Thanks, all helpful advice. And no we didn't get into anime dubs. There was a brief bit in the conversation where she said "and the reason I don't watch anime is..." without me mentioning anything about anime, and so anime dubs were not brought up
Honestly sounds like maybe you are or at least were in that situation, a bit self absorbed Bepbo? I don't mean that as an insult, but when people have totally different impressions of a convo than the person they were talking to, usually means they were focusing too much on themselves.
I witnessed that a lot watching friends try to date; they weren't picking up on any social cues as they were too focused on themselves. Sometimes it's a nervous thing and just a product of thinking you need to sell yourself like brwando said.
I'll take this to heart. I have trouble figuring out how to converse with people who are really shy and don't want to talk/open up much. I ask them questions and try to get them involved but there's often a lot of short responses & silence, so I tend to try to lead the conversations and tell them funny quirky stories on the topic at hand. With some people it works and they go along with me leading the conversation, but with other people it doesn't and you're right probably comes off self-absorbed.
Does anyone have advice on how to have good conversations with shy/introverted/anxious people? I'm shy/introverted/anxious myself and I don't know the answer. I thought the best direction was to just make a continuous effort to involve them and when I organized for a social anxiety group and hosted new member meetups that's what I'd do to try to get them to start to feel comfortable and have a good time, but I can see that coming off as pushy/overwhelming now, so I'm not sure how to do it. I've always felt that if you're conversation has a lot of silence it's not going well and there won't be a date #2. Maybe that's not always true...
