosts me

She probably realized or felt she was more horny than anything and maybe not that into me.

Bitches be crazy my dude

[EchoRin]

Anybody else getting an absurd amount of ads on Facebook from all the various online relationship apps/sites? I'm getting Tinder, Zoosk, Bumble, Match.com, Plenty of Fish, MeetMe and who knows what else. Like damn, does the new year suddenly spurt a massive uptick in people looking for new relationships?

[CatsCatsCats]

Nye parties get wild and break ppl up?

[chronovore]

End of year is stressful for EVERYBODY. Families get in more fights. It makes sense that couples would hit some kind of peak stress and break up.

[bluemax]

Cuffing season is over and all the fuckups like me are back on the market?

[Valkyrie]

How to get over someone quick. Rebound? What if I cry during sex. And not the good kinda crying.

[shosta]

pick a distraction which may or may not be sexual in nature and just sink your teeth into it

and bless up

[Rahxephon91]

Cuffing season is over and all the fuckups like me are back on the market?

You're not a fuckup and saying stupid stuff like this is hurtful, not helpful.

[Raist]

How to get over someone quick. Rebound? What if I cry during sex. And not the good kinda crying.

Time.

[Kara]

Far be it for me to apply more nuance to a 4chan shitpost, but I see the general gist of such sentiments is get a personality and some drive cause a lot of people shape their personality entirely on the entertainment they consume to the point where there isn't much to them beyond their opinions on what is generally children's media.

Like no girl gives a shit if you have an FF ranking or what your FF ranking is, she cares if you're smart/funny/confident/etc.

You call me a Middle East weeaboo but I'm actually that for Basques (don't ask).

When I was in London with my SO we went through Covent Garden and she pointed out a Basque restaurant then said, "I was here for work [while we were broken up], saw this, and thought of you."

Have dumb shit about you for people to remember you by, and by dumb shit I don't mean nerd shit.

[Raist]

Far be it for me to apply more nuance to a 4chan shitpost, but I see the general gist of such sentiments is get a personality and some drive cause a lot of people shape their personality entirely on the entertainment they consume to the point where there isn't much to them beyond their opinions on what is generally children's media.

Like no girl gives a shit if you have an FF ranking or what your FF ranking is, she cares if you're smart/funny/confident/etc.

You call me a Middle East weeaboo but I'm actually that for Basques (don't ask).

Sorry but I'm gonna have to ask.

[chronovore]

How to get over someone quick. Rebound? What if I cry during sex. And not the good kinda crying.

Give yourself self-care time. Be kind to yourself. Realize it's not you, and not them, but the personal dynamic that didn't work.

…unless they were a fuckup, in which case they can fuck off.

Cuffing season is over and all the fuckups like me are back on the market?

You're not a fuckup and saying stupid stuff like this is hurtful, not helpful.

[VomKriege]

How to get over someone quick. Rebound? What if I cry during sex. And not the good kinda crying.

Time.

This works great, I can attest to that !

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It's getting a bit long now though.

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[Raist]

I mean. Becoming buddies is obviously not going to help.

[VomKriege]

I mean. Becoming buddies is obviously not going to help.

Oh no that part is working fine. I just mean blue balls in general.

[Atramental]

Went to Asheville last night for NYE and boned a 30 something mental health therapist. 

I motor boated one of her friend’s giant boobs as well. 

Happy New Year, binches

Going back to AVL tonight for round 2.

 

[TVC15]

Been watching a lot of Love After Lockup and it was giving me some feels, so I did a little searching on dating sites. Do you think this hunk of man is a good match for me?

http://www.meet-an-inmate.com/men/william-103804.html

Ypsilanti for PD, that was his hood, right? She’s very young. Easy to manipulate. She is in prison until 2032 though so be careful!

http://www.meet-an-inmate.com/ladies/cherri-324006.html

Okay, just looks like a felony DUI death. She’s safe to date!

This one’s in for possession with intent to distribute ampersands. Those erotic letters must look absolutely tantric:

http://www.meet-an-inmate.com/adrianna-1001296877.html

[TVC15]

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https://www.huffpost.com/entry/luis-arroyo-and-cristobal-murder-hector-hernandez_n_3312024


“The gruesome allegations became fact on Monday when Luis and Cristobal Arroyo — 17 and 15 — pleaded guilty to first-degree murder in the death of Hector Hernandez-Valde

On June 1, 2012, Luis Arroyo invited the victim over to his house in Tacoma, where the two got in a fight. Cristobal Arroyo heard the struggle and witnessed the two battling over a knife. Cristobal stabbed Hernandez-Valdez in the neck and back, and the brothers dragged him to the bathtub.

