RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011

[brawndolicious]

Lately I want to talk to people because of the social aspect, but I don't know how to take to people anymore  :'(

I see a cute girl and I'm like I could try to match with her or send her a message, but if she replies it's like I don't what to talk about anymore. I have no life and not doing anything besides full time work, cooking and cleaning/housework, working out, consuming entertainment and posting here  :'(

I feel kinda embarrassed/low confidence to talk about myself/life atm because normally in dating talk I'm selling myself to try to appeal to the other person.


I know I could like stop consuming media for a bit and take some online classes, devote myself to some goal so I'm doing something with my life outside work atm to have something to talk about and not seem as pathetic, but just too lazy/depressed to do anything. Just waiting for the world to get past covid and pick up a life again so I have something to talk about on dates. Which I get is wrong, because you've had a whole of experiences and philosophies and interests and you should be able to talk for months with someone about everything until now, but I feel like I mostly know about videogames and no one wants to talk about that stuff so yeah...

idk just in a funk.

I don't know almost anyone else who lives alone right now and it's definitely a bit tough even for an introvert. Just been a long time in isolation already.

If she's a millennial, she probably watched too many 90s movies so...

Start a role-play where you pretend like you're stuck on a remote island with no one else on it. You start out hating each other because she's all prissy and you're all swarthy but then through cooperation and problem-solving, you smang.

Because it's the 90s and that's just how it worked.

[VomKriege]

Date had a lot of issues to sort through, didn't come by Saturday. 

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just bang valk until she squirts again 

[Bebpo]

I think I'm gonna sign up and try some virtual speed dating this week, just to have some way to meet people and socialize since I'm just not finding any way to socialize right now.

I looked up online meetups, but around me it's pretty dead.

[VomKriege]

just bang valk until she squirts again 

Look out Nintex, there's a new fanfic poster in town.

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it's called shipping, hunty  look it up 

[Bebpo]

I never knew where the word shipping originated from until last week playing Spider-Man there is a radio session from JJJ where he is like wtf is this shipping thing young people are doing?!? and then he's like shipping comes from the "ship" in "relationship" so it's short for relationshipping.

Then I was like ooooohhhh

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kpop shipping was so top tier 

[james]

I never knew where the word shipping originated from until last week playing Spider-Man there is a radio session from JJJ where he is like wtf is this shipping thing young people are doing?!? and then he's like shipping comes from the "ship" in "relationship" so it's short for relationshipping.

Then I was like ooooohhhh

I always thought tug boats were involved

[Nintex]

just bang valk until she squirts again 

Look out Nintex, there's a new fanfic poster in town.

Would sign up for his newsletter, buy his book and read his blog 

[Atramental]

I have given up lol

[james]

Just got off a video call with my ex because we were going over some financial stuff (untying accounts and the like). She isn't looking too great. Skin a little rough. hair very messy, and I think she gained weight.

Not sure if I should be happy or sad that leaving me is not all it's cracked up to be.

Shosty, does this mean higher odds she'll come back?

[VomKriege]

Maybe respectfully inquire, as a friend, if she is doing OK ?

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laugh and tell her she looks like complete shit 

[james]

Maybe respectfully inquire, as a friend, if she is doing OK ?

She said she is not. Says she is stressed because of corona. Cant go anywhere because too many people without masks. Tired of being at home every day.

I mean, she could have had me and my D every day?

[Nintex]

Sounds like she won't be a top earner on OnlyFans at this rate

[Valkyrie]

Your fav hoe has second date today, I’m nervous but excited.

[Bebpo]

Speed dating online session was hilarious. They give you a 20 second break between 7-8 min sessions. So you literally talk for like 2 hours straight with 20 seconds to breathe/drink/bathroom every 8 mins and everyone is completely drained and out of breathe by halfway.

Also lots of connection problems.

But I guess it was kinda fun. People seemed chill. I'd never done LA dating before since I live 1-2 hours from LA w/traffic, but this being online was from where I live in OC to LA and everyone was LA and every single girl was an actress. I'd heard from my gal friends that every single guy they meet in LA on the dating scene is an actor to the point they tell me "no more actors!!", but I'd never met an actress until now and every girl is an actress which is a thing that I don't quite know how to respond to other than "oh, cool, how do you like your enchiladas?"

[james]

Speed dating online session was hilarious. They give you a 20 second break between 7-8 min sessions. So you literally talk for like 2 hours straight with 20 seconds to breathe/drink/bathroom every 8 mins and everyone is completely drained and out of breathe by halfway.

Also lots of connection problems.