While Hernandez-Valdez was still alive, the brothers stabbed or cut him 34 times, prosecutors said. The victim also had 60 small puncture wounds on his back and his skull was fractured, meaning he was likely attacked with a bat or hammer. Then the pair cut his throat in the bathtub.

The boys’ mother found the victim’s remains on a bed sheet, and drove to a nearby police station, according to KOMO.

Police say Luis Arroyo and Hernandez-Valdez had been fighting over $166 and less than 40 grams of pot.”

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[TVC15]

Alright, I’ve decided to write him and try to make him my boyfriend so I have relationship drama to share.

What should my angle be? Should I be fascinated about his crimes and the details of them? Should I pretend like I don’t know who he is and play dumb and see what he tells me about himself? Should I say I read about him and I’m interested in how his mind has worked at various points in his life? Oh my god I’m so giddy. I’ve never talked to someone that crushed multiple heads in with a splitting maul—what do you think he likes? What should I play up?

[Transhuman]

I hate how they phrase it "less than 40 grams of pot". Maybe 40 grams of pot isn't that much for a Huffington Post writer, but here in the real world that isn't some trivial amount.

[TVC15]

Yes it is trivial!  That’s like an ounce and a half, right? That’s a few hundred bucks. Like 500 at most but my street price info is very stale now.

[Kara]

If you're struggling with an unfulfilling life near or at middle age trying to dupe a resident of the penal system on a singles site might not be the way to go.

[Rufus]

Not unless you want to be yanked off the stage by said convict.

[TVC15]

There are no reasonable options for me other than dating someone that is already serving life without parole, dude. Can you really deny that?

Also, to clarify, I’m talking about the first man I posted, not the fucking dufus in Washington serving 1st degree time over a few hundred dollars of weed. What a dumb 15 year old.

[shosta]

You have to pay for your own toiletries in prison now (because the 8th amendment is derelict) and I doubt he's got sympathetic family so just offer quid pro quo: toothpaste for conjugal visits

[TVC15]

Actually, last night I read most of the book someone wrote about him. His family is wealthy and actively enabled the abuse of his wives. They monitored them for him and reported on everything they did. He’s prob mostly okay. Supported him at court, too. One of his sisters hates him though.

[Kara]

There are no reasonable options for me other than dating someone that is already serving life without parole, dude. Can you really deny that?

I'm the hopepunk guy, of course I can.

[Transhuman]

Yes it is trivial!  That’s like an ounce and a half, right? That’s a few hundred bucks. Like 500 at most but my street price info is very stale now.

Mr. i'm-so-dark TVC wouldn't even kill a guy over $688 lol

Why you wanna date this guy if you think he's such a dumbass. You can do better

[TVC15]

Yes it is trivial!  That’s like an ounce and a half, right? That’s a few hundred bucks. Like 500 at most but my street price info is very stale now.

Mr. i'm-so-dark TVC wouldn't even kill a guy over $688 lol

Why you wanna date this guy if you think he's such a dumbass. You can do better

No, dumbass, this is the dude I want to date.

http://www.meet-an-inmate.com/men/william-103804.html



I wouldn’t date someone as young as the pup in the pic in the previous post. I just like looking at the young ads because young people are more likely to have committed hilariously stupid crimes.

[team filler]

sluts

[CatsCatsCats]

Ugh there’s this Mexican cutie and I swear to god I will become catholic just to eat it

[nudemacusers]

Yes it is trivial!  That’s like an ounce and a half, right? That’s a few hundred bucks. Like 500 at most but my street price info is very stale now.

Mr. i'm-so-dark TVC wouldn't even kill a guy over $688 lol

Why you wanna date this guy if you think he's such a dumbass. You can do better

No, dumbass, this is the dude I want to date.

http://www.meet-an-inmate.com/men/william-103804.html

Why is everything in quotes lol

[Bebpo]

Did Speed Dating tonight with a gal friend. Was fairly  and was fun hearing about the  from her side as well.

Key nugget from a Japanese gal:

Me: What do you want to be doing in 5 years?
Her: I want to be an american policewoman. I did karate as a kid and I want to help people. It seems scary in America with guns, but I think it will be worth it!

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[TVC15]

Yes it is trivial!  That’s like an ounce and a half, right? That’s a few hundred bucks. Like 500 at most but my street price info is very stale now.

Mr. i'm-so-dark TVC wouldn't even kill a guy over $688 lol

Why you wanna date this guy if you think he's such a dumbass. You can do better

No, dumbass, this is the dude I want to date.

http://www.meet-an-inmate.com/men/william-103804.html

Why is everything in quotes lol

Dunno. I think it may either because he’s 65 now and if he was crazy then, he’s even worse now, or it’s some sort of code for someone on the outside. He’s also really smart; the dumb hick thing is an act. He speaks a few language and can quote classic literature. Maybe a combo of all these. Oh, and despite what he says there, he doesn’t like his daughter. He abandoned her Soon after she was born and disappeared for months.

He’ll probably be one of the unfortunately famous ones in a few years. His story is really disturbing. I had to stop reading at a few points because I felt so terrible for his ex-wives.

[nudemacusers]

Dunno. I think it may either because he’s 65 now and if he was crazy then, he’s even worse now, or it’s some sort of code for someone on the outside. He’s also really smart; the dumb hick thing is an act. He speaks multiple languages and can extensively quote classic literature. Maybe a combo of all these. Oh, and despite what he says there, he doesn’t like his daughter. He abandoned her a few days after she was born and disappeared for months.

I don’t think he’s your type anyway, not into you getting spit roasted 

Then Bill explained that he was trying to fulfill her fantasy of making love to two men. He reminded her that he'd asked her what sort of fantasy man she'd want, "and since he was blond and blue-eyed, I said maybe someone with dark hair and green eyes. But it was a joke."

But now Bill's friend, green-eyed, dark-haired "Jesse," was apparently waiting in the room next to theirs.

Karen didn't want two men in her bed, only one: Bill. She screamed at him, so angry that she started putting on her clothes, getting ready to leave. When the telephone rang again, Bill picked it up, said "No," and hung up.

Later, he told her she'd passed a test. "If you had said yes, our relationship would have been over," he said. "We'd have had a good time first, but it would have been over."

[TVC15]

Karen is like the strongest person in the world.

The story gets so much worse from there, man.

[nudemacusers]

Yeah did some reading, terrible stuff, also came across this:
https://groups.google.com/forum/#!topic/alt.true-crime/4ke7CquwfcY

It is very sad that William does not LOVE himself. In reading his comments
below, it becomes clear that he does NOT love himself. That is tragic. He
SHOULD be able to kill fellow humans, and love himself and his accomplishments.
But he can't. His True Reality is too weak. He is not in touch with the glory
of his own life. He canaccept the fact that he had an ABSOLUTE RIGHT to kill
these women. His mindset is still that of a little boy. He thinks he has done
something wrong in killing the 3 gals, and that he deserves to be "punished".
Very sad. William even EXPLAINS that he WANTED to get caught, and committed the
murders as he did, even LEAVING one gal ALIVE, because he wants her to testify
against him in court. here we see a killer with a real SELF-ESTEEM problem. He
does NOT love himself. This is tragic. He genuinelly does not accept the FACT
that he had a 100% valid, True Reality right to avenge his own suffering by
slaughtering fellow humans. Even though he CARRIED OUT the killings, he doesn't
feel he had a legitimate right to do so.

  All I can say is that his mindset is a tragic one. I am glad my mindset is
totally different. And while I fully respect William's True Reality, I am very
glad that my mindset and the mindsets of many other aspiring and actual
predators is that of LOVE of self, recognition of our right to seek and claim
vengeance through violence, and the understanding that every victim has an
absolute right to victimize others, and to feel not a SHRED of guilt or remorse
or invalidation or low self-esteem, over what we are and what life choices we
make.

I assume the guy writing this is on a watch list cuz 

[nudemacusers]

Oh I guess this is a whole “thing” https://www.reddit.com/r/UnresolvedMysteries/comments/57lru8/who_is_joe1orbit/

Will have to read all this over a glass of wine

[TVC15]

Did you read about the time when he pitchforked his cat?

[nudemacusers]

I’ve been listening to serial killer podcasts to help me sleep at night out here, Eddie kemper’s cat issues are hard to beat.

[TVC15]

It was a whore for his sister!

[TVC15]

Oh I guess this is a whole “thing” https://www.reddit.com/r/UnresolvedMysteries/comments/57lru8/who_is_joe1orbit/

Will have to read all this over a glass of wine

This is another fascinating rabbit hole.  He’s featured in an old documentary from 1989 that also features GG Allin. I guess it’s a docu on fringe weirdos, and he’s had this shtick since the 80s.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Affliction_(1996_film)

Info from a review:

“Other interesting individual in this movie is Full Force Frank. Dating back to 1989, Full Force Frank had published some notorious zines where he had promised to commit a massacre one day. In every issue of his zine, he ranted and raved about his killing plans. He was so determined and so outspoken about them that even the FBI came looking for him (or so he said). In "Affliction", Full Force Frank shows his collection of guns and basically talks about mass-murder. Mark Hejnar had never seen him or been at Full Force Frank's apartment by the way. Hejnar wanted to do an interview with him, but instead of that, Full Force Frank had sent him a video cassette with the material that you'll see in "Affliction". In the end of this documentary Hejnar announced that "frank dropped out of sight awhile ago" and yes, it is true. Full Force Frank mysteriously disappeared in the late summer of 1991. He discontinued his pen-pal relationship with everyone, never giving an explanation, but from the beginning of September 1996, he appeared in the internet under the name Joe1orbit and has been an active Usenet poster‘

He was arrested with a. Bunch of fake IDs in 2002. I’d date it.