But I guess it was kinda fun. People seemed chill. I'd never done LA dating before since I live 1-2 hours from LA w/traffic, but this being online was from where I live in OC to LA and everyone was LA and every single girl was an actress. I'd heard from my gal friends that every single guy they meet in LA on the dating scene is an actor to the point they tell me "no more actors!!", but I'd never met an actress until now and every girl is an actress which is a thing that I don't quite know how to respond to other than "oh, cool, how do you like your enchiladas?"

Like porn actress?

[Bebpo]

idk, but I did notice that multiple people referred to themselves as actors. I guess actress isn't a thing if you're in the industry? Never thought of actor as gender neutral.

[VomKriege]

Hopefully seeing my current this Saturday... But this highlights a bit of the issue with her social anxiety, not seeing someone I'm into regularly is not the best feeling.

Gonna get lunch with a coworker (another one) today. She has her own set of issues, guess that's a trend I carry subconsciously perhaps. Attraction isn't rational, it is what it is.

[Valkyrie]

How do you know if you’re dating a guy or just his dick?

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it's true love either way

[ToxicAdam]

A good indication is if you find yourself constantly wishing they would shut up and use that mouth to kiss you instead.

[Rufus]

How do you know if you’re dating a guy or just his dick?

When every word out of their mouth feels like small talk.

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

The girl I’m dating is extremely submissive. I’m not into BDSM but I indulge her. Yesterday I made her come so hard and so often her knees buckled just by tying her up and spanking her. I’ve been thinking of ways to get her to come without any penetration or her pussy just so my skills get to be that good.

She’s fine with me sharing the occasional story as she thinks this thread is boring.

[VomKriege]

Nothing saucy to report, sadly. I guess we split up for good. On excellent terms, but nothing physical on the horizon. The struggle continues.

Gave up on OKcupid again, but feel more confident about seduction in person now.

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vom rn:

[VomKriege]

Accurate. Slightly less creepy & pushy tho.

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much bigger cock as well 

[Clockwork5]

On a weekend trip to visit my girl. We met up in Colorado Springs which is the halfway point between us. Didn’t realize we would be spending the weekend in Trump country but apart from that, this place is super pretty. Spent the afternoon hiking around The Garden of the Gods and getting ice cream. Going to do the Pikes Peak drive tomorrow.

But tonight we are going to smoke a bunch of this Colorado weed and fuck until we pass out.

Shits been rough lately so I needed this bad.

[chronovore]

How do you know if you’re dating a guy or just his dick?

Do you run out of stuff to talk about?

[Clockwork5]

The weekend trip was super good. I will say, we have to get out of the habit of “celebrating” our last night together with a bottle of whiskey. It always sounds like a good idea but then the emotions kick in and the booze just amplifies them. It’s not like we end up fighting, just trying to get out difficult and often negative emotions surrounding a long distance situation through the fog of alcohol. We always come away like “Well it’s good we talked about those things but maybe we shouldn’t do it drunk, right before we part ways for the next two months.”

So here I am, back home, wishing we had one more day together to really talk face to face, to kind of clean up the conversation from the day prior. It’s gonna be a rough week but we will get back to our LDR rhythm soon and will be eagerly looking forward to both seeing each other again and the end of this emotional madness.

[Valkyrie]

Based on my excellent people reading skill, I think it’s safe to say that this isn’t a dating thing, just a fwb thing.

I don’t mind, the only problem is I catch feels too fast, so I gotta make sure to never shoot my shot.

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damn, brehs 

[VomKriege]

I don’t mind, the only problem is I catch feels too fast, so I gotta make sure to never shoot my shot.

I honestly was on the verge of saying something a couple of times in the middle of making out with my latest, probably a good thing I didn't tho, because I already knew I couldn't commit to it and it would have made the breakup super messy. Feels are funny like that.

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و لو أن إبليس يومًا رآكِ، لقبل عينيك ثم اهتدى

[VomKriege]

Mouth to eye ? It's Corona era, mucosa is mucosa.

[VomKriege]

Otherwise had lunch with coworker. Checked her mobile (Work one though... Maybe not the best to get racy.), texted mine... Will probably wait to see her again at work though to see where we are at.
She's battling some issues alright so I'm a bit so-so because that's not shit I want anymore of in my life now. We're not there yet anyway.

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https://twitter.com/135GLORY/status/1303427351561170944

 

[BIONIC]

Should be in the giant dad vibes only thread

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[Rahxephon91]

How would you guys feel if your gf sent a naughty picture(a close-up of her in her bro with a thumb in her mouth to give the idea of well you know..) to a friend she claims she has no interests in? But did it because she was drunk. She told you this and is sad, but it happened.

You'd probably feel pretty shitty right?

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send him a picture of you with her thumb in your mouth

[Rahxephon91]

Well I guess I was asking how the bore members would take that.

If anything I just feel a little “eh”. Like it’s not she cheated, but I mean I don’t think think women just send dudes naughty pictures like it’s nothing. Also like what leads to that? There had to be some conversation that built up to it, I would assume sexual. Also I mean why stop there.

This has been kind of ongoing issue that maybe I’ll type out later. I just kind of feel “icky” if that makes sense. My gf has a big issue about feeling like a “whore” and I don’t want to put that kind of blame on her. But this is off putting to me. I stoped talking to women who could possibly make moves on me because it made her uncomfortable. I didn’t really request that of her, because the friend in question  has a unique relationship with her. But I don’t appreciate him being able to hit on and then being able to request naughty pictures.

But I also could be over reacting.

[Clockwork5]

Serious relationship: Strikes one and two and the always fun “I dont trust you and you will need to fix that” conversation.

Everything else: I’m outta there.

9 times out of 10 I am walking out the door. I ain’t got time for a girlfriend who takes selfies in her underwear and her thumb jammed in her mouth and sends them to some dude she has a “unique relationship” with.

I don’t know the details of your relationship so don’t take this as advice. Just my gut reaction.

[VomKriege]

Nah, it sounds like a fair reaction. In fact, your post reads more level headed than I expected. In some ways I have one of those unique relationships going on and I wouldn't consider requesting racy pics despite sharing a lot of intimate details or making a bunch of sex jokes with said friend / ex, especially if she was an item. That's pretty boorish of the guy & speaks poorly of his motives and genuineness towards her, IMHO.

I'd be disappointed and hurt too. Especially if the trust that you can manage like an adult being hit on or having friends of the opposite sex isn't reciprocated.

She was drunk, so there's that, but absolutely do discuss it and get your feeling across.

[Bebpo]

I'm probably not the guy you want to listen to in dating advice,

but insecurities and jealousy in a relationship lead to nothing but fucking everything up. Either the person is cheating/will cheat and then it's fucked or the person isn't but your insecurities and doubt will fuck the relationship.

You need to be the person that doesn't care if your SO might be flirting/cheating on you, because at the end of the day she's choosing to spend her time with you, not these other people and that should be enough. If you actually become legit aware that your SO is/has cheating/cheated then that's a different story and you deal with it. But unless that happens, don't go down the suspicion route and just be happy with what you two have.

One of my gal friends told me that she always keeps a few backup guys among her friends in case her current relationship doesn't pan out so she's not starting from scratch trying to meet someone in the future. Not that she does anything with these guys, but basically that she keeps a positive fun relationship with some guy friends as a potential backup. Not everyone does stuff like that, but I wouldn't be surprised if people do. When I'm in relationships there are definitely other women I know in my friend groups that I think are very dateable and if things don't work out I'd date/hook up with. So I think that's pretty normal. But again it's not necessarily because people are dissatisfied with their current partner, but just because you never know.

I feel like the whole devoted to one person everyone loves each other profusely, etc..., etc... thing is overly fantastical and if a couple can keep the honeymoon-esque thing going for years good on them, but otherwise it's fine to be realistic and just enjoy the other person and your time together but also be aware that it might not last forever and ever and stay in touch with a lot of friends and be ok with your SO doing the same and don't get in their business unless they share/ask your opinion on it.

[Transhuman]

But I also could be over reacting.

Can you ever see yourself getting drunk and sending sexually suggestive pics to a close female friend even though you're already in a relationship?

If it was more of a "jokey" type picture maybe I can understand, but if it was clearly intended to be recieved as a turn-on, then that's a dick move.

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But I also could be over reacting.

Can you ever see yourself getting drunk and sending sexually suggestive pics to a close female friend even though you're already in a relationship?

If it was more of a "jokey" type picture maybe I can understand, but if it was clearly intended to be recieved as a turn-on, then that's a dick move.

rahx the gawd has posted hog on main 

[Rahxephon91]

My hog is a gift to the world!

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it was beautiful 

[Rahxephon91]

Well I'm not going to bore the bore with a lot of the details. I had a good conversation and I feel better with what happen.

Edit- I guess I can add something to answer some questions.