[BIONIC]

The relationship thread is finally readable again.

TVC

[TVC15]

Check out the price tag on joe1orbit’s work:

https://www.abebooks.com/book-search/author/full-force-frank/

Frank's Zine, Brooklyn, NY, 1989. 60+ pp. each. Scarce and important example of this phenomena of the zine world. Frank claimed to be a psychopath, planning some kind of big mass murder. While he smoldered, he wrote these zines and sent them, rather inexpensively, to zinesters. He was a good correspondent, writing long letters in blood-red pen, always signed SINcerely and PSYCHOpathically yours. Later, zinesters began to realize that this self-proclaimed psychopath was much more than a mere faker or big talker. They started to think he was the FBI infiltration of the zine world. What a great idea, try to get leads on psychopaths via the zine world. He did get Mike Diana to submit some art for back cover and interiors. A lot of his clips came from gun magazines and what look like magazines for police and military. Whatever he was, these controversial zines are intriguing, and an important part of zine history. Frank disappeared just as suddenly as he appeared. A few videos of him are on the 'net. 9 Side stapled xerographic zines, with cardstock covers and a a couple of cardstock interior pages. Built to last. Readwear. Minor browning to covers. No. 5 has water stain on cover. No. 6 cover wrinkled. No. 8 has 1 pp. color xerox collage interior. Very good.

[Crash Dummy]

Far be it for me to apply more nuance to a 4chan shitpost, but I see the general gist of such sentiments is get a personality and some drive cause a lot of people shape their personality entirely on the entertainment they consume to the point where there isn't much to them beyond their opinions on what is generally children's media.

Like no girl gives a shit if you have an FF ranking or what your FF ranking is, she cares if you're smart/funny/confident/etc.

You call me a Middle East weeaboo but I'm actually that for Basques (don't ask).

When I was in London with my SO we went through Covent Garden and she pointed out a Basque restaurant then said, "I was here for work [while we were broken up], saw this, and thought of you."

Have dumb shit about you for people to remember you by, and by dumb shit I don't mean nerd shit.

early in the relationship when my gf saw i liked to read, she bought me a book on emotional intelligence 

[nudemacusers]

The relationship thread is finally readable again.

TVC

Imagine using a relationship thread on this gutter trash forum for normie bullshit problems

[Bebpo]

Speed dating did not go so well. Got my scorecard today and only 1 of the 5 women I picked matched back. And from what I hear from my gal friend a lot of the guys were pretty awkward. Sometimes I wonder if maybe I have too high opinion of myself in terms of what a good catch I am outside my height. I sorta was expecting at least 3-5 of the women to match back since I was able to hold conversations and at least I thought I came across as fun.

[Atramental]

Went to Asheville last night for NYE and boned a 30 something mental health therapist. 

I motor boated one of her friend’s giant boobs as well. 

Happy New Year, binches

Going back to AVL tonight for round 2.

 

She’s planning to come down to my city this weekend, brehs.

[toku]

Speed dating did not go so well. Got my scorecard today and only 1 of the 5 women I picked matched back. And from what I hear from my gal friend a lot of the guys were pretty awkward. Sometimes I wonder if maybe I have too high opinion of myself in terms of what a good catch I am outside my height. I sorta was expecting at least 3-5 of the women to match back since I was able to hold conversations and at least I thought I came across as fun.

Don't think too much about it. Sometimes you miss. Sometimes it's not even about you.

[james]

Well this is awkward as fuck.

In early December, I was feeling lonely and decided to stalk my ex-gf on Facebook. We broke up 10 years ago, so this is extra sad.

Her profile is pretty locked down, so I looked at her sister's profiles to see if they had any juicy info (they did not).

Yesterday, Facebook sent me a notification suggesting I add the younger sister as my friend.

If Facebook sent the same suggestion to her, my cover is blown

[BIONIC]

Plot twist: the younger sister was james’ stalking target all along. Also, she’s twelve.

[VomKriege]

If Facebook sent the same suggestion to her, my cover is blown

Facebook is pretty heavy handed (and frighteningly effective) with those suggestions, it doesn't mean anything.

Don't be a creep tho.

[Ghoul]

James, you need to just send her a message on facebook asking for her back.