Her friend was the bf of a dear friend who was murdered. So they bonded over an extreme lost. It's not something I've wanted to mess with as it's not my place and she can have her own life obviously. The guy though (who I don't know), has had feelings for her for 11 years now. According to her she has made it very clear she is and will never be interested. He has never taken it well. Recently, they have reconnected because of Call of Duty and Covid, playing very often. Guys, I'm a 30 year old PS2 nerd. I like my single player games and can only take so much CoD. Wanting to avoid mistakes from before, I have left that alone. Playing Cod with the bros is her own thing. I'd also like to say I am more secure in myself then even last year. So I trust my gf. I guess coming to the realization that she is still dating me angers him and he has felt that she has lead him on. So he lashed out. Which honestly angers me, because the guy is also in his 30s. If I can grow up and move past getting angry at women for not returning your feelings, anyone can.

The details are boring, but from what I understand, he has consistently hit on her and made comments about how nice she looks and asked for images. I'm not going to detail my gf's backstory(maybe I did in previous pages, but yknow it's not my business really to lay it out), but she like everyone has her hang ups. Blaming herself for others behavior and wanting to please people  to a possible toxic degree is among them. So i guess driven by that and under a drunken haze she gave in, not wanting to upset the status quo of having friends to enjoy games with. She can admit it was dumb.

If anything I was more disappointed, because it's not in her to even send pictures. It was a long time before she sent me naughty pictures and it was done to spice up the long distance. It also possibly touched on a little ego, as well those are my pictures.

So we had a long talk about it and it was really good. I don't like that she did it, but yeah it's not the end of the world. But honestly, the other guy deserves some blame I think.  The sad part is his anger over honestly the fact that she is'nt dating him, has created a lot of drama over the past two days. It's really dumb and I really feel the dude is an idiot. A shame you can't date someone you have intense feelings for, but  also shitty to not be in thier life because you can't be happy for them.

[brawndolicious]

Is this the other guy?




I don't think a girl would ever keep a guy like that in her life unless she was willing to settle with him. And that says a lot. So my only advice is to stop, tie your shoes, and run.

[VomKriege]

Dude needs to take some classes in elegance : Scorned is the ugliest color of the soul.
If she can manage him, that may be fine, but I'd honestly always be wary of someone acting like that. Beyond just your relationship, for her too. Not taking a hint and being aggressively pushy over years doesn't sound like a healthy basis for positive friendship.

[Clockwork5]

Wait...Is this the same “she plays COD with someone else but I like single player games” situation that you were fretting over before?

Idk, I guess it doesn’t matter. Just take care of yourself, my dude. It’s okay to expect the person you’re with to respect you and treat you well. Sounds like you all had a good talk so keep it up.

[team filler]

Here’s a thing about this business: There is no market value, you don’t get value for who you are. That’s what kills comics. When you see bitter comics, it’s because if Michael Jordan scores 30, and Kevin Garnett scores 31, and Michael Jordan gets $20 million a year, Kevin Garnett can then ask for $20 million a year based on the fact that he scores 31. So I have value compared to my peers, and everything else. But this — I’ve got to watch unnamed assholes making mega money, and there’s no karma, there’s no one to complain to! I can’t walk in an office and go, “Listen, this hack bought his mother a house, and I’ve got to stand there and look at this dude?” And a lot of dudes and people I never got along with are people who let this business qualify who they are. I’m at this level, Patrice. I couldn’t talk to you [before], but then Comedy Central has put me here. Now I’m here with you. No you’re not. I don’t care if God gave you a deal where you get half the world. You ain’t me. I told my girl that one time. I buy my girls diamonds and shit, and she go, “Ooh I’m blinging bigger than you!” And I go, “You couldn’t bling bigger than me if I bought you a diamond hat.” Blinging is here [points to chest]. Not even if I got you a diamond HAT would you be better than me.

Patrice O’Neal (via dutchovenproductions)

[VomKriege]

Rahx, for what it's worth, you come across as more secure in yourself and at ease than a year ago.
Bless.

[VomKriege]

Maybe respectfully inquire, as a friend, if she is doing OK ?

She said she is not. Says she is stressed because of corona. Cant go anywhere because too many people without masks. Tired of being at home every day.

I mean, she could have had me and my D every day?

A bit on a delay for the answer there, sorry, I meant to get to it but it was kind of shuffled to the back of my mind.

Maybe it's just a persona you play up for here (On Internet ? On the Bore of all places ? ) but the last sentence grated me the wrong way. A trolling job well done, sir, if that's all it is (and that's where I lean considering the rest of that message) but you've been super bitter and sour when talking about that breakup here.

It's not about the D anymore, put pressing F for friendship. Coronatimes are rough for everyone, she sounds like any support from someone intensely familiar with her emotional geography would help.
 

[Degausser]

I was introduced to someone by a friend and yet I can't bring myself to do a goddamn thing because I am still in love with my ex girlfriend and I keep trying to fake like I don't and yet, here I am.

I want to die!